₦airaland Forum

Nuzo1:
An average Nigerian graduate is an illiterate and is not enlightened.

How much more a Nigerian who didn’t go to school at all. Trouble and confusion mixed together.

One of the major reasons Nigeria is underdeveloped is because of illiteracy. Illiteracy won’t help you innovate or make right decisions. Eg voting the right candidates in elections. Avoiding unnecessary crisis.

Going to school doesn’t put food on the table but it goes a long way in helping one make very informed decisions and that in turn puts food on the table.

By all legal means, go to school.

Abeg what this video of some Nigerian graduate to understand the low levels our quality of education has sunk over the years.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rVgr6dksQMk

Reflect7:
Shut up. This has nothing to do with skin colour. Hitler, Nazis, Taliban, Al Qaeda, ISIS etc are not ''black man''. So what is your excuse there? Stupid self hating people drowning in inferiority complex.

So what is the reason Wike is banning night clubs, Is it not religious? Even Hitler did not ban night clubs.

Yes Brown people are proving holier than the pope and more prophetic than Mohammed. Even Arab rulers do not ban night clubs but regulate them.

redsun:
You can see his head is full of black soot and he's planning to turn ph to kano. They try by all means to divert attention from the real cause of the problems( thieving politicians) and blame it on the consequences(social vices)

See black man's stupidity because of religion. Black soot is slowly killing people in Rivers State but Wike is oblivious of that. It is night club and prostitution that he is more concerned about.

Navalsadiq:
you are very irresponsible

And You are very responsible. Hotels nko? Wike no go ban dem? There are tons of hotels in Port Harcourt where immorality takes place, since you guys are now the moral police.
Besides prostitution takes place more in hotels than in night clubs.

doctor20202020:
Good governor I want others governors to also ban it like ibadan too,all bruhotels over they make crime rate to high all those criminals spent there money on all those bitxh

That's against the Nigerian constitution. Nigerian constitution did not ban night clubs, sport clubs, social clubs or any other clubs.

Vistra40:
For you to say this means that even you do not support this move but you have shifted the post to attack a certain group that nothing concerns them with the decision made by the governor. Who told you many members of the group don’t go to clubs and won’t like the ban? Bros, if you want to criticize wike then do so

Another Christian fundamentalist. Just like your Muslim counterparts, you want to force everyone to abide by your religious doctrine even if they are not a believer. What's the difference between Kano state governor destroying alcohol and Wike closing night clubs?

Beremx:
Oga, the engine oil Kemi Olunloyo said isn’t the issue. The demented fool said Sylvester drank the substance on his own and wasn’t forcefully given. Besides, is engine oil that harmful when consumed? It is. Why was his lips peeled at the point of death? It might be acid

I don't want to respond to him directly as I am very angry at his stupit and annoying conjectures.

Please help me ask him about the acute lung injury. Was the supposed engine oil that caused the lung injury or the poor boy agreed to have his lungs damaged to join cult with senior students?

DeepSight:
Then try not to come across as an extremist. College has its intrinsic value still. Its not just the degree that one takes away. Its a microcosm of the larger world where one gets to hone many non-academic skills. Such as social skills, political skills, etc.

No one would deny the basics of what you say though. Just dont strike such a strident tone that you may be mistaken for spitting on the value of a collage education altogether.

I am looking at the context of university education mainly from the Nigerian perspective. Nigerian University education is geared towards passing exams and not finding solutions to problems.
I studied architecture for 7 years without setting my eyes on any building material. I know people that studied computer science and graduated without actually handling a computer themselves. And yet they come out with first and second class.
In these times of covid, other countries create their own test kits, vaccines and medicines, Nigeria with lots professors, doctors and masters of medicine, micro biologists and virologists seem helpless and waits for others to give us these these. And this is repeated in all fields of knowledge and research.

I feel sad to know that others are sending telescopes into space to search the origin of the universe and life in other solar systems. We are yet to produce basic electricity to run our homes.

Perfectbeing:
Since you decided to bring literacy rate, check the countries with the lowest literacy rate. 100% of them are poor countries. Then check countries with the highest literacy rate. 99% of them are well to do countries.

