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Toks2008:
In our early 20s we usually have all the time in the world to date and engage in romance with the opposite sex,we care less about their persona,background and intentions...often times we take for granted the very ones who sincerely desire us because at that point,commitment is the least of our worries.

Its also amazing to know that in most cases,we tend to fall in love deeply at that point in our lives when we never planned for it.

But as we grow older and we get into our 30s without any commited affair, we suddenly realize its no longer as easy as it was when we were far younger and we try to be very careful not to make mistakes and by so doing we make things even more difficult and complicated for ourselves....

Unfortunately at this stage,many subliminally develop gamophobia(fear of getting married) because there is no more time for long courtship and you don't want to marry who you don't really know,every person that looks attractive to us is a potential spouse...men see ladies at this stage as desperados. Most guys at this stage get confused and ladies at this stage become impatient and any affair running into a year or more makes them uncomfortable.

The pressure starts building from parents,friends,family members and even the social media dares not know you are single. Then we try to console ourselves with phrases such as.."Marriage is not a do or die thing,marriage is not for everyone" "it's better to remain single than rush into wrong marriage"....

The simple truth is that in most cases from a certain age, the more we advance in years,the more difficult it becomes to get married and the more careful we try to be,the more complicated it gets but only the singles at 30 upwards can understand this.

My advise to anyone in this situation is that once you see someone you feel any form of attraction to,drop your fears,do a quick due diligence on that person and if you are comfortable with your findings just take the risk and dare the consequence because no matter how long you wait and no matter how careful you may be,you can never be too sure of that person until you start living under the same roof as a couple and there is no good or bad choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Godoverevery:
bro know this 70% of Nigeria ladies are in relationship majorly because of financial gains....times are hard and they need to survive hence since they are lazy and want good things they can't afford.... they have to depend on men for there needs...that why most of them are seriously cheating now.
Growing up we hardly see women that cheat because it was men things but right now bro, women have even over taken men in cheating.
Now is so bad that even some foolish guys feel you have to take care of a lady needs first before asking for sex because this men see them as decent prostitute.
So as a guy you need to stop making this mistake if you are not among the foolish one I mentioned above
1-Never beg or force a lady to date you else she will make a fool of you by turning you to a maga.

2- Never try to satisfy a lady or go out of your way to give her what she wants if she not your wife because bro you will regret it... your mother is your priority for now.

3- one of the best thing you can ever do to yourself is dating an ambitious lady someone who has the hustling spirit, who have dreams of her own....that way you can really go far in life because your income can never be enough.

Note- most successful men go for women who are very ambitious and who have goals....check most governor there wife are professors,judge, lecturers,top professionals,big business women because they know what it means to have a liability for a wife.

One liability you don't want to have in your life is a woman because bro you can never achieve much with a woman with entitlement mentality leave them for the yahoo boys.

PrimadonnaO:
This good girl/bad girl narrative is being given too much attention. Today it's Lilo saying men only go for bad girls. This is someone who's an influencer.

I worry that young undiscerning good girls will start trying to become bitches...

Dear young girl, don't become a bitch. Bitches are available to every Tom, Dick and Harry, but that shouldn't be you. This is what I know works, and makes a young woman balanced;

1. Be approachable but not available to everyone.

2. Have standards but don't be unreasonable.

3 Be conscious of your worth but don't think too highly of yourself.

4. In a relationship, you'll have to make compromises, but know what compromises are worth making.

5. Don't stress people for fun because you think it makes you more desirable - hard-to-get syndrome.

6. Being rude isn't classy or admirable. Be civil and sensitive in how you communicate with people, whether or not they're chyking you.

7. Don't make everything about you. Your chyker/significant other has needs, feelings and preferences, too. Stop expecting him to always be the one shifting grounds for you.

8. Check your feelings of entitlement.

9. Feel free to be expressive. State how you feel. Ask for what you want. There's nothing demeaning in that.

10. Understand that all men have ego. Sometimes you may need to shine his ego, but so long as he isn't unreasonable and inherently insecure.

11. Don't let any man use you to do "sarewagba" Avoid men that praise you for being a "low maintenance chic." It's a psychological tactic.

12. Don't be the babe that goes to a man's house to start sweeping full house and compound, doing his laundry, pounding yam. (I personally don't have a problem with cooking, but wisdom is profitable to direct).

