For the fact that she " nearly killed" you, please I beg u to have a rethink about this relationship. The signs are clear, she would do worse if you marry her, so start retracing your steps, because these days, LOVE IS NO MORE BLIND.

I rest my case.

When will I ever meet this kind of bf

Ladylaura93:
To the girl who said I have fowl reasoning, lol , your boyfriend was earning 600k and you were not seeing it. How unfortunate. Where is he now? Are you married to him? A man puts his money where his happiness is. Do you think a girl has to ask a guy for anything if he reall loves her and values her and can afford it? That is what responsibility is, spoil your girl and still invest. I was raised to believe a man will build a house, make money, spoil his wife and take a taxi if his wife needs to use the car to get to work. I thank God i have only attracted men who share same ideology.
If a man does not take care of you when you are dating how will he take care if you if you marry him?

You just keep contradicting yourself.

adrainuche:


She feels since am not around and as long as we are dating I have to finicially assist her ...

Dude, I don't mean to put a wedge between you 2 but she is using you. You are too young to have such a responsibility. it's too much. You not her dad.

smvinreal:
If you up to the task i don't see anything bad in that

What? Even if he is up to the task, it's obvious she is taking advantage of him. 30k from a 23yr old... he is too young to bear that and he should not feel obligated to do so. Geez

adrainuche:


She hsnt asked me too buy her wrapper I occasionally buy her gifts on mothers day ...

This person must be from d planet of fools, u dey give ur g.f salary yet ur Mama u dey buy her wrapper 4 Mother's day(one's in a Year). I dey suspect say u don do one bad deal 4 dat girl face dats y u dey give am salary.

adrainuche:


What as. That got to do...

"Computer geek" : are u a yahoo boy?
"Stays in malaysia" : home of yahoo boyz

snazzy5050:

"Computer geek" : are u a yahoo boy?
"Stays in malaysia" : home of yahoo boyz

Comp sci major .... And how is DAT even any of ur business

adrainuche:


Comp sci major .... And how is DAT even any of ur business

Sorry o

chidyhels:
When will I ever meet this kind of bf

Hahaha! Try me nah!

CecyAdrian:

You just keep contradicting yourself.

Kindly highlight where k contradicted myself.

She's M.A.D. Monthly salary? guy you try oooo. Please do me a favour and dump her f*cking ass in the lagoon. She should go and find a job to do that'll earn her money.

Ipledge:
so what is ur reason for giving her pension without working for u

she's working in bed. pls advice that guy to stop paying salary. If he wants to help her, then he can do it without the salary stuff

adrainuche:


Boss one kil me with laugh ooo I am serious with my books ooo... Dnt mind me this girl issue is just disturbing me sha...

Lol. Enjoy ursef. U ve already got loads of advice, make up ur mind and do what u tink is right. Shallom!

jmoore:
Remember to give her pension if she breaks up with you.

hahaha. PUNCHLINE!

chidyhels:
When will I ever meet this kind of bf

Lol

legatto:
This person must be from d planet of fools, u dey give ur g.f salary yet ur Mama u dey buy her wrapper 4 Mother's day(one's in a Year). I dey suspect say u don do one bad deal 4 dat girl face dats y u dey give am salary.

NO SIR SHE DOES NEED FINICIAL ASSISTANCE I TOUGHT AS MUCH

oshyno:
@OP bcuznof this your question I had to go check your profile and eventually stumbled on this tread of urs. https://www.nairaland.com/2147628/how-broke-up-valentines-day

You said u broke up with her on vals day. Just want to know have u reconciled with her cuz it seems ur talking about same girl here. U even paid their rent. Dude uv been shouldering their responsibility since God knows wen. Looking even at her attitude towards anytin finance, guy u dont deserve such girl. Infact both of u dont deserve each oda cuz believe me the girl is still hanging in there bcuz of d money.

People help each oda. I do dat too to my girl but d moment my girl tried to get furious with me bcuz she needed moni badly and I wasnt giving her I placed her where she belonged. She apologized profusely and all got settled. Since den she cant even open her mouth and even beg me moni. I wud be d one to be like ok dis babe is in bad state financially leme lend a helping hand. And she will be thanking me even a week after.Shez now struggling to make somtin out of her life too which am helping her instead of being a leach.

Plz stop. take a stock and ask if this is leading anywhere. Or better still if d girl in question is appreciative or does she feel like is her entitlement.
If ur doing it bcuz u want to help a poor family,God will reward u but : 1-U must not expect anytin in return in terms of sex.2- the girl and the family must not put that on ur shoulder cuz for crying out loud ur a student which invarianly makes u dependent on ur parents. 3-the girl must be grateful and not see it as her due.

But for the girl sef to call u a fool on vals day speaks volume. use ur tongue to count ur teeth .

THANKX ALOT SIR ... ITS D SAME GIRL

12month:
That same girl he is trying to keep happy, another guy dey fvck am for naija

Hahaha naija girls I hail thee

Lol thankx for ur contribution..

ricki:
Ok settle down everyone, am in a similar situation minus the mandate.


