Lord I pray my suitor's mother will love me, any gathering of my village people to put hatred be destroyed by fire.

xoxo001:
Just tell her your mom doesn't like her... It is not advisable to marry someone your mom doesn't like, no matter how much you love the person cos what an elder can see while sitting down you may not see it even when you climb a tree.

My Oga regrets ever ending his happy relationship just for the sake of his mom.You don't expect people to like someone they haven't gotten to know well.

LilSfc:


Bro i understand you, but I just dont want any girl to cause chaos between my mum and I

The girl should run away from a potential weak man that can't protect her and her children because that's what you are.Emotionally immatured man.Peter Okoye is a real man with maturity.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lord I pray my suitor's mother will love me, any gathering of my village people to put hatred be destroyed by fire.

My problem with mothers in particular is why they already hate someone they've not interacted with? Before your son presents a girl to you, he must have found her character tolerant but you just meet her for the 1st time and next thing is spoiling your son's happiness. Fathers always give that chance and right of choice.

engrjacuzzi:
*It's my first time in court, and I heard the Judge saying "Order!!" and I replied Rice, Chicken and Juice. Now two Police officers are escorting me outside. I think we are going to chicken republic, who cares to join me? .������

No bro, you're actually headed for Prison Republic and you deserve to enjoy it all alone. Happy Lunch Hour with the Boyz.

Just kidding, meanwhile:

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Abagworo:


My problem with mothers in particular is why they already hate someone they've not interacted with? Before your son presents a girl to you, he must have found her character tolerant but you just meet her for the 1st time and next thing is spoiling your son's happiness. Fathers always give that chance and right of choice.

God help us. African parents like to over involve in matters. Just imagine macron was a Nigerian, his mother will die before he marries his wife.

Babyforever:
Don't take it personal was just asking for a friend

Oh I see. No harm no foul. Tell your friend I said hello.

agbonkamen:
tell yah mum her pussy is too sweet to let go.....

U look so innocent but i don dey fear u...

@LilSfc

I will advice that you give your mother's opinion a very deep thought.

When I was in my first relationship, I thought the girl was my Mrs Perfection but for some reasons I couldn't pick, my mom kicked against it. While I insisted on going on, I later realised that she was right... The girl did the unexpected when I needed her the most and we broke up. Though months later she wanted back but as a policy I don't give second chance.

That your mom approved of your previous relationship that collapsed doesn't mean she has poor judgement. But you must know that NOBODY, no woman can love you more than your mother.

Please Bro, don't allow anyone to emotionally blackmail you with talks of being a mummy's boy (in fact, mummy's boy rocks), critically appreciate the situation and allow things take its course. Most importantly, ask your mum for her reason and seriously give it thought.

If you are breaking up, don't mention your mother as the reason pls...

derrydinny:
easy sis, be like man don break your heart plenty time

I dey tell u.........plenty times without reasonable reasons.......I av made up my mind, if any idiot try such with me again, i will make sure he will never be useful to his generation again

Badgers14:


Oh! That's a concern but not a huge concern.but are we sure this was her real reason? ( just saying)
Mine, was even bigger headache.

But,

Is your girl willing to learn igbo? Try to teach her and gradually she will learn.then when you visit your mom she can communicate a little and gradually she will pick up the language. Your mom will also appreciate that the lady was able to adapt.

My number one concern self is if the language barrier was your mother's only reason.

Calm down my guy, I know it is tough. Remember marriage is not friendship. You deserve to be happy and enjoy the rest of your life . Don't marry anyone out of pity and as well do not marry just to please anyone.

Cheers my oga

Thanks alot Bro..
Yes, ryt now to d best of my knowledge is d onli barrier she's holding on to. And its owing to d fact dat most marriages around her are of couples frm difft Languages and d worse is 2 of dem are broken marriages,,evn if I've tried to giv her examples of those stil in d marriage da are of difft languages,she stil remains adamant,, tellin me she has said her own..
I knw i need or i am to make decisions of my own,, but Broda dis mumsy mehn,, Am all she has today, dnt knw hw to make dis work.... Neva knew language ws gonna b a barrier cos i once discussd it wit her, she dint object, mayb tinkin i ws joking....
I want my woman to b happy comin into d family,wnt my mum to b happy wit d woman I'm bringing.. Not forcing dem on each oda....

agbonkamen:
not at all o i waited outside just to see the blood moon but i saw nothing

Nothing new to me.......is not today the scientists incept from vague speculation.

But I heard it appeared in other places.

