Make una give me hope o! I am leaving for the UK soon and my babe go still dey Naija. I love the girl pieces!!!

if you love her pieces, don't stay pieces too long or get her to come some enough to keep your pieces together.Things are always better in bunches rather than in pieces...lol

Shaddy...Really made my day and renewed my confidence...I too am in a long distance relationship,i have enjoyed every bit of it since my crossing over to the states here,though i have not spent up to a year here...but i tell you the main koko is trust and constant communication...we chat and both call.Infact BOSS card should name me as their customer of the year .folks in USA know what am talkin about.

For the fact that it doesnt work for some does not mean...but my people i must confess that prayer and fasting is needed in this kind of stuff between the partners involved...sounds funny abi?

I am telling all of you. It doesn't work. It's a new year... cancel LDR from ur resolution.

Hot angel...Na ur opinion be dat oooooo....Am sure it can work for anyone who wants it to work!!!!

thanks rikkyjen, i am not in a long distance relationship but i know it can work if you want it to, its who we are that determines the success or failure of a relationship not where we are, "short" distance relationship hit the rocks everyday so why all the hype about LDR?

Hello people,
nice hearing differents comments.Some people say it can work and so people say it can't work.Its both of u that will determine if it can work or not.u will surely knws if the  guy wants it 2 work or not.for example, he will b mailing u, fixing a time 2 chat with u and also calling u sometimes.u can't tell me that this  guy  is doing all this for a girl if he doesn't want it 2 work.a guy can't b spending his money just like that if he doesn't want d relationship 2 work and a girl can't b buying calling cards everynow and then if she doesn't want d relationship 2 work, instead she can use d money 2 buy something good 4 herself instead of buying a calling card.And also appreciate each other everynow and then.
To rikkyjen,
i am happy for u and i always tout i was the only only person  buying calling cards everynow and then. .Goodluck in everything.
To hotangel,
its may b becose u don't like it or its has not worked out for you but its between u and your guy.u can't judge everybody.its we that can choose what we wants.if it doesn't work, den its my own probs becose i was d one that choose it.nobody force me 2 do it and am not tied down 2 start it a well.
To pie1ect
Conerning your reply "if others can do it, I can do it as well". is not if others can do that makes you to do it.Abeg na real lie b that.u will surely knw if things r not going on well with LDR and drop it .u can't force it 2 go smoothly becose since others can do it den you to wana prove it can go on well.i don't belief in that.if a guy didn't call  4 a month and we didn't chat 4 2 month.u will surely knw this guy doesn't want it 2 work.just leave d guy and find another but i don't belief that becose some people does it and it work then it  means i should prove 2 dem it can work out 4 me.Never!

mnine is still off the hizzile and RED pipping hot after 8 months i thank God for our lifes and relationship

Thank you!

@casper: good for you and keep it that way
@Chxta :with dedication and focus, you and ur girl will be all right. Let the interesting love stories shared by those in LDR you've read on this thread inspire you. all the best.

[b][/b] Dude.. long distance relationship hardly works... it only leads to heartbreak... especially among girls... a girl needs d dude to hold her, be there 4 her when she is in a bad mood. How can all this happen when the guy is like a million miles away.. lets be realistic here. IT DOES NOT WORK.

In a very raw answer, long distance relationships work. It's like asking whether we're able to pass in school. Long distance relationships fail because we're too selfish, we seek our own and get involved elsewhere. We fail in school because we won't plan our time well or won't study. Same thing. In not soo many words, our selfishness takes reign here. And if we all know that there's that selfish part of us, why commit to a long distance relationship in the first place?
My question is how far is far to be termed as a long distance relationship?

nice and genuine question. really nice one! but i honestly do not have an answer to that

Ashbaby:

In a very raw answer, long distance relationships work. It's like asking whether we're able to pass in school. Long distance relationships fail because we're too selfish, we seek our own and get involved elsewhere. We fail in school because we won't plan our time well or won't study. Same thing. In not soo many words, our selfishness takes reign here. And if we all know that there's that selfish part of us, why commit to a long distance relationship in the first place?
My question is how far is far to be termed as a long distance relationship?

Brilliant post!

To Shaddy

Thanks love, I know when there is love there shouldn't be temptation. But
May I change your view about something please? You said something about having other things to worry about. Of course! I have other things to worry about - as a matter of fact, more than a lot. So, who really cares what he's up to anyway?

Thank your lucky star that out of the 45% good  guys, u met one. Thank goodness it's working for u.

Long distance relationship often depends on how far and how much you love each other.

No matter how much u might have loved each other, when it comes to one of u leaving for another place, believe me, if there should be an instrument to measure how much he use to care (when u're together), there would be a difference in how much he cared when u're away.

There are lots of things to consider in long distance relationship; Love, Trust and understanding. When both party are apart, only the love keep them going, as for understanding and trust - they've got only 50-50 chance.