Also, employers are more willing to pay higher salaries to degree holders than non degree holders. In other words, if two people have the same skill and are good in the same way, and one has a degree and the other do not, statistics shows that the degree holders earn more. In fact, if both of them are coming for the same job, the degree holder has been shown statistically to get the job more than the non degree holder.
In case, you still don understand, a skill without a degree will earn less than a skill with a degree statistically..

Also I was comparing two scenarios, a certificate you have but don't need, a certificate you need but don't have. And I said one of the scenario was much better.

My uncle who dropped out of school was telling me of a story of how a friend of old who he met years later wanted to help with a good job. All the friend needed was just any university degree (even Arabic education was ok) to get him the job but he didn't have. That's how he lost that opportunity. He needed a degree that he didn't have.

Sha there are still tons of people that made it without having a degree so it's not a must.

I am sorry to say, but you are still stuck in the old mindset. You are talking about 20th century economy before the era of globalization and strict capitalism. In that era certificates, titles and prestige can sustain a company because you are operating in a localized and protected environment. In the 21st century the competition is fierce and you are competing in a global market. Certificates and degrees now take a back seat to the skills and productivity.
Read about how Tanmay Bakshi a 14 year old Indian boy without a university degree earn $1.25 million annually without a university degree but taught himself artificial intelligence. - https://howafrica.com/youngest-developer-at-age-14-tanmay-bakshi-earns-1-25-million-in-salary-at-google/

Also read about Taylor Wilson, a 23 US citizen who at age 14 build a mini nuclear fusion reactor in his father's garage. - https://www.businessinsider.com/taylor-wilson-taking-the-energy-industry-by-storm-2017-11?r=US&IR=T


He skipped university to focus on his research of nuclear fudion. Today he is earning millions working for Helena energy think tank.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying university education is useless. What I am saying is that a university education that cannot produce or add value is useless. A skill that can produce or add value is far more important that a degree without value.

DannyXpress:
No it flopped because there was no nudity or plenty sex scenes for the viewers just like BBN

Gbam. No relationship drama. No fights. No party. Not even booze. And you want Nigerian youths to be interested.

When people were castigating BBNaija and asking for Gulder Ultimate Show, I just dey laugh like hyena. I come dey ask say who go watch am? How is the thread on nairaland sef? Was it as busy as the BBNaija thread?

MT:
I am so sorry but you have not provided any tenable counter argument.

95% of Nigerian graduates are not employable, says don

President and Chief Executive Officer, Postgraduate School of Credit and Financial Management, Prof Chris Onalo has expressed concern over the quality of Nigerian graduates, saying about 95 percent of them are not employable.He lamented that our present crops of graduates do not meet the need of the reality in the workplace and called for an urgent attention from all concerned to address the trend.

Onalo who is also the founding Registrar, Institute of Credit Administration (ICA), the umbrella body for credit management professionals in the country spoke with The Guardian in his office on the various challenges confronting the sector and how best to tackle them.

While expressing concern over the quality of products being churned out from our tertiary institutions, the eminent scholar posited that the curriculum must be finetuned in line with market demands and current trends for our graduates to be globally acceptable and relevant.

“The curriculums are obsolete and not in tune with the reality and this is because money is not there to facilitate research. The lecturers don’t have support both from the government and the private sector. You don’t expect students to fund research projects.

If you have a curriculum that is obsolete, a curriculum that is 50 years away from the reality, then who are you baking? On one hand, it is the tertiary institutions that should develop the initiative and convey it to the labour market that we want collaboration and strategic partnership so that the labour market, captains in the industry, corporate managers and directors will have a very cordial relationship with the universities to bring the reality to the system. We don’t have that.”
https://guardian.ng/features/education/95-of-nigerian-graduates-are-not-employable-says-don/

basilico:
Two thirds of the 25 staff based in Belgium's Princess Elisabeth Polar Station in the Antarctic have caught Covid

All 25 researchers were fully vaccinated and one had a booster shot. Before leaving for the station, they underwent a PCR test in Belgium two hours before flying to South Africa.

In South Africa, they quarantined for 10 days and took another PCR test. A further test was needed when leaving Cape Town for Antarctica and a final one five days after that.

One person tested positive seven days after arriving at the station on December 14. The person was isolated but tests revealed two others had caught the virus. The three were evacuated on December 23 but the virus has continued to spread.

