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[quote author=Subomi-luv]Before you write epistles, learn to read first and understand what i wrote. I did not mention anything about getting her back. If you do not understand simple English then that is ur problem and not mine.[/quote]I think sagamite corrected you.. Now you have seen your own foolishness...
Next time use that brain of yours to evaluate yourself before you try to throw small point insults...
Typical Girl..

.[quote author=2s£xy]You have no right to speak about his parents that way... It shows how ridden your hellish soul has been consumed.

Face him and leave his parents out of it or anyone's for that matter.[/quote]Don't mind her. I have said that it shows that she is classless, has no level and lacks sophistication that many ladies are known for..
Her mouth is full of uncouth words which shows that were she to be in Nigeria she'd be in the motorpark shouting names of places...

[quote author=Subomi-luv]Blimey, does this shit even work? Well I guess some girls are different. It will only affect her if she still has feelings for him but if not you are rather doing her a favor.

Its much better avoiding the whole confrontational thing since she was the one who broke up with him. The begging, shouting and all that ish she won"t have to deal with esp leaving it at her friends place would be the ideal situation. Point 2, rather makes the guy look bitter, childish and weak.

If you really want to get someone back, the best way is to handle it with calm and . As if you could not be bothered what she does/does not do. Be friendly and nice.

There was this one guy I dated a few years back. I am type of girl that does not have time for nonsense or games. I dnt have a bit..ch fit/ shout or argue. If I am fed up and need to leave then that's it.

So it was his birthday and we were supposed to go out but he said "he was sick" so will be at home. Fine I went out with my friends as another girl had her birthday too. I met the so called sick bf with another girl. I bought them both drinks. Wished him happy birthday and that was that. It could have been just as easy to pour the drink on him but being calm and nonchalant hurts more than shouting and getting all aggro and revengeful about it.

The calm collected way always works. When you act all mad and bitter. It shows that she has the upper hand. Have just given you a very important tip so as "much" as you think you know women. Maybe that shit worked for the ladies you dated but it will not work on girls like me.[/quote]1. He is not advising the OP on how to get the girl back, he is advising her on how to get rid of her in the way that would hurt her most.
2. All you have been saying that in bolded there about you being different, you know the ironical part? I is what most if not all girls would say on nairaland, there is no lady you'll meet they'll ever admit that many ladies act inn a certain way. Remember that i said it earlier in this thread and you have just proved my generalisation right, so how are you then different?

WackyJ1: It's a shame that you say this, from what i have seen in life and on this thread, girls are very good at justifying their actions, just the way some ladies are justifying what the girl did or at the very least rationalizing it. What makes you think that those girls that are sticking with that kind of guy don't have their own rationalisations that would sound just as sensible to you as what ladies have been saying here to the OP.
Whenever you point out the error of girls, most will assume that the problem is particular to the girl you're using as a case study and if you present multiple examples, they will immediately say that it is only the girls that the speaker meets that behave like that.

You ladies refuse to admit that guys meet girls from different walks of life and made their inferences based on their experiences with the female folk, ofcourse humans are different and are likely to made different inferences, but when you see guys agreeing on the same point, why do you always want to take the cheap way out by saying you're different or all the girls he's been with are the same?

Sagamite: Once my sons are 18, I am going to tell them to call a maximum of 5 of their closest friends to all report to my house and I would give them a 3-day, four-hours-a-day masterclass on how to relate, treat and deal with girls.

I would give them the inner secrets on what women are like and are looking for based on things that includes the girls' looks, culture, age range/life stage (15-18, 18-24 etc), initial interest in a guy and what the guy has to offer. My masterclass would be full of charts and psychological tools.

One of the most important sessions is the one on hot girls (i.e. based on looks). They would learn young hot girls don't like good boys and I would teach them how to be the type of guy young hot girls want and how to smack the shyt out of these girls. They must learn the when to "Stop giving a shyt at the right moment!" approaches to different types of girls, so they never lose out.

