₦airaland Forum

onioluwajuwonlo:
let her give birth to her first child and you gonna know she is wrong

It is wrong to place family over husband (or wife).

Yankee101:
You've not married or engaged her and you're already expecting her to do what exactly for you?

That means she also should not expect anything from him, emotionally or materially until they are married.

I have found out that Nigeria like to exploit, blackmail and patronize compassionate people.

bigpicture001:
I found out the hospitals she now goes to for an ailment which is now past tense..its been there, no other person pays that much attention..I check on her tru calla almost every 4hours...I stand by her through thick and thin...

You don't get..I am totally involved in her day to day life..to say she cant do certain things for me cuz am not family is just so disgusting....
Mr. Emotions..who is more emotionally supportive of a lady when in need of it..ur sibling's or ur very loving girlfriend..

Would your adult brother stay days with you in the hospital if you are down..? As compared to ur fiancee..? If no..is she your family memeber yet..?

Guy cease to reason with just emotion..com to reality

My brother don't mind all those people that are saying you should not expect her to give you full undivided attention until you marry her. Fa fa fa... Foul. It is very unreasonable to expect a complete change of behaviour simply because you said "I do". It is best test your physical, emotional and sexual compatibility before taking her down the alter. Sit her down and explain to her the same issues you stated here. Explain to her that you are not asking her to abandon her family, but everyone must separate from family and create a new family. You can even quote Ephesians 5:31 and Genesis 2:24 for her if she is a Christian.

SimplyShit:
The poor girl was just a victim of circumstances...

Victim? What circumstances?

Enyimbamercedes:
How does the ND bombing pipeline make things more difficult for you?

Does the food you eat come from pipeline? The people making food expensive are the bandits and herdsmen who destroy the crops of farmers and have stopped the people from farming out of fear.

But that isn’t the problem! Anything that threatens the revenue from oil gets the governments attention because that is where the leaders steal from. On the other hand, they are not bothered with what the people will eat

That's why they say blacks are so myopic that they can see beyond the present.
What's does the pipelines transport and to where?
If the pipelines are blown, what happens to international oil prices and Nigeria's revenue?

If the price of petroleum products rise as a result of blown pipelines, what happens to the cost of transporting farm produce from the farms to the markets, and inflation in general?

Theunbothered:
This could only be said by someone who has never farmed in their life.

It is incredibly stupid and unrealistic to make a correlation between total population farming and food security.

People who farm are being killed and their crops are destroyed yet you're here talking jibberish.

Or a scammer who scams people in the guise of farming. There are many examples of them here on n Nairaland.

Abeg help me ask am how many millionaire farmers him know. Most genuine farmers I know complained of untold hardship and loss in the farming business. From fear of going to farms because of kidnappers and Fulani Herdsmen, to lack of government support, to harvesting, storage and transportation issues. The farmers are the poorest and weakest link in the agric business. The marketers and traders control the agric business and exploit the farmers to the full.
I had a friend/client lose over N5 million in the poultry business as all his birds died. He quit the agric business altogether and is preparing to relocate to Ghana with his family.

Thermodynamics:
What is it with Oyibo and dashing women money after a divorce?
I just don't understand these white folks, why transfer a large amount of a man's savings to his ex-wife just because they are no longer married, where is the justification or logic for this act.

This is just plain foolishness

The logic is that the man's wealth might be as a result of joint effort and sacrifice by both of them. The wife might have contributed to the husbands business or career to the detriment of her own. After all the bible said two have become one. So it is sometimes fair for the family wealth to be shared after divorce.

I don't support this instance anyway. Because the woman contributed no way whatsoever in the winning of the lottery. She probably was against lotteries in general. I also don't support women who bring nothing into the marriage demanding for a substantial share during and after divorce.

edimalo:
okay that is cool, how many hours of light do you enjoy in your area.

Our transformer can sometimes be quite erratic. It always blows something if it rains. Sometimes it takes 3 days to restore fully.

If the transformer is ok. We get light from 8AM to 5PM daily. The light is then switched on at 8pm again to 4am in the morning. I close at 6 so I use gen for only 1 hr under normal circumstances. In this scenario I use N5000 worth of electric bill weekly.

edimalo:
is better someone try as much as possible to get prepaid meter, IKEDC is ready to milk someone dry.

