anonimi:


Re-populating the world with children brought up by both parents.

olowoba:
This is a source of concern. I write for a few friends of mine - hardworking and nice guys (30+ years) working in various reputable firms in Nigeria. But 3, 4, 5 years after, they are still searching for the lady of their heart desires. I also notice the trend everywhere I go.

Just as we complain about the growing number of unmarried ladies, I'm also worried abt the growing number of unmarried, comfortable men who are over 30 years.

A case in study is a popular friend of mine who has been working in the oil sector for more than 5 years. He clocks 33 this year. He still remains unmarried. He says he is still searching. I can count more than 10 of my friends - comfortable, hale and healthy, gainfully employed but single after working for more than 5 years..What can be the cause?
Are ladies getting scarce, or is it that there are few "wife materials" in town now? or are they simply afraid of making commitment?

ITbomb:
The more girls you Bleep, the more you think girls are whoress and the more difficult you can trust a girl to be decent.

Other times the ones that are passing in our faces are the confident runs girls, the decent ones are locked up in a room somewhere and very anti social. Such ones are only gotten through recommendation by someone you never thought was noticing her.

dlux:
Who wants to commit to the kind of ladies we have in the society today? 90 percent of them won't add value to your life. Deduct from your account & think fucking u is a huge favor when they give it to a higher bidder anyway. How many babes will visit their bf house & cook with their money, do his laundry or fall in love with a broke guy with prospects? Shey after we hammer them think say we go easily forget? Many are called but few are chosen. Most of these ladies have slept with married men, random dating & seek refuge where they did not invest. Yes men disappoint but your best bet on getting a husband is building a relationship & being submissive. Invest your time & make a few sacrifice if the guy is nice. I no say make u sponsor am ooo.

anonimi:


Re-populating the world with children brought up by both parents.

ITbomb:
The more girls you Bleep, the more you think girls are whoress and the more difficult you can trust a girl to be decent.

Other times the ones that are passing in our faces are the confident runs girls, the decent ones are locked up in a room somewhere and very anti social. Such ones are only gotten through recommendation by someone you never thought was noticing her.

olowoba:
This is a source of concern. I write for a few friends of mine - hardworking and nice guys (30+ years) working in various reputable firms in Nigeria. But 3, 4, 5 years after, they are still searching for the lady of their heart desires. I also notice the trend everywhere I go.

Just as we complain about the growing number of unmarried ladies, I'm also worried abt the growing number of unmarried, comfortable men who are over 30 years.

A case in study is a popular friend of mine who has been working in the oil sector for more than 5 years. He clocks 33 this year. He still remains unmarried. He says he is still searching. I can count more than 10 of my friends - comfortable, hale and healthy, gainfully employed but single after working for more than 5 years..What can be the cause?
Are ladies getting scarce, or is it that there are few "wife materials" in town now? or are they simply afraid of making commitment?

Jollyjoy:
Why will responsible and mature guys want to marry when ladies has lost their value by giving their assesst to the highest bidder..
Beside who want to purchase wat he can easily borrow,

the fact is that majority of those decent girls are anti social now tell me who want to marry such a lady?

With rampant cases of divorce here and there no body want to settle than because marriage is now endured instead of enjoyed,,, before those ladies finally want to settle down, they might have been in their late 20 or early 30. And maybe those responsible men would want to marry early 20s.

Now tell me why a wife material would nt be difficlt to find..

Orikinla:
I feel for the majority of younger men in Nigeria today who cannot afford a decent accommodation even though they are working and well paid by local standards.
In the early 1980s, at 18, I was already earning N400 monthly and that was a big income then, because return ticket to UK was only N300.
I could afford a two bedroom flat, a small car and even take care of a wife and two children. Nigeria was a better and safer country then for young men and women. Young graduates in the 1980s did not suffer what the present graduates are suffering now in poverty.

Orikinla:
[size=18pt]The best a salary earner can be in Nigeria is comfortable.
No salary earner can be rich in Nigeria, except he or she is doing sharp practices or moonlighting.

When the annual school fees of a child in a very good private school in Nigeria is almost N1 million.
House rent in a decent and safe location is from N1.2 million a year.
So, before a young man earning more than N500, 000 monthly salary can marry, he must consider how to secure the future of his family.[/size]

IamLEGEND1:




ANTI-SOCIAL


who wan marry dat kind babe ?

Truckpusher:
You're right but people shouldn't be scrutinized for making a choice after all it's all about personal commitment and not always what the society wants.

masterchi:
problem is the girls dont want to work and the guyz dont want them to reap where they did not sow.

ivyT:



guy i wonder sef o

dats how d broke ones talk cos them never c fine babe for their life

Alikote:
The rate single girls bleep this days is alarming I cant even differentiate them from whores.my married oil and gas worker friend was,permantly bleeping on law,student from owerri depsite her knowing he will not marry her he is hausa she is igbo and look decent I keep wondering one unlucky guy will end up marrying her .women are weird

Florblu:
Most guys/men don't know exactly what they want,so they end up choosing d wrong lady and later drop them.
Your outlook, money or position doesn't guarantee u a good wife,PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

anonimi:


I am not really scrutinising individual choice per se but simply placing the individual within the context of his immediate society, which defines him in his relation with individuals from other societies.

If a well dressed guy shows up at your villa gate on aSunday afternoon and informs your gateman tbat he is from Ajegunle/Ijora Badia or some other ghetto in your city, the meiguard would most probably tell him you are not at home or you are resting and instructed that you not be disturbed.

If a simply dressed person shows up and says he is from a posh neighbourhood like Banana Island/ VI/Ikoyi, will the meiguard give the same response

We are constantly profiled against our background hence we as individuals should ensure our background/society is better and compares favourably with others.

lilmax:
Worthless women

dlux:
Who wants to commit to the kind of ladies we have in the society today? 90 percent of them won't add value to your life. Deduct from your account & think fucking u is a huge favor when they give it to a higher bidder anyway. How many babes will visit their bf house & cook with their money, do his laundry or fall in love with a broke guy with prospects? Shey after we hammer them think say we go easily forget? Many are called but few are chosen. Most of these ladies have slept with married men, random dating & seek refuge where they did not invest. Yes men disappoint but your best bet on getting a husband is building a relationship & being submissive. Invest your time & make a few sacrifice if the guy is nice. I no say make u sponsor am ooo.

olowoba:
This is a source of concern. I write for a few friends of mine - hardworking and nice guys (30+ years) working in various reputable firms in Nigeria. But 3, 4, 5 years after, they are still searching for the lady of their heart desires. I also notice the trend everywhere I go.

Just as we complain about the growing number of unmarried ladies, I'm also worried abt the growing number of unmarried, comfortable men who are over 30 years.

A case in study is a popular friend of mine who has been working in the oil sector for more than 5 years. He clocks 33 this year. He still remains unmarried. He says he is still searching. I can count more than 10 of my friends - comfortable, hale and healthy, gainfully employed but single after working for more than 5 years..What can be the cause?
Are ladies getting scarce, or is it that there are few "wife materials" in town now? or are they simply afraid of making commitment?

Truckpusher:
By doing that you unconsciously allow the society to decide for you on what is morally right and what's morally wrong.

anonimi:


The society has always done that albeit in a dynamic, constantly evolving way.

Just as an example, gays are gradually accepted as right in the Western world unlike some 40 years ago.