Tell her that the marriage has not been contracted.

Mr OP since na ur mum go chose ur wife 4 u, y disturbing our peace on nairaland......

Kk

U can go ahead and ask the blood moon

you don't even know why your mum doesn't want you to date her,and you didn't even bother to find out, geez!.Is this how you intend to run your home as a man ,eh? mummy's boy

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Is it your Mum marrying her?

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

you should have asked for reasons for your mom, with that u will get reasonable advice

OP. Give us the full gist, you are bidding some points which made your mum stands against the relationship. I believe your mother has seen what a child can't see even when he climbs a tree

You didn't tell us the reason for your mother's refusal.

Just so you know, there's no good way of breaking up, every way is heart breaking.

My question is, why must family always have a say in a wo/man's relationship decisions.

*It's my first time in court, and I heard the Judge saying "Order!!" and I replied Rice, Chicken and Juice. Now two Police officers are escorting me outside. I think we are going to chicken republic, who cares to join me? .������

LilSfc:


I would have answered you, but your moniker stopped me

..ok..so minica say u should say yor mum is lightskin. ..correct? ...anyways. . I love lightskin women...Bro . How tall is she?

Wonders will never End!!!.
A man above 18yrs I guess wants to stop a Relationship because of the mum.

Your mom should give you more Explanations about her dislikes for her, I've heard stuff's like this and at the End its a different ball Game.

Are you a baby? Don't know what you want for your life? Please get out of here! Who is the idi0t moderator that pushed this to front page?

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

yeyerolling:
Woe unto weak men

It is not a matter man's weakness..is about having a good rapport with your family dear..and I must say, it is paramount consideration of every person particularly, your parent.

You don’t love this girl
At all.
Your mother’s needs to tell you why..you can’t dislike someone just for the sake of it.
And if you are a man with a pair you would fight for this relationship instead of being such a mummy’s boy.
Actually in hindsight maybe she needs to be rid of you. Men like you with no backbone are a nightmare. The sort of man who lets his mother run riot in your home and will not say anything to challenge her.

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

The ones your Mum supposedly liked, where are they now?

Try find out her reasons, if it doesn't have to do with spirituality or behaviour, then my advise would be to ignore.

If behavioural, tell her to try change. If na spiritual - RUN

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Rubbish.
The past relationship that your mum was in support of, where is it today?

Mummy's boy. You are still suckling mum's breastss

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Are you going to build your future family with your mother or with your wife? If you cannot stand up to your dear mummy, how in Olodumare's name are you going to stand up to your wife?

Lonestar124:
It is not a matter man's weakness..is about having a good rapport with your family dear..and I must say, it is paramount consideration of every person particularly, your parent.

It does not mean the mother is right
Do you know that some mother are malicious just for the sake of it!

Is it possible to refuse my most loyal person alive, my mum. I don't know ur relationship with ur mum op so decide if ur has always decided at ur own best interests

Dude if your mom doesn't like her. Do yourself self a favour and relocate far away from your family after the wedding. Why should your parents compromise your happiness?

Why not ask mum to give you her reasons and then you take it from there. You can't just reject a good girl because your mum doesn't like her for no reason.

tempest01:


The ones your Mum supposedly liked, where are they now?

Try find out her reasons, if it doesn't have to do with spirituality or behaviour, then my advise would be to ignore.

If behavioural, tell her to try change. If na spiritual - RUN

What?
What the heck is spiritual behaviour? 21st century and we still think like this?

MissRaine69:
You don’t love this girl
At all.
Your mother’s needs to tell you why..you can’t dislike someone just for the sake of it.
And if you are a man with a pair you would fight for this relationship instead of being such a mummy’s boy.
Actually in hindsight maybe she needs to be rid of you. Men like you with no backbone are a nightmare. The sort of man who lets his mother run riot in your home and will not say anything to challenge her.

I love you.

Though my mom is late.

My family members know better than make that kind of statement because they know that even if I didn't love the girl wholeheartedly before.

It is after that their statement that I will never let go of her.
We are talking about my desired life partner here emphasis on MY.


Same applies to my mum if she were to be alive.
You were born a male.
Act like a MAN

You've obviously made up your mind to end the relationship. Make sure you know the reason your mum says you can't marry the lady.
There is no easy way to break up with someone, but the earlier you do that, the better.
Since you've made up your mind, just tell her your mum is against the union, and you don't want to disobey her. However, if you know there's still hope for you guys, and you still want to marry her, don't tell her your mum doesn't like her.

Sometimes Mama instincts is right, But don't be a mamas boys. Well since she didn't stop you from your previous relationships or control you then there might be something fishy, Discuss it with her and found out. Besides if you really do love her you wouldn't have immediately listen to your mum and start quitting the relationship like robot. Unless you are not a man or your mum is paying the bills.

OP its either u are a boy or mama's pet..hw wil u dcide to quit dating her without getting a reason from ur mom huh? meanwhile, hw did ur mum get to even meet her? i guess ur mom concluded on seeing her at first sight without knwing her deep down.

LilSfc:
There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from nairalanders on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Why should any sane person advice you when you have not told us the reason why your mum rejected her?

One mummy's boi spotted. Shows you're not yet a man.
When you become one, you'll then be eligible to have words you need. Wodahell!