Error corrected. I pay N20,000 monthly and not N150,000

omeiza49ja:
Please oh how did you resolve yours? Ikedc want to kill my place of work with crazy bill
January around 80k, February 195k, March over 300k same with April. May bill that was just released, 657,618k. I called their customer care line nothing. Sent a mail to Nerc but no reply from them yet.

You dey smelt steel or aluminium for your office?

Thank God I fought tooth and nail to get prepaid meter for my office 2 years ago. For my office consisting of 3 rooms plus my wife's eatery, I only pay N150,000 20,000 monthly. If not for the prepaid, I would be paying over N100,000 per month on estimated billing.

Unbelievable the writer claims to be a lawyer, a supreme Court one at that. It betrays the sorry state of law education in Nigeria.

Law is predicated on EVIDENCE, and not by claims by either the accused or accuser. Where is the evidence this " Supreme Court" lawyer is basing all these claims on?

Here is a perfect analysis by a more decent lawyer from the same face book page.

LEGAL POSSIBILITIES!!!

1. She just procured a NEW INTERNATIONAL PASSPORT (from the passport number, if I go by recent printings, this her passport number is amongst those printed after the shortage of passport booklets between April/May).
2. She was in possession of a fake Driving License with her picture, but a different name.
3. She booked the apartment where they lodged, using a fake phone number.
4. She was in possession of an Access Bank � statement of account.

Let’s ignore other items found in her possession for now.
**Why did she procure an INTERNATIONAL PASSPORT recently?
*The only reason, is that she’s planing to elope from this country.
**Why would a 2nd abi 3rd years student of UNILAG be planning to leave Nigeria �� now, when she has few years to graduate and for for NYSC?
*Reason: She is planning to execute a crime and the crime will fetch her some good money � which will facilitate and finance her escape to other countries.
**What was she doing with an ACCESS BANK � STATEMENT OF ACCOUNT?
*That is one of the documents the agent or person who promise to help her secure a VISA needs. So, this confirms she was already in the process of procuring a visa
**What was she doing with a DRIVING LICENSE that bears MARY JOHNSON?
*The answer is very simple. She knew that there’s a possibility the police might decipher who the killer is and possibly her name will be given to Nigeria Immigration to be on the alert at the borders.
So, since we can actually enter Cotonou, Benin �� Republic using either national ID or DRIVING LICENSE, she needs a license with fake name, so she can transit out of Nigeria through the land borders, after securing a VISA, then fly from there. So, she need to disguise � with a fake name to achieve that.
**Why did she KILL THE GUY
*She needs to have UNRESTRICTED ACCESS to his funds through his ATM card. Since the maximum amount you can withdraw in a day via ATM is ₦150,000.00k so, she needs to silence the guy, to avoid him calling his bank � to block his card.
**Why did she take his PHONE � along with her?
*It’s just very simple…She knew there might be a possibility the guy might regain a little consciousness and use an USSD code to block his account before giving up the ghost � again, or if by mistake the security guy enters, he might use his last energy and tell him his phone code and account blocked. So, she’s a cold hearted murderer that didn’t want to take any chances.

Let’s argue some of her stories (Which I believe she already spoke to her lawyer before granting that interview, because if you pay attention, you will see she was very calm and calculative during the interview and never felt remorseful) she claimed they had an argument that led to the killing.
That to me, is total lies!!!
That guy was defiantly sleeping � when she murdered him. Because their is no way that small girl will stab that guy face to face without any kind of scuffle that d guy will at least give her one of two injury.
From her story, she said she stabbed him first and he came again, she stabbed and then again.
Do you know why she said that??
She has told her lawyer how many times she stabbed the guy in bed with the knife �
Her lawyer then created that story for her, so that it will match with the total number of knife � stab the pathologist will record in the corona result.
But, this is where the prosecutor will trash that with evidence.
Was there blood � stains from kitchen to the bedroom, as she said it started from kitchen.
Was there also blood stain all over the room, to show the man ran after her after a stab or to even establish there was a scuffle?
Now, if the only place we have blood stain is the bed or the spot the body of the victim was found, then their story of an argument, will become invalid.
And I’m pretty sure there was no stains of blood all over the house �
Also, if the guy � was conscious when he was murdered, he would have shouted and the security guy would have heard it and that will be the end of the story.
Since the guy didn’t hear any sound, it point to only one thing. THE GUY WAS MURDERED IN HIS SLEEP �

I’ve been able to establish MOTIVE
I’ve also established PREMEDITATION
I’ve also prove COVER OF TRACKS

Put this case on trial as FIRST DEGREE MURDER, it will fly.