LilSfc:
I just think that it may have some side effect going against her wish

Side effects? All mothers are like this.They are used to being overly protective that they don't know when a man grows.My mom did exactly this to my brother and i could understand but didn't support her.YOU ARE A FULL GROWN ASS MAN.Except you are still 22.Look,yes and am telling you"a man that doesn't have a good woman in his life,be it his mother,a friend,an old woman,a wife,life will be hell for him.If you got all,LUCKY YOU.Some men have mothers that are shortsighted, some guys have babes that are short sighted, friends etc.If you have all shortsighted,you are finished.But believe you me,if you have a partner with a good foresight, never you let her go! You will have a boundary around your mother but not with a good partner that will invest everything she got.With this,draft your future with this lady and find out if she has foresight and can stand to fight for you.Definitely you mom will surely pass on leaving you to fill the gap alone.Enquire from your mom her reasons if she has foresight, check your partner out to ascertain if she has foresight too.If your mom is short sighted,maybe all her children will like YOU ARE except there is a tangible reason from your mom.Marriage is a whole lot and you are on your own afterwards. Mom will always give advice to accept flaws afterwards cos she won't want to continue telling you to find another wife as if she is a pest.Till then,let this girl go.The BURDEN she will carry will be bigger than her.

Chikebranny123:
why are u in a relationship sef(1)

Common something
You cannot use ur head
When the real life issue start you will be doing like Goat(2)

Is it not ur relationship. If it gets to marriage is it you or ur mother that she Will marry
Leave her alone let beta person carry am
E go make if you sha drop her contact here(3)

But imagine only language that she can later learn is the reason.......
Your village pipu no wan make Una increase . continue (4)

Kaaiii.. Nwanne nwayo now... U jst enta me anyhow.. Its not easy makin such decisions oo.. And i do love her bro..
Village pple go shock as we go increase,, lolzz...
#if u wer in dis situation wat wil u do?? Nwane to Nwane??

DEEKAH7:


Thanks alot Bro..
Yes, ryt now to d best of my knowledge is d onli barrier she's holding on to. And its owing to d fact dat most marriages around her are of couples frm difft Languages and d worse is 2 of dem are broken marriages,,evn if I've tried to giv her examples of those stil in d marriage da are of difft languages,she stil remains adamant,, tellin me she has said her own..
I knw i need or i am to make decisions of my own,, but Broda dis mumsy mehn,, Am all she has today, dnt knw hw to make dis work.... Neva knew language ws gonna b a barrier cos i once discussd it wit her, she dint object, mayb tinkin i ws joking....
I want my woman to b happy comin into d family,wnt my mum to b happy wit d woman I'm bringing.. Not forcing dem on each oda....

My brother, I feel your pain.

Just ask your mom what if your lady is learning igbo and trying to perfect her language skills? Would that make it better? Tell her she is trying to learn and she is very anxious to be fluent so she can communicate well with her mother in law and your family members. You need to try to sell it.

Then teach your lady as long as she is understanding and willing to learn.. she could watch igbo movies on youtube, listen to igbo radio stations and plus you doing your bit to teach her. She will learn.

But again, this is all assuming that this was her only reason.

Brother, in as much as this is a difficult moment in your life.. don't give up, stay strong. You gotta give it your all, try what you can within your reach to ensure everyone is happy.

Think about this, what if you live in Germany or Spain or Italy? Would your mother insist the lady learn igbo before you marry her? Most likely you would have married the lady and tell your mom afterwards. Again I understand the differences in the society but one thing is the same, your happiness and that of your family.

Always remember and do not forget this, never marry anyone out of pity and do not marry to please anyone.

my dear you have already taking you stands s no advice for you but remember you can be making a mistake of your future of which no one else can bear for you even your precious mummy might not be there to witness or to save you, a man will leave his parents , brothers and sis to clinch unto the wife , and he who finds a wife obtain favour not he who the mother gave a wife , marriage is a personal decision not family, they are only to welcome the idea that you are now of age to marry and can only offer their help when you ask of them to do so. you mum can have her reasons but check if the reason is enough to throw away such lifetime opportunity and begin to wait for another. .., it's like you are from my side Anambra where most mothers reign supreme from their husband to their children down to their in-laws and grand children. but never mind be a man , and decide you future

Greystone:

U look so innocent but i don dey fear u...

Ayam innocent na

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

MR MAN OBEY YOUR MOM !!!, EVEN MY DAD STILL OBEYS HIS MOM, your mom freaking brought you to this world unless she is doing something that will harm you, I advise you to obey her unconditionally, usually people who disobey end up regretting.

Sure you can ignore her decision with how much she loves you, will still wish you the best.

