fightforchange1:

Huh??
R u serious?
Lmao.

shymexx:

Lmao...you're obviously a troll. I know naija women wear a trad called, "wrapper" - but "woman wrapper" is definitely a new one. So, you mean I wrap myself around women, no? Well, I'm not gay - I do this thing whenever I need to. You mad, bro?

It's a woman's world - and women make life. Men came from women, and women make all the rules...they just need to understand how powerful they're.

fightforchange1:

I do not exist on the same world u live in!!!

Emmalot121: You called it 'breeding' . WOMEN(proud of motherhood) are many in Nigeria,you value them not.It is when you go to USA and Australia, where they eat and drink feminism, that is when you begin to value them. Our ability to manage the RAW women we have, and make them who we want is what makes us a man.SWALLOW YOUR WORDS.

safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths.

One of the lecturers in my school aptly described women as 'a waste of education'...no, it wasn't an insult, it was just stating the obvious. You find a woman who has hustled through primary, secondary and University education. One who looked set to be a force to reckon with in the world of business or law or medicine, I mean a female with straight A's and you think Nigerian women may be getting things right, only to follow her back to her hostel and hear these heart-breaking words:

"Omo, after school na to find husband marry remain."

In the real sense of the word this is translated to:

"After school, I'll fling my degee inside one iron box in my dad's storeroom, find a perfect mugu that will put a ring on my finger, buy me a car, set up a boutique/beauty saloon for me and all I have to do to get this is spread my legs for him and push out little people with his DNA"

Nigerian women view marriage the same way hustling Nigerian men view the US Green Card- an avenue to escape life's troubles. So in the same way you find 23 year old Nigerian men marrying 56 year old American women, you find young, promising women relegated to some man's priority list.

I don't think most Nigerian women realise that nobody wants to get attached to a leech. If you allow some Nigerian women, they would even want their husbands to carry the babies and birth them as well. And when you ask why they don't want to build wealth with a man, you hear:

"I've already suffered in my father's house. I don't want to continue suffering in my husband's house"

Now unless you're getting married to a no-good leech like yourself, there is no reason why building wealth with a man should be termed 'suffering'

Even on Sun Newspaper's 'Beauty Of The Week' it's the same thing.

Future Ambition: Getting Married And Having Kids

If you think God put you on this earth to make a liability of yourself, you need to think again. There is more to life than being someone's baby mama. There is a purpose for getting an education that lies beyond being able to speak good english whenever you and your man attend social functions

Nigerian women need to sit down and re-evaluate their lives. God sent you to assist a man, not to add to his problems. Men appreciate women who can think for themselves, who want to contribute to the family (and I don't mean churning out kids). There is nothing more endearing than a smart woman who views men as companions rather than money bags.


Don't waste the education your parents worked so hard to provide for you. Break the stereotype, Nigerian women should be more than gold-digging leeches. If the likes of Oby Ezekwesili, Joke Silva, NOI can be successful career women as well as wives and mothers, then we all need to dust up our certificates and CVs and have proper future ambitions.


God Bless You...and don't take this the wrong way

sheniqua:

You see what I just alluded to
The yahoo boy is working and the girl is not
Now we know what you folks mean by working hard
I hear una

Emmalot121: .You tickle me.Women rule? Did you know that feminism is more than 'liberation.' It helps to break marrages, control population through abortion, provide enough foetus for experiment in USA (search Google) ,promote lesbianism and make marriages less desirable.If feminism were to be much needed,it would have broken out a long time ago.To butress my point, look at all feminist striken countries,who dominates the political system?Its men.Yet laws to assist women in having good divorce are in these countries .All this things are supported by big men,to break marriages,promote homosexuals, reduce population e.t.c. Shine your eyes, it is a man's world, and always will. KNOW YOUR STAND AND STOP GIVING YOURSELF UNDUE MERITS, JUST TO BE HAPPY, FEMINISM IS PROUDLY SPONSORED, THE SPONSORS NEED ONE THING; YOUR FAMILY. http://www.google.com/m?q=Rockefeller+and+feminism

niggereyez: OP... sorry but I don't totally agree wit u. if u keep the right company (no offence intended), u'll know that there are many more visionary women in our society today..
truelly, gone are those days when women are satisfied being just housewives.

Emmalot121: .You tickle me.Women rule? Did you know that feminism is more than 'liberation.' It helps to break marrages, control population through abortion, provide enough foetus for experiment in USA (search Google) ,promote lesbianism and make marriages less desirable.If feminism were to be much needed,it would have broken out a long time ago.To butress my point, look at all feminist striken countries,who dominates the political system?Its men.Yet laws to assist women in having good divorce are in these countries .All this things are supported by big men,to break marriages,promote homosexuals, reduce population e.t.c. Shine your eyes, it is a man's world, and always will. KNOW YOUR STAND AND STOP GIVING YOURSELF UNDUE MERITS, JUST TO BE HAPPY, FEMINISM IS PROUDLY SPONSORED, THE SPONSORS NEED ONE THING; YOUR FAMILY. http://www.google.com/m?q=Rockefeller+and+feminism

alexx187: .....eloquence homie.....spellcheck.....

freecocoa: No, you don't turn down a suitor and if we are being totally honest, there are women out there who have actually made a path for themselves and are excelling, so let's not make it look like there's no hope whatsoever.

