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Thanks surveycash and Design Hud, I was saving the money up initially to buy a land, but I thought about the logistics of bothering about development et al and decided a good investment would be worth better returns. Your ideas are quite good but probably not suitable for me. thanks

naijababe:
The degree of hypocrisy on this thread is mind boggling. I'll be the first to admit that what she did was wrong but how many of the people castigating this woman will hand on heart swear that they won't do the same if faced with the same circumstance ?

Let's be honest here, the only reason why most people on this thread are angry is because they can't stop thinking about how this will affect them. It has absolutely nothing to do with principles or scruples.

I admit that you are absolutely right, if this had been done by an Indian, pakistani, or a brazillian, I probably wouldn't give a hoot.

seruci: one of this : cruise, curies

try this : uctofsabe

I presently study in u.k and I have managed to save up 500k hoping to double by the end of October through some part time business I do. I need candid advice on good business prospects in nigeria that would be a good return on investment. The fact that I currently live outside Nigeria makes it a little bit difficult for me to put my thoughts together into a formidable venture. I have thought over fish farming but can 't seem to get enough information for a startup. I need directions.

ENJOY - Enjoyed Nice Juice on Yatch

WRITE

INK: there would be a reply again

ESAHSURTU = thesaurus

Try this BAMRLESCUN

a can of coke but suddenly he was jolted back to reality when Yemi tapped his shoulder slightly. "I had barely gone for 20mins, you look so tired, can we continue this tomorrow, there's no photocopier around, ", Yemi said. He muttered inbetween breaths, "thank God that was a daydream". He quickly grabbed his folder and made for the door even as Yemi followed closely behind him wondering what's wrong with him this time

treeesc = secrete

try this: cudese

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INK: This thread never die?!!!

Cheese cake looks beautiful, but it's the crappiest cake I've ever tasted, the softness drives me nuts

[size=14pt]I think I see all this things in a different light, the question is why do human beings gossip.

Gossip to me = Talking about something/someone that's not directly you. I think all members of this forum GOSSIP. Why did you click this  link in the first place if not to read gossip

It's part of our DNA to gossip joor.
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[size=14pt]I perfectly understand the poster infact I had to double check to confirm that I wasn't the one that typed it (probably in my dream). I live in the U.K and my first relationship in the uk broke because I told this babe that I met (same church) that there wasn't going to be any form of S;E;X in the relationship. Imagine my horror when she told me that S;E;X makes the relationship stronger,  and I was like how many drive through car park will you turn yourself to before getting married. So I started looking at a long distance relationship from naija,  the experiences from that was even worse(very disheartening details mehn). Anyway I think taking a closer and a much more relaxed approach, there are many girls here in U.K who share some values that are surprisingly good,  it takes patience to discover them (and I believe some finger of God also).

I am sure there's just someone out there waiting for you,  don't ever lower your standards. You're worth far more than 50 cents or a huff, puff gym session. Good luck bro. NOT EVERYONE IS DOING IT.[/size]

cap28:
Okonjo Iweala - i suppose she's back to finish off where she left off.

When she served during the OBJ administration she "negotiated" a debt repayment to the paris club of $18 billion dollars  - the largest transfer of wealth from an african country to the western world in modern history - why negotiate the transfer of such a garguntuan sum? couldnt a fairer negotiation have been reached?  surely that huge sum could have been whittled down to something much more reasonable.  In a country where the education and health services have more or less collapsed due to lack of funding why was it necessary to part with such a huge sum to these international creditors, surely part of that money could have been better spent on schools and hospitals?

america owes $3 trillion dollars to its chinese, japanese and european creditors, i dont see the americans making these type of huge payments , all they do is offer their creditors treasury bills that continue to drop in value, there is no way in hell that the americans would have offered to pay that kind of sum to any of their creditors  (and they are a rich nation) so why would nigeria think it a good idea to get this woman back into office to carry on this type of madness?

when you take into consideration that nigeria had not borrowed from the IMF since 1992 it makes that negotiation look even more unacceptable - the bottom line is - this woman is no good for the progress of nigeria, she is merely a stooge for the international financial organisations - she will oversee the transfer of more of nigeria's wealth into the hands of these vultures and that is precisely why the americans have recommended she serve in GEJ's govt.

[size=14pt]She's done more good for the nigerian economy so why not have her back on board. If you had been there would you negotiate to pay back £100,000 comparative to what she negotiated, I wonder why some people talk like she could go lower and just opted for large repayments, do you even know what went into all that. Mschew (with echoes and extra effects!!!)[/size] Common sense is indeed scarce

I presently study outside Nigeria and I've been considering some long term projects in Nigeria. I wish to be informed about the prices of land in various places in Nigeria especially the South West/ Yoruba Land

Lagos
Abuja
Ogun
Osun (especially Osogbo & Ife)
Ondo
etc
thanks

Any one with story of good purchase?

