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Labelle:
I just can’t hold it in anymore guys, so here is how it goes.

The name Seun Osewa was created by a group of researchers in the US as a front for establishing Nairaland. You see Nairaland was setup to push political and social agendas to the highest bidder using the Nigerian youth. These guys understood the influence these implants could have in driving certain political/social biases through the internet. Seun Osewa is just a bot. You would never see Seun in any tech events ever, ever, ever, not because he is a wise introvert who appreciates the value of being mysterious, but because he is simply a bot posing as Naija’s Mark Zuckerberg in beta stage.

Don’t be fooled by the way he tries to sound Nigerian, it’s a learned art and I was there from the start when it all began. I dare anyone to refute this. If you have a profile created after 2006, you cannot comment on this.

Farmerguy:
2015 was a different year for me, after my grandpa died, he willed his farm to me. When he was very much alive, I took interest in farm work and i had to move to th village to work on his farm and his poultry. So he willed it to me and the other family members didn't give a damn. (most of them were doing good in Lagos). So 2015 I sold alot of farm produce (I'd say since he willed the farm to me, I worked harder than I was working before when he was very much alive).

I saved up most of the money, made sure my wife and kids were okay and I threw about 80 percent of the cash i made in the bank.

September 2015, I was roasting yam (me and the people I employed to work in the farm, we took a break) and my dude from way back was on the other end, we spoke for hours that I couldn't continue with the other guys.. He needed money for plane ticket and other stuff.. Said he would pay me back in folds when he gets to the states and works for a while.

I told him I was gonna get back to him as I needed to discuss things with my wife and Iwas gonna get back to him. God till date I didn't know how I credited him one million.. I just can't explain it till date. He eventually traveled and i wouldn't hear anything from him until last night (he didn't call me at any point and I didn't bulge for 5 years).. He'd call me yesterday and said he's never seen a nigga like me and he'll wire me some funds Monday..

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

Venerealisles:
So this year my family decided we were gonna come back to naija early for the Xmas celebrations, we also wanted to do Thanksgiving in Nigeria hence the early arrival.

Well, we were back home in Lag, so I decided to go hang out with some of my long time friends, and what I saw shocked me ooh. They were really big now, felt like they were way older than me. To make matters worst, I senior them pretty damn well, but my tiny physique just makes them think otherwise.

The last straw that broke the camel back was when I went over to my cousin's place, only for my Aunt to start saying stuffs like "I look like a toothpick" she even went as far as saying I should start eating enough beans!! Chaii I have suffered .

I will be 25 by December, but yet most people I come across still think I am a teenager, Little did they know that the so called teenager is the owner of a business in Lagos and also a degree holder.

Inspite of my achievements, I feel what they are saying is beginning to get to me, i can't change the way I look, if I could, I'd probably add more height to my physique .

PinkPill:
My fiance is the best man in the world. He always makes sure that I'm happy and I don't lack anything.
He even placed me on monthly allowance.

Now the problem is this;

I have NEVER bought him anything tangible since we've been together. Only edible stuff like cookies, fruits and drinks. And he doesn't complain.

Some Nairaland guys have asked me many times what I've contributed to his life and I realized that the answer is NOTHING.
I think it's just PEACE OF MIND that I give him. He says it all the time.

I really want to get him something wonderful this Xmas.

But I remember that Ubunja warned ladies about this: Not to buy anything for a man who spends on you, no matter how small it may be. Because I think it will make him stop spending on you with time.

He has already sent me money for my Christmas shopping.

So please Nairaland guys advice me. Should I buy this gift or I should just continue the way we are. I can't risk this.

PS: I'm not a FEMINIST. I believe in my man being in charge and taking care of me
My boyfriend is an Alpha male but not a Redpiller. He is a SIMP. And I love him that way!

Ubunja
Martinez


Okay. Thanks

Facts101:
This is going to be me in 2022 below. Kings don't kneel

czarr:
Buy him these books

1. The rationale man by Rollo Tomassi

2. The manipulated man by Esther villa

he'll thank you later trust me.

dre11:
..........Horrified by what was happening, she took out her film and recorded what happened.





https://lailasnews.com/man-masturbates-publicly-while-staring-at-a-lady-in-a-bus/

PrimadonnaO:
Is that how people have sex?

Without the surprise train, anyone walking past the street would have still caught them. The activity was literally visible for the whole public.

arabbunkum:
Nigeria Is The Only African Nation Banned From 2022 US Visa Lottery
Emmanuel Egobiambu
Updated October 15, 2020



File photo of passengers at the Nnamdi Azikwe International Airport, Abuja following the resumption of international flights on September 7, 2020. Photo: Sodiq Adelakun/ Channels Television


Nigeria has been barred from the US visa lottery application for 2022, a document obtained from the US Government website showed.

In a 19-page document published on the website, Nigeria is the only African country barred from the visa lottery.

