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Get rid of her while u can.

Love is an ability.

Some peeps are just soooooooooooooooooooooooo bitter that they're incapable of loving.

You date oyibo man, and u come to tell us [naija men] how it went?

Seriously, what are you on, cos i want some!

newdeal:
Very correct and a further dimension to the issue at hand!

The truth is the serious minded girls here work and live that corporate life that many dream of. . .  They drive and can afford literally anything they really want [Although they'll prefer u to buy it for them]
But with this self sufficiency, comes a pattern of self delusion and gross neglect when they get into a relationship. I dunno whether it feels like they're talking to their subordinates in the office when they talk to their boyfriends. . .  There is no respect, and any conversation turns into a challenge - always reeking of that "I cant be bothered" tone and attitude.

I wont be surprised if most naija guys in jand end up eating out with their girlfriends each time they visit the girls. Personally, we can decide to meet outside on a date and eat out, but when you come to my house, u go chop my cooking just so u know that i can cook and it wont be a big deal in future if we end up together   It truly is a sad situation and is often under-estimated.

Ujujoan:
I can see the Naija bachelors in jand defending themselves with all they've got!! LOL!

Did u expect us to lie on our backs and ignore stuff like this when it directly concerns us? No? Good.

Me thinks the OP is spot on. But let me say what he forgot to add: Most so called responsible girls here have a major attitude that just drives them down the pecking order when a naija guy is choosing whom to date. Very few naija guys will tolerate from a naija woman, the kind of life that white women subject their men to.
Its the same reason why naija guys in the UK flood naija when its time to pick a bride, its that naijaness in us that just wont stoop that low. As a bachelor, i do my own stuff, heck! I may spend the whole day in the kitchen cooking just a pot of stew and a pot of soup, but i still cook my own food - and only cos i have to do that to survive. . . It would be a totally different story if i was married today - my affair with the kitchen would all but be over.
Unfortunately, our girls change when they come over here, they forget how they woke up every morning in naija to sweep the house and clean. . . and although you'll probably have to use a hoover and washing machine to do that here, the laziness just takes over.

I was embarrassed for a naija man on the train the other day, he was screaming at the top of his voice on the phone, asking his wife to get off her lazy butt and make some food for herself. The nature of his job means he is not always at home, but his wife refuses to eat the eba or rice she used to eat at home if it is not nandos rice or kfc chicken. . . The man was speaking in yoruba so loudly that people were angry, only to start apologising for his outburst and narrating to the people around him that his wife is giving him hell when she was sorrounded by uncooked food. . . I wondered what sort of impression that would give.

chic2pimp:
Nah who pay dis bobo to be the clown of NL ROFL

Its called humour my friend, the ability to make clowns of people when they ROFL their AO

If u've got it, u cannot go wrong. . . just another hint

Do it well, do it hard, do it once. . .  never do it again!

Happy birthday bruv. . . sis.

madlady:
whitelexi, i think you said they are good at scheduling and entertaining numerous girlfriends at once, i really disagree with you in that, most do not even bother with that, they are just hit and go merchants. What right thinking women would want a man who treats his body like a 37 PECKHAM BUS, anyone can get a ride.

I find your comment about them being hit and go merchants very interesting, but the point is why do girls know this and still allow themselves get hit?
Also, u capped it up by asking the question about what right thinking girl would want a guy that anyone can ride? Does this mean they are attractive in looks and attitude? How would u recognize a playa from a distance, how would u avoid a playa - or are they simply irresistible? We need to critically and constructively analyze these areas so that people don't always make the wrong decisions.

I appreciate all the comments so far, but we still need more.

Where there's competition, there's a winner and many losers

^^^ what happened to your usual ID?

