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Subomi-luv:
Before you write epistles, learn to read first and understand what i wrote. I did not mention anything about getting her back. If you do not understand simple English then that is ur problem and not mine.

2s£xy:
You have no right to speak about his parents that way... It shows how ridden your hellish soul has been consumed.

Face him and leave his parents out of it or anyone's for that matter.

Subomi-luv:
Blimey, does this shit even work? Well I guess some girls are different. It will only affect her if she still has feelings for him but if not you are rather doing her a favor.

Its much better avoiding the whole confrontational thing since she was the one who broke up with him. The begging, shouting and all that ish she won"t have to deal with esp leaving it at her friends place would be the ideal situation. Point 2, rather makes the guy look bitter, childish and weak.

If you really want to get someone back, the best way is to handle it with calm and . As if you could not be bothered what she does/does not do. Be friendly and nice.

There was this one guy I dated a few years back. I am type of girl that does not have time for nonsense or games. I dnt have a bit..ch fit/ shout or argue. If I am fed up and need to leave then that's it.

So it was his birthday and we were supposed to go out but he said "he was sick" so will be at home. Fine I went out with my friends as another girl had her birthday too. I met the so called sick bf with another girl. I bought them both drinks. Wished him happy birthday and that was that. It could have been just as easy to pour the drink on him but being calm and nonchalant hurts more than shouting and getting all aggro and revengeful about it.

The calm collected way always works. When you act all mad and bitter. It shows that she has the upper hand. Have just given you a very important tip so as "much" as you think you know women. Maybe that shit worked for the ladies you dated but it will not work on girls like me.

WackyJ1: It's a shame that you say this, from what i have seen in life and on this thread, girls are very good at justifying their actions, just the way some ladies are justifying what the girl did or at the very least rationalizing it. What makes you think that those girls that are sticking with that kind of guy don't have their own rationalisations that would sound just as sensible to you as what ladies have been saying here to the OP.
Whenever you point out the error of girls, most will assume that the problem is particular to the girl you're using as a case study and if you present multiple examples, they will immediately say that it is only the girls that the speaker meets that behave like that.

Sagamite: Once my sons are 18, I am going to tell them to call a maximum of 5 of their closest friends to all report to my house and I would give them a 3-day, four-hours-a-day masterclass on how to relate, treat and deal with girls.

I would give them the inner secrets on what women are like and are looking for based on things that includes the girls' looks, culture, age range/life stage (15-18, 18-24 etc), initial interest in a guy and what the guy has to offer. My masterclass would be full of charts and psychological tools.

One of the most important sessions is the one on hot girls (i.e. based on looks). They would learn young hot girls don't like good boys and I would teach them how to be the type of guy young hot girls want and how to smack the shyt out of these girls. They must learn the when to "Stop giving a shyt at the right moment!" approaches to different types of girls, so they never lose out.

I would have studied all the boys' personalities and body language before the masterclass, so on the first day, I would be handing them a short self-profile telling them the most likely outcome of their interaction with babes (just to blow their mind because they will be like "this is fcking true; this is how girls have been treating me" and then on the last day, I would tell them what they need to change in their approach to women to always get what they want.

Give them 3 to 6 months to go explore my advice and test my tools and then come and reply back to me how the life coaching has worked and what else they want to learn deeper.

Sagamite: Now back to the tory before the ugly hoodrat with diseased & smelly ish interrupted.

The reason she wants to "come and pick up her stuff" is because you are ignoring her. Now she feels you have some control and you are dumping her without as much sweat as her ego needed. She wanted you to beg while she dumped you so she can carry her head high and tell all her friends.

I can guarantee you 1000% when she comes to pick her stuff, she would either start an argument or do something physically/attitudinally to provoke you into an argument just to get the satisfaction that you are upset about the break-up. Not because she gives a hoot about you or the relationship, just to massage her ego. Note: When a woman stops loving you, you are worse than her shyt!