“For DV-2022, persons born in the following countries are not eligible to apply, because more than, 50,000 natives of these countries immigrated to the United States in the previous five years: Bangladesh, Brazil, Canada, China (including Hong Kong SAR), Colombia, Dominican Republic, El Salvador, Guatemala, Haiti, Honduras, India, Jamaica, Mexico, Nigeria, Pakistan, Philippines, South Korea, United Kingdom (except Northern Ireland) and its dependent territories, and Vietnam. Persons born in Macau SAR and Taiwan are eligible.”

Although natives of other African countries are allowed to apply, the document explained that “persons born in the areas administered prior to June 1967 by Israel, Jordan, Syria, and Egypt are chargeable, respectively, to Israel, Jordan, Syria, and Egypt,” it said.

“Persons born in the Gaza Strip are chargeable to Egypt; persons born in the West Bank are chargeable to Jordan; persons born in the Golan Heights are chargeable to Syria.”

In the document captioned “Instructions for the 2022 diversity immigrant visa program (dv-2022),” applicants must meet certain guidelines to be eligible for the visa lottery.

“The Department of State determines selectees through a randomized computer drawing,” the statement added.

“The Department of State distributes diversity visas among six geographic regions, and no single country may receive more than seven per cent of the available DVs in any one year.”
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theafricareport.com/23803/trumps-visa-ban-hits-nigeria-us-ties-security-concerns-cited/amp/

ikorodureporta:
Source: https://www.channelstv.com/2020/10/15/nigeria-barred-from-2022-us-visa-lottery/

pansophist:
The higher the number of partner a woman has date, the lower her chance to pair bond deeply. Furthermore, she already have a definitive standard of what a man should be like if you fail to meet up to any of the ex she has dated.

And you should read up about mitrochimerism. (the presence of a small number of cells that originate from another individual and are therefore genetically distinct from the cells of the host individual.)

pocohantas:
You mean there are girls that still tell such?

When will these girls learn that most guys do not love to hear the truth. They don't wanna know you better, they only wanna judge you better. Even if you say you are a V, he won't rest till he pokes his head inside there.

I personally do not make any effort to come off as a good girl. Not when I know there is this part of their brain wired to doubt every and come up with conjectures.

The last time a guy asked me a question like that, I told him I have lost count and watched him choke on his saliva. I refused to shift gaze, just kept watching him struggle to act unperturbed

Rubis:
Yes it has worked for me! I met two girls on Nairaland, three on Badoo.

It all started with the "hi" hi" stuff, then graduated to exchange of photos till we met physically.

I should have met over twenty-girls on Badoo, but that site is full of recharge cards hungry girls, and once you demand recharge card from me, I ditch you and move on. The two I eventually met didn't demand anything from me. Just the usual talks till we fix a date.

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]It's a matter of choice. There are no rules guiding where a guy should ask a lady out. Some are comfortable with it and some aren't. It isn't a matter of right or wrong. It isn't an issue of morality.[/color]

Guys, has this ever worked for you? Toasting a lady on social media and you hooked up? has a lady ever fallen for you without meeting you in person, i.e without studying you, "looking before she jump" without her accessing your worth? , have you ever invited a lady over to your place on Social media that you don't know in Person or that you have never met before and she came? Share your experiences.

Duggedised12:
not random guys na, there are dating groups on narialand here, some even charge you to hook you up. But it turns out to be a perfect place for these guys to have access to different ladies to warm their beds. Some group admins just dey chop nairaland girls like biscuit for these dating groups for nairaland ,lol.

Duggedised12:
Couldn't be more timely with this thread. Op just might have saved a life. The odds of meeting a dangerous man online in Nigeria is so high i still wonder how ladies comfortably up and go visit a man they met on the internet in his comfort zone. If anything happens to you typical Nigerians will say "wetin you go find there?". Serial killer nor dey show for face o. With the amount of ritual killings ,gang raping in the country its safe to say dating online in Nigeria is the most risky ever cos many victims are not even alive to say their stories.

I once met a nairalander here, he was so easy to talk to we soon became chat buddies but i noticed there was no meaningful timeline on his face book ,i didnt take it serious until i also noticed he never posts on his status atleast not that i could see. Before you know it ,he started pestering me to come to lagos to visit him.
I decided to do some digging myself only to find out the Facebook account he gave me wasn't his real one ,the real one has his marriage and all. His wife was even pregnant, yes he is a nairalander,he could have easily been a ritualist oo.maybe na runs girl dem for tag me wen i go missing.

Also there is another strategy they are using now especially on nairaland, dating groups, yes you heard me, dating groups,many guys come together to form dating groups and come to nairaland to haunt for "ready to settle down" ladies cos they know this type of ladies have a bit of desperation in them, so they pass these ladies around in the group all in the name of dating, some of these so called "serious relationships " can last as long as up to a year before they pull the plug on the unsuspecting lady and the next guy in the group comes in to mark his own register.

