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Omolola1:
do u also know dat d bible says if someone hits u on d left cheek, turn 2 d oda syd and 4give 70 times 7?

do you think everyone lives by the bible ? if they did do you really they would have come to beating each other ?

Omolola1:
I can and would neva hit anyone 4 any reason

So re u guys telling me u re wife beaters?

nope

you are only reading what you want to hear

we are saying for those woman who beat man shouldnt call it foul when the man hits back

remember we have to separate violent one within a relationship whether male or female

Omolola1:
But when u walk away and restrain urself, the lady would feel very uncomfortable and would even apologize

i think that wrong

thats using someone to make realise your own mistakes, learn without using other people

why cant herself walk away if she see that this is  about to get out of hand

the problem with some women is this they cant differentiate between a man who beats his wife to shut her up  or to teach her a lesson and a man who respond to a beating from a lady

the two things are different and some women apply the same rules and ruling to those two different  scenarios

Omolola1:
Yes, it goes both ways but poo happenz! and when it does, a man should know how to restrain himself nd walk away

that will depend with the scenario, right?

Mrs.Chima:
It goes both ways. Are you happy now Zimb?

so lets not spread the message using one gender but mankid

no mankid should beat each other, like the law does, it doesnt say its fine for slim weak to beat a muscular gaint

Omolola1:
Any man that hits a woman is simply not worthy to be called a man

what about those woman who also beat man are they not worth being called a woman ?

yagbaboy1:
Nairaland pals am having what i feel might become a problem with my girlfriends sister. I get along with all my gf sisters ,Since december her elder sister has been asking me to get her a phone and she knws as a student,my means are limited.even my girlfriend understands that. I told her i will see hw tins go and thats what am still telling her,for her to understand it cant work,but she keeps disturbing me about it and am begining to get pissed off. Hav not told my Gf yet. What would u pals hav me do?

why do you have to buy the phone

tell her straight that there is no reason to buy her one even if you had the money, she aint your responsibility and you being boyfriend to her sister doesnt give her right to ask silly favours

izby:
no offence,i think u should ask your sister or mom,they are in the best position to advise u,

why would think his mum or sister can best advise him?

i think some ladies do it to easy tention within a argument  to avoid to going further eg a fight or silent treament or with holding congural rights

M M M:
old thread

say that agian

there is half truth though

successful meaning though having alots of money to spare and waste

1 some women go to such guys to have a better life i.e rent them places to stay, gives money to spend

2 some woman loves such guys hoping that she will be the first lady

3 some want to make money out of them guys eg here in UK woman who sleep with footballers sometimes sell stories to newspapers

4 some want to built a career by hanging with such people being seen with them opens doors for them

did she deserve it when it was his time ?

kufreabasi:
Can a relationship work if you're not attracted to your partner? Can you still be in love with him/her?

speak out your mind

lets dig deep did s/he became unattractive after dating for while or something else i.e why date someone you aint attracted to ? unless if you have other motives

Meldrick:
I'll sure not blame the hubby because we all might do worse. For you to see another man tapping your wife's buttocks and she just laughs over it. Abeg just leave the husband. He expressed his anger the way it came. He never knew he paid a dowry over an irresponsible woman.

i know that people express anger in different ways some break things, some drink etc

but communications is the key, say what has pissed you off and the other person will learn and know what pissed you off and then it is up to him or her to correct him/herself in the future and for yourself, find something that cool off your anger

most of the time hitting makes people submit without really learning the message being passed to him/her

MzD@rkSkin:
[color=teal]. . .and that is true but some men do NOT have a thing called restraint or believe in principle. Even if you yell and "show face" (glare) at them, they take as "the chase is on!" or that "she's a btch". Men tend to over step their boundaries and when a lady does it herself or gives in (which they [men] WANT), she is type casted. I don't want to turn into "super femme" here but there definitely is a hint of double 'standard-ness' on this thread. On one hand (this entire romance section) we've got guys talking about women's parts like pieces of KFC meat, (granted most of these clowns are the guy who is grabbing the arse) and on the other, (this and other 'beat btches' thread) we've got these SAME men who are "disgusted" with the lady and not the guy, (who nobody seems to inquire to know if[b] he[/b] knew she was married) claiming she deserves such treatment.

