₦airaland Forum

dasparrow:
I remember way back when Julius Berger, a german construction company used to build all our roads and bridges. They did an excellent job. But now, our leaders bring in these chinese to come and do our construction and you see the result. If I were president of Nigeria, I will not give one single contract to the chinese. They can't be trusted.

The problem is not the Chinese, it's the Nigerians who contract the Chinese. The Chinese has a policy of giving you the standard you are willing to pay. When you order ordinary consumer items from China, they will give you various prices of various quality of the same product. Physically you would not be able to tell the difference between different standards. Even with drugs you will be asked to specify how much active ingredients you want in the drugs depending on the price you are ready to pay. That's the Chinese model of business.

einsteine:
Your girlfriend is chatting with a simp who has been sending her money without getting p.

Nevertheless, although we have since concluded that na mumu dey marry, any man who still wishes to marry must first clone his wife to be's phone and fully satisfy himself that what he sees there are things he can take.

You make a terrible profiler. Please read the OP's update again.

Dear All,

I wish to mention this:
We once had a quarrel about a few years back and she seemed to be with this guy...(How did I know) ?
I wanted us to travel outside the country so I requested her bank statement which the travel agent told us to bring so this same guy's name appeared severally crediting her weekly.
I punctured this, she only said there was nothing that he was just asking her out bla bla bla...she told me she has ended since we have reconciled.

Same guy has popped up again!

Which guy will be crediting a babe's account on a weekly basis and the guy is not chopping the pussy cat. The guy has been chopping the p for years, is still chopping the p and will continue chopping the p after marriage.

lordatkinson07:
It is not a crime for your wife to have a toaster, whether she gives in or not is what you should consider.
From your post, there is nothing incriminating there. Except you are just looking for a loophole for you to hurt her. If truely you love the babe, confront her and let her give a convincing explaination for her action.

Are you serious or you are joking? It is a big crime for a wife to have a toaster without the knowledge of the husband and she not making it clear that she is happily married.

There are lots of suspicious response from the lady. She is getting married in 4 months for God sake. I am sure the guy is tuning around looking for money for the marriage and here is the girl chatting and begging for money to from unknown guys. That's an embarrassment to any male ego. When does she intend to stop chatting with toasters?

Stargurl20:
Nawa o... There's nothing fishy here. In fact, u should be thankful for the kind of woman God has blessed u with. There's nothing to worry about here, broda.

What do you mean there is nothing going on, when the other guy said I love you, why not shut him down immidiately and tell him she is engaged.
It is certainly fishy having such conversations with someone your fiancee doesn't know. At best that's an emotional cheating, at worse it could be an opening to physical cheating, that is if they had not been physical in the past.

OP should have patience and investigate further without letting her know.

backbencher:
LOL...

1.Army rule, part one.1966-79..we had a 3 year civil war, pogroms in 1966, rise in violent armed robbery in the 1970's, and the usual tribal crisis.

The crisis that led to the 3 year civil war started under the Tafa Balewa government. The federal government's interference on the Western Nigeria elections led to a break down of law and order and the military supposedly came in to unify the country and stem corruption.

2.Army rule from 1983-99..we had Maitatsine, islamists, tribal violence, religious violence...1987 was hot, I tell ya...people thought we would end in anarchy, rise of cultisim and cultic violence, and violent armed robbery. (era of Anini and Shina Rambo....which is what led to the formation of SARS).

The army dealt decisively with Maitatsine islamists, the 3rd armoured division under General Buhari pursued the Islamist into Chad, much to the anger of the civilian government led my Shehu Shagari. Buhari was actually queried for entering Chad against government directives.

IBB publicly gave the then IG a standing order to fish out Anini and he was arrested within weeks.

Then cult activities were restricted to the universities and higher institutions. Cult gangs did not take over our streets, motor parks and secondary schools as it is now.

3.Army rule 1983...our economy went down, and down and down, and we became more and more dependent on oil...which is why we are in a mess today.

Our economy has been going down since the seventies, but is accelerates during civilian regimes.

Both military and civilian regimes have relied on oil to run their governments. No government since independence has designed a plan to diversify our economy away from oil.