Becareful ladies, be very careful of these men you meet online,let she that has ear hear o.

If you are a lady reading this and you didn't take anything away from this thread, just read the comments of men on this thread ,it will give you the idea that no man is worth putting your life at risk to meet, these men will readily call you a runs girl for
even coming to meet them in their comfort zone anyway so why make it more difficult for yourself if you are not a runs girl to visit a Nigerian man who already sees you as cheap

The simple fact is that so many things are just different in Nigeria. From people in Uber being hailed by car thieves, to criminal syndicates robbing Jumai riders of iPhones, to being set up for robbery by your artisans / house helps. You can never be too paranoid in this country of ours.

pocohantas:
Guilty conscience.

See as them rush the OP

-Follow your instincts. I have very powerful insticts o. It has never failed me. The two times it told me to pull the plug on some guys, it didn't even take them weeks to reveal their true selves.

-Hold your own money. I mean cash and card. This is very important, as na money they bring nonsense.

Writercruze:
Online dating is something that has come to stay. But if you ever decide to meet up with any Nigerian guy from the internet, you must be extra careful. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not trying to paint Naija guys evil.

But with things happening around and activities of ritualists, It’s advisable to be careful when meeting somebody you met online. You can find your soulmate online. Yeah, my friend, who recently got married, met her husband on Facebook.

However, you can never be too careful when meeting someone online for the first time. Don’t forget that the person might have an ulterior motive. Also, he could be genuine with his intention. Whatever her purpose is, it’s good to be prepared and stay safe.

In this article, you will learn how to stay safe when meeting a Nigerian Guy from the internet.

Tips To Stay Safe When Meeting A Nigerian Guy You Met From The Internet

#1. Research About Him Before Agreeing To Meet

The first thing you should do when meeting a Nigerian guy from the internet is to research about him. Most often than none, the guy may not give you enough information about himself.

Well, Google makes a whole lot of things easier. You can search his name on Google, trust me a whole lot of information about the person will pop up. You can see more of his pictures and some other relevant information.

From the research, you will have a rough idea of the kind of person you are meeting. And if you think the guy’s lifestyle is the rugged type, then you should decline meeting him physically.

#2. Don’t Give Out Personal Information About Yourself

You don’t give much information about yourself when dating someone online. As a rule, never share personal information that can be used against you.

If I were you, I’d never share information like places I always visit, where my family members live, and my salary, to saw one I just met online. It’s a rookie mistake that could be very dangerous.

#3. Make A Video Call With Him

Most times, people use fake images on their online profiles. So, ensure you make a video call with a Nigerian guy before agreeing to meet. The essence of the video call is to ascertain that the person is who he claims he is.

Also, ensure that the voice on the audio call is the same as that on video calls. If not, then something is fishing. Avoid such a meeting because the guy could be dangerous.

Do you think I’m judging too quickly? Okay, what could make a guy be faking his identity to the woman he claims to love? Well, I will leave that for you to answer.

#4. Plan Your Meeting

Ensure you plan your meeting very well. The first thing you should do is to fix your meeting point in a public place. Somewhere very busy where he can’t try to make some dangerous move.

Never agree to meet with a Nigerian guy from the internet in private or secluded places like a hotel or their houses. Many girls have lost their lives because of this and others have been raped.

Some guys may seem very friendly and genuine online. But behind this niceness could be someone seriously hunting for the next ritual victim. So, be very careful, don’t allow them to use you to buy Lexus gift.

Again, you can share your location with your friends and family using your phone. And if you can go with any of your friends, that won’t be a bad idea. Hey, don’t overdo it. Just because I said, you should carry your friends didn’t mean you should go there with a bevy of ladies.

#5. Tell Someone Else About The Date

Don’t be secretive about meeting someone from the internet. Tell one or two persons about the date, the location, and when you are supposed to be back.

If you tell someone about the date, he or she can raise the alarm when you didn’t return at the expected time. It gives you confidence once you know that people are aware of your date. And find a way of telling your partner indirectly that people are aware of the date.

#6. Don’t Go With Your Car

Taking public transport is safer when meeting someone from the internet. When things go wrong, you can easily find your way back home using public transport. Even if you decide to go with your car, try to park it in a way that you can quickly move it in case of anything

#7. Don’t Drink Too Much

Most ladies are victims of this. How can you drink too much when meeting a guy from the internet for the first time?

Don’t forget that the guy may have an ulterior motive. If possible, avoid taking alcohol to remain active throughout the date. And once you notice that he’s trying to make you drink too much, end the meeting immediately.

#8. Carry a Pepper Spray

I hope you don’t have to use this, but it’s better to stay safe than sorry. Just be prepared in case the guy is trying to do some hanky panky, use the pepper spray and escape. Ensure you blocked such person from contacting you again.

