₦airaland Forum

Alwaysachick:
Good evening ladies in the house,

I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?

I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??

Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this? Married women in the house with husbands with such traits how do you cope?

Should have have learnt from my parents but my father is the exact opposite and with my observations, his dad is also overbearing his sisters at always complaining.

You can't stop it.
That is who he is.
He is not necessarily bad as some women want his type.
It may be that he is conditioning you like Pavlov did his dogs.

But he is not a pretender as he has clearly shown you how he thinks.
But if you can't cope, run quickly.

Don't pretend you are okay with it.

If it gets too serious, getting out may be impossible as you may
may have lost yourself by then.

They should be petitioning the NJC.

Sammy07:
You can't divide us along religious lines.

Stop encouraging imbe ciles.
Don't give them the attention they want.

Gilbertase:
xisnin, i quoted you cos i KNOW we can have an intellectual exchange and not banter. Look at it this way, if you bought a car and while cleaning it you found money or lets say a blue diamond stashed in it, would you return the money/diamond?

Yes. I will return the diamond starch.
There are hundreds of way you can return an item that you really want to return
even if you have to go through an intermediary.
I can't find the owner is just a lame excuse to keep the loot.
Of course, there are exceptional circumstance where the owner of the item can't be found
but it is very rare.

Also, imagine you bought land and while setting the foundation you found same in the land debris (wrapped in something, so we are clear it wasnt as found in nature), would you contact the seller of said parcel of land?

If you bought land and find same, it means the current seller is likely not the owner of the item.
The ethical thing to do is to wait for a few months to see if anything comes up.
If not, publicly hand it over to the police or convert same to some charity donation.
What happens after should be none of your concern since it wasn't yours, to begin with.

Ps: Also this story is bollocks, i put a bale of 100k in an indomie carton just now. No way that carton will take 18 and still have any meaningful space for indomie, and that is SUPERPack carton o. Normal carton wont even take the full 1.8m

It doesn't matter if the story is real. It might have been exaggerated or embellished or a complete fiction.
However, you gave a real-world advice which some people agree with and which can also inspire others
to act unjustly even in dissimilar situations.

The cost of promoting a dishonest society will be borne by all and it is not a pretty burden.
With the way behaviors evolve, one bad turn usually predict another.

Fake headlines typical of those who have no reasonable arguments.

Point blank?
Fake news.

monfizzy:
Sorry but this isn’t about being honest but stark idiocy. Such money can’t be traced to any individual so returning it makes no sense. E get some people wey poverty no dey taya walahi

That's the criminal in you speaking.

Fake news or failed propaganda.

astonished:
All those people that support this lockdown, SCAMdemic, that use to attack everyone here that don't believe in their wicked scam, may you never know piece in your life, may you be in bondage in the rest of your life, may you encounter an agony death.

What a wicked soul are Nigeria government and her moronic citizens who because of money they are embezzle don't want this SCAMdemic to end.

may thunder � all this government officials, NCDC, and their supporters here who still clamour for continuous of this wicked and barbaric show of power, that lead to people suffering in pain, lots of people are out of job, most companies did not pay their staff since the lockdown, lot of people now turn to beggars & looking hopeless, people are very hungry.

Yet what this barbaric government and their supporters here know is, wear facemask, social distance, stay safe, & lockdown of people against their fundamental human rights of freedom, yet the stvpid govt taskforce go around harrass, tortured an helpless & innocent citizen, extort money from them, denied them of work & business that fetch them money that they will use to put food in their stomach

Where is the DANGER? there is no anything out there in this country to warrant all these barbaric show of power & wickedness by this government,

Are we not be disregard their foolish rules, yet we still not know anyone that know someone that are in critical condition as a result of covid-19, all what this useless government waiting for is to let any public figure died and tagged it covid-19 death, then make it as if the virus is real in this country & kill everyone including the public, because Ajimobi die now we must go on another lockdown, when Abba kyari death the lockdown extended

Who released you from Yaba left?

temmytee2309:
We all know the way(shortcut 2 wealth) but whats keeping us from doing such is because of the consequences but I'm now ready to face it.

At the bold, if you are innocent as you sound, then you have no idea what you are talking about.
What's keeping criminally-minded people from such faceless crime is ignorance, not consequences.

I want to delve into Yahoo and do whatever it takes to make the lost money back in multiple folds.... I mean do whatever it takes.

Go right ahead and become a criminal.
Don't be a coward and use your allege mom's story as a justification.
How do we know you didn't set up your mom's scam in the first place?

Dansuqi:
How? Convening a nec meet is the best thing now

Any agreement reached in such meeting will not be acceptable to some parties.
Since the INEC primary deadline is very close, the issues cannot be resolved before then.
The fate of APC candidate now lies with the court.

DuBLINGreenb:
Good one

That 600k they want to use and do center spread in newspapers they should use it to better the life's of the youths

The money you use on data could better the lives of some beggars out there.
Sanwo-Olu is just pretending, he can't stop people from buying ad space.

boookworm:
If Oshomole knew all these will happen he would have simply hands off obaseki and let the Man complete his 8 years in peace instead of trying to turn Edo to Lagos

There is no term to complete, we are in a 4-term democracy.
Oshiomole will be a fool to have not fought back because the alternative is total humiliation.
Not fighting back is a sin in politics.

If he knew this would happen, he wouldn't have surrendered the state's APC machinery
to the governor when they won.

