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Family › Re: Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(op): 9:24am On Jan 03, 2022

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Emotions is all I see playing around in your submissions.

If you are employed as a security guard in a company and due to your negligence there was a theft,do you start blaming your CEO and other staff?

Like I said my submissions where based on what the op wrote.

And who was "employed as a security guard" in this case?

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Family › Re: Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(op): 9:20am On Jan 03, 2022

eyinjuege:
My personal thoughts on your own case
Your mother is 83years old.
Allow her enjoy the remaining days of her life doing what she likes, but in moderation.
At that age, where almost all their peers are gone, they just want to relasss and be taken care of.
There comes a point where you have to weigh the treatment and the quality of life it offers.
Let her get away with the occasional coke/sprite (like I said, in moderation. Perhaps once a week or something).
We don't seem to understand the importance of the quality of life for ill people.
There's a lot of education needed for diabetic patients, which is a major part of the treatment success in the long run.
It's not enough for the Dr to say eat this or that, and don't eat this. That is the job of a dietician because even the Drs have little education about the necessary diet.
I would advice those with diabetes to actually speak to a professional dietician about their diet, and get properly educated on it.
Your Dr cannot go through your correct diet with you as that's not his field, and he can only give some general advice. Meanwhile what you need is an advice and diet tailored to you speciifically.
And to all the Drs placing patients on saltless diets, just Negodu. The recommendation is a reduced salt diet and not saltless. Even the specialists worldwide who agreed that as an ideal recommendation understand people need to have some salt in their food to be palatable, otherwise they can't eat the food.
The quantity of salt you should be having can be measured and a dietician can put you through

But if he dies as a result of a diabetic shock who will people blame? If it was discovered that my wife actually gave her soft drink and it led to her dying of diabetic shock, people including family might say my wife poisoned my mother with sugar.

If she falls sick as a result of eating or drinking what is prohibited, it is me that would cough out money to take her to the hospital.

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Family › Re: Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(op): 9:13am On Jan 03, 2022

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Judging from the story. Tell your self the truth. Who will you blame?.

Note. We are not there so the op might want to exaggerate the circumstances but let's assume all he said was the truth.

Will you blame the dead woman?.
Alsoo do you know that ignorance is not an excuse and that negligence is a big offence in the law court?

Since you are obsessed with apportioning blame, why blame only the wife? What about others who should also share in the blame game -
1. Theonlysonofher himself who should have ensured that his mother is keeping to the strict diet and medicines. For 10 days after the house help left, he had no clue on the diet his mother was taking.

2. The mother herself ( God bless her soul) who despite knowing that salt is fatal to her health and prohibited from eating salt, eat food with salt without telling the son or anyone else.

3. The sisters. Mr Theonlysonofher said he has 3 sisters. How come non of the sisters are unable to share in the responsibility of the mother mother? How come the responsibility of taking care of a needy mother rests only with mr Theonlysonofher and his wife?

African must always blame the wife or step mother for any misfortune that befall a man

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Family › Re: Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(op): 7:18am On Jan 03, 2022

Romanoff:
I remember when my grandma (paternal) was brought to leave with us years back before my dad passed away. She was brought to stay with us cause she was falling Ill frequently and the nurse paid to care for her advised we took her with us for extensive treatment.

My dad took mama to the hospital and they did extensive tests and drugs were prescribed.

We discovered later that mama wasn't taking her drugs, she would eat without taking water and she was abusing paracetamol.

Mama would finish a packet in three days and she would chew all the tablets.

My dad assigned my mum to ensure she took her drugs and my youngest sister to ensure she drank a big cup of water each day.

Mama flight with my mum and would chase my sister away with the water.

My dad got tired and sent her back to the village.

Sometimes, the story is not what you think it is.

It's people that have not lived with old people before that will not understand how mischievous and difficult they can be.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 6:58am On Jan 03, 2022

tradepunter:
If it's a heart attack then the probability is doesn't favor the wife.

All the while the house help was around... Nothing happened, then when she went away BOOM!!!

