dingbang:
lol he isn't honest bro and you know it.

Redgal:

I told a friend of mine about my dilemma and he sent me a link to a posting on this site about American women married to Nigerian men. He thinks I might be in a romance scam.

AHCB:
WTF!!! You make it sound like everybody in Nigeria is bad! Like really bad.

ChibuzoIkenna:
This is deep. It could be on either sides both more on the parts of insincerity.
I live in the DMV. Am Nigerian i know about the struggle of Africans but ill rather thread cautions in offering my advice.
If it would be of any help, PM me lets talk .

DeeTus:
Hello, in all honesty, this guy might be real. Just give him a chance but don't send him money yet till both of you get married.

Nina4u:
No my dear.. I love my Nigerian friends.. The culture food traditions.. There is naija friends I had for many years and they never asked me for nothing but friendship... There is lovley people in Nigeria over 210 spoken languages and dialect.. The cultural diversity is amazing.. I got friends from borno to zamfari to kogi to Abia to ogun to Edo to port hartcourt.. Benin to Lagos and abuha.. In every part of the country.. But u know u self that what I say is true and security is almost non existent with a failing police force

DeeTus:
How do you determine someone's honesty? Forget the fact that he is from Nigeria. Not everyone is criminally minded.

Like I just said earlier on, give him a chance but do not give him any money at this stage.

AHCB:
Can I see the link to the post? Should be a thread, by the looks of it.

Redgal:

@IamKashyBaby
He is from Benin City part of Nigeria. I have spoken to his Cousin's girlfriend a few times by phone. She said she enjoyed it when she travelled to Nigeria and its not like how the media makes it out to be. She put her faith in her boyfriend. They carried her around there and so on. Although it worked out for her I'm still cautious about travelling over there by myself. I would be putting my safety in his hands. Initially when she travelled there earlier this year she was hoping I would travel with her but I wasn't able to at that time. Sometimes I feel he is genuine but I don't like the part of having to come up with that amount of money to give him. As it is I have bills and other responsibilities here.

DeeTus:
How do you determine someone's honesty? Forget the fact that he is from Nigeria. Not everyone is criminally minded.

Like I just said earlier on, give him a chance but do not give him any money at this stage.

ChibuzoIkenna:
This is deep. It could be on either sides both more on the parts of insincerity.
I live in the DMV. Am Nigerian i know about the struggle of Africans but ill rather thread cautions in offering my advice.
If it would be of any help, PM me lets talk .

KosiGee:


I don't believe that he is. He shouldn't be demanding money from a foreigner he hasn't met in real life.
Can't his cousin in the US help him with the money?
Why does he need an 'agent'? He doesn't need an agent if he has genuine reason to travel.

If the woman is worried about her safety, I wouldn't advice her to make the trip.

Redgal:
Hi I'm an woman living in America. I met a Nigerian man online on a dating site. I don't usually do long distance relationship not even in the U.S. but I decided to exchange numbers with this man and we communicate mainly through What's App. I have been communicating with him for about 9 months now. He professed his love for me early. Which I was suspicious about but after talking to him for a while I believe he is probably genuine. He wants me to come over to Nigeria to visit him. He said it would be easy that way for me to come over to meet him and his family. Then when I go back it would be easy for him to get to the U.S. so he can be with me. He said he's not using me to get papers he genuinely loves me he says. I don't feel comfortable travelling to Nigeria by myself and having to rely on him for safety. I have asked him instead of me meeting him there maybe we could meet in a neutral country in Europe and a family member would go with me. He said its not easy to get a visiting visa to Europe. Is this true? He also says Nigeria is very corrupt and you have to pay a good amount of money to get Visa processed. Also he asked me to help him to get $2000 U.S. to pay the agent who will be working on him getting visa to U.S. I told him I might consider paying a part of that but he would have to come up with the rest. I wanted to test his sincerity. I'm asking anyone with good insight for their advice on this situation. Would you advise me to travel to Nigeria as a woman who doesn't know anyone except this man in that country? I'm a little apprehensive but at the same time I would like to meet him. Also do you think its wise for me to help him with the money for the visa? He said any money I lend him he will work hard to pay me back once he gets to the U.S.A. He said he recently lost his job and has little money.

