tosyne2much:
Yes you're very much on point.. Most of them are living in their europhia of fairytales and the Nollywood movies they watch

The truth is, marriage is not as smooth as these Nairaland ladies watch in movies.. Ladies who are able to tolerate poo are actually the ones enjoying their marriage.. All these ones shouting "I don't take nonsense from any man" will only end up in miserable marriages

That was how a lady was telling me last month that she wouldn't take poo from her mother-in-law nor sisters-in-law when she marries, and that she will give them hot any time any day.. I just looked at her and shook my head at her ignorance

kimbra:
You still arrived at my point. You men should know there's a limit to anything one could tolerate.

tosyne2much:
Yes you're very much on point.. Most of them are living in the europhia of fairytales and the Nollywood/ Phillipines movies they watch

The truth is, marriage is not as smooth as these Nairaland ladies watch in movies.. Ladies who are able to tolerate poo are actually the ones enjoying their marriage.. All these ones shouting "I don't take nonsense from any man" will only end up in miserable marriages

That was how a lady was telling me last month that she wouldn't take poo from her mother-in-law nor sisters-in-law when she marries, and that she will give them hot any time any day.. I just looked at her and shook my head at her ignorance

Mizk:
what you sow you shall reap, i pray you also marry a wife who'd not only cheat but flaunt it to your very face, and guess what, i expect you to be quiet about it and act like its normal, and your family will be a very happy family

Nogodye:




can this be true? let hear from the horse mouth... Lawlahdey!

sirusX:

I wouldn't say the focus is on men, but rather the thought of cheating by any partner.

True, there is a limit, but where do you draw the line?

Is love enough to keep you holding on...just a little bit longer, hoping things would change?

I do believe cheating by any person is more about not being content

It's one thing to willingly cheat, and another to get attracted to someone and then desire

Even those that have principles, also get tempted

Have you watched the movie; Addicted

tosyne2much:
What are you saying? Even if my wife cheats, would it be easy for me to file a divorce and marry another woman? No it won't

The way most if you clamour divorce is very alarming

tosyne2much:
What are you saying? Even if my wife cheats, would it be easy for me to file a divorce and marry another woman? No it won't

The way most if you clamour divorce is very alarming

Lawlahdey:


Na lie she lie oh

Mizk:
you're the one having problems with comprehension, i don't agree with your opinions because i wasn't brought up that way, stop forcing me to be loose and morally depraved, na by force? if you can't read and understand its not my problem, its your problem, I'm done replying you abeg, I've 101 things to worry about and you're not even a thing

lefulefu:

dont mind dem kimbra and co wey give me d name .dem say the name is sexy for me .anyway i like the way u dey shoot dem ur missiles .slaying them all the way

Lawlahdey:
The day these girls understand that Men and women aren't created equal and will never be is the day wisdom begins for them.

vedah:
That makes me a good wife, giving him the respect in times of trouble. At least, I'm not using his present situation to ridicule him. I know its hard to take actions. If my husband cheats, depending on the circumstances, I may likely stick to the marriage.

AfroSamurai:
I see. So what do you want from a man? You've made it clear you don't need his cheddah and masculine presence.

Shortyy:

A caring and loving man. Is that so much?

AfroSamurai:
You're wise.

Aderola15:

Since they aren't ready to listen to advice concerning the dangers that surrounds divorce... Make dem kukuma experience it themselves na, abi kilo feel?

tosyne2much:
Yes you're very much on point.. Most of them are living in the europhia of fairytales and the Nollywood/ Phillipines movies they watch

The truth is, marriage is not as smooth as these Nairaland ladies watch in movies.. Ladies who are able to tolerate poo and endure are actually the ones enjoying their marriage.. If you're a lady and you still exhibit the character "I don't take nonsense from any man", you will only end up in miserable marriages and will keep changing husbands like bathroom slippers.

That was how a lady was telling me last month that she wouldn't take poo from her mother-in-law nor sisters-in-law when she marries, and that she will give them hot any time any day they provoke her.. I just looked at her and shook my head at her ignorance


This keep me wondering the mentality ladies carry into their marriages

L0velyn:


do you know you can't force your opinion on others?....Every Goddamn person is entitled to his/her opinion....


Dont ever think of settling for less!

Shortyy:
hahaha thank you o jare

AfroSamurai:
It's vague. A cheating man can also be caring and loving.

tosyne2much:
All I know is that these women will only end up in chaotic marriage.. Reason being that their mentality and perceptions towards marriage are flawed... All these "i can't settle for less and I will dump his ass" attitudes displayed by these naive ladies will only cause derailment and chaos in the home

Most of them will soon get married and will get to see what their mothers have been enduring that has brought about unity in the marriage so far. Then, they will applaud their mothers for endurance and her ability to overlook certain things

royalmoron:
mtcheech

Shortyy:

Oh really? wow wow wow. If you want to cheat, fine go and cheat, but once you're back from your cheating, it's over. You can go and stay with whoever you cheated me with. You both deserve each other.

kimbra:
That reminds me. Why should you give yourself "Efulefu", I saw that name on "Things Fall Apart" and it meant a "Worthless person" as was used to describe the Christian Missionaries and their converts.

Laveda:


They'll end up in such marriage caused they said No to a cheating man?

How wise.

pea sized wisdom, i cant believe this

Mizk:
its a movie, movies are different from reality, turning a blind eye to a cheating partner is easier said than done, bunch of Hypocrites everywhere, 98.9% of them saying bullsh!t here cant even bear it if thier partner get close to any girl, they'll die of jealousy, they can say it on Nairaland it doesn't mean they can do it in reality

Lemme ask you a question, please gimme a direct answer, would you turn a blind eye if your wife makes cheating a habbit?

AfroSamurai:
LOL. Now this response of yours still doesn't answer my question.

AfroSamurai:
LOL. Now this response of yours still doesn't answer my question.

Lawlahdey:

Na lie she lie oh

sirusX:

My answer is NO...and I never mentioned anywhere I was in favour of turning a blind eye

It's not easy being with a partner that cheats, especially when you're being faithful

PS: The movies I talk about are not just abstract that they don't exist...and I never referred to them as the solution to a problem, but I only brought them up in the first place cz I wanted you to get the idea of people that cheated and why they cheated...instead of bringing up scenarios

The solution/way out that's chosen is based on individual approach

theres no excuse for cheating, the wedding vows they made should mean something, wether good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, till death do you part, what's so confusing about the vow, its like an agreement clearly stated out, if you must cheat, make it an open marriage, allow her to cheat as well, simple, it shouldn't be one sided, we all have feelings, nobody is superman