thesicilian:
Immature people should not be allowed to go into relationships.

I believe you

flyca:
Never hit a woman, even with a flower.

The guy is lying sha. He is not even sorry, no sign of remorse, a clear sign of his personality. He's saying she should have endured the "small" slap. What rubbish!

If I were the woman, I will do exactly what she did. But of course, the only woman with this kind of courage are the financial independent women!

My kind of woman.

How cute, Never hit a woman even with a flower...How lovely...

chijudith:
Rubbish infact nonsense!! Thank God she through the stupid ring to ur face; from small slap e go enter big one from there he will start beating her. Ladies say no to domestic violence.

Hehe, our sisters are not greeing again oh, Chineke...

supersystemsnig:


Why did your ex beat you up...

I talked back while carrying his baby

Test with slap kwa...thats how u will marry and he will be testing you with punch till he kill i finish....mtcheww
Iranu of the highest order

selflessposhheart:

22

Cool.

chidichuddo:



without further questions, I crawl back to my hole to observe

lol ok

YelloweWest:

Domestic violence is not a little excuse. Tiny drops make a mighty ocean.
This is how it starts!
If she had kept her cool and gone ahead with it she would be a punching bag in no time.

You too? But did your brother ever touch you while growing up? Or if your brother beats you, would you denounce him as your bro? A man shouldn't beat a woman, slap or hit her in anyway, but what about love, mercy, and forgiveness?

IamSINZ:



Cool.

lol I lived too fast sha

angelanto8:
You test(ed) she passed she exam(ined) you,you failed

You cracked me up, you no well...sis

selflessposhheart:


Asin some guys are wicked

I'm a guy but will never be happy to see this type of jerk .

Takeit2017:
Who thinks she made the right decision?

More @ http://trendinghelm..com/2017/09/man-says-i-tested-her-with-small-slap.html

what is the assurance that the slap you gave her wont turn into punches when you eventually marry her ?

JamesReacher:
Yes let her old for house, is that the point of discussion? Domestic violence is a no no

The problem with most Nigerians is that they think marriage is the beginning and the end, some one slapped you because of a silly reason, the fool isn't even remorseful and they say she should have endured because she wants to be "Mrs",
very foolish bunch of idiots.

Even if he feels angry that the lady picked his call, it is never an excuse to raise your hand on anyone.

It's even a blessing she grows old and has a house to grow old in. Double blessing sef, growing old, and growing old in your own house. As if being single is anyone's business. They need to learn how to mind their own business

Honestly foolishness is never far from some nairalanders.

selflessposhheart:


I talked back while carrying his baby

You talked,and he slapped you... Shiooor, that's not worth a slap let alone beating...


Haba, you have removed one, naah, this bobo no go gre...


Why do you think you deserve a rich guy? What do you have to offer?

This man is just a woman beater.
The lady did the right thing.

Okonzy1:
So why are you people especially the ladies not looking into the instruction he gave the lady about going near His phone? To me the lady is wrong there is a standing instruction not to touch my phone and you disobey my instructions Why? Now disobedient and a little slap which came first?

So the punishment for the disobidience is to slap her abi?

There is no way two people will be together and not have issues, if he responses to her shortcoming with violence, it is a problem.

No one is saying she is right about the phone but the reaction is dispropotional to who she did

inkdbetty:
'Correction Slap' Na wa oh, is she a child that you will be dishing out correction slaps, what happened to communication and setting boundaries with words of mouth, smh.

I wonder what will happen if she made another mistake, you'll dash her correction punch... You for kukuma carry cain flog am, tell her to kneel down and raise her hands up.

People sha..

Yeah, fantastic, he could have shown her what he wanted in love, this is why i hate boundaries, sooner or later it gets tested. I.e. I don't pick her calls, they both set yeye boundaries, if there's love and trust, why can't either party take one another's calls? Since it's a one-time thing

selflessposhheart:


lol I lived too fast sha

Lol, i was gonna say something about it, but then I remembered that I'm not a saint either so...