You can never be too careful when meeting a Nigerian guy from the internet. Always remember that it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/how-to-stay-safe-when-meeting-a-nigerian-guy-you-met-online/

dainformant:
A young lady has got herself and her man trending online and here's why. Exactly a year ago, the lady took a big step of faith by sending a private message to a guy she came across online and it worked out well for her. 

The lady reached out to her crush and complimented him on his cuteness as she gave him the 'green light. . 

The young man responded to the message and gave his number to the lady. The rest is now history.

The lady shared pictures of herself and her lover on Twitter and wrote; A year ago today I shot my shot, and it worked out pretty well if I do say so myself .

See more; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2019/01/lady-sends-dm-to-a-cute-guy-she-met-online-now-dating-him-1-year-after.html

mztubsy:
The way intimacy is being taken seriously by guys of nowadays just leave me wondering if that. Is all they think about....there's d dwindling economy,boko haram,political mayhem,....even ebola.I mean,life isn't just one big party afterall,where we all just come to dine and wine and dance al nite long....@OP,whatever poo u wrote there,I can't comprehend....can't even fathom a girl with class and superb self-carriage go on a date with ur type talk more of falling for your crappy antics.

100Cents:
It worked on 3 to 4 out of every 5 girls i came in contact with.

I can't state my formula here. It might shut down the site for few seconds..

But the base point is ladies admire guys with unequal courage. If they see in you a courage they have never seen in another man, they will bleep you on the spot..

Though man has slowed down long ago. I remember those things and I find them hard to believe..

contactmorak:
Nairaland babes and indeed babes everywhere are going to hate me after exposing their weaknesses today. Had this girl all to myself over the weekend. She came to visit me briefly for the first time, telling me ahead that she would only stay one hour. But she just left this morning. This has worked for me many times and I'm touched by a number of guys who struggle daily to get the girl they really want. It's simple just STOP doing this 3 things on your “first-dates” with hot women..

Most guys make these mistakes without even realizing they're doing it and then go home alone at the end of the night, wondering "what happened"..

Don't be like them.

Pay attention. Take action. Use what I'm about to share with you, and give your dick what it deserves: A healthy, vibrant sex life. 



First-Date Mistake #1: Staying At One Place The Whole Time.

Here's something most guys don't know: If you stay in one venue with someone else, they might feel like they "kinda" know you.

But if you move from one venue to the next to the next with that same person, they'll feel like they know you much better.

(You could even spend the same 60 minutes with that person, but if those 60 minutes are spent in 3 different locations...the connection is much stronger.)

Listen, you're a smart guy with excellent bone structure, so make sure you take it multiple places next time. A couple examples let say you meet on the Island:

Walk to the Galleria--> Walk to Bar Beach --> Walk to Eko Hotel Pool side

Meet for drinks at one bar --> Walk to dinner at nearby place --> Get ice cream at this "little chocolate shop you love" (or go make dessert at your place)



First-Date Mistake #2: Waiting Too Long To Make "Physical Touch" Natural.

This one's a big deal.

Look, you want the date to lead to sex pretty quickly, right? 

(If not, then don't bother reading this)

Then make sure you establish RIGHT AWAY that you and her are the kind of friends who have no problem touching each other.

I always make a note to myself to "establish physical contact" immediately when I see her (in real life, this amounts to a big hug (maybe even picking her up playfully with the hug), then tossing her off and immediately grabbing her hand and leading it towards where I want it to go).

Then later on, there will be lots of playful nudges, grabbing her shoulders and hi-fives ending in finger clasping, before escalating to more intimate hand-holding, kissing, sitting on my lap and eventually....hair-pulling, ass spanking and whoops, where is this sentence going :-)

The point is, establish touch right away, then keep building it from there throughout the entire thing, always escalating two steps forward, one step back, two steps forward, one step back.

Let's continue.



First-Date Mistake #3: Doing What Every Other Guy Does.

Hey, you're a genius, right?

Good, then remember this: Women work in subconscious patterns.

There's a stimuli, and then their unconscious response pattern.

They don't know they do it, but they ALL do.

They've also NOT slept with about 99% of the guys they've ever met.

So...if you ACT like the 99% of guys she didn't sleep with, she will receive your stimuli (acting like the 99% of guys she doesn't fvck), and then spit out her unconscious response pattern to it (don't sleep with him). 

What's the BEST thing to do here then?

Do NOT act like the other 99%, ever, at all.

I personally consider myself among the elite 1% and i act like it, so... if you want to start sexually attracting hot girls at will, you'd be wise to do the same.


