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If you guys quarrel on a simple issues such as why her phone is off all nights and you can't get a strong reason then there is a big communication gap and many more things hidden between you guys that are waiting to burst loose later. You Don't seems to know all about her, blind to some things or think you can cope with certain flaws since we aren't perfect.
Setting up a secret cam is not the next thing to do. You need to review what you want in the your relationship. Imagine living with someone you don't know, you can't trust, you can't vouch for. You guys just need to sit together not on phone o and discuss what you want in that relationship.
You need to listen to her points too it isn't about you alone.

The woman has done well with her kind gesture.but I want to know how much was her salary such that she can be earning 10k monthly as pension.
Something is fishing in this report

There is a saying in Yoruba that 'you don't marry the man/lady but the family'. It is also important there is a knowledge of the family history according to the real Yoruba culture before marriage. All that we say are not applicable in our modern life anymore. In this case they are. Your brother need to know the truth. So that he won't blame anyone for whatever happen when he gets to know after the marriage. He may choose to go ahead or not with the marriage as the decision of spending the remaining of his years on earth with her is for him to make and of course not yours. Your informing him I don't think it's a revenge but a responsibility. Your parents need to inform him and too and not pretend that all is well. If they feel they have forgiven really they should be able to say without pretence.
If I may ask have you guys gone to the bride's family.

I m sure ds guy got the job straight from school he did not search for it @ all.
This is a story of a friend of mine.
He passed out from NYSC on Tuesaday and resumed for his 1st job the next Friday in an IT firm.
This guy worked for less than 2 years . He started complaining about underpayment, job welfare security etc
thinking tis easy getting another job with is little experience. He resigned.
He hustled to get contracts and do other IT sales but @ the end of the 3rd month he can only raise 40k.

Hustling can be good if u av good back up if it dosent pay off immediately @ least u 'll something to fall back on.
If ur friend does nt have a solid back up and business plan he dare not.