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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by LePrezident(m): 1:35pm On Jul 09, 2017
lalasticlala:


I once raised such issue here https://www.nairaland.com/2001877/why-women-always-claim-been

Confirmed FP loading. Let me pitch my tent here.
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 3:34pm On Jul 09, 2017
lalasticlala:


I once raised such issue here https://www.nairaland.com/2001877/why-women-always-claim-been
kk bro. Noted. Have a blessed sunday!
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by omooba969(m): 4:58pm On Jul 09, 2017
Ajó ngbadùn áráwá ni,

Okùnrin tobá nowo èlè sí obìnrín,

Obìnrín tobá só yes sí okùnrin,

Ajó ngbadùn áráwá ni. cool

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 09, 2017
redbeans:
It's high time ladies had some self worth. You dated a guy. Fine, he slept with you, you spend emotional times with him and he just left. Don't forget he spent money on you too and gave you the good things of life. Just savour the moment and move on.


Men this pishure...the babe was damn into the moment...shiiit
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by iRepNaija1: 5:02pm On Jul 09, 2017
redbeans:
It's high time ladies had some self worth. You dated a guy. Fine, he slept with you, you spend emotional times with him and he just left. Don't forget he spent money on you too and gave you the good things of life. Just savour the moment and move on.

If men on NL can come here and complain about women being money-hungry gold diggers, then women can come to NL and complain about men being users. Please.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Ermacc: 5:04pm On Jul 09, 2017
redbeans:
It's high time ladies had some self worth. You dated a guy. Fine, he slept with you, you spend emotional times with him and he just left. Don't forget he spent money on you too and gave you the good things of life. Just savour the moment and move on.
redbeans:
exactly. 60 percent of girls are scared of going into a relationship due to fear of heartbreak. There is nothing like that. It's better to love than not to love at all.

You enjoy the time you spend with the guy. You'll have enough to look back on and gain experience as well.
Kondomatic:
You are dating a guy.

He fvcks you good.
You fvcks him good too.
He spends on you more than you spend on him.

Then if eventually the relationship ends, you accuse him of using you

How exactly?


I am not understanding
1StopRudeness:


You women are always to pathetic and dramatic about issues...
Sex is actually give and take, both parties are actually contributing their bodies to the pleasures....unless perhaps, women don't enjoy sex like I've been assuming....
Why are u making it sound like "fvcking her in all sex position" is like the guy slapped her and beat her in various way..?? I've heard lots of ladies say they like doggy style, and a couple of other styles so they actually want the position changing...
U ladies always make sex look like a great favour you are doing for guys...I'm not always understanding this part
you bros are making so much sense

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by ivolt: 5:05pm On Jul 09, 2017
redbeans:
It's high time ladies had some self worth. You dated a guy. Fine, he slept with you, you spend emotional times with him and he just left. Don't forget he spent money on you too and gave you the good things of life. Just savour the moment and move on.

You are missing an important point.
Some relationships are casual and when such hit the rocks,
no one would complain.

But there are some where the guy pretended to be serious
with promises,
prompting the partner to assume the wife role and going
extra mile only for the guy to pull up a surprise and
and bring up an unknown girlfriend.

It is just like a business negotiation, the party who gain the
least will always feel bad, even if they both benefited from the deal.

If you don't want your partner to feel used, do not promise
anything you can't deliver.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by goldman777: 5:05pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


It's very simple... they like to do the dumping and expect u to understand and move on...but they don't like being dumped...

The truth is women sometimes have a lot to loose...no matter how u look at it...
Yes! During sex..both parties contribute their bodies and fvck each other...
but men don't have sagging boobss,
men don't have holes that get wide..
men don't get pregnant hence they don't go tru risk of abortion
and near death experience...
And finally men easily walk up to women and start anoda relationships all over...but women have to wait to be approached, the bad part is..it could be another Yoruba demon all over again...



Female goat

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:08pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


It's very simple... they like to do the dumping and expect u to understand and move on...but they don't like being dumped...

The truth is women sometimes have a lot to loose...no matter how u look at it...
Yes! During sex..both parties contribute their bodies and fvck each other...
but men don't have sagging boobss,
men don't have holes that get wide..
men don't get pregnant hence they don't go tru risk of abortion
and near death experience...
And finally men easily walk up to women and start anoda relationships all over...but women have to wait to be approached, the bad part is..it could be another Yoruba demon all over again...

