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ezewudo: wait till u reach 30 and u no marry, u go jump on any guy wey come ur way.

That you don't possess these qualities doesn't mean other guys don't. Even if I reach 50, my checklist never changes. Got that?

Enegod: i didnt see broke ass nigga on the list

That's because a man's physical net worth is inconsequential to me. Its not a criterion.

I don't. I'm a liberal and open minded person.

190: boys dey talk even girls like vivian chinaza still dey update list

This life sef

anyway i cant date an ugly girl - im allergic to ugly girls ibeg

At least I can keep you at home and feed you. *cool*

1. Uneducated.
2. Unreliable.
3. Ugly and classless
4. Un-intelligent and dumb.
5. Judgemental and over-religious.
6. Arrogant.
7. Serial cheat.
8. Un ambitious/vision-less
9. Uncaring/un-romantic.
10. No conscience.
11. Dirty.
12. Manner less.
13. Morally Bankrupt/no principles,
Etc.

Brb with the rest of the list.

Afang soup and kilishi.

alutacontinua: The fact that you don't agree with what he said doesn't make it bull-shi*t.
He has good points, you have good points too.
Let's agree to disagree in a peaceful and non-insulting manner.
Thanks!

Sorry, bad mood I guess. I don't even wanna argue. Everyone should choose what works for him or her.
I'm out!

xynerise: Sorry I was driving to reply to these earlier.

I believe your epistle is all '' Be yourself'' right? Ok, when your man is talking to you and you have this addictive habit of pinging with your BB, because you want to ''be yourself'' your will keep pinging and ignore him and he will smile and give you a hug right?
How about chewing bubble gum like Nbright said in his presence like a prostititu.te, your are trying to be yourself right?

Listen young woman, there some dirty character one should change and not hide. I am not advising ladies to hide the bad side of them, am advising them to change it permanently. Thank You

Mr. You are no longer sense. What you wrote up here is bullshi..t same as your initial post.
If you can't distinguish being yourself, being crazy from being irresponsible, that's entirely your business, not mine.

But for learning sake, let me break it down for you.

Chewing goat like a goat is a bad manner, whether you are alone, with a man or a woman.
Pinging or not given someone attention is also a bad communication manner, whether you are with a man, woman, friend, family. All these have nothing to do with what we are talking about here, so don't bring things that are out of context.

Even tho this is outta context, but.....Advising ladies to change their bad sides? Like seriously? Don't we have them all? I mean bad sides? Show me who on earth doesn't, definitely not you. So yea, people should change and become angel, because they want a guy to like them? Huh? What happened to being comfortable in your own skin? What happened to not being afraid of showing your bad side? That only makes us human you know. So if you are not comfortable with one person's bad side, you move on to another, plain and simply.

We are adults, as we progress in life, we seek for self improvement. And for someone to even consider being in a long term relationship/marriage, then we assume the person is an adult. Having a bad side is quite distinct from being irresponsible.

If you are advising ladies not to be irresponsible, then you have a terrible way of doing that. What you put up there has nothing to do with irresponsibility.

Next time, be more explicit.

xynerise: Being yourself in a negative way? I advocate for change of attitude before it is late.


Draw a thin line between playing hard to get and showing your worth.


Like seriously? A responsible man will marry you no matter how crazy you are? Is this 21st century marriage?


Stop discouraging people.


Swear you didnt pick some of the advices?

Honestly, I have little or no time for this but let's do this, let me pick your point one by one.

1. Hanging out with a guy you met and obviously like is not portraying yourself in a negative light. Hanging out could be going out on a date or hanging out at home. Some people prefer one to the other. Whichever u choose is cool. Thinking that you would appear desperate for going to a man's house is immature TBH.
You wanna show this guy what you are made of no matter where you are? Be it at home or at a joint? Engage him in an intellectual informal discussion, contribute, show him what you are good at, take his attention away from romance while you have fun. That way you would earn his respect and he would want to be with you more.
Look, even if a lady plays by your rule, Xynerise, and at the end of the day she went, the guy is not gonna keep her cos he begged and begged before she came, hell no! The guy is gonna keep her and want to be with her because of the impression she created at that point in time.
Why don't a lady relax, take it a step at a time and have fun?

2. There are plenty of ways a lady could show her self worth. If she doesn't know this, then that's her problem. But if her worth is tied down to how many times a man begged to have a number or for a visit? Then she needs to rediscover herself.