I would have studied all the boys' personalities and body language before the masterclass, so on the first day, I would be handing them a short self-profile telling them the most likely outcome of their interaction with babes (just to blow their mind because they will be like "this is fcking true; this is how girls have been treating me" and then on the last day, I would tell them what they need to change in their approach to women to always get what they want.

Give them 3 to 6 months to go explore my advice and test my tools and then come and reply back to me how the life coaching has worked and what else they want to learn deeper.

Sagamite i need your trainin course. Can it be done online.. I wanna take the fight to them.. To become Dynamite...

Sagamite: Now back to the tory before the ugly hoodrat with diseased & smelly ish interrupted.

The reason she wants to "come and pick up her stuff" is because you are ignoring her. Now she feels you have some control and you are dumping her without as much sweat as her ego needed. She wanted you to beg while she dumped you so she can carry her head high and tell all her friends.

I can guarantee you 1000% when she comes to pick her stuff, she would either start an argument or do something physically/attitudinally to provoke you into an argument just to get the satisfaction that you are upset about the break-up. Not because she gives a hoot about you or the relationship, just to massage her ego. Note: When a woman stops loving you, you are worse than her shyt!

I have said this a few times on NL:

https://www.nairaland.com/293032/taking-50-wealth/1#4168241

Either:

1) Ask her what are the stuff and then tell her you will drop it for her.

2) Or let her come and get it.

For (1), what you should do if she agrees is get all her stuff and then don't even take it to her house. Take it to one of her friends and tell her to help you hand it over. Don't warn her or her friend in advance that is what you are going to do. Just drive up to the friend's house and say you are traveling and X told you to pass it over to her to help her keep till she picks it up. Then text your ex (don't call, that is too polite) that you dropped it with her friend and she should go there and pick it up.

That would avoid the argument, is sufficiently rude to a rude cun*, would let her know you have no respect or regards for her, and would make it difficult for her to boast to her friends that she dumped you while you were crawling and begging. She would be pissed but ignore her phone calls and her angry texts. Don't show emotions whether anger or ridicule.

For approach (2), tell her to let you know when she is coming so you would be at home. If she does not, do not open the door for at least 15 mins. It she does, pack her stuff and as she knocks, open the door and hand it to her and close the door without saying a world apart from "here they are". Don't let her come in.

It is important you do not take the argument bait. When you refuse to fall for the argument/shouting bait, she would play the emotional card because she can't leave you feeling you dumped her and you do not give a hoot. She would start crying and trying to tell you that you are a bad person for the way you are treating her. Waiting for you to be dumb and start petting her. The temptation is to complain about "What about how she has treated you?", but you are wasting your time arguing with someone that is definitely not interested in logic, fairness or respect. She would never agree with you, all she is interested in is an argument and manipulating you. Ignore her and tell her, in a moderate tone, the door/gate is still open for her to exit. Don't say it angrily, don't say it rudely, don't say it with passion, don't say it mockingly. Just say it stoically.

Watch how it would bite her for months and years to come that you can cut her off in a second permanently.

wonderful!!! Simply wonderful, took me some time to realise that this is what they do, when you're with them, they would seem so emotional, sincere and crap like that but in their mind they don't really care, if you fall for their games, they would forget you the instant they walk out the door.

OP Resist the temptation to accept her back if she begs to come back any time soon, she is not really sorry, she just wants to
1. Find out what is it that made you so readily dismiss her
2. See if she can get you into her again so that she can dump you hard

ocean200: is the airtel 2gig stil browsin well. cos i experience it as it was nt browsin again... i wan to knw if i can stil go back on ma bis subscription on airtel

Mine is still working well

Sam xiu lee: @ op man dey wear dress?

This is an excellent question...
I didn't even think to that side

OP one advice, Shine your eyes keep backup now.

if you ignore the advice and you later find out she is actually cheating, don't forget to post the story here.

poshdiva: If you were brought up in a home where your mother had the final say and resulted in you bending over to every woman's whims then that's your bloody business. You are not a man and you would NEVER have control over your home. Don't blame anybody and stop being bitter.