It is thought to be the Omicron variant because that is responsible for 99 per cent of infections in South Africa.

There are two emergency doctors at the station, which will not allow any new arrivals until the virus dissipates.

Belgium's Polar Secretariat has decided the research season will be shortened and staff will stay there until at least until January 12, when new expeditions will arrive.


How's that possible. Did they get a vaccine or a quackcine?

For the umpteenth time, vaccines do not stop you from getting the virus. It only reduces its impact, in other words It only reduces hospitalisation and fatality.

MT:
Education is the acquisition of knowledge. How you apply the knowledge is up to you. No one signs contract with the govt that after school you will be employed. We all go to school to enhance the probability of success.

The question is , are you educated enough to bring value to any organisation or have enough expertise to float a company ? That certificate only tells employer you had education, during interview is where your application of that knowledge is tested. If you ace your interview, you become employed. In your heart of heart, despite having that certificate in your care, do you think you can ever ace any interview? It's an open question.

This is the same wrong mindset that has put us in the precarious position we find ourselves today. We, and by we I mean the government and the people have a completely wrong view on education. Education should have goals for both the country and individual levels. The government must provide education through educational policy that reflects those goals.

Education for the sake of just acquisition of knowledge is counter productive.

Other countries are preparing for the economy of the future, while Nigerian educational system is stuck in the 1960s.

Perfectbeing:
Just an advice to all those school na scam people..
It is better to have a certificate that you don't need than to need a certificate that you don't have.

A certificate you don't need is as useless as not having a certificate at all
Zimbabwe has a literacy rate of close to 90% but remains one of the poorest countries in the world.

contigiency:
Stop deceiving people. This same our local school system has produced the likes of Prof Soludo, Dora Akunyili, numerous professors, PhDs and captains of industries ruling different businesses in the world. So if you have money to afford oversea education, you are free to go. Allow others to go our local school.

So what is the impact of the likes of Prof Soludo, Dora Akunyili, numerous professors, PhDs and captains of industries on our society? How has the education and certificates helped us to solve our basic existential problems when we still heavily rely on foreign goods and manpower?

Mind you I am not against education in general as I am educated myself. What I quarrel with is that the education we acquire is not relevant to our needs, but to the needs of the original colonialist. That education will result in only making us sources of primary materials and market for industrialized countries.

Jeromejnr:
I mean you could just go online yourself on charity find groups and see the stats.

Anyways, here is a pic of a local news on a day "celebrated" for missing children. ( we don't even have that day)

So, do we have even up to 300 children missing everyday in Nigeria?

Bros, just leave that thing. Nigeria is learning.

You are being disingenuous with your clip (screenshot). The article clearly defined what the term "missing children" means, which you conveniently avoid.

Here is what the article said;

It is estimated that 2,300 children are missing every day in the United States. Children can become missing for many reasons. The NISMART program identifies 5 categories of episodes that can cause children to become missing:

Family abduction
Stranger abduction
Ran away/thrown away
Lost, stranded, or injured
Benign reasons (i.e. misunderstandings)

You make it seem like the missing children were all abducted or killed. In the US if a child is abducted, it's mainly for sexual reasons.
In the south west of nigeria young children are abducted mostly for ritual purpose. In the north Children are abducted from schools mainly for sexual reasons.

Then about 21% of these children being sexually or physically abused. The report did not separate the sexual abuse from the physical abuse. In the US merely "konking" your child is termed physical abused for which you could be arrested and prosecuted. If we apply that same criteria to Nigeria. Then we can say 99% of nigerian children are or have been physically abused.

Jeromejnr:
How many baby killings in California?? you say...

Do you know that the largest child trafficking, rape rings are in America?

Do you know how many unregistered babies are killed by cult groups in California per year?

Please provide your sources or links so that we can see that you are not just making conjectures off the top of your head.

Do you know how may abortions (not for medical reasons) are done in the U.S monthly?

Abortions are legal in California and in fact the US as a whole (some states limit abortion Windows).
Do you also know how many abortions are done in Nigeria on daily basis (even though it is illegal here)?

You think it's by CNN that will just mention maybe a special case and that's all the killings for that year.