Wow this is big oh, my heart almost jumped right into my mouth, I had already thought I was the one being duped

1. Better save that. We’ll need it for the autopsy.

2. “Accept this sacrifice, O Great Lord of Darkness”

3. Hand me that…uh…that uh…thingie.

4. Oh no! I just lost my Rolex.

5. Oops! Hey, has anyone ever survived 500ml of this stuff before?

6. There go the lights again…

7. “Ya know, there’s big money in kidneys…and this guy’s got two of ‘em.”

8. Everybody stand back! I lost my contact lens!

9. Could you stop that thing from beating, it’s throwing my concentration off.

10. Sterile, schmerile. The floor’s clean, right?

11. What do you mean he wasn’t in for a sex change?

12. This patient has already had some kids, am I correct?

13. Nurse, did this patient sign the organ donation card?

14. What do you mean “You want a divorce!”

15. Fire! Fire! Everyone get out.

16. Damn! Page 47 of the manual is missing.

17. Oh, look everyone. It’s lunch time.

18. The foot bone’s connected to the, leg bone…

19. That’s cool! Now can you make his leg twitch?!

20. Hey, if you pull on this it makes a funny noise.

Have a laugh!!!
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I know we often pass the blame to the government and our politicians but assuming we work as individuals to help our communities or another community, development can come upon us as a country. This might on the long run help give us a good picture of what we can do when we get to positions of authority/power.

Assuming you have access to about 50million Naira and you have the right things in place, what will you do as a development project to empower an indigenous area in Nigeria with an intiative that's sustainable and at the same time aligns itself to millenium development goals.

~Minx~  :
My husband is a very difficult person when it comes to infidelity issues, telling him will break any hope of reconciliation. He still has problems with the fact that I slept with other men before we got married he says when he thinks about it it disturbs him now imagine having to tell him that I slept with someone else now? It would break him.

This is exactly what I always said,  The fact that some or many guys have been digging your babe before you married changes EVERYTHING.

I have a feeling that having a bad sex life started from the fact that your husband doesn't feel too proud of what he's digging knowing that it's Tokunbo, that probably accummulated over time and made him to seek consolation elsewhere - that's not saying it's a justification for extra marital affairs

I advocate for no sex before marriage (for both man and woman),  but infidelity in marriage should be rewarded by "firing Squad".

Wow,  this are times in life I wish I can give out CTRL + Z. Not everyone is marriage material,  if there's a qualifying exam before marriage,  I wonder how many will pass.

Don't do Don't do !!! Dem no go hear. SEX!!!! kai

Note: The argument stated below is for unmarried people. I believe no one theory covers every facet of life. Every theory works based on the conditions around it.



Dedication: This note is dedicated to all the ladies who suffered with their men and ended up getting burnt.

Suffering With Men

There are two schools of thought here. The first is that the lady who can suffer with a man when he has nothing is the one who has proven that she’ll be a good wife to the man. My emphasis being “to suffer.” The second is that the man should first prove that he is a man then he deserves to have a woman by his side. I don’t belong to the former. I belong to the latter and here are my reasons:



Those who belong to the first school of thought claim that a young man, and young can be 24 or 42, who is just starting his life but has a vision of where he is going deserves to have a woman to fight it through with him before the money comes. That then she’d have earned the respect of the man. Let me state here that I wholeheartedly agree that every man should have a vision of where he is going to in life and should be able to articulate it at anytime he is called upon to do so without thinking. But my question is, “Is vision enough?”



From the beginning it was not so

When the far-to-see (Pharisees) and sad-to-see (Sadducees) accosted Jesus with a question on marriage he replied them with the phrase, “… from the beginning it was not so.” (Matt 19: . Let’s go back to the beginning and see what it was like to get married.

Adam and Eve: Unlike today where we have the privilege of knowing the lady we want to marry years or even decades before we actually get married, Adam was not that privileged. For him he got married the very first moment he set eyes on the woman. There was no opportunity to date and get to know her first and find out whether she can cook or whether she’s good in the bedroom. None of that occurred. They were married the very first moment they set eyes on each other.

Isaac and Rebecca: Whereas Adam got married to his wife the very first moment they met, Isaac never had that privilege. Isaac was married to his wife before he even met her. Isn’t that shocking? I mean, here is a man forty years old and his dad asked a steward in his house to go and marry a wife for him. So, before he even met her they were married.

Jacob and Rachel: Okay Jacob had the opportunity to fall in love. Nevertheless, he had to prove he deserved her. “Finish her week” was the term his father in-law used to tell Jacob to work for her. That week turned out to be a period of seven years of hard work.