Here are some of the things the "99% of guys she doesn't sleep with" will typically do:

Boring, logical conversations.. (no playful teasing or challenging)


Qualify themselves on the date..(assume your role as the authority here, and make her prove herself to you)


Wear predictable, unfashionable clothing.. (dress stylish, show you care about yourself and are a leader, not a sheep following the herd)


Wait for the end of the date to kiss her...(Start building the physical escalation and sexual tension right away, and when she's getting into it, just kiss her right then and there)


That's all I can say. Even if all you do to her on the first date is kiss, adhering to this tips will make it easier for you to do the 'major' on the second date. Thank me later! Have a nice week by the way!

www.splendormag.com/2014/09/18-do-these-3-things-youll-have-sex.html?m=1#more

safarigirl:
Nairaland is 10 today...yay!!!!

This site has come a long way. Since it's inception in 2005. From a small, barely recognized platform for Nigerians and friends of Nigeria to express themselves freely, to a bustling site where even the high and mighty visit when seeking the opinions of Nigerians

But Nairaland did not make itself this, there were people who made this site happen....long before the advent of tribalism, bigotry, political jingoism and sycophancy and petty arguments that are slowly ruining the image of this site. People who could argue intelligently without resorting to name-calling or mudslinging.

People who could fill 21 pages with mind-boggling arguments....as well as the clowns whose antics made us laugh.

Let us remember those Nairalanders that were here when Nairaland was Nairaland

1) Ogugua and sexskills: One cannot mention Ogugua without mentioning her bae sexskills. Those names go hand-in-hand. They were both mods...and both can be held responsible for the tyrannical nature of mods today.
Ogugua was a mod in Celebrities Section while sexskills ran the Romance section with an iron fist...literally. Sexsskills banned people according to his mood, if you spoke an ill-word of him or his lady love, you'd get your ban. Any attempts to derail a thread, introduce tribalism or even curse at anyone met a ban. To some extent he brought some sanity to the section.
He was one of a few mods who people threatened to 'treat his phuck up' and meant it. Sexskills and Ogugua88 eventually retired from NL together and deactivated their accounts as soon as they could

2) Jarus: Another mod, but on politics section. He was a likeable fellow, not much complaints. Very effective and bothered to sound warnings before slamming people with bans. But I particularly liked him because of his approach to topics. He just didn't give a phuck about petty arguments. He made his points and bothered to explain himself without using vile words and any attempts to drag him into one, he would literally jump and pass

3) CFCFan: This our oga-at-the-top has been on Nairaland for a reasonably long time and is one of the few NLers that has refused to retire. CFC is a sports enthusiast (as his handle implies) and is very active in Sports section as well as Romance to some extent. He has participated in Mr. Nairaland a couple of times and is the go-to-guy on how to conduct yourself on NL. If he has ever gotten into a serious argument, there are no records of such, he probably has never been banned sef.

4) Afam4eva: This bros was once a mod in Politics Section, now he's on a hiatus. He didn't always come out with clean hands after a spat, but he did get some sibtle jabs in. I particularly liked the way he would insult people without necessarily resorting to the use of insultive terms or crass words. The people he got into arguments with ended up looking like monkeys jumping for a banana he was swinging above their heads.
Still, there were a few that ruffled his feathers and he received more than a few call-outs for what some termed his 2-faced ways

5) Mikuz: If you're a regular on thhe music section, specifically, the rap board, Mikuz needs no introduction. He's been running things there for a while and is responsible for most of the competitions. He organises them and gets rappers to show off their skills. Mikuz doesn't really involve himself in rap battles, letting others have the stage, but he's highly influential on that section

6) Adaobi123: Long before the advent of the likes of Nneka, priscaohe and Jennima, Adaobi was the true queen of Nairaland. Pretty faced, soft-spoken and intelligent. She's one of the few NLers that never got into fights. I don't know how she did it, but she just never allowed anyone to drag her in, choosing to give stern words and warnings instead. She became a mod in the Music Section a few years back, but she's not as active as she used to be

7) Pagan9ja: This is one Nairalander that fascinated me with his talk about returning to the gods of our fathers. Sure he sounded forceful atimes and downright ridiculous, but one thing I couldn't take away from this guy was that his arguments when viewed with an open mind, made lots of sense.
He was a thorn in the flesh of most Christian members of the religious section and received quite the number of bans, but he continued to preach on the importance of traditional religion. Haven't seen him around in a while

Fulaman: aka Mr Congeniality, this dude is a true diplomat if there ever was one. Always trying to be civil, never involving himself in arguments (though many times I imagined a vein popping in his head from trying to hold back on some nasty words ). He remains a mod on Culture Section and frowns upon the westernisation of Africa. He's big on all things cultural and African and his position as a mod is well earned.
Once in a while though, I do expect him to lose his chill

9) Yuzedo (Chief Sweetus Oyegeyege): The one and only President of Banana Island Landlords association, the man after the heart of asampete Rita Dummynick . I mean, no matter how bad your day was, a post by Yuzedo was guaranteed to make you smile. Dude got so legendary, there were monikers like Mrs Yuzedo and Yuzedo's son. If Yuzedo was unable to make a post in 24 hours people would notice. If there was a thread on Rita Dominic, Yuzedo was the first name to be called, but beneath all of that bad English, he's one of the best writers on Nairaland