Zooposki:
The knife was stationary but the guy coming at her was not and must have looked very threatening. Maybe she might even have passed out for awhile after the stabbing, regained her senses after waking up before leaving the scene.

The knife was stationary and the guy threw himself at the knife 3 times while the girl was holding the knife, abi?
She passed out after the stabbing and then came to her senses to clean up, change clothes anc look for the ATM card and IPhone before leaving quietly to catch a cab home.

kmcutez:
Stop supporting nonsense? Do you know what date drugs do? It makes you paranoid and alters your perception of things. He probably looked like a demon coming at her. I’m surprised she didn’t hack him to death with his body parts in different direction.

Ehen! And the date drug did not alter her perception of things enough to make an IPone look like a cobra or an ATM card look like a spider. It did not change her perception to see the knife as a lizard and leave it at the scene.

That change of perception must have given her super powers to be able to take on a fully fit man, an amateur boxer for that matter and came out without a scratch on her body ( save some cuts on a hand as she claimed).

It also did not alter her perception enough to be able to hire a cab to leave the guest house unnoticed.

Well done miss perception. I fear for your boyfriend or husband.

KingOfAmebo:
Do a search on spywares and get informed, this is not about granting permissions to the app...this is done from the backdoor, a compromised app can steal your data wether or not you grant it permission...

why are people so bent on been ignorant even after enlightening them?

Keep downloading any app you come across, las las you go fall victim to hackers as una no one hear word.

Half truth. Spyware can be bonded to any software, file or even email. Just one click and the spyware would install discretely and be sending info to the owner.

Paid VPN cannot come with spywares as it would damage the reputation of the vendor. That problem will be found in only free VPNs and softwares.

TripleOh7:
Reno is a fool. So are the other people who are rooting for a cold hearted psycho bitch.

What's your evidence that she herself took the ruffies?

She slipped it into the man's drink and was able to overpower him, stabbing him several times.

It's alarming that there are some people of low morals who want that girl set free.

Shame on y'all.

Hope your fathers meet the same fate...or do you think your fathers aren't cheating on your mothers?

Reno is more than a fool. I am ashamed we are from the same tribe. We wish to donate him to Biafra or Oduduwa.

A girl that book a guest house under false identity and false phone number using fake ID.

A girl that stabbed a full grown man in his neck and chest with such ferocity that the knife broke.

A girl that discretely left the murder scene with the murder weapon, ATM card and IPhone. She might have even tortured the guy to get his ATM PIN before killing him.

A girl that was talking confidently and coldly on camera how she murdered another human being.

This is the person reno and others are sympathetic to.

Unbelievable.

Zooposki:
You think evidence like your sperm, bodily fluids etc cannot be found on her person? Even if she gives consent and claim you rape her, you are in serious trouble. All she has to do is go to the hospital and ask for a rape kit. You better be on good terms with the person you are having sex with o.

You have this false notion of rape. Rape along with murder are some of the most difficult cases to prove. To be convicted of rape requires much more that word of mouth from the lady. She would have to prove the use of force and non consent. She has to show evidence of force with medical report. Circumstances leading to the sex would also be considered, like if there is an ongoing relationship, where the act took place, and so on.

Zooposki:
If she takes back the consent midway you have to stop. If the thing dey sweet you, just hand finish the job. Lol.

She has no legal right to take back her consent midway. Once she gave consent for penetration, I must finish before I withdraw the penetration.
It's like giving me eba to swallow and once it hits my throat asking be to vomit it back.

Zooposki:
Una no dey hear word. Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability, or is below the legal age of consent.

No dispute with the above definition of rape.

My disagreement was when you added that after consent and penetration achieved, the consent can then be withdrawn midway into the act and it would still be considered rape.

Zooposki:
It is what it is. Lamentations won’t change the meaning of rape. Even if she say yes and you don enter the heavenly place and she changes her mind and says no, you better remove it. If not, na rape.

False. Rape involves unconsented penetration. If she had consented penetration she cannot then unconsent and then allege rape.