Alright folks, everyday we hear about how good girls go for the bad boys over the good ones and all that. . . It would be nice for us to know what it is that bad boys do so well that makes relationships more interesting for girls. From what i understand about the game, a playa is a guy who is prolific in scheduling and entertaining numerous girlfriends at once. . . playing would be the ability to do this in such a way that the girls are unaware about the existence of other relationships with any other girl. Playa hating would be the attitude adopted by a playa's victims if and when his cover is blown up. . . I may be wrong about these and would like us to discuss these areas constructively without abusing each other pls

;d ;d ;d

Plain and simple, its not his responsibility.

He can choose to do so, but its not by force.

His wife should behave herself and stop making it look like thats what her marriage was all about in the first place. . . No husband is a cash-cow, does he not have a mother and siblings to also take care of?

Tufiakwa!

Dude, dont talk to her anymore, on the phone, on the PC, by fax, beeper or whateva. Just make sure u tell her not to forget u warned her!

Make it clear to her that u r no longer interested, she's thinking there might still be something in there for her. Get another girlfriend, get very public with her, make a stand about whose house it is, and who the guest is. . .  make it clear she's an unwelcome guest!

Do u have dogs? I dont mean tiny terriers, Do u have proper savage dogs, dogs that can be mean when u need them to, Alsatians, German shepherds, and mongrels of mastiffs and Dobermans? Get them prepared.

Absolutely nothing wrong with either, if a guy is gonna play u, he'll play u even if it means sticking around for a bit before popping the cherry. Heck, some dudes will even leave u without taking the cherry when you're offering it on a plate, its just a matter of being spontaneous but protecting yourself too.

I think your concern is very well justified, if the almighty Ebonyeyes could even go past this one without offering her support for the girl then u are definitely justified

On a serious note, love is everything but love is not stupid, and only stupidity will take u back into that path, let her go, allow the love go but hold no grudge. I think you've started well, u just need to hold firm and complete the mission.

Dont touch her when she comes back, talk to her, but end it firmly

That statement is not true.

There will come a time when a boy becomes a man, and with his new responsibilities, all old behaviour fades.

It may not be the same for every single guy, but u need to know that some men who never cheated as youngsters start cheater after marriage. . . That is totally different from a certified playa who grows tired of the game and wants something serious for a change.

Rosabelle:
Ehem. [b]Oga I think youre misplacing something there. The poster is a man complaining of a woman, not a woman complaining about a man.[/b]Women dont hide their feelings from their girlfriends and if we brag, we brag about the guys feelings for us, not about us not feeling anything for the man.
That thing youre talking about is the reaction of a man, not a woman!

Your views are definitely female

And yes, i know i'm normally on a guy's side, but it doesn't mean i hate girls oh

Dont take it seriously, girls like to brag with their friends when they gossip. . . She probably feels the direct opposite but wouldn't want her friend to know she's lost so much control of her affections - She will wanna be seen as the one in control and not otherwise, in reality though, she probably worships u.

You can bring it up in a wry manner when she's screaming from the throes of ecstasy. . . and listen closely to her response, trust me she cant tell a lie at such a time.

I'm a good pretender, i can pretend to be the absolute best, but at the end of the day if i'm not interested, then i'm not interested. . . You'll only know it if i tell u so.

Ujujoan:
I disagree!

I dey your back

Yes, we disagree

MUZBO:
Left a sensible girl for a senseless one. Of course I didn't know.

Nearly left a sensible girl for a silly one. . . Luckily, her true colours exposed her in the nick of time

Holy Shaite!!! You're What??

Ok, you're kidding right? right? Whew!! That was close. . . Never play that sort of game with me ever again!!!

That dude is a baller

TheSeeker:
I expected you to put in your stake a long time now. Code passed (if you know what that means)

How could i have put a stake in when both my hands were full?

TheSeeker:
OK! Uju where are you when people are bidding?

While u lot are busy making busybodies of yourselves, Uju and I have been cuddling and  

You know naaa, no long talks, just a good birthday smoooooooooooch

Add 20 days to yours and u have mine

busybody20:
^^^^ whitelexi,

where did u borrow those cars from?      

You know how we do
Dont worry, its not from your garage, i know say u don dey feel my tension

WHY are they moving this thread from pillar to post sef?