Anyway, we all have our view about things.

i guess it depends
loyal
faithful
eyes 4 only u
then it might work
might not will

It works but its going to take some sacrifice. l no go lie. It kinda hard but in the long run, its worth it. There will be days when you wanna cry or end the so called relationship but it all depends on the two of you. If one is willing and the other is not then its not going to work out.

It's serious hard work o!

The cost of phone calls alone, is enough to kill anybody.
I get two girlfriends for Naija and dem dey almost make me bankrupt with phone bills.

Also, sometimes you have to consider "Out of sight - Out of mind" phenomenom.
if you're not around cheating is a possibility on both sides.

E no easy o!

Yeah, that's true. But I always think of the joy that it will be when these two ppl meet and after whatever amount of time, they know that they kept their side of the deal! And it's hard too. The phone bills....then you find out after all that sacrifice that your significant other was cheating on you..... it's almost like giving you dust to eat!

@Agunwoke...How wont u be bankrupt?..infact u never bankrupt!!!.WHY SHOULD U KEEP two chics in naija and be calling,ofcourse its gonna be hell expensive..ok at d end, if d two of them wait for you,when u are back,how will u dispose one of them..I bet you dat will be hell trouble,u better burst one and take one unless...............

rikkyjen:

@Agunwoke...How wont u be bankrupt?..infact u never bankrupt!!!.WHY SHOULD U KEEP two chics in Nigeria and be calling,ofcourse its going to be hell expensive..ok at d end, if d two of them wait for you,when u are back,how will u dispose one of them..I bet you that will be hell trouble,u better burst one and take one unless...............

...........you decide to hook up with both of them....on mutual understanding, ofcourse!

rikkyjen:

@Agunwoke...How wont u be bankrupt?..infact u never bankrupt!!!.WHY SHOULD U KEEP two chics in Nigeria and be calling,ofcourse its going to be hell expensive..ok at d end, if d two of them wait for you,when u are back,how will u dispose one of them..I bet you that will be hell trouble,u better burst one and take one unless...............

I like dem both, but I also get two more ladies here for overseas.
Things hard o!
I don dey tire of all the wahala!

Ashbaby:

...........you decide to hook up with both of them.on mutual understanding, ofcourse!

I hear you - Ashbaby, you're correct!

but I think I went too far by trying to have 4 girlfriends.

Anyway, there's a shortage of men in da world.
Gotta spread my love!!!!!

@agunwoke

Geez! I thought the era of polygamy ended, but I see that you're out to make it's existence known! I wonder if they will approve, especially if you won't be able to feed them because you became bankrupt calling them...lol! Good luck, buddy!

Ashbaby:

Geez! I thought the era of polygamy ended, but I see that you're out to make it's existence known! I wonder if they will approve, especially if you won't be able to feed them because you became bankrupt calling them...! Good luck, buddy!

Thanks I need it!
Polygamy is still alive and kickin'

I'll really have to cut down, it's becoming too hard to remember all details/discussions I've had.
Nearly made a mistake the other day, plus my cash maybe fast running out.

Juggling three mobile phones is now becoming plain crazy
I need help!!!

Good Question...........but hard to answer.......i am in a distance relationship ....i think what it asks for a distance relationship to work is devotion!!!!

AguNwoke:

I'll really have to cut down, it's becoming too hard to remember all details/discussions I've had.
Nearly made a mistake the other day, plus my cash maybe fast running out.

Juggling three mobile phones is now becoming plain crazy
I need help!!!

My goodness! You juggle three mobile phones? Wow! How long have you been doing this....having all these girls...well, there's just two....maybe more! You're a smooth operator, that's all I can say!

mahi:

Good Question...........but hard to answer.i am in a distance relationship ....i think what it asks for a distance relationship to work is devotion!!!!

Good stuff, @ Mahi! How long is the distance and how long has it been for? Yeah, devotion, I totally agree with you! I wish you all the best and I pray that your devotion will be something to sing about soon enough!

@ AguNwoke,

Thank you for telling us about all the mobile phones you are juggling and how its running your ass broke but what does that have to do with long distance relationships.

Ashbaby:

My goodness! You juggle three mobile phones? Wow! How long have you been doing this.having all these girls...well, there's just two.maybe more! You're a smooth operator, that's all I can say!

Juggling for a few months now, but I gotta tell ya - It's hell!!
Hope I find da right lady soon.

Gotta get serious I think?
Hey, Ashbaby: Wanna be my lady no5?  

(No slap me o! - I'm joking)
(No seriously I dey joke o! - I no fit cope)

prettyH:

@ AguNwoke,

Thank you for telling us about all the mobile phones you are juggling and how its running your ass broke but what does that have to do with long distance relationships.

Just showing some possible pitfalls of a long distance relationship/relationships that's all!

Don't hate the playa.......

AguNwoke:

Just showing some possible pitfalls of a long distance relationship/relationships that's all!

Don't hate the playa.......

lol... Playa indeed...better stop deceiving yourself.