Were it just a case of weakness then the issue would be quite understandable for there would be remorse after every act on the part of the guy,

Theblessed:

[b]As a Christian I do not support infidelity in any form or shape either from a man or woman because, it is not only morally and devastatingly wrong but also spiritually wrong in the eyes of God and you will answer for it, period.  I have no respect for any man or woman that cheat on a person they profess to love especially in a marriage, no!

But, the fact that men have trashed women with this wicked and selfish behaviour for so long and not only get away with it, but also think they have a right to do it, I suggest for those who could do it, do it and rub it where it would devastate the guy so that he would realise you are a human being with a heart and can feel pain too!!! That way, men would not only get used to the idea but also handle us with care and respect.

Personally, I can not do such a thing irrespective of any thing rather, I'd kick his a-se.  By the time he's home his bags are all packed and ready on the door step waiting his collection - as I don't do stress.  But I pity my sisters who do as there's nothing a man could offer me in this life, I hadn't achieved myself so, why should I leak a-se and drown in self pity when I could replace him like a flash if that's a need? . I have not had such an experience in my marriage and would not sit here and vouch it would never happen to me but, if it does, we would test the litmus paper won't we  

You see, you can not change people. You can only change children's behaviours but you can't physically change an ADULT!  However, you can change yourself, by changing your own attitudes and behaviours and become more assertive instead of drowning in self pity that way - the guy will change his ways.  Abi, you have your own money? Then treat yourself and HIT town he will eventually, realise his loss and that's the way to squeeze in a little change in a  naught boy.  

In giving him a teaspoonful of his own bitter medicine, it would curtail some of those selfish behaviours but mind you, it won't cure the disease of a habitual adulterer because his, is entrenched therefore, drop the dead donkey and hit town before he causes you severe damage.[/b]

papa190:

this your epistle nor easy @ all
This one na full bible and koran o~

Da Mayor:

@ poster, u might as well ask why d lionesses do the hunting & after making the kill leaves it when the lion appears from his slumber, or why d alfa chimp & hippos colonises all the women in the camp. you cant change the laws of nature. look round the whole animal kingdom and you will see males have special preferences (ie at the top of the chain of command with woman as helper(bluntly put "servant" lol!).
pls dnt get me wrong. I believe in fair treatment of all homo sapiens, but let me categorically state that according to the law of Nature, life isn't  fair and its just unfortunate you came to this world as a helper so bear with it & nxt time u can ask Baba to send u bk as a man to njoy d special privileges (which for some includes the exclusive right to cheat as stated above).

oyinda.:

nah. a thief is not remorseful. he keeps stealing until he gets caught.
same with cheating.
it's all a sign of weakness of d flesh. means your not self disciplined enough.


and i love that theblessed brings a religious perspective to it.

oyinda.:

nah. a thief is not remorseful. he keeps stealing until he gets caught.
same with cheating.
it's all a sign of weakness of d flesh. means your not self disciplined enough.


and i love that theblessed brings a religious perspective to it.

That way, men would not only get used to the idea but also handle us with care and respect.

Personally, I can not do such a thing irrespective of any thing rather, I'd kick his a-se. By the time he's home his bags are all packed and ready on the door step waiting his collection - as I don't do stress.

man needs procreation in marriage and a woman needs a companion.

so if my woman catches me wit, she go vex go

if i catch her, she go pack go.

how una see am.

Theblessed:


You see, you can not change people. You can only change children's behaviours but you can't physically change an ADULT!  However, you can change yourself, by changing your own attitudes and behaviours and become more assertive instead of drowning in self pity that way - the guy will change his ways.  Abi, you have your own money? Then treat yourself and HIT town he will eventually, realise his loss and that's the way to squeeze in a little change in a  naught boy. And when you go out there ensure you get a guy that is bigger than him in size and height and more handsome - then he'd get the message you don't do cheap.

In giving him a teaspoonful of his own bitter medicine, it would curtail some of those selfish behaviours but mind you, it won't cure the disease of a habitual adulterer because his, is entrenched therefore, drop the dead donkey and hit town before he causes you severe damage.

oyinda.:

nah. a thief is not remorseful. he keeps stealing until he gets caught.
same with cheating.
it's all a sign of weakness of d flesh. means your not self disciplined enough.


and i love that theblessed brings a religious perspective to it.

It repulses me when these same women - who fawn over rich guys and who expect guys to do ALL the spending, pay the bride price and shoulder a thousand other financial and material responsibilities - dare suggest spousal/gender equality! How's that possible? I've repeated it severally: If i ever find a girl that does ALL the spending in our relationship, I wouldnt be too bothered if I find out she's creeping; my ego may be scratched a tiny bit, but what do I have to lose? Nothing! [cos I wouldn't foolishly be 'in love' with her anyway]

eldee:

First of all I think bringing religion into this is unreasonable. . . but if you're going to bring in christianity, isn't divorce one thing Jesus forbade?? Isn't 'turn the other cheek' the main amendment to the Jesus made to the laws of Moses??

I'm not surprised though, Jesus said to beware of false prophets . . .