And you want that?

All I want is relative safety for my family and business. Any government that can supply that I support.

No, I so don't want to go back to the days where criticizing government could get you locked up incommunicado for months on end.

This civilian rule is bad, and awful...but Army rule? I don't want to be like Fela's zombie again.

We all complained about first and second republic...and got Army rule...and see what it did to us. We were crying for the corrupt politicians within 10 years of army rule each time.

If Because of corruption within the civilians politicians, Boko Haram takes over North East, Fulani Bandits take over North West, militants take over South South, IPOB takes over South East and cultists take over South West, would you be happy?

backbencher:
Mali still has issues with terrorism. Nothing has changed, and the economy is still bad.

Sudan's army rulers are facing serious protests from their people every day.

You want a coup because your side lost out in the political games to their side, not because you want a better Nigeria.

Army rule was one long harsh thing. It was not a good thing for the Army and for Nigeria.

But all the infrastructures we identify with our nation was build under military rule. Lagos Internation airport, National Arts Theatre, Third mainland Bridge, the four refineries, etc. Compare with national infrastrural assets build by civilians.

DeepSight:
Military coups are now simply outdated.

Military coups would always happen whenever civilian government become too corrupt for the society to function.

Before you accuse me of supporting coups.

DeepSight:
Well the problem is that one cant really say because owing to the nature of Military Gwaments, there is a lack of information. The secrecy is far greater and as such you dont even know what slides underneath the rug. The open nature of civilian gwaments may be part of the reason you are able to see, and thus think, that they are more kwarapt. All I can accede to is that there are many more participants in a civilian gwament, not necessarily that the kwarapshin is greater.

Believe me kwarapshin is far greater under civilian government. The total revenue received by the IBB government in 8 years is less than the total revenue received by the Jonathan government in one year. Meanwhile we can point to some projects by IBB. (Remember IBB fought 2 wars). Name one infrastructural project by Jonathan. The total revenue received by Abacha in his 6 odd years is probably only 3 month's revenue by this Buhari government. Remember crude prices fell to $8 under abacha and never rose above $16, all these while under sanctions.

jackcanfield:
The reasons are never valid, a coup never solve a problem like this , the challenge here is people fighting an asymmetric warfare in a symmetric way . There is need to change the modus operandi of the Military to fit into todays reality. Even symmetric warfare has change, the Russian -Ukraine debacle has shown that , with Satellite, you can pick out the entire enemy assets and prepare a game plan.

Even though I don't support a coup, sometimes a coup might be the only option for securing the territorial integrity of a country. It happened in Egypt. When Mohammed Morsi was bringing in religion into politics and allowing Muslim Brotherhood into government, the military leaders led by El Sis overthrew his government.

The military is usually a unifying organization, they won't tolerate a civilian government that would dismember the country or introduce policies that would disunity the country.

Even in the former Soviet Union, the military attempted a coup against Boris Yeltsin from breaking up tje union. It failed because the people supported Yelsin.

What the Burkinabe (and Nigerian) soldiers are complaining about is not even tactics. It's lack of basic equipment to fight the militants or Islamic terrorists. They are ordered to the war front without adequate arms, without enough ammunitions and without adequate supplies. Apart from that no adequate intelligence and then they have to deal with sabotage. It's like a suicide mission. And they cannot resign. Many fine officers have died needlessly.

jackcanfield:
Very stupid excuse for a coup, we know most likely they are targeting Nigeria with all this nonsense ... but they would be surprise what would happen , when Mali was showing a "I don't care attitude", I knew something wasn't right.it is all an economic game , how do you trade among yourself when there is sanction everywhere. Stupid Coupist, brainless idiots with not sense of Patriotism.

Why not address the reasons given for the coup. Are the reasons valid?

Government sources could not immediately be reached on Monday. Frustration has risen in the West African country in recent months due to the frequent killing of civilians and soldiers by the militants, some of whom have links to Islamic State and al Qaeda.

With mutinying soldiers demanding more support for their fight against Islamist militants.

DeepSight:
Military Governments, sorry gwaments, were also corrupt. I am not sure this is a "civilian government" thing so much as a simple problem of political will.