I don't give a toss if anoda dude is stretching it; cause it does need widening a little though . In my case, I actually saw with my own 2 eyes how she suffering and roughing it in school while I went to visit her. I have to be generous to her for simple reasons beside those mentioned above....


A. She was a good girl wen I forced my way through the tunnel and this happened in her final year at school. No mugurism here o

B. I tricked her one day dat I ran out of money (she didn't speak to me for three days in the same house and I realised dat I didn't bath much within dos days contributed to her closing chop on me). So I can't really tell if it was the money trick or not.... During this time we were both counting thousands upon upon of naira for payment to workers on my building site and I just drop it in to make sure that it's not the money.

C. She is very interesting girl rude nasty - just the way I like it and I like her for dos natural talent

D. I just can't bear her crying and nagging cause she might get used to it. Not good for me later.


E. I really really like her and I know she loves me. Doing introduction this July.


Enough about me Oga OP you are not alone in this kind of situation some people just have it better or worst than others. From ur own words it seemed it bothers you and/or something is bothering u for u to come on to niranland to tabled this issue. Sorry for all all the insults left and right, jungle justice is no fun. You mentioned that u invited that same girl to this forum for what exactly? Vindication?

I hope to hear her side of the story too and hopefully she can gather enough courage to show up.

Laters

Thankx I just brought her here so she would know they aren't a lot of people doing what I would do incase she starts feeling herself ..

AncientJerk:
OP my boy, you know there are some lessons that simply have got to be learned the hard way? this is one of them.... why did you come to Nairaland for advice concerning this? it shows that deep within you, you are not comfortable with this odd and unreasonable arrangement, yet you are busy thanking people who give you advice to the contrary. well, you are still young so ma nigga, do yo thing, ride on but ask yourself if you think this is a tale you would be proud to tell your kids of in the future?

at 23 ur already pushing 30 so you better start seeing the bigger picture.

Any opinion suggested is good for me whether it is bad or good ...

adrainuche:


She feels since am not around and as long as we are dating I have to finicially assist her ...

at 23yrs old, you seem.to be so naive abt r/ship.

She does not love you, if she is from a rich home, why then does she need 30k from you?


Your so called gf is sleeping with another guy. The money you are sending is for the guy's upkeep.

HoseaAudu:


at 23yrs old, you seem.to be so naive abt r/ship.

She does not love you, if she is from a rich home, why then does she need 30k from you?


Your so called gf is sleeping with another guy. The money you are sending is for the guy's upkeep.

Point noted thankx

We know your type

smvinreal:
If you up to the task i don't see anything bad in that

adrainuche:


NO SIR SHE DOES NEED FINICIAL ASSISTANCE I TOUGHT AS MUCH

In as much as I will believe she needs assistance not on the basis of taken up a responsibility that is not yet urs, the truth of the matter is dat sometimes when u are broke ursef and she ask 4 money and u didn't gv her she will never believe u. I understand what it means to help ur g.f in need but it has to be done with caution. Most ladies are pretenders, she takes money from u and also gv to her other boyfriend whom she also thinks need help.

chidyhels:
When will I ever meet this kind of bf

Lol abeg nor use laugh kill me , guys like me are out there...

adrainuche:


Lol abeg nor use laugh kill me , guys like me are out there...

Guy u re just a kid with an immature thinking. Older people feel irritated reading this post if u don't know. I bet u in less dan a year time,dix same thread u opened will be d most irritating article u will ever want to read.

johnson157:

Guy u re just a kid with an immature thinking. Older people feel irritated reading this post if u don't know. I bet u in less dan a year time,dix same thread u opened will be d most irritating article u will ever want to read.

NOR VEX WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES ... AT LEAST I AM HUMAN ...

Ladylaura93:

Do you think your wife would have married you if you were not taking care of her , even financially, if you could afford it? Now if she grew / growing with you she has my respect and I wish you a happy home. But if u were established, no wise woman will marry a STINGY man.

ahah,well if my gf asks me for T fare back home then or asked for a recharge card at our first or second date then relationship dead , as girls do not like broke guys so do modern guys do not like broke girls.My advise for single young people of today, upgrade yourself so you can get into positions to receive grace and luck,that way the right partner would swing your way.That issue of STINGINESS in relationship is a myth,why ask for something you cannot afford to give in the first instance?A refusal to such demands is greeted with the reaction of the name calling STINGY man

erico2k2:

ahah,well if my gf asks me for T fare back home then or asked for a recharge card at our first or second date then relationship dead , as girls do not like broke guys so do modern guys do not like broke girls.My advise for single young people of today, upgrade yourself so you can get into positions to receive grace and luck,that way the right partner would swing your way.That issue of STINGINESS in relationship is a myth,why ask for something you cannot afford to give in the first instance?A refusal to such demands is greeted with the reaction of the name calling STINGY man

lol nice one, i will say sorry i don't date broke girls....

pcguru1:


lol nice one, i will say sorry i don't date broke girls....

If them blow your eye, I nor dey oh In other news Egg get expiring date o hh