Well if you were a ocal who stays in the U.S and watch the local news on TV (not international news networks) then you will know Nigeria is nowhere near the atrocities committed by insane people.

Some mothers have to put their own children on a leash because of fear. I haven't seen that in Nigeria.

Once again provide sources for your claims.

In Nigeria here it is very dangerous to leave your children in the streets or public spaces unattended, the probability of the child being kidnapped and killed for ritual purposes are extremely high.

inumidun2010:
RELIGION go do us SHEGE for this COUNTRY.... Most people hide under the CLOAK OF RELIGION to hide their LAZINESS....
Every NATION is trying to make life EASIER for her CITIZENS, NIGERIA is still PRAYING TO GOD for HELP... When GOD has RELEASED HELP SINCE....
I'm a CHRISTIAN but can we be SINCERE for ONCE to ourselves, what's the ECONOMIC VALUE of 100,000 seater AUDITORIUM to a COUNTRY... No-one should tell me it creates JOB oooo or it means the KINGDOM of GOD is ADVANCING.. the KINGDOM OF GOD cant advance in CORRUPTION let's not decieve ourselves, MOST G.Os you see can't EFFECT a CHANGE if ASSIGNED a PUBLIC OFFICE..
Most CHURCHES you SEE are advancing because the G.O practice a DICTATORIAL STYLE of LEADERSHIP, but you can't EXHIBIT such STYLE of GOVERNMENT in a PUBLIC SETTING which are GOVERNED BY DIFFERENT RULES
Has RELIGION reflected in OUR LIVES compared to other ADVANCED NATIONS ?..
COVID-19 has REVEALED to us that GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED.. MILLION OF PEOPLE died , where is the MIRACLE ... thank GOD because he gave us SCIENCE because he's the MASTER SCIENTIST....
The ONLY method left they can use to INTIMIDATE this GENERATION NOW is FEAR because this GENERATION is ENLIGHTENED compared to our FATHERS who they DECEIVED not to ASK QUESTIONS ...
Let US build our NATION and let's PREP OURSELVES for the MASTER ALSO , RAPTURE might take 200 YEARS, let the WISE HEAR...

It produces more sheeps for the Shepards to milk.
If you have enough data watch this TED TALK by Rev. Walter Wambazi

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DfBzEAieaAM

RepoMan007:
secret societies are secret so I won't blame you for not blaming them but the churches. Same way people blame fellow humans instead of demons.

Its the churches that encourages and promotes prosperity by any means necessary. Like miracle alerts, sudden wealth without asking about source and equating material possessions and acquisitions as evidence of blessings from God.

Jeromejnr:
So what will America be? If Nigeria is worse than Sodom?

Southern Cali especially trumps all what Nigeria can be in a decade.

How many ritual killings go on in Southern California? How many baby factories are there in Southern California? How many kidnapping and raping of women and children are going on in California? What is the level of corruption by government, youths and elders in Southern California?
Sodom and Gomorrah main sin is sexual perversion. Nigeria's sins are the same sexual immorality (though hidden) and so much more. In fact Nigeria makes Sodom and Gomorrah look like a monastery.

Chuvin22:
Lol. End of year Thanksgiving indeed!

Their forefathers or ancestors that started this traditional worshipping madness didn't know what calendar was back then.

The white men brought their RELIGION along with TIME and DATE for these fetish miscreants and all they could do was to readjust their sacrificial schedules to fit into the new calendar.

The Christians also did the same. They had to readjust their sacrificial, worship and festival schedules to fit Roman pagan religion and calendar.

kufre2010:
And the Igbos are busy chanting holy many. So they own the tradition yet they don't practice.

Igbo bragging syndrome dey worry you

The irony is that the igbos stubbornly resisted Christianity initially, but had to succumb to the pressure of the colonialist.

Krismas:
Oh! So narrow. Why did u neglect to add the total number of PROSPEROUS Chinese Indians and Japanese worshipers of Jehovah thru Jesus Christ who live outside Far East? Like the number in Africa, Europe Americas and Middle East?

So there are a billion Chinese, Indians and Japanese that live outside the far east like in Africa, Europe Americas and Middle East?

Ok. Provide us with the statistics of Chinese, Indians and Japanese that live in Africa, Europe, Americas and Middle east before we start talking about the number of them that are Christians and then the ones that are prosperous.