13. Be strategic in how you date. Don't just date a a person because he's asking you out and texting you regularly. Do you personally like him? Does he have values that appeal to you? Does he largely check the boxes with regards to the things you want in a man?

14. Don't be too hasty to quit on people. You may let a relationship go and realise in hindsight that you could have fixed it. If the relationship is worth it, make it work, give it your best shot. Y'all will have fallouts now and again, but don't feel too important to be the bigger person. But again, wisdom is profitable to direct.

As for what people call "bad bitches" or "bad girls," I'll actually struggle to define or enumerate enough characteristics of those ones, but it certainly has something to do with having loose morals.

Feel free to add, subtract, and modify for better clarity on this matter.

Bak89:
The girl has already slept with her ex. That’s why she showed you their chats to help herself clear the guilt. She also deleted the most revealing conversations so as not to break your heart. Things move very fast for girls, you also need to catch up and not be fooled by her charades that will become increasingly common going forward. Remember that girls are like children, whenever they do anything wrong they report themselves, they just can’t control it.

My advice is to break up with her immediately and without notice or a minute of discussion. Discussions at this point is like noise to her and a total waste of your breath. Delete her number then unfollow her everywhere.

Next time, don’t fall for a girl who’s just been dumped. You brought this on yourself and now you have to handle it like a man of stone and not show her any emotion whatsoever.

NYCnextStop:
Really there’s nothing you can do. Just reassure her your love and live your life

Now is the time to be the best version of you. Don’t put out needy vibes or in competition with the ex. Don’t also ever let her notice you feel threatened by her ex wealth

Trust me there’s a possibility of her going back to him but he will still treat her bad. If that happens be strong, move on and do not take her back when she returns

There’s so much to live for than trying to jealously guard a lady

allpsyinfo:
Hmmm, this is a tough one. On the one hand, I doubt there are many people unscrupulous enough to give steroids to a 12-13-14 year old, and I doubt a kid that young could afford them. On the other hand, he has the body of a college athlete. He was trained by his dad who owns a gym, so it stands to reason that his training and diet were well managed, but it could also be argued that his gym owner father wanted his son to be a star and used his connections as a gym owner to get steroids.
See more at:
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oshe11:
I still can't comprehend the girl's attitude though


Thought they are besties?


Well, its obvious they don't understand each other....
Why All the F words?


Seems their kinda besties was centered on Monetary gain


Even if he wanted to shoot a shot, why is she acting like she can read his mind?

Transfer of aggression much?

Silly girl

**Bloggers' fiction

juliabobly65:
Hello nairalanders, I need your opinions on this matter.

My boyfriend of 3 years who is now my fiancee (we are talking marriage already) is constantly talking to his ex girlfriend (who is now married).

They discuss all manner of things, ranging from how she misses him and wished she had waited for him.

Trouble started when he told her he was planning to settle down (I still wonder why he told her) ever since she's always coming up with pots of lies against me. She claims someone told her so many things about me.

She fabricating lies isn't my major concern because I know once something good is about to happen the devil comes in many ways than one to destroy it.

I've told my man all about my past life and everything in it, recently he accused me of withholding some information of my past. The ex girlfriend had a chat with and told him things I don't even know about.

Nairalanders this lady is married, why is she poke nosing into our affair?? If she loved him that much, why did she marry another man?? Why is my man giving her audience Is he still in love with her I know she's obsessed about me. Her constant chats with him, makes him accuse me of things I've never done in my entire life.

I told him we should suspend the marriage until he's done with his investigation since he doesn't believe me cos he said if he finds out something I did in my past in the future and I didn't tell him it will be a problem.

Admins pls push to front page.

Kobicove:
I don't think the age gap is too much.

The most critical point is her maturity...just make sure she has passed the stage where she thinks that the only important thing in life is to go clubbing and use all the money in her account to buy the latest phone in town.

Also make sure she has had some dating experience and has had her share of heartbreak so she will not go into the marriage expecting it to be a bed of roses.

By the way I think you need to tell her your real age so she can make an informed decision.

Good luck!

