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Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tpia1: 3:28am On Sep 23, 2014 |
lol |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tpia1: 3:33am On Sep 23, 2014 |
jpphilips: humble beginnings dont really include trips and schooling in overseas imo. Not to mention well connected family. Sacrifices? Maybe not having so much access to nigerian food overseas or or the other hand, enduring the harsh nigerian weather when not abroad. All the aforementioned mean different things depending on social and economic status in nigeria. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by fightforchange1(f): 3:37am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Emmalot121: Then you must be a slave in the white man's land . It makes you in no way better than me,does it? Have this link http://www.google.com/m?q=Rockefeller+and+feminism No. It doesn't. I aint no slave. I aint got no college degree. But im not gonna let society define me n my role in life. As a human being its my right to know how tye world work. You wanna call someone a slave?? I aint...im free to think, learn, and live indepedently of a man. Thank u very much! |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 3:40am On Sep 23, 2014 |
I dont know where you people meet these women without ambition. Having a future ambition has nothing to do with wanting to be married. Part of every gals ambition should be to raise a beautiful home. That alone is a great ambition. Safarigirl I have followed your post for a while on nl. Does marriage give you nightmares? 7 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 4:10am On Sep 23, 2014 |
3cycle:Wit dis atitude of urs, no man wil sufer in ur hand even witout earning a dime as a wife. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tunde1200(m): 4:26am On Sep 23, 2014 |
perfect Mugu. Nicely use of english!. How I wish 70% of nija ladies adopts this life style!. Nija could have been greater than how it was!!. safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 4:27am On Sep 23, 2014 |
3cycle:3cycle, safarigirl n shoefreak....na only waka come abi? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by eduxerxes: 5:24am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Just wondering aloud All those girls that study Law, Banking, Mechanical Engineering and Engineering courses, etc... Ain't they wasting their precious time in school? I just dey ask oooo!!! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by snakebeat: 5:47am On Sep 23, 2014 |
I beg to disagree with this, the wife happens to be the breadwinner in many homes in this country. A Woman cannot focus solely on becoming successful Without thinking abt marriage, owning to the fact that time is not always on their side, a man can be at the age 50 and decide to be Single, but when a lady gets to the age of 40 and still remains single, it's seen as abnormally. Aspiring to settle with a successful partner is not limited to ladies alone, a lot of guys also hope for this. A woman yearning to get married is not because she lacks future ambition, she is just time conscious. Wealth is the crown of a man, the society still respect unmarried men, but perceive unmarried women as cursed. Getting married doesn't stop a lady from achieving her ambition, she can still go for any program, write business proposals, but focusing your life solely on making money, shows a poverty of ambition. Ladies no time!!! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Stephxoblessed(f): 6:51am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Good morning Nigeria. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by edogho(m): 6:52am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Sanchez01: This is a powerful one. Still, I believe Nigeria is also responsible for this. The women breaking barriers in Nigeria are not mostly educated here. The system is terrible and most guys have been cursed with spreading their thin legs while one ill-luck woman who couldn't find a man take them in as a sugar son. Nothing is bad in dreaming; we all did in Secondary school and most people's dream have become a wash, something long forgoteen. Hold the society responsible.and why is the society responsible? who by the way is the society? who makes up the society? for the society to change, who do u think must first change? jettison this shifting blame attitude else our children inherit the problems (and more) we've inherited from past generations. i know they'll surely curse us for that. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Emmalot121(m): 6:58am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Mondisweets: lets me get this straight u hate feminism but you are in support of their ideologies "equal labour rights of all sexes, i.e. Women should be able to work like men do." Aren't you one confused cockcroachI only said women should assist the family.If you skim through my former posts you'll find this: "Equality is not in the natural order of things, and the crusade to make everyone equal in every respect (except before the law) is certain to have disastrous consequences.—Murray Rothbard " |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Emmalot121(m): 7:03am On Sep 23, 2014 |
chidyhels: I dont know where you people meet these women without ambition.God bless you. .Marriage is the best to ever happen to mankind, every other stuffs are secondary. Some people are so poor that all they have is CAREER. 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by mrnigeria(m): 7:05am On Sep 23, 2014 |
safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths.If they like, let them take it the wrong way. All I know is, the mind set of most of these girls is very bad... What makes them different from girls that aint got no education? |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by chamboy(m): 7:30am On Sep 23, 2014 |