You guys know how to make stupendous claims without any basis in reality.

Krismas:
Why are u talking as if there are no billions of prosperous Chinese Indians and Japanese who worship Jehovah thru Jesus Christ?

There are no billions of prosperous Chinese Indians and Japanese who worship Jehovah thru Jesus Christ because there are no billion of Christians in those three countries.

The total number of christians in China, India and Japan combined is not up to 70 million before we even start talking of prosperous ones.

Igbodicool:
There is no other god beside Jehovah.

It is an error to bow before the works of God and men.

Only God can keep alive and preserve!

Jehovah/Yahweh/YHWH is the mountain God of the Hebrews.
We had no relations with him until the slave traders forced him unto us.
To conquer a people completely you have to replace their Gods with with your own, by force or fire. That's what what the Europeans did to those they conquered and enslaved - particularly Africans and South Americans.

ChiefS:
He perhaps was over pampered as the only son. He now has so much entitlement mentality. There is little anyone can do at this stage to change him. You sister should send his money directly to him. There's even no need to feed his entitlement. He should go and work. No food for a lazy man.

Why should their sister send any money to him at all, after he burnt 70k she earlier sent. That would be rewarding bad behaviour and would embolden him to do worse.

CUMIN:
If you could read between the lines of my submission. You will discover that the guy is into drug already.

Confrontation by any member could lead to a very fatal incident in the family. He could stab the home sister.

The person giving him stipend have a great leverage on him, that can be used to control his behavior.

If you go the hard way to handle him.
It can lead to negative consequences

So because he is on drugs, he should get away with arson and threats to his father? In that case the whole family better start worshipping him.

So at 24 someone should be giving him stipends out of fear? His mates are walking the streets looking for jobs or trying to further their education, you his family to continue funding his drug habits.

CUMIN:
Just do a zoom meeting with your elder sister. Let your elder sister be giving him his own money separately.

After like 3 month your elder sister should slash his allowance to ¼ of what he's recieving at present.
Telling him to get a job.


You must not disclose anything your sister sent to you.

Why should the elder sister be giving him any money at all? A 24 year old graduate of economics for that matter.
He slashed their dad's car tyres and you think he should be rewarded with more money. Next time he will probably burn the house down.
He has no regards for the father or the family. A family that paid his education up to university level. He is just a spoilt and entitled brat.

Now the OP needs to file a police report with the video as evidence. He must be made to pay for the vandalized car. He must start learning that actions have consequences, which I am sorry to say your family has refused to teach him.

He must also never be allowed to return to the house, until he truly repents. He most probably has joined bad gangs or cults, which is a danger to the whole family.

after reading this thread by the OP, I realised he and his wife has more serious challenges.

akpunda86:
Help me I have not been to Church 5 years.Im married don't know wat happened to my wife lost interest in sex coupled with her health challenges of waist pains.Its been in and out of hospitals .I have sex urges can't even know where to go.
I decided to open my problems on a group was only married women professing love coming to me Tut fiction was not till I started dating one .
Issue now I feel so dirty,I find it hard going to church ,even if I go I'll still go back to my mistress
I'm getting depressed instead of been happy,I'm not happy kind of marriage I find myself

I can't discuss with my wife once hits bed is sleeping till daybreak I feel so lonely,suddenly I found myself that iv been drinking much something I quitted years ago
I tried dating the young girls was a problem.
My father have been asking son why don't u go to church ,I can't hide it anymore wanna open up to him and my mum that I have a mistress outside and sexually I get none from my wife.

I know wat I'm doing is not gud but how can I help it Infact soon I wanna take a break from home,wanna leave house 4 sum weeks join dem for Xmas.As it dey me I see second wife I'll remarry.

Should I enjoy sex at my eighties if I live up to that.
Paining me seriously.

Righteousness pls stay off my thread

The wife herself is having medical challenges - both physical and psychological. You need to first and foremost take her to a specialist hospital to properly diagnose the cause of her waist pains. Then you need to talk to a physiologist or councillor to get to the root of her psychological condition.

Sorry to say, you just can abandon her and run away as you have 4 kids who will need their mother to have a chance at a rounded life.