Abalado:
Thank you everyone, sorry for the gender status, I mean on my profile here, sometimes it could be typo error, I be original man, I no be woman,,, na typo error,, thanks for the advice, but the fact still remains that I always love to be like 3 to 4 years older than my wife to be, but in this case, I love the girl and I believe she also love me too, but the age difference is really given me issue,, am 11years older than her

Abalado:
Straight to the point please,am 36 years old and my fiance is 25 years old, we met some months ago and we are planning to get married by December, actually I told her I was 33years,but jokingly I was telling her that am 36 already, so I don't know what to do about this.is it advisable for us to get married with the age distance please,, only mature minds should comment please, no insult or else I will send Mr Coro to u o... �

Savvywriteprene:
Age is just number, sometimes.

What you should be sure about before tying the knot is the financial, emotional, spiritual, mental, health, sexual compatibility between the both of you.

If she ticks at least 75% of your boxes, then by all means go ahead and get married.

P.S- Please, I beg you, don't get married on the foundation of lies. Make honesty, straightforwardness your watchword. Tell her the truth about your age, don't make her lose trust in you, it will be difficult to get it back.

24hoursreporter:
Yeah you are very correct, Meanwhile, see these 9 ways to know that you have met your soul mate http://www.24hoursreporter.com/2018/10/09/9-ways-to-know-that-you-have-met-your-soulmate/

24hoursreporter:
Finding the right woman to spend the rest of your life with is no easy anymore. As a matter of fact, Wife material, money and trustworthy leaders are now the most difficult things to find in Nigeria these days.

However, there is no accurate way to know the perfect woman. But you don’t need a soothsayer to know once you see the “Miss right” you have been looking for. Therefore, in this article, you will know the 5 types of women you should never let go.

The 5 Types Of Women You Should Never Let Go

#1. The One That Is Uncomplicated And Sincere

One of the types of women you should never let go are the sincere ones. Those that don’t play games with you.
In fact, there are no shady conversations with an Ex, no male friend too close to comfort. She made it clear that it is you and you alone, Guess what? That is your soul mate, go for her..

#2. The One You Can Confide In

One you can confide in a woman, she is definitely the right person for you. A good lady should listen to you and allow you say your mind without judging or ridiculing you.

Also, if you trust her so much and she has never betrayed your trust, go for her. In fact, if I were you, I will cross 7 seas, just to be with her.

#3. The One That Loves You Unconditionally

Unconditional love from a woman is as rare as diamond these days. However, whenever a lady shows you, such love, don’t take her for granted.

Any woman that loves you unconditionally deserves nothing but your loyalty and good treatment. Please, I am advising you as a brother, don’t mess it up.

#4. The God Fearing (Those With Conscience)

One of the types of women you should never let go is the God-fearing women. To put it differently, women that have a conscience. There are several ladies out there who have fed their conscience to the dogs.

When it comes to making the decision on who to spend the rest of your life with, you must be very rational. As a matter of fact, Love should be the last thing you consider. Forever is too long to spend with a lady who is not God-fearing.

Once you discover that your babe is God-fearing, no that she is the Miss right you have been searching. Go for it and prepare a permanent space for her in your heart.

#5. The Hardworking And Humble Ones

Is your girlfriend hardworking and humble? Does she have entrepreneurship spirit or she is just another slay queen looking for the next guy to slay?

Once you are certain that she is hardworking and respectful, never let her go. There are countless slay queen out there looking for the next man to devour financially.

So, if your girlfriend is working hard for herself rather turning you to an ATM card, she is the right person. never let her go.

Source: http://www.24hoursreporter.com/2018/10/18/5-types-of-women-you-should-never-let-go/

OjieFortune:
WHEN AND HOW TO LET GO OF AN UNDEFINED RELATIONSHIP.

The worst mistake anybody can make is to be in a relationship where you assume it is a lifetime relationship.
A lifetime commitment relationship is like a ticking clock, the more the clock ticks, the more you move and connects with people. The day you find your spouse and get maritally settled, your clock stops ticking. And as many as you meet and get connected to become casual friends to you.

An undefined relationship can be time-consuming, stressful and demanding. Imagine you have been dating someone for some years without having a clue of where you both are headed. You just assume someday he will propose or if he proposes she will say yes.

It is only 5% of undefined relationships that have a happy ending Most of the heartbreaks people go through is due to the inability to define the relationship or ask integral questions that will give you a guide to where the relationship is headed.