But I will still repeat, OBEY UR MOM ESPECIALLY IF SHE HAS ALWAYS BEING GIVING YOU SOUND ADVICES, FORGET ALL THOSE CIVILISED WESTERN EMPTY HEADED PEOPLE HERE TELLING YOU, "BE YOUR OWN MAN" EVEN GOD HIMSELF ORDERS YOU TO OBEY YOUR MOM, just think about that before you decide to ignore her decision due to NAIRALAND LIBERALS



P.S I don't think language barrier is the reason she dislikes that girl, there something else, FIND OUT!

You cannot see two adults and dislike their being together, there must be a reason. Either positive or negative. Please do your mum have any reason for not supporting the relationship? If you can tell us some of her reasons, then I can drop a line or two.

godfatherx:
In my opinion, you never truly love the girl.

If you do, you are a man, and should be able to point out to your mum that you love her and want to marry her.

To peaceably break up, call her and tell her you don't love her and you don't want her to get stuck in a marriage without love.

it's not about love, try and understand the angle this young man is coming from.There are some certain thing the elderly sees that is unexplainable and even with love involve you cant discover.

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

what exactly are ur mothers reasons?

As the Girl's brother i advice to break up with your mum...if u dont know how to do it ask Mamuzee twins..lol

greatnaija01:
pls DO NOT BREAK UP because of your MUM. Find out exactly WHY your mum does not WANT the Lady. Else you may regret leaving her.

You are a MAN, you should not be MUMMY'S PET or PEST. If it is TRUE LOVE then it will stand the test of time.

I swear, you get brain

Badgers14:


Oh I see. No harm no foul. Tell your friend I said hello.

She says hello too

Ask questions, always ask questions.

Start with WHY?

you have the right to know the reason why your mum doesn't want her, she can't just tell you no and you agree with it naa, you're not a baby any more, you're old enough to know what's good for you.

If mum said she doesn't approve it, ask her why?

OneSentence:
isn't it funny that all your other relationships that mum never said anything bad about ended. why didn't she stop you from ending them? because you saw the bad in them yourself...even when mum didn't. I can't tell you to go against mum but at the same time be a man for yourself

Laden...

TonyeBarcanista:
@LilSfc

I will advice that you give your mother's opinion a very deep thought.

When I was in my first relationship, I thought the girl was my Mrs Perfection but for some reasons I couldn't pick, my mom kicked against it. While I insisted on going on, I later realised that she was right... The girl did the unexpected when I needed her the most and we broke up. Though months later she wanted back but as a policy I don't give second chance.

That your mom approved of your previous relationship that collapsed doesn't mean she has poor judgement. But you must know that NOBODY, no woman can love you more than your mother.

Please Bro, don't allow anyone to emotionally blackmail you with talks of being a mummy's boy (in fact, mummy's boy rocks), critically appreciate the situation and allow things take its course. Most importantly, ask your mum for her reason and seriously give it thought.

If you are breaking up, don't mention your mother as the reason pls...

Thanks bro, I really appreciate this

Please, dump the girl on me... I'm perceiving she's a good girl...

Kindly send across her number... my mum will accept and like her.

Thanks

Jiang:


MR MAN OBEY YOUR MOM !!!, EVEN MY DAD STILL OBEYS HIS MOM, your mom freaking brought you to this world unless she is doing something that will harm you, I advise you to obey her unconditionally, usually people who disobey end up regretting.

Sure you can ignore her decision with how much she loves you, will still wish you the best.

But I will still repeat, OBEY UR MOM ESPECIALLY IF SHE HAS ALWAYS BEING GIVING YOU SOUND ADVICES, FORGET ALL THOSE CIVILISED WESTERN EMPTY HEADED PEOPLE HERE TELLING YOU, "BE YOUR OWN MAN" EVEN GOD HIMSELF ORDERS YOU TO OBEY YOUR MOM, just think about that before you decide to ignore her decision due to NAIRALAND LIBERALS



P.S I don't think language barrier is the reason she dislikes that girl, there something else, FIND OUT!

I appreciate it bro

Please break up with that girl...... Make sure you do that. Save her the life time stress of getting married to a man whose mother is the head of his home.

You're a WEAKENING, for you to allow your mom to make decision on whom you can marry... Guy, big up pls. Anyways, may be you are still under age or better still your mom have seen a very great virtues in that girl which will quickly bring new turn around to you but your so called mom didn't want you to liberates.
Anyways, a mo irú yin(we know your kind).
Abi your mom is from Delta state ni where mother dominates her son's affairs... If yes, worry not she would probably gets you a slowpoke lady from village whom they would both be holding meeting on your head.
In a nutshell, decides for yourself & mind you I bet you if you quit the relationship peren! A responsible,well to do, professional guy is out there to ask for her hand in marriage sharperly... I'm a perfect example