All I am saying is, she was wrong for laughing and joking but bottom line most women know the perverse mentality of a lot of MOST men and are un-phased and others react in extreme/passive ways but regardless, it still doesn't give the man a right to beat her. She was wrong, her coworker was wrong, but her husband is worse for beating her. I bet he didn't have the cojones to step to her coworker. . .another man. [/color]

i get you the reason i went deep was this, i wanted to separate who was wrong according to behaviour like you said some men who still do it whether the woman has told him to stop in such case we know that the guy is a nutter, in this case the woman smiled and child played with him meaning both are wrong

as for the hubby well there is no justification to whop the lady

ebila:
Gud 4 u den!

the good is not for me but for other people, to view it from a human point of view than from a gender one

ebila:
Shoot suit urself!

cant you see i already did

ebila:
Yes ma'am!
D thread focused on a gender,educated pple r aware of dat!

yes it is but we cant turn blind to the other side

ebila:
Woh's d diff btw slap n hit?
Open a thread n ask your own,na my own i ask!

no need to

we can deal with both genders in this thread

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konyenyamb:
uninstalled internet manager but each time i try to install the new one i get a message that internet download manager is existing,pls y

you can use this

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or

delete any traces from registry

enamaye:
pls how can i get d drivers. Thanks for your concern. I use ACER LAPTOP.

people sometimes you should think

its an acer so you go to an acer website

http://www.acer.co.uk/ac/en/GB/content/drivers

why it has to be women only

ask a balanced question which include both genders

iz2much:
Ahmed were charged to court for conduct likely to breach the peace under section 451 of the criminal code cap 17 vol 2 laws of Lagos state of Nigeria.

Part of the charge reads:”that you Bisi Bello and Ahmed Tijani on the same date, time and place did conduct yourselves in a manner likely to cause breach of peace by having sex in the room of Luke Bello husband of Bisi Bello”



SOURCE : PMNEWSNIGERIA.COM

this is so funny how can you break peace in private ? this wasnt in public


the case should be the hubby suing the guy

D-sense:
Still a lady and deserve respects.
Not all but such an act deserves a punishement . . .She might end being a wife so if this kinda act continue without being punished,It will definitely affect the relationship.
When i mentioned punishements i didn't mean beating . . .But others like Ignoring her/spend days outdoor/Not eating the food she prepared/Not paying any attention to her when indoor and others.

i think thats being childish, talk of your disappointment than playing child game ignoring not eat etc

that not communication

MzD@rkSkin:
[color=teal]Amen.  
[/color]

[color=teal]that is not necessarily true. I am a very reserved and "to myself" type of lady. I do not flirt with men or have s3xual relations with any and everybody, yet I have been in situations in school, work and general public, where men have touched me, yes TOUCHED ME followed by s3xual (in nature) remarks. Some men are unruly. As I've stated before, I do not smile with these men. I curse them out and be on my way, she didn't. Instead she chose to giggle (IF SHE REALLY DID) and chase the guy around but if her man wanted to curse her out, so be it. But BEAT HER?  come on now. African tradition or no (although I doubt it is), right is right and wrong is wrong.[/color]

i would say though you say you are reserved may be those guys saw something else or they wanted to test your reserveness

through your reaction guys will see if you are no nonesense lady or there are bum beat

MzD@rkSkin:
[color=teal]your friend (hopefully its not you) is a REAL PIG! Why would he beat her for that? wtf is that? did she grab the guy's hand and place it there? sure she should have told him off, I would, but she didn't and yeah she even smiled but that is not enough reason for some big crusty bumboclot man to hit a woman. I despise woman beaters![/color]

[color=teal]you are a real a$shole. [/color]

though i dont agree with hitting

i got an issue with the lady people treat you by the way you conduct yourself to them, if you respect yourself, the people around will respect you

though the woman didnt put the hand on herself what gave the guy the guts to hit her bum ? even in club guys dont just hit your bum they see your attitude and the way your handle yourself with other people around you

D-sense:
I agree with you,But still it all falls on the type of the wifes,Do you trust her ''I know you shouldn't trust anyone,But you have some certain feelings that you can interpret as trustness'' right!!!
Even you don't trust your wife or you would like to act against the accidence,I THINK IT SHOULDN'T BE IN THE PUBLIC and so indelicately.Cause to me,The guy also embarrassed himself brutalizing his wife publicly,However he still did it on getting home which is just too much . . . .Sometimes we need to free them a lil bit though not to that extent but,I know you undrstand kinda freedom i'm talking bout.
So to me i would treat the case according to my wife's attitude and behaviour .  .I fshe's the type,then i will have to deal with the case on getting home,And if she's not,I will still ave to warn her over it.

i get you man picture this he, gives her the freedom she wants and he expect her to act like a married woman, since he expect her to ACT like married woman may be he had the trust on her that he didnt give her the DOs & DONTs of acting like married woman

he didnt need to impose rules to her  like child, he treated her like an adult and he expected her to act like one and also like a married woman so with the scenario i think the brother was pissed that he only thought of hitting her WHICH IS WRONG THOUGH

bhusayor:
Oh,now i understand you,case closed!

dont read between two lines

my 1st respond was on hitting, then i went to give my thoughts on what might have gone through the guy's mind

koolchicco:
Now that's some worrying thoughts.

those are thoughts that might have gone through the guy's mind and it might have drove him to hit her though i aint defending his actions

justwise:
Agree on what?

lets leave it then if you aint following our conversation