There are many occurrences of how a boyfriend and his girlfriend dated for 5years because of undefined commitments, one decided to walk out of the relationship and another person suffers heartbreaks.

#5Tips on when and how to let go of an undefined relationship.

Tip#1, When your partner refuses to tell you their true feelings for you and often uses the word we might get married someday instead of we will get married someday.

Tip#2, When they get angry with you anytime you bring up the topic of knowing what is going on between the two of you. He or she might ignore you and act like you are becoming desperate.

Tip#3, When you are in the relationship all by yourself. Meaning you are the one seeking attention and affection while they act to be too busy to notice the love and intimacy you crave for. In a case like this, do not assume they love you but could not care because they are very busy, just let go and move on.

Tip#4, when they never plan the future with you in it. Like they careless about your achievements and never cares about making you one of their top priorities.

Tip#5, pay good attention to how his or her friends treat you, some can flatter, but one can give you a clue of what you mean to him or her considerably when he or she have never told you their clear intentions toward you.
https://www.getbackfaith.com/2020/11/when-and-how-to-let-go-of-undefined.html?m=1

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DonBenny77:
Shameless, wild, cheap, easy to bed, multiple sex partners, some of those male friends are her love-vendor (arrange runs for her) as well, finally staphilococus growth is present there.

Fear such girls they are scammers
Bad enough a lot of them use that cliche these days

envoymedia:
A Nigerian lady, Temitope Bukola has stated why many ladies prefer to date 'Bad Boys' rather than the 'Good Boys', IgbereTV reports.

Taking to her Twitter handle, she wrote:


https://twitter.com/_Temitopebukola/status/1340192639270998016?s=19[/quote]Alright... She realy meant a mix
of the two qualities.

gulfer:
I was banned by one of the mods for posting a Nigerian tribune story when Buhari said he was going to address Nigeria on a national issue, the newspaper link was included but he still banned me for rule 8; false information. Even after sending him a DM through NL email he still failed to see a reason to rescind the ban.....

TheBanker23:
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crowther15:
Source: http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/2015/07/ladies-beware-of-this-kind-of-man/

Jadekitana:
Don't let their suit and flashy cars deceive you, bankers are broke! Damn broke! I even heard a recent trend that bankers these days earn less than 70k and yet when you see them in clubs you would think they are Tony Elumelu's sons! Pretence everywhere.

Imagine this particular Zenith big boy has been disturbing my line for a hang out.I thought of honouring the invitation since its just a hang out.

This bloody cretin is so proud that even his shirts exude pride,he displays his expensive shoes on bbm,hangs out in exotic bars, always balling with the big guys not knowing he wasn't even a full staff of the bank.

He came to pick me few minutes to 6pm,took me to this strange lounge with flowers all over and ordered Asun.The waitress surprisingly brought a very small plate of Asun for both of us. Before I even picked my toothpick,this guy has finished the whole plate and the onions as well.I was just observing! I then called the waitress and asked how much was the asun,she said 500naira! I told her to bring 2plates. This shameful thing finished his plate and entered mine,i didn't talk.

That wasn't even the height! After this useless display on our way out he called the waitress and demanded for his change for drinks he bought, I was thinking the change was big that he had to keep us waiting! Hell no! 100naira!! He couldn't dash the waitress 100naira bloody stingy fellow.Yet when he starts displaying those fake dps one would think he's Jim Ovias Son! Fake life everywhere. Ladies don't get carried away, all na packaging,they have nothing! Just living a borrowed life style to fit in.



As usual his number has been deleted till eternity.

Jadekitana:
Now there are somethings that are no longer considered normal however how normal people may want us to see them. I don't really care if she sees this but I need her to know people are beginning to read inbetween the lines.

I have this childhood friend,we grew up together and university separated us. We would go to their house as kids then to play and most times she and her bro would make houses with wrappers and hide underneath it giggling. They would restrict other kids from coming into the "wrapper" house. She sits on her brothers laps, on one occasion I caught them kissing but didn't understand why. We do go on camping trips christmas period and both of them just disappear from other kids, most times show up hours later laughing. Well everyone would always say "it's just the 2 of them their parents have" hence the bond.

As teenagers she always frowned at her bro getting close to other girls,likewise the dude. I remember how he beat a guy mercilessly that tried having something with his sister. She inturn went to warn a senior buying gifts for him then to stop it.