3. Xynerise yes, a responsible man would marry a girl no matter how crazy she is, and mind you craziness is not synonymous to irresponsibility. Don't push a girl into a lot of pretence, allow her to be herself.

4. I'm not discouraging people, that's a fact and you know it.

5. Sweetheart I don't play by the rules, any body that knows me knows that. So yea, I didn't. I don't pick advice on how to make a guy like me. I pick advice on how to develop myself, for me.

When I'm hanging out with a guy, I don't take myself seriously, I just be myself. For crying out loud hanging out with a guy shouldn't be a job interview, it should be fun.

If the definition of a great guy is one who sticks to these stupid rules (no offence antelope ) and expects me to play by them, then I'd pass.

What happened to being urself, being friends and having fun?

Playing too hard to get? So that he will beg? Like seriously? Often times this turns a lady into a challenge to the guy, one he must conquer and once he conquers, he moves on to the next 'challenge'.

A man who likes, likes you. And he likes you no matter how crazy you are.

Some people on this thread who are "doing all the right things" but still single would attest to that.

There is no mathematical formula for life, if there was, life wouldn't be this complicated cos a lot of great minds would have formulated those formulas and un-complicate life.

So I say to my sisters, be you and have fun, life is too short to stick to some stupid rules *winks*

@Op, you are an adult, whatever you do with your body, however you run your relationship is entirely your business and your right. Provided its legal and no one gets hurt, you shouldn't be judged.

But opening a thread about it is totally not cool, are u out of your mind? what were u expecting? a squad of cheer leaders?

Do your thing babe *winks* but spare us the detail. *Or you can mail them to me privately, I'd pretentiously scold you while I secretly wanna hear more *

This cannot be Mr. Ibu and the Pix is not real. Why are people this gullible?

rol/ed:
Am a Lady
Continue to sleep on NL nah what's my bizness.Time u would use in thinking of better ideas to make more money you are here.Help your self so that your kids don't have fly bikes to school anymore.Help your self so that you and your hubby won't be sharing that 1999 corolla.for your mind u don insult me abi .how long do u intend to live in that rented cheap 3bedroom of yours.imagine the area sef Iju ishaga. .serious work resumes tomorrow.Tk

This cannot come from a woman!

Nice game.

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1. What’s your Nigerian name? CHINAZA
2. Were you Born in Nigeria? Yes
3. Favourite Nigerian movie?-'keeping Faith, Romantic Attraction, Broad Day Light, State of Emergency 1, Formidable Force, World Apart, Ije, etc. No longer watch naija movies sha, story lines don finish .
4. Favourite Nigerian song? I'm more of a blues kinda girl so most naija kinda music don't appeal to me. So I'd pick "By your side" by Sade. And "I don't care." By Flavour. Have been shaking what mama gave me a lot to that track. *runs to play it again*
5. Favourite Nigerian food?- I don't do favourites o, I just like a particular thing Or person and when I get tired, I move on to other things. So for now its Afang soup! Tomorrow e fit change cos yesterday it was oha/bitterleaf.
6. When was the last time you were in Nigeria? How many times have you been to Nigeria ? Did I ever leave?
7. What tribe are you?- Igbo
8. Say something in your tribal language?- Odikwa vely lisky, because you too. Sexy, baby oku o.
9. What do you like most about Nigeria? Nothing, other than lawlessness. You can do most things and go free, I kinda like that. The rule of law is a mirage here and for some reasons it works for moi .
10. What do you hate most about Nigeria?: what's there not to hate? Everything joor.
11. Do you have any Nigerian Nicknames? Not really a nick name kinda girl but few have been given to me based on my personality. Chibest(secondary school mates), Adanne/Chimummy (family and mum), Mother hen (close friends), Thatcher/Iron Lady (I don't even know where to classify the people that gave me this nickname)
12. What makes you different from other Nigerians?- I'm just being me, I don't have the time to look for differences and similarities, no time baby.
13. Do you speak your language?- If I don't, who will?
14. Do you speak pidgin English? Yea, tho not fluently. I don't even think I can make a complete statement in pigin, I write it better. I prefer Engli-Igbo.
15. What around your house represents your culture?- *looks around* in my own house nothing (unless Ikwe and akaodo would pass for one), but would check when next I visit my parents.
16. What is a ridiculous question you were asked about your culture? Can't think of any right now.

Sexkillz and Itsmodella.