Why Yoruba demon? Why are you generalistic
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:08pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


It's very simple... they like to do the dumping and expect u to understand and move on...but they don't like being dumped...

The truth is women sometimes have a lot to loose...no matter how u look at it...
Yes! During sex..both parties contribute their bodies and fvck each other...
but men don't have sagging boobss,
men don't have holes that get wide..
men don't get pregnant hence they don't go tru risk of abortion
and near death experience...
And finally men easily walk up to women and start anoda relationships all over...but women have to wait to be approached, the bad part is..it could be another Yoruba demon all over again...



Lmao... grin
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by diva2011(f): 5:09pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


It's very simple... they like to do the dumping and expect u to understand and move on...but they don't like being dumped...

The truth is women sometimes have a lot to loose...no matter how u look at it...
Yes! During sex..both parties contribute their bodies and fvck each other...
but men don't have sagging boobss,
men don't have holes that get wide..
men don't get pregnant hence they don't go tru risk of abortion
and near death experience...
And finally men easily walk up to women and start anoda relationships all over...but women have to wait to be approached, the bad part is..it could be another Yoruba demon all over again...


����It's not only yoruba demons exist in all tribe , ethnic group and races.����
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by kabillion(m): 5:09pm On Jul 09, 2017
Is d kissing frm a film? This is not kissing but sucking

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Dasshboard(m): 5:10pm On Jul 09, 2017
Splinz:
It depends. This advice should be strictly for an undefined relationship. For instance, one can't get in a relationship on the premise of marriage, and then the next moment he/she wants out just like that. What happen to the initial understanding/agreement?

You know that's betrayal, and such is a wrong doing.

It is better to end a relationship than to file for a divorce.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jul 09, 2017
Since There's no EPL, I can catch some fun here...brb guys, I need something to snack while i read juicy comments.... grin
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jul 09, 2017
Story na girls deh even use us sef
Imagine spending all for a gal
And she's shagging anoda guy
Na gals deh use u
D only thing deh give is sex finish
And d fake promise of love wat else abeg

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jul 09, 2017
I swear I been think way na sexybbstar create this thread when I first read the topic ni

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by omooba969(m): 5:11pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


You women are always to pathetic and dramatic about issues...
Sex is actually give and take, both parties are actually contributing their bodies to the pleasures....unless perhaps, women don't enjoy sex like I've been assuming....
Why are u making it sound like "fvcking her in all sex position" is like the guy slapped her and beat her in various way..?? I've heard lots of ladies say they like doggy style, and a couple of other styles so they actually want the position changing...
U ladies always make sex look like a great favour you are doing for guys...I'm not always understanding this part

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by ItsTutsi(m): 5:12pm On Jul 09, 2017
But there has to be something she was gaining too,it can't be a one way situation,then whats the essence of going into the relationship in the first place..whether its the dick,sex,love or attention,in a way or another she most have gained out of it.
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by femoree2(m): 5:12pm On Jul 09, 2017
redbeans:
It's high time ladies had some self worth. You dated a guy. Fine, he slept with you, you spend emotional times with him and he just left. Don't forget he spent money on you too and gave you the good things of life. Just savour the moment and move on.
Lol

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Nobody: 5:13pm On Jul 09, 2017
kozmicity:
*puts tail in between my legs...runs from thread* Curse ye mortal...I'll Be back !!!
Guy u just made my day I find this statement of urs to be very smart and funny Kudos brah

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Dasshboard(m): 5:13pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".

The lady should have sense to use only her spare money in the relationship. And for the all sex position part. I can bet you she enjoyed it more than the guy.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Rich4god(m): 5:13pm On Jul 09, 2017
hkidola00:
please about the dating dog side...ok a girl dat we both plan to marry....our parent know us togeda,but she many times deny me sex except she feels like once in a while,and as a man,i cant hold dis tin......will it be a dog behaviour if have it wit oda girls...but i still plan on marrying d girl wit me
y will u always want sex wen u r not yet married to her... Kilode...

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by GeneralOjukwu: 5:14pm On Jul 09, 2017
1StopRudeness:


It's very simple... they like to do the dumping and expect u to understand and move on...but they don't like being dumped...