She failed jamb twice, he passed but waited for her so they could go to same university, same time. They lived together for 4years before he left while she spent her last year! That last year she had 3 failed relationships and was always travelling to lagos to see him during his service year. Still we all believed it's sibling closeness!

Now we all live in lagos, she's not dating anyone! He has a girlfriend. She visits him every weekend,she doesn't like his girlfriend,she hates her passionately. What made me speechleSs and decided to paste this was when I was going through her phone some days ago and saw a picture of her wearing only bra and resting on her brothers chest who was also topless. I asked her what was going on she said "no light now,i was hot" decided to take off my shirt what's the big deal in that? And i'm like so u decided to take a half nakeed selfie with your brother? She snatched the phone from me and started getting defensive.

I have heard of this kinda stories but i'm forced to believe that these 2 started as kids and it's seriously affecting them and yes it's my business cos they are my friends, this isn't just sibling likeness, something is definately going on and it's crazy to see them so comfortable and happy about it.

If u reading this, or u'v got a friend who visits nairaland often and must have been suspecting u as well to pass the info snap out of it. You can't marry your brother, he can't marry you,you 2 should get your brains examined before you destroy yourselves completely.

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Baddiezz:
"Nothing is permanent. Humans are unpredictable"
Being ignored especially by whom we love is worst feeling. It sucks when you ignored by whom - Who's attention matters to you.
If she is start ignoring you, there is mainly two reason behind It.
Either you are not matching with her mindset or she is trying to get your attention.
It is crucial to you to figure it out as soon as possible.

Reason Behind Ignoring
1-Some people are attention seekers.(pay attention to me or I will ignore you).
2- People have their agenda in mind. If you don't fit they start ignoring you.
3-Some people have the policy to use and through.
5-Perhaps your role in her life is finished.
6-love and hate are two faces of the same coin.

How to deal with It
1-Re-direct your attention on someone which makes you feel good.
2- There are so many significant things in your life then paying attention to the sick behavior of a person.
3-You cannot change what people do or what's done, or how they make you feel. Ya just got to keep smiling and treat others the way you want to be treated.
4- No matter how unpleasant the situation is - stay focus on your goal and your life
5- If you know why she is ignoring you- go and tell you're really sorry what you have done.(If you done something wrong intentionally or unintentionally).
6- And if Apology doesn't work then ....there is nothing you can do about. Stop crying. It's time to let her go.
PS: Don't care for those who ignore you.Care for those who ignoring others for you.

Ogfundsblog1:
I had this friend from secondary school, we were once close then but for some reason I don't know we kinda stopped talking. She acted like I Wan a nobody. Like me knowing wizkid or something. In a group chat she actually said she hated me so much, I still don't know why but I've tried to get close to her again but nothing seems to work for me. Is there anyway I can get her attention and actually keep it.

r231:
Short men MAKE better husbands than tall ones –Study

They may not be tall like others, and are sometimes overlooked in the dating game when it comes to making choices, but those who are lucky to get married to them may have found more loyal and loving partners, if the findings of a study are worth banking on.It’s about short men being better husbands than the tall ones, according to a study. It is no longer news that many women prefer to date men that are taller than them, but scientists have proven that short men make better lovers.

The study was carried out by two sociologists from New York University, Dalton Conley and Abigail Weitzman. They used data from the Panel Study of Income Dynamics – a University of Michigan project that has been collecting demographic data on 5,000 families for almost 50 years – to look at how a man’s height affects different areas of his relationship, such as the spouse’s attributes, marriage entry and stability and the division of household labour. They also measured the couples’ income, education and height difference between spouses.

The study, published in newrepublic.com, examined two sets of data in 1986 and 2009, and identified 3,033 heterosexual couples to participate in the study. The men who participated in the study as respondents were aged between 23 and 45 and all were either married or cohabiting with a woman.

The height of the men ranged from 4 feet 6 inches (4’6”) to 7 feet, and their height, in relation to their partners,’ ranged from nine inches shorter to two feet taller.

For easy identification, the researchers categorised the men into three groups. For the first set of data in 1986, ‘Short’ men were defined as 5 feet 6 inches or less and tall men defined as 6 feet 1 inch and above, while the set of data in 2009 defined short men as 5 feet 7 inches below and tall men as 6 feet 2 inches and above.