That shit Marriage has Brainwashed Nigerians. Mind.. it's like their total happiness ... pfft 2 Likes |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Deehvahrzz(f): 7:33am On Sep 23, 2014 |
te author=snakebeat]I beg to disagree with this, the wife happens to be the breadwinner in many homes in this country. A Woman cannot focus solely on becoming successful Without thinking abt marriage, owning to the fact that time is not always on their side, a man can be at the age 50 and decide to be Single, but when a lady gets to the age of 40 and still remains single, it's seen as abnormally. Aspiring to settle with a successful partner is not limited to ladies alone, a lot of guys also hope for this. A woman yearning to get married is not because she lacks future ambition, she is just time conscious. Wealth is the crown of a man, the society still respect unmarried men, but perceive unmarried women as cursed. Getting married doesn't stop a lady from achieving her ambition, she can still go for any program, write business proposals, but focusing your life solely on making money, shows a poverty of ambition. Ladies no time!!![/quote] Let's be honest, dis is not really true. Once u get married, d society expects u to chunk all dat aspirations down ur belly and hold d home front, help ur husband succeed, and ur kids. If we r going to be factual, a woman's life ceases when she's married. You can't do all that stuff u ve always dreamed of. Its one rotten practice if u ask me. Every time I list my life goals and put husband last, u nid to see d look I get. Society, Men do not help. Its very hard to combine career and family in Nigeria. Lets 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:38am On Sep 23, 2014 |
MsNas:your post did not do any harm ... it was only misunderstood by those fellas who have got the typical nigerian mentality. I read earlier when a lady said they needed their certificates so they could help their kids with assignments. do you need a degree certificate to do that ? a high school cert is enough isnt it ... why go to the uni ? if you can assist the kids with schookl work why do some wives still settle for house/lesson teachers. you see some housewives with nannies not that this housewives have got any other job ... and they claim to take care of the home. oh come on .... he said likes of alison and dora dabbld into poitics in the latter part of their lives , I guess he didnt check well..... they were intellectuals doing well in their carees while they were in their twenties www.nairaland.com/1898653/women-taking-lead-oil-industry 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:42am On Sep 23, 2014 |
chidyhels: I dont know where you people meet these women without ambition.when you read some women's post on NL .... you may have to think about marriage . I was on a thread where a woman said she would aid her hubbys death because he cheats on him .... this same man you married because you wanted a life ' ambition as you call it '. now tell me did she get married because she wanted a fulfill life or because she just wanted to benefit and add no value to her world because if she really wants to add value she wouldnt wish her hubby dead |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:48am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Deehvahrzz: te author=snakebeat]I beg to disagree with this, the wife happens to be the breadwinner in many homes in this country. A Woman cannot focus solely on becoming successful Without thinking abt marriage, owning to the fact that time is not always on their side, a man can be at the age 50 and decide to be Single, but when a lady gets to the age of 40 and still remains single, it's seen as abnormally. Aspiring to settle with a successful partner is not limited to ladies alone, a lot of guys also hope for this. A woman yearning to get married is not because she lacks future ambition, she is just time conscious. Wealth is the crown of a man, the society still respect unmarried men, but perceive unmarried women as cursed. Getting married doesn't stop a lady from achieving her ambition, she can still go for any program,how do you help him succeed , no your life doesn't cease .... there are people doing it. it's the thinking we have. ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART BECAUSE IT KNEW WHAT YOU WANTED FROM THE START. thats one of the ways to be successful. www.nairaland.com/1913607/10-golden-lessons-steve-jobs |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:49am On Sep 23, 2014 |
I have always been afraid of what tradition and society expects from most women. Women are seen as properties that belong to men and only few men will be genuinely happy if their wives experience more success than their husbands. This has made some women to see marriage as a trap/bondage, seeing themselves as a slave at the hands of a taskmaster. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Eneze1(f): 7:50am On Sep 23, 2014 |
samsolite: OP, the answer to your observation lies in this thread. How many ladies have contributed already to this discussion compared to the guys? I just saw this thread so painful, you basically said the truth GBAM |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:51am On Sep 23, 2014 |
chamboy: That shit Marriage has Brainwashed Nigerians. Mind.. it's like their total happiness ... pfftthats why you see them spend millions on marriages claiming it is tradition after about three years , we start hearing cases of divorce ..... can't we face the reality for once... I don't think our fore fathers exhausted their savings on getting married, they still got to the very end. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 7:52am On Sep 23, 2014 |
safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths. Nice.... Well said! 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by freecocoa(f): 8:01am On Sep 23, 2014 |