I have said this a few times on NL:

https://www.nairaland.com/293032/taking-50-wealth/1#4168241

Either:

1) Ask her what are the stuff and then tell her you will drop it for her.

2) Or let her come and get it.

For (1), what you should do if she agrees is get all her stuff and then don't even take it to her house. Take it to one of her friends and tell her to help you hand it over. Don't warn her or her friend in advance that is what you are going to do. Just drive up to the friend's house and say you are traveling and X told you to pass it over to her to help her keep till she picks it up. Then text your ex (don't call, that is too polite) that you dropped it with her friend and she should go there and pick it up.

That would avoid the argument, is sufficiently rude to a rude cun*, would let her know you have no respect or regards for her, and would make it difficult for her to boast to her friends that she dumped you while you were crawling and begging. She would be pissed but ignore her phone calls and her angry texts. Don't show emotions whether anger or ridicule.

For approach (2), tell her to let you know when she is coming so you would be at home. If she does not, do not open the door for at least 15 mins. It she does, pack her stuff and as she knocks, open the door and hand it to her and close the door without saying a world apart from "here they are". Don't let her come in.

It is important you do not take the argument bait. When you refuse to fall for the argument/shouting bait, she would play the emotional card because she can't leave you feeling you dumped her and you do not give a hoot. She would start crying and trying to tell you that you are a bad person for the way you are treating her. Waiting for you to be dumb and start petting her. The temptation is to complain about "What about how she has treated you?", but you are wasting your time arguing with someone that is definitely not interested in logic, fairness or respect. She would never agree with you, all she is interested in is an argument and manipulating you. Ignore her and tell her, in a moderate tone, the door/gate is still open for her to exit. Don't say it angrily, don't say it rudely, don't say it with passion, don't say it mockingly. Just say it stoically.

Watch how it would bite her for months and years to come that you can cut her off in a second permanently.

ocean200: is the airtel 2gig stil browsin well. cos i experience it as it was nt browsin again... i wan to knw if i can stil go back on ma bis subscription on airtel

Sam xiu lee: @ op man dey wear dress?

poshdiva: If you were brought up in a home where your mother had the final say and resulted in you bending over to every woman's whims then that's your bloody business. You are not a man and you would NEVER have control over your home. Don't blame anybody and stop being bitter.

poshdiva: I was brought up to be submissive and respectful so when i meet men like you who would rather submit to a woman then i can't help it if i am disgusted.

poshdiva: I would say it again! I am not attracted and will never be attracted to a man who jumps when I ask him to or who obeys me. That is crap for me. If you are not firm in everything you do including your decisions then you have no place in my life.

pasqal09: [size=45pt]8 YEARS!!![/size]

2s£xy:
Shollypopz was the person I referred to earlier.

She said a poster should allow his cheating girlfriend sample different d1ck before she(the girlfriend) make her choice...

If you lie, I will dig and quote you here.

And it's from you other handle... Definitely not this one.

Wu Zetian: @ your later post: You're quoting me out of context, stop.

Wu Zetian: The next time you call me that, I'm going to instruct your mother to run out from her cage and bite you!
I don't know who the fvck you are but I ain't playing with your lame a*ss.

Wu Zetian: LMAO @ the shameless congregation of old bitter losers.

This place reeks of insecurities, jeez!

KingMEXX: me didnt do anything, i just commented on one tekino nonsense thread. it seems antispam bot machine na tecno fan lol. am just reading about diff new phones to wave off boredom. i jus ordered for the xperia, they told me monday or tuesday. am waiting patiently

Sagamite: The you would see her girlfriends and their husbands/girlfriend trying to sell her at the 24th hour to you (after her girlfriend has "somewhat strayed" to the "Are you single?" question) that "she is a good girl o; you will like her, you two should hook up".



God, I laugh hard when I sit and observe the world around me. While I am a proficient social observer, it shocks me people think they can sell garri to me and call it corn flakes.

Sagamite: When I see guys dying over a young fine girl, I always want to tell them "Boy, give it 10-15 years and have a fresh look at her and you would wonder what the fuss was all about".