The truth is women sometimes have a lot to loose...no matter how u look at it...
Yes! During sex..both parties contribute their bodies and fvck each other...
but men don't have sagging boobss,
men don't have holes that get wide..
men don't get pregnant hence they don't go tru risk of abortion
and near death experience...
And finally men easily walk up to women and start anoda relationships all over...but women have to wait to be approached, the bad part is..it could be another Yoruba demon all over again...


Spot on, LOL!
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by KardinalZik(m): 5:15pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".
Why foot the guy's bills in the first place. Doesn't she know that a guy who can't clear his bills isn't ready/ripe for marriage? Oftentimes, ladies are the architects of their own misfortune.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by omooba969(m): 5:15pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
Sex! Sex!! Sex!!!. Sex wasn't the only thing I pointed out. No girl would feel used if all she did with you was sex. They feel used 'cause you lied to them, and they bought your lies.

If you don't want to marry a girl, define your relationship with her and no one would feel used. Some of you use marriage as an excuse to milk some ladies dry, then dump them for another. To some, you pretend like you'd never cheat while they try their best to please you, just to find out they're dating "Dogs", why won't they feel used?.

But I hear that you girls don't like the truth but lies. I hear that lies get you girls to cloud 9 quicker. grin

Is this true? cool

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Rich4god(m): 5:16pm On Jul 09, 2017
diva2011:


����It's not only yoruba demons exist in all tribe , ethnic group and races.����
u r not getting the sarcasm...

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by kingrt2(m): 5:18pm On Jul 09, 2017
Good post

Guys patronise the link on my signature
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by pocohantas(f): 5:18pm On Jul 09, 2017
No matter how hard you guys try to deceive yourself with that we bleeped each other line...we all know it's a lie.

Guys feel used when they spend lots of money on a girl and she dumps them. Girls feel used when they invest their emotions and body, only to get dumped.

So, don't come here to comment just for cheap liks.
Some people actually get used in a relationship. Don't promise anybody things you can't fufil. Don't give false hopes.

There is a reason the average guy will feel cheated when he isn't getting sex in a relationship and an average girl would feel cheated if her man never shows some care materially or commitment.

It's a woman that will be drinking postinor2.
It's a woman that might get pregnant and probably do an abortion.
You can't come here and claim they bleeped each other, then go on another thread to judge girls bodycount. That defies logic.
You can deceive yourselves, but not me. Women tend to lose more emotionally. Allow them express themselves.

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by DatLagboi(m): 5:21pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".
this scenario is just 20% it also means you girls use and dump us alot
Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by muller101(m): 5:21pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".
bleeped her in all sex positions is she a porn star? Did I hear u say foot the bills may be u just landed from Mars

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Tecno66: 5:22pm On Jul 09, 2017
You are right bros. Women are known to walk away from men when he can no longer pick their bills. Is this not dumping?
1StopRudeness:


You don't have to be condescending...I know sex isn't all u pointed out...I got the other parts..like I said, It's the sex part I ddnt get...

okay once a relationship isn't working for the guy and he wants to break up...does it automatically translate to him beign a lair, a dog,etc ....the reason why am saying this is because..
I've seen a whole lot of relationships start and end...some the lady end it...the guy takes heart walks away...but once the guy is the one initiating the breakup it bcomes of problem...a d of beign used to dumped now come up
I'm of the school of thought that life is a risk even relationships, a guy dating a lady should be able to walk away for wateva reasons best known to him without beign seen as a user/dumper...
People walk away from marriages that has gone cold and devoid of the love spark and affection ow much more a dating parole...

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Re: Ladies: Stop Saying You Were Used And Dumped by Donjazzy12(m): 5:23pm On Jul 09, 2017
Benita27:
A lady could actually be used and dumped in a relationship. Op, you made mention of only one case that both parties benefited from the relationship and one claimed used and dumped. How about when the lady was the one footing the guy's bills, he promised her marriage, bleeped her in all sex position, then dumps her to marry another lady. Won't she say she was "Used and dumped?", or will it be wrong to say "I was used and dumped?".
Your scenario is exactly why guys are not to blame. 90% of the time, guys are the ones that spend the money.

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