jpphilips:My bad, just saw that part, she's wrong on that, having a boutique which functions well is actually a good alternative if she couldn't get a job, but I think it's fallacy to say "no woman will like to be idle for life" as we cannot be 100% sure. I don't think paying a woman to take care of her children qualifies as a job, it's in a woman to naturally take care of her children, just like it is for a man, the fact that he works and provides for them doesn't mean he's exempted from every other aspect of their lives, my dad used to bathe and take us to school on his way to work on most days while mum prepared breakfast, did some chores and got ready for work. All I'm saying is, even while taking care of the kids, a woman can find time to develop herself, sitting down at home to take care of the kids like many would say, is not entirely a good idea, the kids will go off to school, what would she be doing then? The OP may have gotten it wrong in some parts but I still maintain that, there are women who can't be bothered and that's where I have a problem. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 8:03am On Sep 23, 2014 |
I dnt know what op is talking about cos. most women I know work, infact dis days a lot of women are breadwinners so madam get your facts right 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Nobody: 8:05am On Sep 23, 2014 |
chidyhels: I dont know where you people meet these women without ambition.She is a tomboy and I can't blame her entirely. She has a point though. I would say that my academic inkling was born when I frequented a friend's house. His mother would say : "hey 2sexy, no time for play, junior wants to do his homework, he is reading etc" I had to start emulating him and learnt to read and write because of that. Of course Junior was way ahead of me academically at that time and he often outdo do us during quiz. Thanks to his mother, who was housewife and a tailor. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by chamboy(m): 8:25am On Sep 23, 2014 |
majekdom2: thats why you see them spend millions on marriages claiming it is tradition after about three years , we start hearing cases of divorce ..... can't we face the reality for once... I don't think our for fathers exhausted their savings on getting married, they still got to the very end.most of em don't even marry for love it's mostly based on society or family pressure, Financial Gain, |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by 50calibre(m): 8:26am On Sep 23, 2014 |
shymexx: I tell ya!! Check the life expectancy for men, it's much lower than that of women, because a man toils all his life to please his family, till the day he drops dead. Life is too short to put up with a pest who can't bring some form of positivity into your life. Safarigirl sounds like a lesbian or Asexual to me, I'm confused. One minute I see her speaking of her disinterest in men & the other I see her creating threads with pics of oiled men with muscle I think she's smart but somewhat bipolar. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by chamboy(m): 8:28am On Sep 23, 2014 |
Nigerians don't like to hear the Truth, Op I support u 100%...... |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by tanidabi: 8:39am On Sep 23, 2014 |
I did not completely read this piece but I think I have a fair share of what the op is trying to say,unfortunately I completely disagree with you as this thinking rarely exists anymore,y do u think some babes will even sleep with a man to get a job if they can as well marry a rich man,yes when we were all in school we fantasised about getting married one day and having kids but the reality is the economy we leave in now makes the woman financially independent too and any woman who is still fantazing about marrying her night in shinning armour should please have a job cos woman your finances matter in the scheme of things o,infact the kind of men out there now no wan marry jobless babes o,so while you are out there dreaming plan your life,no man wants to marry a full time house wife anymore,can't even believe some people still think this way 1 Like |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Emmalot121(m): 8:42am On Sep 23, 2014 |
chamboy: That shit Marriage has Brainwashed Nigerians. Mind.. it's like their total happiness ... pfftbrainwash!!! You must be kidding. |
Re: On Nigerian Women And (lack Of) Future Ambition by Deehvahrzz(f): 8:44am On Sep 23, 2014 |
majekdom2: how do you help him succeed , no your life doesn't cease .... there are people doing it. it's the thinking we have. ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART BECAUSE IT KNEW WHAT YOU WANTED FROM THE START. thats one of the ways to be successful. Am just writing what d world expects from u. From d pereiective of a young female graduate. All I hear theses days r "its ur turn to yet married ooo." "When r u bringing our fiance" "Dont u know u r a lady"... God knows aw tired I am of these. I told my dad as soon as I submitted my project that I wasn't getting married soon and I ve things I ve to get done.He understood quite well but everyoda aproko family members including for with no stake whatever in my education feel d need to give me d Nigerian word of advice. "Ile obirin kin pe su". They expect you as a lady to put your certificate under your bed and be d woman behind d successful man. God forbid you aspiring to be the best u ve always bin spurred to be. And outshine your husbands. You ve to pick the kids from school, cook for them, ve dinner ready for d man and d bed cool so u can put it on fire after His dinner. Time and time again, I wonder why they bothered putting me through the rigors and stress of OAU. I remember one ex boyfriend telling me he couldn't cope cuz I was too independently driven. |
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