The wife would have totally even avoided this issue by preparing the special meal for the mother.

Autopsy is the only way of proving the wife innocent.... Because if we were to go by the law, that route is what the law permits.

Do you think that if the mother did not have an acquired taste for salt, she would be able to eat regular food with regular salt without complaining?

Besides the autopsy would not be able to determine if it is the salt that was taken a few days ago that caused the stroke. She was already hypertensive. What we should ask is whether poison was found in her system and about her drug regime.

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(op): 6:52am On Jan 03, 2022

This is my reaction to Theonlysonofher's thread - https://www.nairaland.com/6919425/wife-poisoned-mother-salt

What motivated me to write this rejoinder is a discussion I had with my wife and few minutes ago about the topic. I showed her the thread and that the marriage is on the rocks with the husband and many nairalanders accusing the wife of murder or negligence. It was then she opened up (in fact confessed) about a similar situation in my own home.
Let me explain further...

I have my 83 year old mum who come to spend extended periods of time with my family. She has her own place with her own care givers but prefers to spend time in my house because of the children.
She too just like Theonlysonofher's mother (may her soul rest in peace) has serious health challenges. She is diabetic and asthmatic apart from other old age illness. In fact her leg is swollen from the diabetes. Just like Theonlysonofher's mother the doctor placed her on a special diet. Her diet is to be saltless and with as little carbohydrate as possible. Sugar is completely forbidden. My wife used to prepare different meals for her and then different meal for the rest of us. But recently I notice my wife serves her the same food we all eat. When I asked my wife just tells me she just reduced the salt for the general food and anyone who require more salt can add it.

While discussing this issue with my wife early this morning, my wife said she wanted to report mama to me, because she does not want people accusing her murder if anything happens to mama. She said that on New year's day, she caught mama gulping a whole bottle sprite. She said she open her room door unexpectedly and caught mama hands down with a bottle of sprite in her mouth. She said mama begged her not to tell me because I would quarrel with her, and that it's new year and so don't want to start the new year with quarrel. She further add that she should be allowed to indulge and enjoy herself to celebrate seeing the new year.
She later learn from my son that he secretly buys minerals for mama often. But also told them not to tell me

That's what I call emotional blackmail. If my wife had reporter and I quarrel with my wife, she will be accused of trying to cause quarrel between son and mother.
I then asked why she stopped cooking her meals separately, she explained that when she was doing that mama was not eating the meals and that she will just pick the meat or fish and scatter the food on the plate.

What am I getting at? Theonlysonofher's wife is innocent. She too must have been caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. I am sure his mother had been eating salt all along. She probably had a pact with the house girl and later the wife not to tell her son of her real taste for salt. If she had not been eating salt for a long time, she would have not have been able to eat a salty meal without complaining at least. And lots of doctors have pointed out that a few days of eating regular food cannot have such a devastating health impact in such a short period of time.

And so unless an autopsy or toxicology report suggest poisoning, Theonlysonofher should go back to his wife.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 6:00am On Jan 03, 2022*

tradepunter:
All those giving excuse for the wife are stupid and foolish...

I worked in a highly sensitive industry in europe for 4 years before returning to Nigeria.

My job was at certain times, run these 3 steps process...

People of God when I was on shift .. nothing like laziness or forgetfulness... I even designed an alert trigger mechanism that was going to work 2hrs prior to the time of conducting the 3 steps process.

Assuming his wife was in such job and she made a mistake and things got out of hand she will be disciplined.

The point is things that are associated with life, you take it a step higher...

The wife ought to have placed big reminders everywhere on the importance of no salt in mamas food...

She ought to have placed such reminder on the fridge, door of her room, kitchen.... It's how you know a discplined and deligent person.

Now the worst has happened

All these "turanshi" for matter you have no details of?
I can with some degree of certainly say that the wife is innocent. Many professionals have come out to state that a few days of eating regular food with regular salt cannot kill her.
If the salt was that much, the mother would not have been able to eat the food, as she is said to have been on a special saltless diet for sometime.