Yes there was corruption but the level was much less than under civilian. The corruption was only perpetuated by the military ruler and his cronies. Even the governor's could not steal from the coffers without the knowledge of the head of state.

Under civilian government corruption was free for all. From governors to legislators to even judges. From ministers to service chiefs to civil servants.

Awkabigboy:
Youre still a kid who didn't live during military junta

There was no militancy, IPOB, Boko Haram, Fulani Herdsmen and ISWAP during military regimes. The corruption was less under military regimes.

The worse thing about military regimes was Human Rights violations and abuses, sit tightism and authoritarianism.

mysticwarrior:
The albino goal keeper was responsible for our defeat.

The keeper was not responsible, the defenders were. Very few keepers in the world would have been able to catch that shot.

benuejosh:
Government officials didn't cause anything. The goal keeper knows how to catch feelings and not ball.

Its was not entirely the goal keeper's fault. What were the defenders looking at allowing the scorer waltz from side to side and had enough time to pick his spot. You no see the swerve and bounce of that shot? How many keepers in the world go catch that shot?

Danjikanbauchi:
Expect same here a night after Buhari hand over to a southerner.

Fulani dominated army forces are planning.

Forget Fulani dominated army. Even the Fulanis are not finding it easy with Bandits and Boko Haram. Sokoto the seat of the the Fulani Caliphate has been under constant threat from Bandits. Even the Sultan of Sokoto is not finding it easy

TOPCRUISE:
Boko Haram is the cause of insecurity in West Africa. It's growth began in Libya. Poverty and corruption started it.

If not for corruption within the militaries of West African countries, Boko Haram would not have been able to seed, not to talk of grow. Afterall most West African states had death with Islamic terrorists in the past under military regimes. Civilian governments seem incapacitated due to corruption.

The Government had denied rumours on Sunday that a coup was under way as sustained gunfire rang out for hours from several military camps, with mutinying soldiers demanding more support for their fight against Islamist militants.

Government sources could not immediately be reached on Monday. Frustration has risen in the West African country in recent months due to the frequent killing of civilians and soldiers by the militants, some of whom have links to Islamic State and al Qaeda.

Nigeria too is heading in the same direction. The rank and file will one day become frustrated with the incessant killings of junior soldiers on the battle front due to lack of adequate arms and ammunitions, despite trillions of naira in defense budget year in year out. Added to the lack of prompt payment of meagre salaries and allowances that is paid late. Meanwhile the senior officers with political connections are living big.

I pray the Buhari administration sees the danger and quickly address the moral and equipment of our military fast before it degenerates into a crisis.

Oyiboman69:
you're not far from the truth also....
Let me put in some few points...oil was not discovered after the white men leave as they made you to believed, in fact, oil in Nigeria was used in fuelling their ships and plane during the second world war and the evidence is still there somewhere in Enugu state if I may recalled. go check one of this video from one Tony Nnamdi from YouTube and watch. you said our leaders should have taken advantage of their absence since independent and you maybe right... remember we're still operating with the templates they leave for us such as our constitution and the rest,our structural system of government, religion and they still control us,the major investment in Nigeria today such as those oil companies are all owned by the white and if you try to do against all these,you'll be sanctioned. through globalization,and we opened our market for free trade,that is why our textiles industry dies just to mention a few....
Any leader who is trying to make any African country great is either killed or removed... I maybe wrong but I can remember the way johe pombe magufulli of Tanzania died in his young age and how he is moving that country and like I said,I maybe wrong though in my assertion.

I'm also not disregarding the incompetence and greediness of our leaders but I'm also conscious of the templates we're operating on and that has been a yardstick for our under development as a country.

as for the harvesting our best...the problem is not new cos when they came during the slave trade, they selected our best, strong, young who can work in their cotton plantations, and their underground railway during their industrial revolution and this is not new now cos it is the same way they're still using but in different forms....

It all depends on how you're viewing it...but don't discredit the view of others in this same issues...

Africa is design to fail for since we're still under the control of the white men...they're also aided by the support of Afro pessimist which concluded the the black race is born to fail...as you said, our leaders are also a contributory factor but not the major problem,God bless you....