Imagine fúcking and then about to reach point of release and then the lady says she no do again. If you then refuse to withdraw and the release, she cannot claim rape in any court of law.

Jman06:
I'm one of those who'll give that girl a second chance. Not justifying what she did but I believe she did that in self defense.

This should serve as a lesson to other married men to keep their prickks at home for their wives.

If it was your son, father or brother she murdered, would you be so sympathetic?

Self defense for where? Not 1 nor 2 but 3 strategically placed fatal stabs and you are shouting self defense. Where are the defense wounds on her body? Where are the assault wounds. Shelf defense shows in the arms and hands as that the the part of the body you use to defend yourself.

Even the man had no defensive wounds, which means he did not have the opportunity to defend himself.

I think this case has taken the usual tribal dimensions. Her tribesmen anf women are sympathetic to the girl, while his tribesmen and women are sympathetic to the murdered man.

tunapawizzy:
She will do her time....she will get a second chance in life. Will she be mentally ready to make the best of the second chance?

I doubt she will get a second chance at life. If she is convicted for 1st degree murder, she gets the death penalty. If 2nd or 3rd degree murder, she gets very lengthy jail time -between 25 to 50 years.

DIGIMARKETER:
She took the drug voluntarily but she didn't want to have sex voluntarily. I have spent 4 days in a hotel room with a girl and throughout she said we need to know each other better and she never allowed sex and I didn't push it even though money was not agreed upon. Decent girls are also allowed to date but men see it as as long as she is in the room with me na wetin carry her come.

The places she stabbed the guy suggest to me that he was awake and there must have been some sort of struggle between them and let's not forget he hid the keys to the flat so she couldn't have ran out

Note: I'm not saying she is innocent o o.

You know all these because you were in the room or you have seen the video clips? If you have seen the video of the murder please share with us.

There is no way the girl would have stabbed the man, a physically fit man in the neck twice while he is upright. And to stab him with such ferocity that the knife broke means the man was lying down.

You mean you spent 4 days in a hotel room alone with a girl and you guys did not have sex? Then Why were you at the hotel in the first place and who paid for the hotel and feeding? This your story get as e be.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
they were both under the influence of weed and hard drug so their ability to make sound judgement was obscured and compromised.

But she had sound judgement to change clothes and leave the lodge quietly without anyone noticing.
She had sound judgement to take the knife along with her and throw it in the dust bin.

She had sound judgement to steal his ATM and withdraw money from his account.

salem1996:
Christian Religion is personal. Beside, if you want the God of the Christian to save Nigeria, then everyone in Nigeria should first become a Christian. If not, why will he save a country where majority are those against him??

This your God must be very wicked o. He needs everybody to be saved before he can save the country. I don't think there is one country in this world that all its citizens are saved.

Besides Yahweh said in Genesis 18:26 - "And the LORD said, If I find in Sodom fifty righteous within the city, then I will spare all the place for their sakes". At the end of the day Yahweh said if they can find just 10 righteous men in Sodom, he will spare the city.

opribo:
Ok the guy died in the line of work and the client is saying she acted in self defense. Which is admissible but why withdraw his money continuously after his death.

Self defense don't hold any water. Self defense from what?
They had been there for a couple of nights before the murder.
She was the one that actually booked the lodge with fake name. She was never kidnapped or raped. This is definitely not the first time of them booking a lodge together for sex.

Sometimes I wonder the kind of heart some girls have these days. For a girl to murder a man and still have the mind to be stealing from a dead man's account. It really makes me shiver at what a presumed 21yr old girl looking innocent can do. You have the mind to stab a full grown man to death and you walked home to sleep like nothing happened, hmm, that means this man is not her first victim, she must have killed before.

Me too I was shocked by her demeanor during the interview. For someone that just killed another human being, she was calm. Her demeanor reminded me if Derrick Chauvin after he murdered George Floyd - cold with no emotions. For a 21 year old girl, that's scarry.

I know some men don't keep to the bargain especially after collecting, in those days they will embarrass the guy in public but now they want to kill you outright.

This is most likely not about the guy not keeping to their bargain, she said the man gave her his ATM to withdraw any amount she wants. I feel the girl wanted more, much more, and so planned the murder, probably with an accomplice.

