oyinda.:

lol. she's a bad girl. skipping work to chill at friend's house.  
but isn't it funny that the bf wasn't concerned about the bills and his gf getting fired.
all he was concerned about was the gender of the friend. lol talk about trivial.

Is this girl for real?  

C2H5OH:

To be honest, you are actually the one speculating.  You are hell bent on the idea that this guy is a control freak, but you can't even support the claim.  You keep waiting for some miracle post to surface from the girl to back you up.  I reply based solely on what we presently have to work with.

dont mind big bumper . . . that's the problem with nigerians. They form an opinion and they doggedly stick to it no matter how baseless it sounds.

We should draw our conclusions based on the physical evidence presented to us (poster's post) and not from assumptions.

Some of you would make great lawyers  

iyalode you are wrong, go thru all her threads you will see where she said, hes never asked her who shes with before

all the guy did was ask a simple question

a question i ask my man smtimes, and a question he asks me too, if you are not hiding anything why not tell the truth

Ki olorun ko gba wa l'owo gbogbo awon Beijing conference ladies yi o!

.amebo no1:

iyalode you are wrong, go thru all her threads you will see where she said, hes never asked her who shes with before

all the guy did was ask a simple question

a question i ask my man smtimes, and a question he asks me too, if you are not hiding anything why not tell the truth

Tell them

ibkaye:

We should draw our conclusions based on the physical evidence presented to us (poster's post) and not from assumptions.

Some of you would make great lawyers  

no i think they'd make greater clowns. I cant imagine them being lawyers, they'd be torn to shreds by any shrewd prosecutor. Staking claims with no hard evidence?

C2H5OH:

Contrary to what you actually think, the girl herself said that was the first time her boyfriend had called to inquire about what she was doing.

Oyinda isnt speaking based on facts . . . remember that.

oyinda.:

lol. she's a bad girl. skipping work to chill at friend's house.  
but isn't it funny that the bf wasn't concerned about the bills and his gf getting fired.
all he was concerned about was the gender of the friend. lol talk about trivial.

LOLOL This girl is not serious o     .  Where is your brain?
If my girlfriend is not at work (where she is supposed to be) I would want to know who she was with or what she was doing.  Is that so difficult to comprehend?

mandycini:

. . . he asked where i was i said i was with a friend,and he asked could he know my friends name ,i found myself cutting the call,he called severally i kept busying the call,

She found herself cutting the call means this is something she has never done before but could not help as she had been pushed to the wall by him and had had enough.

mandycini:

somehow i felt uncomfortable telling him my friends name while my friend was there and knowing fully well that he wouldnt let go untill i told him whom i was with  

This is the internet where her identity is safe so she had no reason to lie and would have said she was cheating if she was, but she did not say that, instead she said she was UNCOMFORTABLE, and my question is WHY? If not that she was tired of the dude falsely accusing her of what she has not done.

mandycini:

and knowing him,he could possibly ask to speak with the person, am not doing anything with these guy i was with he was just a friend,

KNOWING HIM, hmmn what does she know about him that she is not telling us yet

mandycini:

At big bumper he has never asked me to put them on phone,he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first, i just had the feelings he might cos he had been talking on the issue

Which kain yeye feeling, you were so sure in your first post na, Girl stop covering up for him and tell us where it really hurts so that we will know how to tackle this for you.

C2H5OH:

LOLOL This girl is not serious o     .  Where is your brain?
If my girlfriend is not at work (where she is supposed to be) I would want to know who she was with or what she was doing.  Is that so difficult to comprehend?

yes, it means i'm being concerned with trivial things and being possessive.

Contrary to what you actually think, the girl herself said that was the first time her boyfriend had called to inquire about what she was doing.

right she said it in a private interview you conducted with her in your bedroom at 8am in the early morning.
we need transcripts pls. mtcheww  

oyinda.:

right she said it in a private interview you conducted with her in your bedroom at 8am in the early morning.
we need transcripts pls. mtcheww  

daft. The girl mentioned it on page 1. Perhaps you truly havent been reading her posts.
I even remember posting an excerpt earlier.

davidylan:

Oyinda isnt speaking based on facts . . . remember that.