It's just unfortunate that she had a heart attack at a time the house girl was away. Heart attack doesn't give notice before coming. Healthy sportsmen have been known to die of heart attack while still playing on the field not to talk of an aged hypertensive woman.

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Celebrities › Re: BBNaija's Tobi Bakre And Wife Anu Welcome First Child, A Baby Boy (Photos) by wirinet(m): 8:27pm On Jan 02, 2022

eas01:
You re not a serious person. Imam will never wed them.

Why won't Imam Wed them? So imams want women to single for life because she got pregnant for her man before deciding to officially wed?

So what about men? will the Imam Wed a man that already had a child out of wedlock?

Celebrities › Re: BBNaija's Tobi Bakre And Wife Anu Welcome First Child, A Baby Boy (Photos) by wirinet(m): 8:17pm On Jan 02, 2022

eazzzy1:
The child’s name is Abdulmalik, that was a very easy spot. I guess he was rushing to comment.

The doctrine that by certain fundamentalist Christian sect that pregnant women should be denied the joy of a married life is the most stupid sexist doctrine I have ever heard.

It's not even biblical. The bible specifically demands a man to marry a woman once he has carnal knowledge of her.
Marriage best protect mother and child. But Christian fundamentalists gleefully when men get girls pregnant and refuse to marry them.

Celebrities › Re: BBNaija's Tobi Bakre And Wife Anu Welcome First Child, A Baby Boy (Photos) by wirinet(m): 7:49pm On Jan 02, 2022

SankaraSo:

Married in August
Child born in December

And a Pastor wedded them?

Nigerian churches are really performing miracles with women's virginity.

Why shouldn't pastor wed them? Enemy of progress. It is you that will still condemn the girl if the guy did not marry the girl but abandon both she and her baby to their fate.

Instead of being happy for the new addition to the family, you are angry they got married and celebrated a baby.
Bad belle people too plenty for Nigeria.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 4:03pm On Jan 02, 2022

cedricksly:
I do not blame the wife because this was not a deliberate action.. Reason is he already said it the wife love salt, a salt quantity the wife might Consider little might be too much for the mom. Moreover the mom is not dead, the mom woke up from coma on 31st why then is he still dragging the matter.....

The last update from the OP specifically stated that the mother is dead.

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 3:52pm On Jan 02, 2022

cedricksly:
saying alone u don't think you can stay with her after apologising say how stupid u are truly..... I read the topic and was disappointed, she fed your mother same food Y'all ate, wen your mom tasted the food and the salt was more than the usual, why didn't she reject it, did she spoon fed her? I'm not trying to blame your mother here, but give the poor woman(your wife) a break, u said it already, she is a salt lover, what she might consider mild salt might be too much for your mum, have you thought about that.... You are just being unnecessarily dramatic, this isn't a way to show love to your mom, it was a mistake anybody even u could make. And the doctor isn't God neither would he know for certain ur wife fed your mom more than twice, everything is based on assumption and recommendation.... I was wanting to read where u will point out how ur wife has been treating ur mother badly or maltreating her etc... Take this from a fellow brother who has a mother and he is the first son out of 3 boys.. If you drive that woman or treat her wrongly because of this incident, you will leave to regret it for the rest of ur life....

My problem with the OP is that he himself has some degree of blame. He did not monitor the diet his wife was feeding his mum for 10 days since the househelp. Was he not communicating with his wife or his mother the whole 10 days.
I am not exonorating the wife. In fact I think poisoning is a more plausible explanation that simple excessive salt. But he himself should have been more involved with his mum's diet since he is aware of how crucial it is.

As I said we can only reach conclusions after the autopsy result is done.

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 3:44pm On Jan 02, 2022

NOETHNICITY:
He should not allow her action define thier relationship? Even after her action directly led to the death of his mum? Na wa for una

What proof do you have that the wife's action directly led to the death of his mum? This is an old woman that suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She could have died from high blood sugar, low blood sugar or heart attack.