After the exercise, the researchers found that short men in relationships are better husbands than tall men because they were found to be more honest, caring and less likely to cheat or divorce, making them ideal partners. According to the comparison of the information given by the partners of the men who participated in the study, short men work harder, earn higher income and are less likely to divorce than tall men. They also do more house chores.

Even though short men were more likely to have a harder time getting married because they are viewed as less masculine, unless they are rich enough to attract the kind of women they desire, they work harder to make more money and exert their authority over their home.

The researchers said, “Our findings showed that short men are many times overcompensating for their lack of height by earning a higher income and being wonderful personalities, and many women who have been in a relationship with such men did confirm that short men are more inclined to be eager to please, as they seek to compete against their taller counterparts.

“We also found that short men were less likely to get divorced, more likely to share housework, and work hard to be the breadwinners at home. These men were somewhat less likely to get married, with an 18 per cent marriage rate lower than men of average height.

“We believe this is because short men may have a harder time getting married, since they are viewed as less masculine by the society, but when they do find a partner, the divorce rates are 32 per cent lower compared to the rate for tall men.”

The researchers hypothesise that because physical characteristics such as height, is related to masculinity, short men may use other aspects of the relationship, such as income, to demonstrate their manliness, and that they are also more likely to marry less educated and younger women for better influence.

Conley and Weitzman noted that tall men may be aware of the manliness status that is conferred by their tallness, which might make them less motivated to lend a hand at home.

As much as many women prefer tall men for a relationship, it is noteworthy that dating a taller man does not mean protecting the woman from falling objects or to physically fight the bad guys around town.

However, some women who spoke to our correspondent said they would prefer a man taller than them so that they could have tall children, coupled with the ‘protective’ symbol tall men exhibit. Nevertheless, such women who prefer tall men did admit that the best husbands are not the tallest or richest, but the ones who are sensitive to their emotional needs and help out with some house chores and in taking care of the children.

Weitzman said, “Short men make stable marriages because they are desperate to prevail. They live in a world of taller men and since they know the odds, the desperation to win through makes them good husbands.

“The way it is with short men is the same with countries with vast natural resources, such as oil and gold, tend to be less economically prosperous than countries that have none. This is because resources that are easily found are easily squandered. So, short men, who are aware of the prejudice against them by women tend to do more to justify their masculinity, which tall men enjoy by nature.”

She explained that there seems to be an almost universal agreement among men and women that they would prefer to be in a relationship where the man is taller, leaving short men with a smaller pool of women to date and marry from.

According to her, even short men are more likely to marry women who are closer to their height or taller.

Conley, on the other hand, said, “Our findings portray a pattern in which short men compensate for their status disadvantage by enacting other types of stereotypical masculinity to compensate for the masculinity ‘perception gap’ by displaying other admirable behaviours.

“It seems to mean that when a man is lacking in height, which is an attribute most humans value for its dominance and masculinity symbol, he needs to use another way to signify that he has the ability to do what people commonly associate with tallness.

“What I am certain is that shorter men probably more often than not put much more commitment, energy and effort into a relationship than the taller counterparts.

Commenting on the study, a psychologist, Prof. Toba Elegbeleye, said such a finding might not be totally correct because short men are known to be more aggressive and usually defend their positions forcefully because they have a natural misgiving that people may want to cheat them.

He said there may be need for such a study to be carried out in this kind of society but that since attraction is the central issue in marriage, they would have a better home if they and their partners find themselves attractive, and when the partner has learnt to understand them.

He said, “Even though short men are given to anxiety, anger and aggression more than tall men, if the woman has been made submissive, out of understanding, so as not to arouse the husband’s anger, they may have a happier and lasting marriage.

“It does not mean all of them are always aggressive, but the success of their marriage would depend on the understanding between individual spouses. So, the marriage will last longer and be happier if one party has learnt to understand the anger threshold of the other party and is ready to accommodate it.”


http://nigeriacamera.net/short-men-make-better-husbands-than-tall-ones-study/

Ademola47:
You are simply in Lust!

Solution....