Today, the world has changed. Boy meets girl, boy knows girl, they fall in love, and, then, if their love is strong enough they marry. That is more or less the sequence. Somewhere in the process the question arises, “How do you know she’s the right one?” This brings us back to the two schools of thought.



Far above Rubies

The scriptures places the virtuous woman above rubies, some versions uses the word gems, jewels, pearls, or trophies. The question is “what do you do to earn a pearl or win a trophy?” You work, you fight, you battle. The trophy does not fight with you. You fight to win the trophy. You prove yourself worthy of the trophy. No man is given a prize before the race. Why then should I need a woman to “suffer” with me to prove she deserves to be my wife when the reverse should actually be the case? I, the man should fight to prove that I deserve to be her husband.



Here is a man, whether 24 or 42, who has no job for whatever reason. He probably has a vision but has not started actualizing his visions and dreams. He is not financially predictable. Cannot say that at the end of the month NGN20,000 or NGN200,000 will be in my account either from my job or from my business. But, he wants a lady, probably a very beautiful one, to be by his side just so he can be sure she’s the one for him. And luckily, he finds a lady who is really there to fight it through with him. And before you know it she’s not only feeding him, she’s paying his rent all in the name of love and struggle. The heavens forbid that I let a lady who I am not yet married to, pay my rent. I will rather break stones to make a living than de-womanize a lady to that extent. An understanding of woman nature will reveal, like Gordons says, that they were made from finished product. When the woman came into the scene, the picture was already beautiful. So don’t be angry that they love beautiful things. They are not pecuniary. They are just designed to love beautiful things. At least have something you are doing before you bring her into the picture. Why should I deserve to have a lady when I cannot even take care of myself? Doesn’t that run contrary to common sense? Okay, I share with her my vision for life. What next? She takes the vision to the salon and tells the beautician she’ll pay her bill with the vision I shared with her? Or she’ll buy her nail polish with the vision?



Now, I know there are a few ladies out there who are dating guys without jobs. Fending for the guy, cooking for him and even paying his rent because they believe in his vision and that one day there will be a change. I know there are, I have seen some and I’ve been with one. These very few percentage now makes the larger percent of ladies who’d rather a guy was working, had his acts together and if possible even have a car before he approaches them to look like they are gold diggers. So the lady who will, therefore, not go out with a jobless guy who has a vision is then perceived as one who cannot make a good wife. But is that really true?



The Absolute 100 Theory

Let’s examine what I call The Absolute 100 Theory. If all the ladies were a 100% on either side of the divide, on which side will it fare better for men? [b]Assuming all the ladies decided that they would “suffer” with men, cook for them and pay their rents if needs be until fate deals them a good hand. Or all the ladies say “No.” Men should fight for themselves, become responsible, have a vision, have a job or start a business, then you can come for me. [/b]On which of the divide do you think men will be more responsible? I think the latter. When men see women as valuable prizes that you have to earn, that you must first meet certain criteria before you can have them, then, more and more men will get to work.



I am an empiricist. I believe that everything that can be tested must be tested. And that includes women. Scriptures say “… try the spirits” (I John 4:1). One doesn’t need to travel far to know that there are fake pearls. But I don’t believe making a lady suffer with you is the litmus test for a good wife. There is a difference between a helper and a sufferer. God made them helpers. You help someone who has already made an effort or is making an effort. J[b]ust because your girlfriend earns salary does not mean you should not give her money to make her hair, or fix her nails, or buy clothes. She has a lot more needs than these.[/b] But you show that you value and appreciate her when as often as possible you buy her stuff, pay her fares, give her money to make her hair, take her to diners, etc, even when you know she can afford to without your help. That is how a lady spells R.E.S.P.O.N.S.I.B.L.E. Then, in your hour of need she will be there for you. Don’t saddle her with the responsibility of cooking for you, making your bed, and probably paying your rent all in the name of suffering with you. And most guys will let any lady suffer with them, but, if they had everything going for them, they wouldn’t date those ladies. Why waste her time then? And even if you end up marrying her. When did marriage become a reward for suffering?



In conclusion, it does not matter whether I am 24 or 42, if I cannot take care of myself, the heavens forbid that I saddle that responsibility on another lady. My conscience will not permit me. And to every beautiful lady who has found herself in such a state only to be burnt at the end of the season I apologize on behalf of all the  men who had a flawed definition of what it means to be a man. I am sorry.



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Please where can I find the sound track to some selected Nigerian Songs specifically that of Asa, King Sunny Ade, Onyeka, Fela and DBanj

By sound track: I mean the instrumentals alone without the voice.

I presently live outside nigeria but i'm helping put together a Cultural night that includes performance of songs to show case Nigeria's cultural heritage. Thanks