KosiGee:


I don't believe that he is. He shouldn't be demanding money from a foreigner he hasn't met in real life.
Can't his cousin in the US help him with the money?
Why does he need an 'agent'? He doesn't need an agent if he has genuine reason to travel.

If the woman is worried about her safety, I wouldn't advice her to make the trip.

Redgal:

Here it is. I recently posted there too seeking advice : https://www.nairaland.com/13194/american-women-marry-nigerian-men/1

AHCB:
Security is present, at least for foreign nationals. This I know.

What you say is only true as it relates to a very few set of people in this country. The amount of scammers is very very little.

Have you been to Nigeria before? You having friends from almost all the geo-political zone in the country kinda piqued my curiosity.

dingbang:
give him a chance to do what? Hasn't she given him a chance already? The only part that remains in their Rship is for them to meet and that requires money..

Deetus don't tell me you really don't know this is Nigeria . ok if he says he is serious then he should use his money to come all the way to america to see her and let redgal tell him she will refund all the cash he spent.. I think that is quite fair too

KosiGee:


She should never give him money at any stage. Wtf. Is she his meal ticket?
A serious man should hustle legit and foot his bills.
If he is frustrated with Nigeria, he has an opportunity to flee but he is ruining it with his suspicious demands.

His cousin is in the US, why couldn't she help him?

Redgal:

His cousin isn't in America yet. The cousin's fiancee is in America and she is processing the U.S. visa for him( the cousin) to come here. They got engaged when she visited Nigeria earlier this year. From my understanding too she is the one paying the $2000 dollars for the cousin to come here. My friend says she is paying $500 dollars every month till she pays it off. That is the only thing holding up his cousin from being here now. But once she pays it off he should be here in the next few months he says.

DeeTus:
Do you know if the dude has applied for American visa and got denied? There are lots of questions she should boldly ask him first.

Not all Nigerians are bad. When I was abroad, a chick gave me her credit card and I used accordingly without playing smart on her. So, forget about. Not everyone loves crime.

Redgal:

His cousin isn't in America yet. The cousin's fiancee is in America and she is processing the U.S. visa for him( the cousin) to come here. They got engaged when she visited Nigeria earlier this year. From my understanding too she is the one paying the $2000 dollars for the cousin to come here. My friend says she is paying $500 dollars every month till she pays it off. That is the only thing holding up his cousin from being here now. But once she pays it off he should be here in the next few months he says.

Nina4u:
she could be in on the scam... Thats how they work.. I was told to call this guy in jail that got tortured by the police and other inmate.. Basicly he said the police is charging his phone and let him use it in jail.. But little did he know I knew this guy in jail.. It was not his phone number and I knew the guy was fine and well.. But I called and someone else pretended to b him.. I played along and I played the player for a long time.. Wasting their own money and making a fool out of them and n the Nigerian bank... Lmao

Hahahha..good for u..

I dont get it why some Nigerian men will think once they met a foreign lady they will think like "Oh she's rich..I must ask money from her.." they imagine once its a foreign lady she looks like a cash machine ..

dingbang:
she didn't state it in her statement if he applied for visa and got denied. Let us ask redgal if he ever made any move singlehandedly.


Redgal. Did he at any time apply for visa on the grounds to come and see you and was denied ?

Redgal:

I'll be honest I gave him $200 U.S. dollars so far to renew his passport and when he got it renewed he showed me it on video camera. But at this stage I feel wary about sending more money. I really don't want to.

dingbang:
she didn't state it in her statement if he applied for visa and got denied. Let us ask redgal if he ever made any move singlehandedly.


Redgal. Did he at any time apply for visa on the grounds to come and see you and was denied ?

IamKashyBaby:


Hahahha..good for u..

I dont get it why some Nigerian men will think once they met a foreign lady they will think like "Oh she's rich..I must ask money from her.." they imagine once its a foreign lady she looks like a cash machine ..

KosiGee:


You don't need such an amount of money to process US visa. Go to the US consul website and inquire. An agent wouldn't do much for him. They are scammers. The said agent would probably enclose same documents he got from him, send it to the US embassy. If it works out, he would demand more money from him.

He can do all that himself. He doesn't need a third party to do it for him. Check US embassy website for their requirements, he should do the same. The only problem would be proof that you've met him.