God bless you my brother. You are one of the rare enlightened few. And I don't mean western educated and brainwashed majority parading certificates as education. I wish we have just 100,000 Nigerians with your mindset, Nigeria will indeed start on its journey to recovery.

Colonial Africa was designed to fail. It was designed to perpetually act as a source of natural and human resources for Europe and the Americas. The Government, ecinomic and educatiinal structure was designed to achieve these goals. Until we realized these and change course we will be perpetual slaves.

musicwriter:
I think you all thought slavery has ended? Slavery will NEVER end, it can only evolve.

WE ARE STILL IN SLAVERY NOW.

And you all have to know that our ancestors were not stupid when slavery or colonialism was going on. No, they weren't stupid. They were as smart as we're today but in their HONESTY in dealing with visitors, they ended up being tricked. I say to you today, we're being tricked again and this little seemingly kind gesture would evolve into something unrecognizable in future. So, stop asking the question "what were our ancestors doing to have to be enslaved and colonized?"

Our ancestors were not tricked, they were greedy. So greedy that they sold their neighbours, their kinsmen and sometimes their family for material gains.

Till today black Africans continue to sell their neighbours, kinsmen and family members for material gains. Parents sell their children as house helps (domestic slaves), traffickers/pimps sell young girls as sex slaves. It is only black Africans in know that kidnap and sell young children to ritualists to be slaughtered for money rituals. Till today we value material gains than our neighbour's, kinsmen's or family member's lives.

And foreigners will always exploit that greed.

Having said that, I am not against the boy pursuing his education in America. Because he either go there or rot in Nigeria. When I finished secondary school I tried everything to proceed to university to no avail. No assistance came in from any source and there's no structure in Nigeria for student loan or something like that. So I dropped and instead taught myself.

You still don't get it. He is not pursuing his education in America. He already pursued it in Nigeria. He is only Furthering his education and career in America. Nigeria already educated him for about 15 years, America will only educate him for 2 years for masters and maybe another 2 years for doctorate. But he will contribute millions to the US economy and zero to the Nigerian economy.

As an individual he will succeed but his society will continue failing. Who will then develop his village/ state or country?

Let him go, at least the US is a better country to go. Blacks there seem to have African self consciousness than, say UK.

US is a better country today because the first settlers stayed, suffered and developed it. They had to endure famine, disease and lack of basic infrastructure. And they fought the colonial powers holding them back. They did not all run back to the comfort of Europe.

But it's still slavery in another name. We can change it when we get smart for real. Right now, we're not.

How do we change it when the ones with the human and mental resources are leaving, leaving behind only the dregs of the society. Remember the foreign powers and their cronies only need the natural and human resources from Africa to help develop their economies. They are not interested in making us self reliant.

HarunaWest:
America and other nations keep poaching our best and we are happy about it. For someone that was trained from the cradle in Nigeria. The black man has a fundamental problem...

That's the tragedy of the Blackman, been cursed by myopia. Others are poaching our best brains leaving behind the almajiris, cultists and militants. Any we wonder why we are not progressing but retrogressing.

Anyway we are progressing in the religious and spiritual industry.

DeepSight:
Do not lightly excuse domestic violence.

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Domestic violence is part of existence. We have to learn to manage it. We cannot be hiding our head in the sand and pretend it doesn't exist.


I doubt the wife is being held hostage by the husband. If she is not ready to manage or resolve the issues of domestic violence and dead bedroom with her husband, why not pack her load and leave?

DeepSight:
After being punched? With blood strewing from the wound?
Haba.

Na "agro" or "konji" cause am. Konji is not a respecter of rationality or reason.

Go listen to one of my favourite Tracy Chapman -
Last night I heard the screaming
Loud voices behind the wall
Another sleepless night for me
It won't do no good to call - the police . . . . . .


And when they arrive
They say they can't interfere with domestic affairs between a man and his wife

IJEYdiamond:
Seriously to be candid it becoming a big issues.

It's not becoming a big issue, it has always been a big issue. Since the beginning of time sex has always been a big issue for men and society.