We have to wait for the autopsy and toxicology result before we can conclude what killed her.

Politics › Re: Wike Bans Nightclubs, Prostitution In Port Harcourt by wirinet(m): 3:15pm On Jan 02, 2022*

Mazterrr:
And you feel all these vices the law is against is not happening in PHC under the guise of prostitution? No wonder why we have non proactive leaders due to their so called comprehension ability. Leadership calls for proactivity. Today we are battling with Mpuru miri in the SE and high rate of drug abuse in the Northern part of this country because of non pro activeness in leadership.Currently the Edo state government is paying huge to fight against human trafficking just because past governments saw nothing wrong with prostitution. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the Governor's action if available data compelled him to do so.

You are now diverting from the matter at hand. You claim that the Nigerian criminal code specifically prohibit prostitution and that gives Wike the right to ban night clubs and prostitution. I pointed out that what the law banned was under age sex, pimping (which human trafficking is part of), brothels, drug trafficking etc and not girls standing in the streets or clubs looking for customers themselves, and you started talking off point.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Bishop Oyedepo's Prophetic Declaration For 2022 by wirinet(m): 3:03pm On Jan 02, 2022

inumidun2010:
Jesus SAID, IT'S FINISHED...
NOTE : It is FINISHED, present TENSE and not PAST ...
Any CHALLENGES now, I'm jumping them already... JESUS said it not MY PASTOR

How can you be successful by jumping challenges? Success is achieved by facing and overcoming challenges. The bigger the challenge you overcome the more successful you become.
But then I am talking to someone praying for miracle alert.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 2:57pm On Jan 02, 2022

Originalsly:
Sorry to learn your mother passed on. From the write up... I'm having a problem with what the doctor said.... how would he know how many times your mother was served salty meals? On your part... you are saying that your mother's food was to be cooked with less salt. How about no salt period? Your wife cooks very salty meals.... have you considered that she put less than usual salt in the food?... which to her was not salty at all? ... but actually salty? It's not like your mother was on a no salt diet. And how did you figure your mother died because of salty food? With her foaming at the mouth.... is that what happens with too much salt?... or from ingesting something poisonous? I can buy your wife poisoned your mother period ... but not the explanation posted. Did you even consider she was not given her medication on time? Was she on insulin? If yes and she missed out on her medication she is likely to pass out and that can be fatal. Medical people can better explain... but you should consider what I stated and reconsider your judgment on your wife and family.

Gbam!

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 2:55pm On Jan 02, 2022*

yemi1504:
The views saying it is intentional seem to have a point! Because if it is really more than twice, that is not even in the negligence territory anymore!

I somehow doubt it's the salt that killed her. If she had been eating food without salt for years or even months, the mother would have found it difficult eating very salty food. Her taste buds would have become highly sensitive to salt.
Something happens with sugar. If you stop eating sugar for one month, you will find it difficult drinking soft drinks.

Except the mother was force fed, I don't see how she could eat abnormally salty food multiple times.

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Politics › Re: Wike Bans Nightclubs, Prostitution In Port Harcourt by wirinet(m): 2:45pm On Jan 02, 2022

Mazterrr:
Go and read section 223, 224 and 225 of the Nigeria Criminal Code. Then you will understand whether prostitution is legal or not.

I don't know which school you guys went to but English comprehension must have been missing from the school curriculum.

Here is section of the Nigerian criminal code;

Section 223 of the Nigerian Code Act
Procuration
Any person who
(1) procures a girl or woman who is under the age of eighteen years to have unlawful carnal
connection with any other person or persons either in Nigeria or elsewhere; or
(2) procures a woman or girl to become a common prostitute either in Nigeria or elsewhere; or
(3) procures a woman or girl to leave Nigeria with intent that she may become an inmate of a
brothel elsewhere; or
(4) procures a woman or girl to leave her usual place of abode in Nigeria, with intent that she
may, for the purposes of prostitution, become an inmate of a brothel either in Nigeria or elsewhere,
is guilty of a misdemeanour and is liable to imprisonment for two years.
A person cannot be convicted of any of the offences defined in this section of this Code upon the
uncorroborated testimony of one witness.
The offender may be arrested without warrant.