Even if an ambitious woman doesn't get a job at a company or wherever, whatever happened to being your own boss or even seeking an alternative?Emphasis is on those women who wouldn't bother at all.

dejijohns: This gonna be intresting...
#spreads mat...

bayulll01:
the only thing i like about u is ur eloquent and good command of english

Lero15: If women still reason this way, then I conclude it's not a degree or Masters or Phd that enlightens one's view about life after school. It wld definitely be one's mentality and philosophy abt life.
You are what you think

MsNas: The OP is so right but also wrong on some aspects. Most Nigerian women do not have ambition, but not all. I know of a few who do have ambition ans many more who don't.

Rollback to my final year in Uni in Nigeria, one of my friends was asking me what I wanted to do when I graduate and I told her "Get a master's degree and hopefully a PhD". She was adamant and kinda annoying that day. She told me "Won't your parents ask you to bring your husband? Won't you get married? Won't you look for a husband? " I calmly told her, my parents encourage us to pursue out ambitions, so no, they won't ask me to be bringing husband of I'm not ready to. What baffled me was that we both studied Physics, a hard sciences major and I knew how hard I struggled to pass my classes and graduate, so why will I throw all the sweat and toil under the bed all on the name of looking for a suitor?

One girl always refers to me as "Prof" whenever she chats me up on Facebook simply because I'm getting an ordinary masters degree. She told me she doesn't understand why I would go back for two more years of graduate school when I could be bearing children in my husband's house

Fast forward, five years now, I'm almost done with my masters degree and hopefully will enroll for a PhD (Undecided) and my college girlfriend? Well, she has a baby and is a full time housewife. I look at her and shake my head, cos it was just a waste of five years in college. I had some friends back then whose sole purpose of coming to the Uni was to get any degree just so they can also refer to themselves as graduates. Smh.

So OP, yeah, some girls/women have no ambition but I and some of my friends do. Most of my girlfriends here are not doing masters but PhD and the ones that are not in school, work really good jobs while also having families. They had a goal and went for it. They pursued their dreams. I am pursuing mine. And yeah, I have a supporting dude.

Please dont forget to add the secretaries, sales agents, front desk officers, bank tellers as career jobs , a country where under employment is the order of the day? can a realistic person just take on this conversation because it is beginning to seem like most people here type from pluto.

What kinda jobs do Nigerian women do that qualify them as the ''career topshots'', big enough to torpedo family values? in politics we see women who have gone beyond the family age before setting out on their political ambition, how old is NOI and how old is her last child, anyone?
how old was Akunyili as a minister and how old was her last child, anyone?

Even in the political circle, how many women are there in? at least i have played around the oil industry long enough to know that women are a miscroscopic few, never mind that a project of 5,000 workers have less than 10 women, so what exactly is there for them to do? the so called career chasers?
If you are not in oil and gas, not in entertainment, soccer and politics, where is the person building the career? I am not in any way undermining any profession but my emphasis is on ''what is that big job that should take the place of family values even the ones i mentioned?''

you went for a masters degree because you had a sponsor right? news flash!! most families like mine will give you the first degree, how you get the rest is your problem, so before you bemoan your friends for not aspiring beyond their first degrees, be pragmatic enough to wear their shoes.

So if you were to be from my family, you should be trekking the streets of Ikeja to transamadi looking for a trainee job with your physics degree, prolly get an under paying 60k job, then save till you have enough for MSc abi? by the time you pay your bills and feed, you may forget you took up the job for an MSc program, now that is the reality for most of your classmates if you dont know, and yes there are trainee physicists i pay less than that as interns who desire a work experience.

Most of the so called jobs our wives abandon their families for are not worth it, that is the reality in Nigeria, perhaps I will give a british opinion like shymmex when I start operating there too

kids just mention these women as their role models but quick to forget their humble beginnings and sacrifices made to keep family and work together.
Alison madueke's last child should be in his late twenties (judging by the pics), when did she join politics? how sure are you she is even a great mum or because we see flamboyant pics of her family cruising in a private jet at the expense of Nigerian tax payers?

You guys dont get it!!

birdman: This thread and the OP is proving what we all know, that a woman's worst enemy is usually another woman

If someone decides they want to go the home maker route, what is it to you?

I have seen women hide behind this same logic to dabaru their "friends" homes. Fear women o...fear them lol

melissa429: Thank u for wakin me up,actualy nid 2 retink afta my so cald fiance pregnanted anoda gal,nid to get bizi makin moni,men ar jus a waste of tym nd resourseful tinkin

roufy235: spreads mat

kids just mention these women as their role models but quick to forget their humble beginnings and sacrifices made to keep family and work together.

chamboy: If u do a rough stat on this thread, u would see that Most Females n Males that support the Op r not in Nigeria...

safarigirl: wherever did I say "To hell with marriage and motherhood"?

You have apparently failed to grasp the message. This isn't telling women to abandon their roles as caregivers, this is telling women to develop themselves in their chosen career paths.

What if the man that's been providing for you as a woman suddenly loses interest in the marriage? I know of someone who's been left homeless after her husband kicked her and the kids out cuz he got someone else to warm his bed. Now she's begging for just 1k of feeding money cuz she failed to use her degree when she should've.

There are women trapped in frustrating marriages that can't get out because they were not empowered, because they chose to remain at home and care for their husband's kids and now the husband is treating them like trash because he knows she has no choice.

So don't make mockery of my message or twist it up. You can be a wife and a mother, but there should be more to a woman than being Mrs. Somebody

tpia1:

all the women are from rich, not poor homes.

being nigerian doesnt always automatically mean someone comes from a poor background. Majority do, but most of the VIPs do not.

jpphilips:


Please dont forget to add the secretaries, sales agents, front desk officers, bank tellers as career jobs , a country where under employment is the order of the day? can a realistic person just take on this conversation because it is beginning to seem like most people here type from pluto.


You guys dont get it!!