Women should have to open up because i cant understand... this ooo... last year... it was this sex matter mostly from men... there is really something wrong... well like i use to say marry who u can handle sex wise... length size of d D... all those important things discuss it ooo..

This matter heavy oo!!

How can you say marry who u can handle sex wise when religious puritans insists on no sex before marriage? You are probably going to discover the length size, girth size and time size (how long he can last) on your wedding night.

Research as shown that men think about sex 19 times per day on average. Meanwhile they think about food 18 times a day. - https://www.cbsnews.com/news/men-think-about-sex-every-7-seconds-what-study-says/

In order words, men think more about sex than food.

So you see how serious the matter is.

She haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter. she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

These are the points I am unable to understand or reconcile, who is paying for the food and the housing. Unless she is the breadwinner, I can't reconcile how she will cook and exclude you.

If she is no longer interested in the marriage, she should have said so and packed her load to her father's house. All these shenanigans is childish.

IJEYdiamond:
Its called Marital rape... Asian countries you will be jailed for it...... The sad one is she was bleeding from the mouth while doing it..

E heavy ooo... !!

That's why we are Africans.
Why would a woman marry a virile man and in less than 2 years into marriage deny him sex without any reason?

If my wife deny me sex for 6 months, I will just pack my load and leave the house for her and then restart my life. I will also demand a refund of my bride price and wedding expenses. In fact I would ask for an annulment of thr marriage and not just a divorce. It would be an insult to be answering divorcee to such a heartless woman.

Why should I keep feeding and housing a woman who has no feelings or regards whatsoever for me?

Bigdiddo:
If my woman abort my baby without telling me, its means she is been cheating with another man and the man owns the pregnancy. A cheating wife is more dangerous than poison. Becareful bro. If they stage your death , na that man wey they advice her and and f****k her go take over. Get sense bro.

That's the koko of the matter. She got pregnant for another guy and did not want you to find out. Why will a newly married woman do an abortion secretly? How did you even find out.

Back to the topic. This is obviously transferred aggression. She must be transferring the anger of losing her real lover and the baby, and you are to blame for both.

ono:
Erm, this is clear now. Sooo, what if PB and OK went to the rally? Did they go about burning malls and destroying properties like Antifa and BLM people did in the summer of 2020? Since when did it become a crime for a group to attend rallies - peacefully?

And if not for people like Epps, do you think that event would have gone violent and rowdy?

They went to a rally to stop the US Congress from carrying out its constitutional duty of certifying the elections.
That only sounds sensible to a MAGA.

So what did they expect to happen after the rally? For Trump to continue in office after January 20th 2021 or that Trump would be sworn in instead despite losing at the polls, at the states and at the courts.

Maybe next time maybe you guys should "protest peacefully" at the inauguration grounds on January 20th to stop the inauguration of a new president.

You guys just wanted to plunge the US into a political crisis because Trump lost an election.

I am ashamed for you after all the noise you made before the elections. Your shame lasted only a few years months as you went on a shame sabbatical only to come out making ridiculous claims.

ono:
My point is that people can manipulate "anything numbers" these days. Gone are the days of trusting in the "process" - especially in the US of A of today. Have you seen the polls lately, about the confidence levels of Americans generally in their institutions? Agencies like the FBI and CIA that used to be darling organisations that Americans love to work for and really look up to in times of national confusion or stuff like that have their ratings plummeting to all-time low - like never seen before. And this thing started largely from the days of Obama.

So it's Obama's fault that Republicans have lost confidence in the US electoral system? It seems the Republicans never recovered from a "black man" becoming US President. Obama destroyed confidence in the US electoral process and yet Trump won in the elections conducted under his watch.

It's is Trump that eroded confidence in US elections. Any election Trump wins is fair, but any election he losses is rigged. The irony is that when Hillary Clinton was ahead during the 2016 election Trump was already screaming emotional "the election is rigged", but when he eventually overtook Clinton and won, the elections suddenly became free and fair. Trump had never been known to concede defeat in anything.