Bit of an irony here my dear,

poshdiva: I was brought up to be submissive and respectful so when i meet men like you who would rather submit to a woman then i can't help it if i am disgusted.

you don't care what influence a man's upbringing might have had on him, you just attribute it to his character and the get disgusted at him while in the same vane you attribute that disgust to your own upbringing?
If you're allowed to become disgusted at a man being able to respect and listen to his girl because of your upbringing then why shouldn't he? Why is he denied the right of being a man and then you justifieed in your own right?

poshdiva: I would say it again! I am not attracted and will never be attracted to a man who jumps when I ask him to or who obeys me. That is crap for me. If you are not firm in everything you do including your decisions then you have no place in my life.

What about when he loves you enough to value your opinions and suggestions?

pasqal09: [size=45pt]8 YEARS!!![/size]

Bros e reach to shout oh

[quote author=2s£xy]Shollypopz was the person I referred to earlier.

She said a poster should allow his cheating girlfriend sample different d1ck before she(the girlfriend) make her choice...

If you lie, I will dig and quote you here.

And it's from you other handle... Definitely not this one.[/quote]

Wu Zetian: @ your later post: You're quoting me out of context, stop.

Hahaha truth comes out and it's out of context eh? What a cover up, admit to your lying nature

Wu Zetian: The next time you call me that, I'm going to instruct your mother to run out from her cage and bite you!
I don't know who the fvck you are but I ain't playing with your lame a*ss.

LOL i still remember how rabid you can be, i made a comment once on a thread and you just jumped on my d.i.ck from nowhere and started ranting and throwing curses at me. Changed your handle and i see you haven't changed, not even once.

Calling my mother here, is just low, shows how much of a local street b.i.tch you are.

Wu Zetian: LMAO @ the shameless congregation of old bitter losers.

This place reeks of insecurities, jeez!

Lol, why don't you say something new?

"Shameless congregation of old bitter losers" yet you're in our midst, you must be an old men loving pervert

"Reeks of insecurities" yet you still come to take a good long whiff

KingMEXX: me didnt do anything, i just commented on one tekino nonsense thread. it seems antispam bot machine na tecno fan lol. am just reading about diff new phones to wave off boredom. i jus ordered for the xperia, they told me monday or tuesday. am waiting patiently

Which xperia and what price and what attracted you to the xperia phone?

The summary of true control:

In order to have true control of a girl, you must be ready to lose that girl.

and never forget

ALWAYS HAVE A BACKUP

I think i see the post in a new light. if the poster was not within the girl's field of vision at the moment the text was sent then she is cheating, if the poster was then she is not

Hehe.

Sagamite: The you would see her girlfriends and their husbands/girlfriend trying to sell her at the 24th hour to you (after her girlfriend has "somewhat strayed" to the "Are you single?" question) that "she is a good girl o; you will like her, you two should hook up".



God, I laugh hard when I sit and observe the world around me. While I am a proficient social observer, it shocks me people think they can sell garri to me and call it corn flakes.

Loooool

Sagamite: When I see guys dying over a young fine girl, I always want to tell them "Boy, give it 10-15 years and have a fresh look at her and you would wonder what the fuss was all about".

But that does not mean that we should not try to enjoy what she has now

They suppose bookmark 2sexy's posts

[quote author=2s£xy]Good... Very Good.

It will hurt you and that I know for sure. But, time heal wounds.

Look yourself in the mirror and smile. You are the best thing she will ever have for a long time. Trust me.

Why? In every 10 guys she will meet, the probability your kind exist among them is very slim. So, rejoice. Only 1 or 2 of your kind will be among them. The rest na use and dump and therefore she will hop from bed to bed till she approaches 25,26,27,28,29 and then she begin to lament she is looking for husband. Husband is very scarce.

Another thing you need to realise is that girl/women outnumber us as men, statistically speaking. That means you can have 5-10 girls to yourself if you like.

Love yourself more than you will love any girl. Don't be deceived, no girl(or anybody for that matter) can love you more than she would love herself! So, why kill yourself for her.

If you die today, another guy will take over. If she had poison, she could poison you...