10) Beaf: one of the most passionate PDP supporters Nairaland has ever seen, Beaf earned legendary status with the likes of Demdem, who was his core opposite. He was accused of being an active member of the 40-laptops paid agents of PDP. He was the Doyin Okupe of NL with a little more brains than the actual one. Beaf has not been active for some years now and political arguments are not as interesting without him

11) 190 and Mr.Cork: A simple introduction. 190 lives in Peckham, England, does not like dark-skinned girls and is particularly repulsed by Nigerian girls. He and Mr.Cork are brothers from different mothers, but na the same papa born them. 190 is a Romance section popular along with Mr Cork. As far as his choice of women goes, if it ain't white, it ain't right. Mr cork leans more towards, if it ain't white, it better be light or at least bleached (no offeinse).
Despite their tantrums, both guys serve as the comic relief on that section and their comments are a delight to read

12) Okijajuju: No matter how useless you are, your scrotum can still be used for ogwu ego . Okijajuju, Nairalan'd emissary to Okija shrine, helping all NLers out with the right ogwu for whatever ails them. This guy is just hilarious, you have to smile when you read his comments. He definitely made NL worth the read for many years

13) PCGuru: I wasn't really familiar with this guy because he was mostly active on the technology board where he was a mod, but he was peaceful whenever I encountered him. If your gadget had an issue, he was the go-to guy, but he also gave pretty good relationship advice

14) Idowuogbo and Bin gbagbo: The two rulers of Jokes section. These two have been running the game there for years and still do. While Idowu is much more diverse having popularised herself in both the Romance and Celebrity Section, bin gbagbo mostly sticks to making countless attempts to tell jokes in that section, only coming out to visit sports section and diss Nigeria.
Idowuogbo is one person you do not want to cross though, she's got a mean streak in her and can finish your generation in one post

15) Onila: If Onila is not an NL legend, nobody is. She has the most topics created by any Nairalander and probably follows the most people. She's pro-virginity, but we can't say if she's one . Her topics tend to be silly, mundane and ridiculous but whenever she opens a topic labelled 'The Beauty Of...' It's usually top notch. Onila is one of the few people that have really made this site funny

16) Mondicheeks: Relationship expert/feminist/straight-talker. She was quite popular on Romance Section and had a way of making her posts come off as witty. One of the few NLers that stayed away from e-fights as much as possible, she never went into one she couldn't win.

17) Dayokanu: If there ever was an NLer that could make you look silly in an argument, Dayokanu was the one. Once you got past his tribalism, his comments were usually thought-provoking and intelligent, especially on relationships

18) Ezepromoe: Our voice of reson when things got heated. He wasn't one to take sides during any arguments concerning tribes, he just made neutral comments and basically told everyone to chill. He's got a funnybone that comes out once in a while and is now actively involved in Mr.Nairaland competitions as an organiser...but he's a bit scarce on NL

19) SimonAndal: The only likeable gay dude on NL (if there ever was one). He wasn't really all over the place with his sexuality, mostly coming off as just another average joe, save for a few freaky posts (like when he said he'd 'bend over' for Lynxx and he used to have a crush on Mike Ezeuronye) save for those he was a pretty funny dude who tried to promote gayism the best he could but managed to retreat once the attack dogs came.
On every topic he'd post "sometimes I tie my legs to a stone and pretend I'm a mermaid"...he's out now, but I always liked him, he was very nice and sweet

20) Onlytruth and Babyosisi: If you didn't know Nigerians in the diaspora work hard for their money, these people would tell it all. They were the ones to set people straight and tell people "US isn't paved with gold". One time, a thread was created on how difficult it was sending money home and Onlytruth gave us an earful. While we got hard truths from Onlytruth, Babyosisi came off as more subtle in her approach

Other Notable Mentions
Ileke-idi
Sagamite
Speedyboi
Coogar
Itsmodella
OAM4J
Mzpotato
Mzdarkskin
NadiaSA
TheAmaka
Mamagee
Shollypopz
Mrs chima
Ishilove
Petrodollar
Lalaboi
Bluetooth
Tellwisdom
Shymexx
Kobojunkie
Dygeasy
Odumchi (was a Culture section mod as well and started the whole Igwe of Ndigbo NL if I'm correct)
Hotietima


Feel free to add anyone I may have left out

2sexy:
Rule 1. There are different culture at different places. What may apply to American dating sphere may not apply in Naija. So forget all the American romance movie you watch

Rule 2 .Dont be too soft with any Naija girl/lady. If you do,alot of them wont take you serious. Learn to be aggressive sometime but appropriately.