From my own comprehension abilities, what section 223 criminalizes is the procument of girls under 18 years for sex and the procument of girls/women for prostitution to become a common prostitute either abroad or at home.

To me what this law criminalizes is pimping and brothels. How you interprete that to be a ban on prostitution as a whole is beyond me.

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Crime › Re: Warri- A City Filled With Rogues. by wirinet(m): 2:00pm On Jan 02, 2022

DeepSight:
That's why it's a medieval society. Who wants to be stuck in the middle ages.

Saudi Arabia without free oil money would be worse than Yemen.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 1:58pm On Jan 02, 2022

yemi1504:
There is a solution to this if you have the means, money that is. Once your mom gets well, that maid that knows how to cook her food along with her, should go back to your mother's house to be cooking her food while you get another maid for your house. Chikena. Also, treat that maid well to avoid had I known in the future. I will take this drastic decision if I were in your shoes, no matter how your wife feels about it. It will send a very strong message that there are consequences for being lackadaisical and lazy. My 2 cents.

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

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Crime › Re: Warri- A City Filled With Rogues. by wirinet(m): 1:14pm On Jan 02, 2022

kingthreat:
There's alot of immorality and drug abuse in the land. Sometimes dictatorial moves are required to correct some certain maladies. I got nothing against alcohol.

Immorality doesn't lead to breakdown of societies (except in religious books), bad, corrupt and visionless leaders do. Corrupt and bad leadership often lead to instability, poverty, immorality and drug abuse and not the other way round.
Governments should be making laws to tackle pollution, bad infrastructure, education and encourage business instead of wasting time and energy fighting immorality.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 12:56pm On Jan 02, 2022

To all those still commenting on the original post. There's a new update from the OP.

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 12:17pm On Jan 02, 2022

DeepSight:
The child is king, in fact, the child is GOD.

Compliment of the season my brother. It's not easy being a man.

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Education › Re: Autopsy Result Of Sylvester Oromoni Junior Has Been Released (photos) by wirinet(m): 12:01pm On Jan 02, 2022

edimaan:
Well said.

Lungs can be damaged by blows without damage to the ribs. However, if the lungs are damaged by blunt force trauma to the ribs, without damaging the ribs, autopsy would still pick up the trauma impact spots on the ribs.

The spots on the ribs where the blows landed would be picked up by the autopsy, even though the ribs are not damaged.

The family autopsy never reported damage or trauma spots on the ribs.

You are assuming a very professional and experienced pathologist. From the report i read I am not too convinced on the competence of the pathologist.

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 11:57am On Jan 02, 2022

CSTRR:
What is this?

Why will a man marry a woman if he can't trust her with the welfare of his mother.?

What is her usefulness to him then?

It shows you are not married. It's difficult to trust your own welfare on your wife not to talk of your mother's. It's even sometimes difficult to trust your with her own welfare.

When I am sick, I make sure I take care of myself and not depend on my wife. When she is sick, I take care of her. I buy her medicine and to make sure she takes them regularly, sometimes with quarrel.

Most women care most for the welfare of their children and mother than anyone else.

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 11:52am On Jan 02, 2022*

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

Accept our heart felt condolences. It will make things infinitely more complicated for your wife and family. No one will ever know believe your wife did not kill your mother intentionally. In Africa where even death by car crash is blamed on the wife, not to talk of as a result of food prepared by her.

Demand a detailed autopsy and toxicology report to ascertain the exact cause of death.

I pray you can heal from this one way or the other.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 10:39am On Jan 02, 2022

Greatidonis:
Guy I'm the kind of dude that will be very angry with this kind of situation but this is the first time this kind of stuff is happening going by your story.
Please don't allow it to destroy your family she may have done it out of carelessness and laziness. No with the intention to poison or kill mum, remember she is still the one that took mama to the hospital. Allow peace to reign give her one final warning remember your beautiful daughters.