In Newsom's case, his policies are unpopular in California, especially his shoddy handling of COVID-19, with his partying-while-the-state-burns attitude. But democraps rallied round him when the referendum was up.

That's why there was a referendum - to determine his popularity. That's the flaw of popular democracy. The most popular and not the best candidate wins.

So you expect the party not to rally around a candidate that just won a referendum?

Ciattrelli had to make sure and conceded (key point). Times have changed and it's a "shine your eyes" thing now, otherwise, democraps will impose their will on the people.

That's because Trump had polluted the electoral space.

What's wrong with Trump wanting to make sure before conceding? And if he's got evidence (like we are seeing now in Wisconsin, Georgia, Arizona, Philadelphia, Texas and elsewhere) what's wrong with that?

The problem with Trump is that he can never concede - never! He is prepared to split the baby in half if he doesn't get it.

In normal situations you present your evidence before the courts (from district court all the way to the Supreme Court). And you as a citizen should be bound by the decision of the courts. But Trump felt he was bigger than the courts and that he can impose himself as president extra constitutionally and judicially.

raumdeuter:
Has Stacey Abrams conceded that the 2018 Georgia Governorship election was lost and Kemp won fairly?

Is it fair that a candidate is supervising an election in which he is a candidate? If a Democrat should do that you guys will scream blue murder.

Did Stacy Abrams rally the Democratic party and her supporters to undermine the whole democratic process?

ono:
Like when Gavin Newsom recall fell short of the needed vote for an election in California and nobody in the GOP made any qualms about that. Same in New Jersey, the GOP candidate conceded defeat - even when the margin of victory was little, for a deep blue state like NJ.

Spin me something different.

A recall is not a general election, it is a referendum or a vote of confidence. Gavin Newsom had no opponent that can reject election or concede defeat.

It took 10 days after polls closed and a lots of pressure before before Jack Ciattarelli conceded defeat to Phil Murphy.

After Trump's election loss denial, no Republican would concede an election loss ever again. Even if a Republican looses by 99.9%, they would still challenge the election.

A Democrat won a US House seat this week with 79 percent of the vote. Her GOP opponent has not conceded.

An election in South Florida this week may serve as a marker for where the Republican Party stands in 2022, and how much American democracy has already changed since Donald Trump lost reelection.

The Democratic winner, Sheila Cherfilus-McCormick, is interesting. She is a progressive who spent her own money to win and backs the concept of universal basic income. She also becomes the first Haitian-American woman in Congress to represent Florida.

She won 79 percent of the vote over Republican Jason Mariner, who was born in Boston and founded a drug and alcohol detox center in Florida. Mariner got less than 20 percent of the vote and trails Cherfilus-McCormick by over 32,000 votes. For context, Biden beat Trump statewide in Georgia by 11,000 votes.

“Now they called the race, I did not win, so they say, but that does not mean that they lost either, it does not mean that we lost,” Mariner was quoted by the Miami CBS affiliate as saying.

He said he will file a lawsuit. Election officials say it takes 14 days to certify the results. Mariner, then, has 10 days to challenge them.
That said, this week’s episode shows the Republican Party could be drifting toward a new norm of refusing to concede — even in landslides.

In Washington state, the Republican candidate for governor refused to concede, even though results showed he lost by over 500,000 votes. Of course, Trump reiterated this week in an interview with NPR that he still wants to talk about how he believes the 2020 election was stolen from him.
https://www.bostonglobe.com/2022/01/13/nation/democrat-won-us-house-seat-this-week-with-79-percent-vote-her-gop-opponent-has-not-conceded/

mecussey:
Don't mind those saying otherwise... The op took the best decision.. Marriage not by force...forget Nigeria unity they say its by force. However, if I was the op I will have a time frame. May be after one year and she doesn't miss me, I get another wife or move on.

One year kwa? Why should the wife be away from her marital home for a while year without any valid reason? If she was away due to work or medical emergency, it is understandable, but to go live with her parents for one year because she needs space from her husband is unacceptable.
What about the daughter? Does it sound reasonable to deny the husband bonding with his daughter. The most important bonding between father and child is within the first 3 years. If they miss that opportunity, the father and daughter may never really bond again.