Rule 3. If you are just starting out in the dating game, dont date a girl who might have dated over 3 guys in the past and you become the 4th. Chances are that you wont enjoy the relationship. She already know what you dont and might take advantage of you.

Rule 4. Never start a relationship by spending money on her. Doing so is like digging your own grave

Rule 5. If your girlfriend is having too many male friends than female friends,there is a probability that she is dating one. So keep your eyes peeled

Rule 6. Dont always agree to everything she tells you to do for her. She might take you to the cleaners.

Rule 7. Test her to see if she is submissive and co-operative by telling to do certain things for you.

Rule 8. Excessive calls should be reduced. Dont call too often. Most of them dont like it and dont appreciate it, I dont know why.

Rule 9. Dont say "am sorry" often,especially when you know you are not at fault.

Rule 10. The ratio of girls to boys in the world is like 2:1. This mean that there are more females than males in the world. Dont kill yourself because one girl just dont care about you. Besides,if you die, another guy will come after her. Why? Ladies are like products in the market!

Rule 11. Love her but dont over do it,

DExplorer1:
Every relationship has its high and low moments. Even at times, not foreseen, things could suddenly change to a point of disbelief. Ugly surprises do occur in relationships but the fact remains that they do give us warning signs. Nobody wants a split in their relationship, hence, we ignore these signs especially when we either feel safe in it or we don’t want to let go. The important side to this is that, making a relationship work isn't a lone decision. It takes you-two to get at it – making efforts and showing commitment. No matter how unexpected a break-up seem to have happened, it always come along with alerts – various warning signs, and they could be silent or just too obvious even when you ignore them.

In one of my most-read article – how to save a dying relationship , I highlighted proven and practical ways to revive a seemingly dead relationship and before making this content, I understood that every stage of a relationship comes with uncertainties and the possibility of surviving at such moments would depend on the strength of the both parties. It would be a matter of concern if you or your partner chooses to deal with it alone. Break-up do happen, even to promising relationships, it’s mostly prompted by contrary influence, incompatibility or inability to compromise some standards. Whichever way it comes, there are signs foretelling the possibility of a split in your relationship and from my experience as a relationship counselor, I've gathered 25 signs for both genders that should get your attention.

* When his excuse is always the same or contradictory.
* When he stops doing what he did to get you.
* When you’re often compared to his ex.
* When he loves his privacy.
* When she starts keeping sensitive secrets.
* When she makes important decisions without your consent.
* When she gets mad at minor issues.
* When you’re alone and nothing seems missing – You ran a whole day without his thought going through your mind?
* When he introduces you as his friend and not his girl/woman.
* When he no longer cares about important matters that concerns you.
* When he always find a fault about you to defend/justify his action(s).
* When you take your friends as more priority than him.
* When he replaces regular calling with text messages.
* When she’s not always happy around you.
* When it’s only sex that keeps your relationship alive.
* When he gives you no attention because of his friends or job.
* When he’s not in any way jealous about your males or concerned about the calls you receive – This isn't insecurity, it only shows he's keenly interest and the fact that he can’t afford to lose you.
* When he no longer seek your opinion or careless about them.
* When she communicates less with you but complains more.
* When she’s being controlled by her mother.
* When he doubts every excuse/reason you give.
* When she settles for you alone and avoids your family/friends.
* No discussion about the future or he plans his future without you in the picture.
* When she ask for a break regularly.
* When both of you finds it difficult to make collective decision(s) or remain on the same page on important matters.

These warning signs are for our caution. If you don’t give them good attention, it could result in a sudden break-up of your relationship. If you ever experience any of these disturbing signs, have a good discussion with your partner and try never to ignore it. In a relationship, you’re truly happy when your partner is happy. A one-sided affair will always find its way to hit the rock. The good side to this is that these signs can be swiftly identified; it’s either what he/she stops doing or what he/she starts doing. Whichever way, don’t let the negative signs be, don’t manage any, don’t prevent or ignore, cure them! Heal your relationship of little faults because it could form a breaking point for more trouble.

SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/11/25-warning-signs-of-possible-breakup-in.html

24hoursreporter:
Meeting your partner’s parents is a major step in your relationship, thus creating a good first impression is something you must do. As intimidating as meeting your partner’s parents can be, you still need to comport yourself.

The first impression you create when dealing with your potential in-laws can be a lasting impression. So, as you are meeting your soulmate’s parents, below are some of the things you should know.

9 Things To Know When Meeting Your Partner’s Parents

#1. Reduce Public Display Of Affection

When you are visiting your partner’s parents for the first time, you need to reduce the public display of affection. You don’t need to kiss her in the presence of her parents to show that you love her.



Trust African parents, the way they will look at you will definitely send a message. So, be moderate in displaying your affection for your partner, when you are with his/her parents.

#2. Try Not To Be Drunk When You Are Meeting Them

No matter how addicted you are to alcohol, try to be clean when you are meeting your soulmate’s parents. Try to be in your right senses and stay away from anything that will intoxicate you including alcohol.