True! If she actually wanted his mother dead she would have waited a few hours until she is dead before calling the doctor. A more wicked woman would have hasten the death by putting a pillow over her head.

The wife probably didn't know the gravity of the effect the salt would have on his mother. If the OP had not seen the last seizure his mother had because of salt intake, he too might not have taken her diet serious.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 10:30am On Jan 02, 2022

Babastrong:
I won't come to this forum to take advice from these 3 set of people.
1. The kids.
2. The inexperienced people.
3. Get-in-side sons.
OP, this issue is best discuss with matured family members or your wise friends. And thank God, your mother is still alive. I wish her a quick recovery.
my advice: enter your mother's room after her recovery, hold her legs, apologise to her. I bet you sure. She will tell you what you don't know and profer a posible solution to your problems.

My brother that one na before before. Now the internet is the best place to get plethora of advice and opinion from all sides. You get childish advice from kids, stupid advice from the inexperienced, but you also get solid advice from matured people, sometimes professionals you otherwise cannot afford. It is left for the person seeking advice to sieve the chaff from the wheat.

Nowadays family members are sometimes involved or emotionally invested with one side of the conflict and so cannot give a dispassionate advice.

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Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 10:15am On Jan 02, 2022

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

Thank God your mother was able to recover. I don't think you should divorce your wife solely based on this one incident, unless of course there were only red flags and this was a final straw. Also inquire from your mother and the house girl how your wife treats your mother when you are not around.

If no other issue, sit down and talk to your wife and tell her to buckle up when taking care of your mother.

Family › Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by wirinet(m): 10:08am On Jan 02, 2022

calmness0:
Op, This is a very serious matter.

I honestly don't think your wife deliberately intended to poison your mother.

I believe it was just laziness on her part to Cook separate meals.

Gbam. I face the same issue. My wife is asked to cook different meal for my mum with less salt and spices. Most times she just gives us the same meal as cooking different meals is often difficult for her.
I think it boils to either laziness or being overwhelmed. I doubt it is malice.

Politics › Re: Wike Bans Nightclubs, Prostitution In Port Harcourt by wirinet(m): 9:53am On Jan 02, 2022

Clemzy1996:
Am not against banning prostitution especially road side ones at least it will help save our future generations while reducing some unfortunate scenes on streets. But you should also set plans on keeping our mothers and daughters save cause some of these people are....... Even with all the club house and ashawo quarters everywhere we still dey hear rape even from uniform men, imagine what happens when you short ashawos done.

D business no pure but reason am

I also don't like seeing scantily clad women littering the streets, particularly in residential areas. But what you can't do is restrict a woman's rights of free movement and association. Unless you suggest we jettison this democracy we are purporting to practice and opt for autocracy or theocracy.

The way to keep our mothers and daughters safe is by empowering and protecting them with institutions and laws. Women should be encouraged to go to school, learn a trade or start a business. Men who impregnate women must be forced to pay child care for the children. Many of those women who cheaply sell their womanhood do so to raise kids abandoned by irresponsible men.
You cannot exploit and abandon women and at the same time restrict them from seeking survival anyway they can.

Believe me if you totally ban prostitution, rape and other sexual crimes will multiply many times fold. For many men prostitutes are the only available avenue to cure "Konji" or sexual frustrations and fantasies.

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Politics › Re: Wike Bans Nightclubs, Prostitution In Port Harcourt by wirinet(m): 9:38am On Jan 02, 2022

Ajmoziz:
Wait wait wait,you don't know prostitution is illegal according to the constitution

Which constitution? Abeg give us section and chapter.

What constitutes prostitution is very ambiguous. Do you consider Internet dating as prostitution? Whereby you source a girl online, pay her to come to your abode, then pay her her "transport" fares to go back.

What about a girl you "toast" that demands taking her out to restaurants, buying her gifts and giving her money before she gives you access to her playstore to download and upload.
Abi na "oshofree" you be?

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