If you decide to study her, you may realise that there could be a guy who hasn't spent a tooth-pick on her has had countless times while you were busy making party for her.

The park of girls think that life is all about fun: they want to party, they want money without working for it.

Now tell me, will you be paid if you don't work? But you had time to spend the money on her party.

What if you were sacked tomorrow? (I don't wish you that though) but just think about it for a minute.

I know say nairalander ladies don dey hate me... But you can't seperate truth from me because it's my skin... I wear it with honor.[/quote]

Wu Zetian: Obviously?? I know we computer scientists aren't the best in English, but your post was far from obvious.
"I ain't no psychic". I don't think this is a big deal at all, I still consider taking a break a lil extreme. There are three parts to this story, his side, her side and the truth.

I suspected you never believed that the poster could be telling the whole truth, in your mind it must have been like "the girl can't be that bad, Op's gotta be changing some few facts"

Wu Zetian: The only fault of hers based on what he has written is being addicted to her phone, which isn't really far fetched as a lot of people her age are.

SMH

Wu Zetian: If he wanted attention, he could have simply asked for it. If you call her a kid, then you also have to call him a kid because he displayed no act of maturity. They both handled the situation poorly.

Again

jeffp: All these does nt even bother me.. the new one is that is shouts me down..and frequently walks out on me...All these have been happening for over 4months..i don talk tire.. but my girlfriend who believes dat a man and a woman are on the same level has refused to change.

Wu Zetian: Of course, they made an extra effort not to, that doesn't make them any better than those that are addicted to their phones. What do you mean she has no manners?? Did he try to start a conversation or was he just sulking at the fact that she found her phone more interesting?? They were in the car for Christ sake! The op conveniently erased the fact that they must have went to the store together. (I'm assuming based on the fact that they had to move shopping bags from the car to the house).

What is the basis of your assumption that they went shopping? Eh

jeffp: .i went to pick her from her house to take her to my place...as i dey drive..she dey press her phone..she was smiling and just talking to her self..i did nt even bother...we got home late that evening...from her house to my house..no word uttered..when we got home..i put off d car..and went to open gate..my madam girfriend was still pressing BB Phone..i put off the car.and started carrying stuffs ..she was still pressing phone..den she came out and held on phone with her hand and was using the other hand to carry stuffs one by one..

i did d best i could and i locked d car doors and i went into d house..becuse of the gate i opened..i was shocked a bit..bcause rain was falling..then, i started looking for dry clothes to wear..she sensed i was angry and she started following me up and down..i just ingorned her...
Then she asked me ..how can some block someone on WHATTAPP ? and i said.."I DONT KNOW".. she just seeing d way i replied her..shouted right in my front "OHHHHHH" and hissed and walked away.. i just stood there amazed.. Bcause stuffs we brought in where still lying on the ground...

or to you the only kind of "Stuffs" are the ones gotten from the store? "Stuffs" = "Shopping bags" eh? in order to press your point home you're now adding to the story different from what the Op has put. First you don't fully believe him and now this?

Wu Zetian: This is like someone accusing me of not saying hi to them when he/she didn't either. You can't accuse her of treating her bf like he doesn't exist when[b] he is also guilty of the same.[/b] He could have simply said, 'Babe, can you drop your phone for sec or just freaking say something". Instead he chose to let his inner devil get the best out of him. I'm sure he was boiling throughout the car ride and the poor girl who was busy on her phone was oblivious of the fact that her boo is about to boil himself to death. Can't a girl have a quiet time with her gadgets again??

Look at you, you wanna judge four months of trying to talk to the girl and then one random incident where it was clearly obvious that it was the one act that broke the camel's back. Even a volcano may boil 364 days a year but it must erupt one day.

My DEAR YOU ARE BIASED

oh so this is the other version of the thread.. Ladies and gentlemen check this version, it has already reached 4 pages with the same story and poster.
https://www.nairaland.com/1436171/black-berry-wahala-wit-girlfriend
Yield you come too...

LOL OP i don't know about you but i don't need anymore signs