How did kitchen knife come into the equation on since its a short time joint. Could it be she was carrying the knife with her all along, how did she walk away from the hotel without anyone seeing any blood stains or other evidence.

That's what a proper investigation will reveal. I hope the police were able to recover the knife as she has attempted to get rid of the murder weapon. She was sane enough to know that she had to get rid of the murder weapon, since she claimed she acted under intoxication.

The girl still leaves with her parents that shows some level of control, but then parents still need to do more to keep an eye on what their kids are doing and who they are with.

I suspect the parents are responsible for the narcissistic behaviour of the girl. She does not look normal. Her parents are separated and she lives with her father. I hope she was not abused by her father or other family members.

mrsage:
From the little information available. She has a good case of self defense.

So far it's difficult to establish a motive for murder

Self defense ko, mass attack ni.
She stabbed the man in the neck twice and once in the chest.
She did not raise any alarm after the stabbing or made any attempt to save his life. If the man had been taken to hospital in time, his life might have been saved. But she allowed him to bleed to death and start rotting. That's cold hearted.
She stole his ATM and IPhone and withdrew money from his account after she knew he was dead. That's cruel. It shows her only motivation was money.
She claimed self defense but had no defensive wounds. She only claimed she had a cut in her hand. No injury to her arm, body or even her face.
Pure premeditated murder.
Nigerians have a knack for supporting evil but claim to be godly.

hammer3x:
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SHE ACTED UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF INTOXICATION.

Intoxication does not make one to commit murder. Intoxication only reduces our inhibitions to do things we are normally too afraid to do. Besides with the intoxication she was able to steal the man's ATM card, IPhone and other items and able to find her way home without anyone noticing.

IT IS NOT A MURDER CASE DUE TO THE ABSENCE OF INTENT TO KILL.

Classic murder case. Intent can be inferred from her booking the lodge with a fake name and bringing a knife.

HAD THE 50 YEAR OLD DECEASED NOT INTRODUCED THE 21 YEAR OLD LADY TO DRUGS INDUCED SEX, THE STABBING WOULD NOT HAVE OCCURED.

And you know that the 50 year old was the person that introduced the girl to sex induced drug? And Why would the 50 year old need to introduce the 21 year old to sex induced drug? Is she not a runs girl or side chick for over 4 months? And they have been in the lodge together for 3 days prior.

CHIDINMA HAS NO CRIMINAL RECORD OR RECORD OF VIOLENCE.


SHE WAS DESCRIBED AS A QUIET GIRL.

All these irrelevant to this case. The evidence will speak for itself

EVIDENTLY, SHE COULD NOT PLAN TO STEAL HIS MONEY OR LEAVE THE COUNTRY.

But she did actually steal his money.

SHE SIMPLY WITHDREW HER SCHOOL FEES, WITH THE PIN NUMBER THE DECEASED HAD PROVIDED HER FOR THAT PURPOSE.

Ehen. Is she his daughter or his family? Why is he responsible for her school fees and why did she have to kill him before she can withdraw her school fees?

PLEASE, TRY TO BE OBJECTIVE.

Your post is the most bias post I have read.

Aksnoopy:
She is going to jail for at least 25 years. Meaning she will clock her menopausal age in prison and if you ain't careful you will be going to prison with her. I.diot.

That's if she does not face the death penalty. The case has all the elements of 1st degree murder. There is premeditation - she booked the guest house herself under a false name. There is motive - she stole the man's money and IPhone. There is the murder weapon - a kitchen knife (wonder how a kitchen knife got there).

This looks like a well planned murder to steal from the man. They checked in together on Sunday, so I don't understand how rape and date drug came into the picture on Tuesday evening. I am sure the Rohypnol tablets was used to sedate the guy. I have seen a lady sleep 24 complete hours after being drugged by the drug.

Here excuses were so incoherent and stupid.
More facts will come out during trial.

BRATISLAVA:
She's realized it's not what she wants, so she is free to end it. Whether 3 or 13 years. Relationships aren't by force or pity.

No one here is saying relationships should be by force or pity. She came looking for advice and people are giving their opinions. 3 years is a enough time to decide if you want to marry your boyfriend or not. You seem to forget that for a lady time is not on her side. If she spends another 3 years trying trying another relationship, when will she be ready for marriage? When will she start having and raising children?