Oops I almost forgot she posts first and reads later.

mandycini:

At big bumper he has never asked me to put them on phone,he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first, i just had the feelings he might cos he had been talking on the issue,his main argument was that i should be careful cos of my inexperience people may make me do what i do not want to do, and it makes absolute sense cos i have experienced it,

this was the first time for heavens sake

this is simply a case of a young teen feeling funky cos she gets to see men asking her out, a case of her young girl feeling she knows it all but in the real sense is dumb, being submissive isnt in her dictionary cos she feels shes arrived
i honestly pray the man gets a better lady, men are not fools, the process of marriage starts
in a relationship, if the woman isnt submissive or wants to leave a life of her own, the dude is out




BTW iyalode stop making up things, stop adding story to the story

davidylan:

daft. The girl mentioned it on page 1. Perhaps you truly havent been reading her posts.

goat. she never mentioned such garbage. you need to schedule an appointment with your optometrist asap. your eyes are failing you

big_bumper:

She found herself cutting the call means this is something she has never done before but could not help as she had been pushed to the wall by him and had had enough.

That is your own opinion . . . she never said that. She cut the call because she knew what she was doing was wrong, she kept hammering endlessly on the fact that she had been careless when it came to her relationship and her bf had warned her repeatedly. She knew this time her bf wouldnt take this lightly . . .

had enough of what exactly?

big_bumper:

This is the internet where her identity is safe so she had no reason to lie and would have said she was cheating if she was, but she did not say that, instead she said she was UNCOMFORTABLE, and my question is WHY? If not that she was tired of the dude falsely accusing her of what she has not done.

If you were . . . would you not be uncomfortable? you LIED to your bf that you were at work only to go "chilling" with another man . . . would you comfortably say this to your bf?

big_bumper:

KNOWING HIM, hmmn what does she know about him that she is not telling us yet

I guess she knew he was the serious type you expected her to take her commitments to their relationship more seriously.

Oyinda, it would really do you some justice to read well before you post.  
As someone mentioned, there are different versions of the story.  She left out minor details in one version, that are present in another.

he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first

.amebo no1:

this was the first time for heavens sake

this is simply a case of a young teen feeling funky cos she gets to see men asking her out, a case of her young girl feeling she knows it all but in the real sense is dumb, being submissive isnt in her dictionary cos she feels shes arrived
i honestly pray the man gets a better lady, men are not fools, the process of marriage starts
in a relationship, if the woman isnt submissive or wants to leave a life of her own, the dude is out




BTW iyalode stop making up things, stop adding story to the story

God bless you
I think iyalode is being sarcastic

.amebo no1:

iyalode you are wrong, go thru all her threads you will see where she said, hes never asked her who shes with before

all the guy did was ask a simple question

a question i ask my man smtimes, and a question he asks me too, if you are not hiding anything why not tell the truth

So why was she UNCOMFORTABLE THEN

It is either because she is cheating or because she is scared of him, simple.

NOW judging from her story which unhelpfully keeps changing every minute, and the fact that another girl is in the picture, and her thread title which is that she wants him back, which of these 2 aforementioned option is true of the OP?

oyinda.:

goat. she never mentioned such garbage. you need to schedule an appointment with your optometrist asap. your eyes are failing you

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=275559.msg3911775#msg3911775

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See why i called you daft earlier on? It wasnt an insult dear.

I don't think I'll take it easy with a bf that leaves work to "chill" with a girl. And you even failed to pick up his calls after that? Personally, the bf is finished.

From the post, you already had trust issues, why pour kerosene in the fire?

You asked for advice, well you just have to beg, that's all.

big_bumper:

So why was she UNCOMFORTABLE THEN

It is either because she is cheating or because she is scared of him, simple.

NOW judging from her story which unhelpfully keeps changing every minute, and the fact that another girl is in the picture, and her thread title which is that she wants him back, which of these 2 aforementioned option is true of the OP?