Sorry for your predicament.

akpunda86:
Haha compliments again bro .ur advice noted bro.sorry 4 wrong words used in this season of love.

Thanks. Please make sure you give those children a memorable Christmas, take them out to a mall or cinema (avoid the beaches). Then when their mother comes back from the village, have a heart to heart talk. The situation might be more serious than she is telling you. Women are sometimes mysterious beings, they sometime expect us to be mind readers. Ask her why she abandoned the children when they need her for Christmas. Encourage her to pour out her mind about the marriage. Why does she not cook in bulk. Cooking everyday can be draining.

Have a merry Christmas and a happy New Year.

akpunda86:
Thanks for the breakdown but 4 a man to break it down like this shows that u must be very intelligent but at same time jobless cos I can't see how a gainfully employed man can be breaking this,true we in season of love but my firm still running.
.Fastest don't always win the race,my wife mum have no life threatening sickness just arthritis,and I never objected to her travelling but let it be after Xmas,ok oga intelligent.

All she got to do is stock the freezer and rest I can do,even her elder sis that knows value of marriage all of us in same state is here with kids.

On state marrying from a close state or same state does not define a marriage,wat I meant a closer state wife can go cum bk same day.

So Niger Delta man drink ur sapele water in peace.i believe u drunk as u typed this.
Compliments

I am jobless as I have other (plenty others) jobbing for me. In fact I am on my bed right but I am still coordinating by businesses. If you have job for me, I would but mind, since you seem to be very jobfull.

Now, I am just giving you mature advice. Having been married for 15 years, I assume I am qualified to give you advice on marital issues. I had thought you posted the thread to ask for advice. I didn't realise you desired an echo chamber.

You have poor communication with your wife and you don't think of highly of her and her opinion. If you had better communication, you would have told her your conditions before she is allowed to travel. Under normal circumstances my wife (who incidentally is from Imo) cooks for 2 weeks at a time and divides the food in compartments in the freezer. So even if she travels for 2 weeks, we will not starve. You are the head of the family, you need to lead but in love. Discuss your requirements, plans, and aspirations with your wife in order to achieve a common goal.

I don't like the fact that you are threatening divorce on a very minor issue. You are talking like you did your wife a favour by marrying her.

Yes! Sapele water is our culture, but at the same time woman no fit use food do shakara for us.

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Compliments of the season you too. May you find happiness this season and beyond.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

You do have the power to terminate the marriage. If it's a court wedding, employ a lawyer and file at the nearest magistrate court. If it's traditional marriage, get your people together to go to your wife's people to return the bride price.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It's most probably an emergency. You said further down that her mother is sick. It depends on the nature and seriousness of the sickness. She wanted to be there for her mother in case she dies.

You my friend is being unreasonable for getting angry and wanting a divorce because your wife went to see her sick mother during Christmas. Is this the last chrismas that will happen before Jesus comes? Besides are you a child? To most men Christmas is for children. Abi you expect your wife to take you to see father Christmas?

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Family is supposed to be together every time (as situation demands) and not only at Christmas. Nothing stops you from taking the children out after she gets back. There is no law that says you can only take your children out on Christmas days.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

You mean you can't prepare ordinary salad? And you are proud to say that? Well should out to Niger Delta guys - We dey cook pass our wives. My children alway look forward too days I take over the kitchen. They all tell my wife that I am a better cook.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

It was an emergency. She didn't have time or state of mind to put her house in order before going to see her sick mother. Why can't you help her put the house in order? After all marriage is supposed to be a partnership and not a employer/ employee relationship.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Marriage is not about tribe or clan, but about love, understanding and respect. There are lots of marriages from the same clan failing, even couples from Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Her mum is sick and all you care about is your own selfish interest? You are very cruel and selfish.
Your kids are crying all day even though they are in your custody? You must be a bad father then. I stayed alone with my kids for 1 week when their mother went to the village to bury her elder brother. There was no crying.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

Women are closer and more emotionally attached to their parents than guys. Most women take care of their parents after marriage than men.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

You need to look into yourself and make necessary adjustments. You don't seem to love your wife and it shows. That's why she probably don't show you love too. You want to her to sexually satisfy you but you are treating her like a house girl. It doesn't work that way.
My bother look into the mirror, and there you will find your problems.