2s£xy:
Good... Very Good.

It will hurt you and that I know for sure. But, time heal wounds.

Look yourself in the mirror and smile. You are the best thing she will ever have for a long time. Trust me.

Why? In every 10 guys she will meet, the probability your kind exist among them is very slim. So, rejoice. Only 1 or 2 of your kind will be among them. The rest na use and dump and therefore she will hop from bed to bed till she approaches 25,26,27,28,29 and then she begin to lament she is looking for husband. Husband is very scarce.

Another thing you need to realise is that girl/women outnumber us as men, statistically speaking. That means you can have 5-10 girls to yourself if you like.

Love yourself more than you will love any girl. Don't be deceived, no girl(or anybody for that matter) can love you more than she would love herself! So, why kill yourself for her.

If you die today, another guy will take over. If she had poison, she could poison you...

If you decide to study her, you may realise that there could be a guy who hasn't spent a tooth-pick on her has had countless times while you were busy making party for her.

The park of girls think that life is all about fun: they want to party, they want money without working for it.

Now tell me, will you be paid if you don't work? But you had time to spend the money on her party.

What if you were sacked tomorrow? (I don't wish you that though) but just think about it for a minute.

I know say nairalander ladies don dey hate me... But you can't seperate truth from me because it's my skin... I wear it with honor.

Wu Zetian: Obviously?? I know we computer scientists aren't the best in English, but your post was far from obvious.
"I ain't no psychic". I don't think this is a big deal at all, I still consider taking a break a lil extreme. There are three parts to this story, his side, her side and the truth.

Wu Zetian: The only fault of hers based on what he has written is being addicted to her phone, which isn't really far fetched as a lot of people her age are.

Wu Zetian: If he wanted attention, he could have simply asked for it. If you call her a kid, then you also have to call him a kid because he displayed no act of maturity. They both handled the situation poorly.

jeffp: All these does nt even bother me.. the new one is that is shouts me down..and frequently walks out on me...All these have been happening for over 4months..i don talk tire.. but my girlfriend who believes dat a man and a woman are on the same level has refused to change.

Wu Zetian: Of course, they made an extra effort not to, that doesn't make them any better than those that are addicted to their phones. What do you mean she has no manners?? Did he try to start a conversation or was he just sulking at the fact that she found her phone more interesting?? They were in the car for Christ sake! The op conveniently erased the fact that they must have went to the store together. (I'm assuming based on the fact that they had to move shopping bags from the car to the house).

jeffp: .i went to pick her from her house to take her to my place...as i dey drive..she dey press her phone..she was smiling and just talking to her self..i did nt even bother...we got home late that evening...from her house to my house..no word uttered..when we got home..i put off d car..and went to open gate..my madam girfriend was still pressing BB Phone..i put off the car.and started carrying stuffs ..she was still pressing phone..den she came out and held on phone with her hand and was using the other hand to carry stuffs one by one..

i did d best i could and i locked d car doors and i went into d house..becuse of the gate i opened..i was shocked a bit..bcause rain was falling..then, i started looking for dry clothes to wear..she sensed i was angry and she started following me up and down..i just ingorned her...
Then she asked me ..how can some block someone on WHATTAPP ? and i said.."I DONT KNOW".. she just seeing d way i replied her..shouted right in my front "OHHHHHH" and hissed and walked away.. i just stood there amazed.. Bcause stuffs we brought in where still lying on the ground...

Wu Zetian: This is like someone accusing me of not saying hi to them when he/she didn't either. You can't accuse her of treating her bf like he doesn't exist when[b] he is also guilty of the same.[/b] He could have simply said, 'Babe, can you drop your phone for sec or just freaking say something". Instead he chose to let his inner devil get the best out of him. I'm sure he was boiling throughout the car ride and the poor girl who was busy on her phone was oblivious of the fact that her boo is about to boil himself to death. Can't a girl have a quiet time with her gadgets again??