Where is the insult to Catholics? Catholics on the thread have shown their oversensitivity, crass intolerance and extremism towards Pentecostals. Shameful display.

"during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved"
The above quote is an insult to the 1.2billion Catholics of the world. She is telling them that they are not saved. Maybe only her new found sect is saved.

Just look at the number of pages of anger as if Catholics are saints.

Catholics never claimed to be saints. In fact Catholics acknowledge and confess their sins every week or regularly and beg for forgiveness constantly. It's you Pentecostals ( some will say penterascals) that believes they are holy and every other sect or persons are sinners.

It's you guys that displays anger, hatred and intolerance towards every body else. I drank you guys in the same category as ISIS anx Boko Haram. It's just that you are not violent yet.

BRATISLAVA:
I thought I was the only person who noticed it.

27 pages and counting from people who aren't objective.

Once she mentioned he was Catholic, it was obvious they wouldn't stick to the facts but instead turn it into an anti Pentecostal thread.

We have people who have concluded she wants her pastor to choose a husband for her, just because she doesn't want to marry a lukewarm Christian, whether Catholic or not. So many people mistake being born again for other things.

Anyone can screen who they will marry by whatever criteria they please. Whether they get married young or late, it's not enough reason to settle for what one can't tolerate. If she knows they will have issues on it, then it means she knows the man better than we do. There is more she has not said about his religious stance, which is giving her doubts.

She does not want to marry a lukewarm Christian but she has been enjoying the benefits of a lukewarm christian for 3 years including knacking.

No one can dictate whoever she wants to marry for her, but she should not insult Catholics to justify her reasons.

miketayo:
You seem more like the problem here. When u were a Catholic, were u worshipping d devil or I don't understand. Not until u kabash in prayers before God will hear u. Quit d relationship let d poor man find a better half

Abeg help me ask am, was Jesus a Christian, was any of the disciples born again, did Jesus himself impose all these doctrines on his followers?
To me Jesus was not a religious fanatic, he eat with sinners, he entered the house of sinners, he never condemned anyone (except the Pharisees for their hypocrisy).

mugnmuffin:
First, I want to apologize for the statement insinuating that Catholic Christians are less Christian compared to Pentecostals. That was not meant to be a generalization. The reason why faith is my principal concern is because, as a Christian, there are certain ethics and codes of conduct a person adopts and practices that guide their actions and decisions. It is the crux of the matter for me.

Many of the comments are asking for elaboration especially with regards to other aspects besides spirituality. Some of the red flags in terms of his attitude and behavior that give me cause for concern are how he relates with ladies; I found that he cheated on me a couple of times. Some of my friends who are married assure me that it is nothing to worry about because “men will always be men”. However, I feel like overlooking that means ‘settling’. Also, he tends to act like we’re competing for career success. I’m a banker and he works with a company and is well paid. From comments he makes when I make attempts to pursue growth, like take courses or attend conferences to network, his response shows that he thinks it’s a waste of time and resources. I don’t always expect him to give me financial support, even if encouragement. But he feels I should be content with my current status. It scares me that he may staunch my progress after marriage.
I’m no saint myself, but I know marriage is a lifetime affair and just because I didn’t look before I leaped into the relationship doesn’t mean I shouldn’t at this point try to make amends.

This your update is at variance with your opening post. You yourself is not being truthful with yourself and with your fiancee.

How can you reconcile these two opposing statements? "he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes" and then "I found that he cheated on me a couple of times"?
Your initial post gave us the impression that your fiancee was a perfect man and that the only issue was one of religious or should I say doctrinal differences only for you to later insinuate that he is misogynistic cheater.

It's not about religion. Don't blame your doctrinal differences. What I have discovered is that religion does not change people, else Nigeria would be the most moral country in the world, with everyone claiming born again. it only hides their worst impulses. Marriages between born agains don't have a better success rate than the general population. The same problem of infidelity affect born again marriages like every other marriages.

The keyword to a successful marriage is love, respect and communication. You should be sharing your concerns with your prospective husband instead of on social media. You guys need to sit together and discuss what you both want from the marriage. You need to discuss kids - number and how they are to be raised, finances, career paths and how you both will deal with the in-laws. Marriage like any other human endeavour requires planning, hard work and dedication to make it work. It has little to do with religion.