TimeMod1:
Technically speaking, she was your wife because you were engaged to her already. So, what should ever stop her accessing your phone?
If she had access to your body, why not your every other things?
However, the question is; does she lack phone etiquette/manners?, even at that she still remained your wife.
Anyways goodluck on your next search.

On point...why can't a wife take her husband's call?

What type of mum is ur mother!!!!!!!those who will support their son for beating his wife




Ori mi maje si ile ya

selflessposhheart:

lol ok

and the baby?

selflessposhheart:


Why will I use that to hook him?

He always abuse me before the pregnancy

Mayb symptoms of pregnacy I talked back wen he was using curse words on m
Nd I told him he shdnt say that to me

I can't b carrying ur baby nd u using curse word on me he beat me with pregnancy I lost the baby tho

That was very wrong him. Most girls who get pregnant at young did so as a result of naivety. I am sure he was the older one. A rational guy would feel guilty of obstructing your education rather than blame you. I hope you bounced back and are stronger and doing better now.

selflessposhheart:


22

No wonder you're still making noise when you get to 35 then you'll understand better.

zolapower:
I'm a guy but will never be happy to see this type of jerk .

Me too ever again

supersystemsnig:


You talked,and he slapped you... Shiooor, that's not worth a slap let alone beating...


Haba, you have removed one, naah, this bobo no go gre...


Why do you think you deserve a rich guy? What do you have to offer?

a lot a whole lot I'm serious

Honestly, you are not mature yet for marriage. Why raise hand on your woman? For picking your call? In fact, you are not just a potential wife barterer you are going to be a serial and unrepentant cheat.

missjane:
Pple's comment amaze me.. Guy go n beg her if u truly love her she will come back. I'm sure she is not willing to throw everything away just like that..

Op said he has told her severally not to pick his calls as he does not go near her fone.
If he had called off d wedding because she picked his call, pple would call him weak etc now he chose a way to register his displeasure according to him small slap o, ( I wasn't there) and every one is screaming domestic violence.. but when ladies with chichi igbos structure slap a man its not domestic violence..
Hmm..
Some women once they have seen a man's unclothedness respect flies out of the window. It is very wrong.

Correct @Some women once they have seen a man's unclothedness respect flies out of the window. It is very wrong.

My sister, goodness and mercy fall on you biko, God bless your wisdom, see why we say submissiveness, a wise woman would turn this to an advantage and the guy would be on his knees begging... This is why we say many are not submissive, yet they take it the wrong way, a woman can twist a man that treats her bad, he'll return crawling. How many rings will our lovely sisters throw away for goodness sake... People should be meek, humble and should be tolerant of people's weaknesses...What is love without patience and tolerance, the babe and any of her supporter obviously lacks both..

IamSINZ:



Lol, i was gonna say something about it, but then I remembered that I'm not a saint either so...

lol I'm now wiser

chidichuddo:




and the baby?

Lost it

thesicilian:

Assuming the man's story is true, and we've already both agreed that the man himself is an immature buffoon:
1. She shouldn't have answered his call without authorization: respect for boundaries.
2. In as much as the man's action was despicable, she should not have just terminated the relationship like that at a "first offence". They could have postponed further marriage talks while working on their issues, if they truly loved each other.
Wholeheartedly dissolving the relationship so easily only goes to show that she was never really fully into it. Which could also have been the genesis of her trust issues (picking up his calls)..

She is technically a wife, this is what boundaries causes, when this says this is my space and the other the same thing.

He certainly isnt.

Houseofglam7:
Is he alright ni

SlayQueenSlayer:


That was very wrong him. Most girls who get pregnant at young did so as a result of naivety. I am sure he was the older one. A rational guy would feel guilty of obstructing your education rather than blame you. I hope you bounced back and are stronger and doing better now.

Yes I'm now a graduate tho serving

Done wiv that chapter he was young too tho but older Dan me