Its because she is cheating

stillwater:

I don't think I'll take it easy with a bf that leaves work to "chill" with a girl. And you even failed to pick up his calls after that? Personally, the bf is finished.

From the post, you already had trust issues, why pour kerosene in the fire?

You asked for advice, well you just have to beg, that's all.

thank you . . . dont mind the hypocrites here.

If you were . . . would you not be uncomfortable? you LIED to your bf that you were at work only to go "chilling" with another man . . . would you comfortably say this to your bf?

what are you saying? she is more comfortable telling the truth than the lie? She seem to be more comfortable telling the lie in my opinion.
I would be more comfortable telling the lie. I don't want him to send hired killers to me at night just because I told him i'm chilling at my cousin's house , but he happens to be MALE. lol
guys like that deserve lies. imagine youself as hitler's wife now. would you be comfortable telling hitler the truth?

big_bumper:

So why was she UNCOMFORTABLE THEN

It is either because she is cheating or because she is scared of him, simple.

NOW judging from her story which unhelpfully keeps changing every minute, and the fact that another girl is in the picture, and her thread title which is that she wants him back, which of these 2 aforementioned option is true of the OP?

then i take d cheating part, read her post iyalode, dont put words in her mouth, that was d first time the guy asked her a question. the first bleeping tme

whats wrong with saying 'i am with peter james or john'  the girl has always had issues with her pride

so she has to sheeshh

tope5000:

God bless you
I think iyalode is being sarcastic

LOL I agree. Iyalode is a silly gal

tope5000:

God bless you
I think iyalode is being sarcastic

Tope2000, you too saw something for you to suggest back then that the guy was insecure na,

Oh I get it, oya don't worry i will make sure you have Sharon all to yourself tonight without that interfering intruder Sister Amebo who is always turning up unannounced and at the wrong time, you have my word

Now put on your thinking cap again and think back to what it was that made you come to that conclusion that the dude was insecure

stillwater:

I don't think I'll take it easy with a bf that leaves work to "chill" with a girl. And you even failed to pick up his calls after that? Personally, the bf is finished.

From the post, you already had trust issues, why pour kerosene in the fire?

You asked for advice, well you just have to beg, that's all.

Finally we have ppl that are saying some sense here

Its because she is cheating

tope, how do you know? she said she wasn't cheating. she was chilling. lol
don't twist her words now.

tope5000:

Finally we have ppl that are saying some sense here

beside you of course. you're the most sensible person on the forum. those ppl only come second after you

oyinda.:

tope, how do you know? she said she wasn't cheating. she was chilling. lol
don't twist her words now.

you've been doing that all night  

How do you expect the bf to understand the meaning of "chilling" when she claimed to be at work?

I posted the facts and i see you have suddenly lost interest in responding to the boldfaced lie you told earlier?

big_bumper:


Tope2000, you too saw something for you to suggest back then that the guy was insecure na,

True but my own agrument is still . . . the girl must have caused that insecurities

Oh I get it, oya don't worry i will make sure you have Sharon all to yourself tonight without that interfering intruder Sister Amebo who is always turning up unannounced and at the wrong time, you have my word

Now put on your thinking cap again and think back to what it was that made you come to that conclusion that the dude was insecure

Lol . . . .sauron never wanted u two



so hands off

oyinda.:

what are you saying? she is more comfortable telling the truth than the lie? She seem to be more comfortable telling the lie in my opinion.
I would be more comfortable telling the lie. I don't want him to send hired killers to me at night just because I told him i'm chilling at my cousin's house , but he happens to be MALE. lol
guys like that deserve lies. imagine youself as hitler's wife now. would you be comfortable telling hitler the truth?

Halt! I absolutely disagree.  Marriage-bound relationships are not to be taken lightly.    Where is the integrity? If you do not respect yourself, your man, and your relationship, you do not deserve to be taken seriously.  If your kind prefers to get into relationships filled with lies and coverups at least let the guy know so he can stop wasting his time with your childish games.


p.s. it wasn't her cousin.