Oshiomole is the most clueless Godfather in Nigeria's politics.

WHITELIGHTER:
The End of Oshiomhole

So 25th June 2020, two things will happen
1. Obaseki wins PDP primaries
2. Oshiomhole is voted out as APC chairman

Beautiful time to be alive

You got the second point wrong.
Oshiomole cannot be voted out because he is not currently the chairman according to the court.

He may not return as chairman but if APC manages to win Edo and Ondo election, their victory might
be shortlived unless Oshiomole decides not to fight his suspension in court.

With this move, Edo and Ondo has slipped from APC's hand.

babaeto001:
Contract Staff in a bank is corporate slavery, i don’t know why our Legislators aren’t doing anything about contract job across various industries. If you are lucky to be in a bank that has transparent conversion process for contract staff and you fall within the required age limit according to their policy, then you may be among the lucky ones to be converted to core banking staff.

There is nothing the legislatures can do.
They will only make things worse.

ModestGal:
This is one reason why Africans are poor, we are fanatics in nature. Religion does not and cannot prevent people from becoming rich, likewise is Atheism. For instance, we have seen Nations like Isreal, Saudi Arabia that have left poverty, likewise we have seen Atheist Nations that have grown out of poverty

You are right.
I have had this line of thought for a while but often get opposed by many that
"our corrupt leader" is the real cause.
A lot of people are too invested in superstition and unearned wealth.
Expect some attacks from them.
Also, in your last sentence, I think "ambitious" is what you intend to type.

Olominira:
You're right, but doesn't control the bank. That's the difference

No one really controls the bank.
It is like the UN, some have more influence but more rely on other top members
to make a decision.

Good job.
Keep it up.

Another Corona victim.
It is getting closer to Bello himself.

gartamanta:
If nothing will change in Nigeria same as it will not change in Biafra or Oduduwa or Niger Delta, then what is the point of Nigeria? The whole point of one Nigeria is that our unity was supposed to make things better, that Nigeria was better than us all staying apart.. But if our unity in Nigeria cannot make things better then it is time to get rid of Nigeria and return to the tribal enclaves we were before the white man came, since Nigeria will not be any better than our tribal enclaves

If the rain won't stop falling while I stay on the bridge, isn't it better I plunge into the ocean below
after all, I can swim or use a life jacket with waterproof clothes when I get there?

No, it is better to avoid the rain while on the bridge instead of taking the easy way out.

Olominira:
They are acting in response to China

China is also a top contributor to World Bank.

Fayemi is also scheming for 2023.
He thinks he has lost if Oshiomole wins.

But I think he is too shortsighted in this case.
Even if Oshiomole is ousted, that doesn't guarantee a long-term pro-Fayemi regime
because 2023 is still far ahead.

Blackfriday:
Anyway if go through many class action suits and mass Tort cases in the US most part of Europe, you will find out there is a sever penalty to situations like for defaulting companies who knowingly or unknowingly add substances to a product which causes any form of harm to the end user. I believe Johnson & Johnson knows this and should have taken necessary corrective measures in the clinical trials of the product.

Most cases of a successful class action is that of deliberate action or omission.
This is different.
This case is that of contamination of naturally-occurring talc with asbestos from the mine.
One of the unintended consequences of this action is the added "risk" cost to consumer products.

Unionist?
I quit.

We need the exact amount in Sabiu's accounts.
It will make the message more compelling.

Blackfriday:
But a class action suit and penalty as in this case, is determinant on severalty of the case and I believe the cancer type must be terminal.

It need not be terminal.
It just must have caused serious harm to the victim's life.

I am not against the judgement in principle.
The penalty is just too severe given the circumstances.

If you hang a pickpocket, what then is the penalty for a murderer?

samsard:
Well, maybe you will swallow poison for money, but leave those who won't to take compensation for damages.
I have had health issues in the past that no amount of money can bribe me to remain that way.

You are contradicting yourself.
If no money is enough to compensate health, why did these victims ask for billions?
They obviously know the value of money

Wait till you're truly sick and you'll realize how worthless the figures are at that moment.

This is a fallacious argument.
Paying people to harm themselves is different from paying people to remain in harm.
Both can be achieved with the right motivations but they are not equal.

DexterousOne:
You dont know what's going on

Hahahaha

I didn't expect a different reaction.
Everyone is an expert these days after watching some YouTube videos made by a teenager.

Since you know what is going, the question remains:
Why are you even using a phone despite knowing that radiation can kill you?
How about the match, lighter, and gas you use for cooking?
I hope you don't have plastics in your house, it is very deadly

Out of court settlement = Billions of bribe from government coffers.
SMH

cucumbae:
In my street, private school teachers are organising private lessons, students and pupils have been attending classes.There is no virus.

Most students don't attend private lessons due to poverty or circumstance.
How do you know there is no virus?
It is just like claiming that since there is no child yet, then there is no pregnancy.
It all takes time.

samsard:
Why do you think it's a punishment? You want them to give them a slap on the wrist?
Maybe if a product gave you cancer, then you would realize there's no monetary figure that equals your health and
Wellbeing.

You cannot tell if a product gave you cancer since there is no control.
There was contamination in some of their products and the opportunists pounced on it.

It is a myth that there is no monetary value that is equal to health.
I take it that you aren't familiar with human psychology and haven't met many people.
People will swallow poison for the right price.