Get a pen and book. Calculate the amount needed for an average wedding party. Now add an expected bride price, with the rough cost of wedding (list) items. Then add money for Cerelac and Pampers for a year. Finally, add money for antenatal and delivery bill. Once you are done with that, think of the rigours of having a dedicated woman. Having to get home early, explain every move, accept emotional blackmail and 'man' up in difficult times.

If the thought of all these didn't clear your eyes, then she's probably your better half. You should forget Alpha male and approach her.

But If otherwise Chief, get some cash. Visit a nearby Restaurant. Take a well-peppered plate of pepper soup and accompany it with a chilled drink. When you get back home, switch off your phone, naked yourself under fan and sleep. By the time you'll wake, trust me, all iota of illusion in the name of Love will be cleared.

bigpicture001:
..I did a mini survery on single ladies in their late 20's all graduated job seeking and many of them working....

The question is would you travel out for greener pastures and total relocation at this stage of your life..?

Replies: 99% of them said no, unless they move with a spouse

Only 1% said they would adventure into it...

Most of their reasons..are that

: at that stage getting a life partner of same cultural background matters most to them....many of them said money gathering is never a motivating factor to move abroad..

To the ladies, plz can you quote your opinions..?

TownJ:
It is the dream of every man to marry a virgin lady even if the man himself is not a virgin. But the truth is that virgin ladies nowadays are very scarce. Girls of 16 years and above are already in the game.


These girls did not disvirgin themselves. Majority of these girls from 16 to 19 years were taken advantage of by older guys who promised them heaven and earth. Girls at these age bracket are usually vulnerable. Most times they get trapped by the small small pocket money they receive from older guys which their parents doesn't give them.

Please guys, stop taking advantage of these little girls. Don't promise to marry them, take away their virginity and run away. Same will be done to your sisters and daughters

wristbangle:
I know that mere looking at the title of this article, some ladies will be discouraged from reading its content because they detest hearing the truth. This is NOT a female bashing thread, it's just the things that needs to be discussed

So briefly, I shall discuss on qualities of lazy and frustrating girlfriends

1. Dependent and poor management lifestyle

The ridiculous lifestyle of some ladies is so barbaric that one will wonder if they really want to become a mother. To relief their financial difficulties and insatiable needs, they mount financial pressure and always demand for money unnecessarily from their boyfriend, and you wii begin to wonder, "do these ladies ever think of saving?"

2. Negligence to career development and business concept

The notion that men are naturally born to bring food home, has made many ladies become LAZY. However, anything that as to do with career development and business concept is never in their plans. Rather, they are so concerned about their bosom, buttocks, their body and looks.

3. Money grubbing attitude

We all know that ladies are on the receiving end but some take it to the extreme that they have become a corporate beggar. Oh yes !!! It's expected that a guy should spend on his girlfriend, but the lady in question should not enforce it. Ladies who posses these qualities are not worthy of wedding ring.

4. Hatred for cooking

Some lady are so Behind to feel that those who undergo the stress of cooking are classless. As a result of this, you will always see them hovering at every fast food. Shawama, fried rice and chicken and other assorted meals, are what they like. Tosyne2much can bear me witness.

5. Excessive nagging to mere issues

Some ladies nag towards unnecessary and ridiculous things. Failure to renew their BIS renewal, they will nag; failure to send recharge card, they will nag, when you can't satisfy them in bed, they will nag. These ones no be wife at all

6. Hobby of over sleeping

No one need to tell you that any lady who over sleeps doesn't worth the stress to invest your energy on because they live a fantasy life. They cannot account for a job done in a day as they sleep from dawn to dusk snoring loud like a wild horse.

7. Severe dislike for house chores

When you see some ladies on the streets, they look good even than Beyounce, but follow them to their rooms and you would shake your head in disappointment. Dem no dey sweep for house, dem no dey wash plate. You will always see them looking at their mother doing house chores. It's when some of them are anticipating male visitors that they will keep their rooms in order. Ladies of these natures no be wife at all.

8. Lying Helplessly during love making

The way some of them stiff their body during love making, you would begin to wonder if they are Deeper Life member. If you marry ladies of these nature, you would end up cheating outside marriage

4C2215131:
Good girls like Bad guys (ever wondered why the suave cultists in school always end up dating the cute chicks despite all their claims to 'hating' cultists) . It's a reality they don't understand themseles. Women love curiosity. Arouse it in her and she's yours (of course there's always the exception to to the rule).