#3. Don’t Discuss Controversial Topics Like Sex, Politics or Religion

Discussing topics like sex, religion or politics can ruin everything in your Partner’s parents home. It is always better to stay off controversial topics to be on the safer side.

For instance, your Partner’s dad may be an ardent supporter of Buhari and the atmosphere will be tense if you pledge your support for Atiku in his house. You see why it is not advisable to discuss politics.

#4. Don’t Lie Or Exaggerate To Impress Them

One of the things to know when meeting your partners’ parents is not to lie or exaggerate to impress them. Be real and don’t be fake as the truth will always be exposed.

After all, when the wind blows, the anus of the hen will be open. So, be plain and allow them to accept you the way you are.

#5. Don’t Press Your Phone When You Are With Them

It is a sign of disrespect to be pressing your phones and chatting while meeting your partner’s parents for the first time. You can always press the pone later, but when you are with them, comport yourself.

#6. Don’t Tell Inappropriate, Sexually Or Religious Insensitive Jokes

You may want to sound funny and jovial but tell rational jokes. As a matter of fact, try to refrain from inappropriate, sexually or religious insensitive jokes. This may create a very wrong impression about you.

#7. Offer To Help Them With House Chores

Ladies, you really need to drop your slay queen behavior when you are with your man’s parents. In fact, you have to behave like a wife material and prove to them that you are the right person for their son.

Offer to assist with the cooking or help wash the dishes in the kitchen. Little gesture like this can create a lasting impression.

#8. Dress Smart

You need to look good and smart when you are meeting your partner’s parents for the first time. It goes a long way to say a lot about you. So, dress smartly as you will definitely be addressed the way you dressed.

#9. Don’t Be Completely Quiet

Try not to be bored; you can bring up an interesting conversation provided the topic is not controversial.

Souce: http://www.24hoursreporter.com/2018/11/21/9-things-to-know-when-meeting-your-partners-parents/

Medlabgirl:
I met a young Nigerian woman today. She came into the NVP (Nausea\Vomiting of Pregnancy) Clinic. When I saw her name on the ticker, I decided to go up myself rather than send someone, and I am glad that I did. She told me the most incredible story. I am writing it here, because I am sure that there must be someone out in NLand who will know if there is something that can be done, and if there is, how to go about it. So here goes,

She is a new Canadian Permanent Resident, pregnant with her first child. Her husband lives in Nigeria. She had applied to go to the UK a few months ago, but her application was denied because she wasn't working. She said she wanted to go visit her sister. She does not work, as she is supported by the husband, who according to her is doing very well. She plans to go to school, but is ill right now. This is all again what she told me.
After being denied a UK Visa, she generally forgot about the whole thing, and decided to go home to visit hubby. So she did; and this is where it gets interesting!
She is a new Canadian resident, so she still travels Nigerian i.e with a Naija passport. I understand that as a Canadian resident flying even on a Nigerian passport, that you do not require transit visas. She flew British Airways. The trip to Nigeria was good she said, but on the return trip to Canada, she was caught up in the volcanic ash problem and had to wait in London. Now, BA agreed to provide her hotel accomodation for one night, and had a vehicle waiting to take her to the hotel, but unfortunately the British Immigration refused to let her in at the point of entry. They said that because she had made a prior application to come there, that she had the intention of remaining in the UK. This she denied. She said she lived in Canada, was happy to be there, and had not even planned to leave the transit area on her layover, prior to the flights being cancelled due to the ash situation. She says she was there, really ill and vomitting into her spitty-cup(ladies you probably know what I mean), arguing with them. They refused, handcuffed her, and took her to a detention center, where she was held for 7 days. Sometime in those 7 days, she was taken to the hospital, given an ultrasound to determine if she was truly pregnant, given some meds, she doesn't know what, and sent back to detention. At the end of the 7 days, she was put on a flight to Canada. One of her bags was gone, and of course all the dried fish, egusi, crayfish, stockfish, fried snails etc, were discarded.

This is one of the most incredible things I have ever heard, and I just cannot get over it. She is pretty much ok now, geting along nicely in the pregnancy, she just cannot shake the throw- ups which is why she came in tonight, and I got to meet her.

Now here is my question. IS SOMEONE LIABLE HERE? DOES SHE HAVE ANY RECOURSE? IS THERE ANYTHING SHE CAN DO? Surely no one should be mistreated like this. I thought, wow this is somebody's daughter, sister, wife and soon to be mother (Deo Volere). I would like to help her, as I think it is an outrage. So please, if you know what to do in a case like this, kindly let me know. I will be seeing her soon I think, so I will let her know what you suggest. Thanks for your help.

coldgate:
While not in support of the scam, I am also not surprised to hear that they got wind of the issue from a whistle blower. Some Nigerians and their bad belle.