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kennygee:
Jail?

When you can just settle the officers who caught you be the road?

Certainly not in Nigeria.

The only way we can have sane drivers on the road is if we adopt the American style of obtaining driver's license.

I'm not sure of how it works, but we can give it a try.

Americans have the technology to manage drunk driving on the road but we don't and I'm afraid corruption won't let us reach that point.

We have been copying the wrong things from the West, i think this is a right thing to adopt.

Anyone who goes to jail for an offense like that in a Nigeria of today is an OZUO .

Chaiiii



I've not heard that shade in a long while.

zomoears:
Trading words with women could be dangerous, but I ll try....

"Wives, submit to ur husbands...husbands,love your wife..."

God is fair, He gave each a role to ensure there is a balance.You are asking men to be faithful to God given roles, but the women can be excused if they are not.Smh, logic n religion turned on its head.

Am not for d "earning" thing, but women should not be made to believe that they have unlimited right to love irrespective of how they behave.Love is either mutual or it is half dead!

I have the XY chromosones flowing freely in my genes.. So you may want to re-phrase the bolded.

My post is not to excuse the responsibilities and obligations of a wife in a marriage, far from it, what my post attempts to convey is that a man should not use the actions or in-actions of his wife to inform what he knows is right to do especially as it has been instructed by God.

The show of love is a seed and if one is consistent, that seed would yield fruit... Even if your wife is as insensitive as an iced stone... Show her love still Not because she deserves it but because that is the very type of love God has commanded practising christains to have... The more love you show, the more she melts on the inside, the effect may not be spontaneous but there would always be breaking, a breaking that one day would come to the fore and make her totally melt before the power of your consistent show of love.. The Bible says "Be imitators of God"... If I claim I'm a son of God, then I should very much so reflect his attributes - Unconditional love. I'm not saying it's easy, not at all, we human beings are naturally reciprocative beings, but according to the Bible that also says "A 3-fold cord is not easily broken".. . When you seek the help of God in your marriage particularly when it has to do with showing love-God would always be there to help you... He's not just a God of love... He is Love and the very essence of love finds expression in him and from him.

It's culled...No wonder!!!

Because personally speaking , the moniker doesn't just resonate with the texture of the post.

As supposedly "silly/funny" as the topic of this thread... It's worthy to note that very many girls on Nairaland can not even jokingly think of what to cook with N200.

It's a pity sha

Egusi-N50
Oil-N50
Condiments-N50
Garri-N50

Garri and Egusi soup is ready.

I've actually done something relatively close to this while I was serving

Missmossy:
For real you consulted oracles on the matter... God will see you through

If you start eating beans, how do you expect to end up with pounded yam?

I don't think God will see him through until he himself is through with ifa.

Incase

All this small small children on this thread spewing rubbish Yen Yen Yen Yen she needs to earn it.. earn what!.. That's why marriages would continue to fail till the 50th century, because couples are always waiting to piggy-back on the other person's action... If she doesn't do this, I wouldn't do that... Is that how marriage is supposed to be... If you're waiting for her to love you before you show her love then what's the difference between you and any other random single dude..



To the OP... Your list is on point!

It's a man's duty to do all these things for /to his wife whether or not she earns it because first of all marriage is a service to God, not even to your wife... Or would you say if you catch your wife cheating you would also go ahead and cheat... Some of you should learn to talk with little sense abeg.

She should earn it? ...How many times do you really earn your next day's breath, yet you wake up and still go about your normal day, God doesn't strike you dead in the sleep because you lied or did some other bad thing the day before, now this same God has said you should love your wife as he has loved you and you're now putting stupid, useless conditions... Let God catch you!!!

Girls have suffered

Let me enlighten some of you on this thread...This post may be lengthy so I'd advise you scroll down to the next post if you're currently dealing with ADD.

I'm surprised some of you are of the opinion that the girl is either ugly or handicapped in some way or has an ulterior motive-The truth is some people don't just have the energy to dilly-dally... It's something that has been formed thick into their personality - The habit of commitment and this habit or character, better put resonates mostly with those having the Melancholic personality or temperament type.

These set of people are naturally, effortlessly committed people, so if Omowunmi Akinifesi dots this type of temperament type, even though she has an arsss like a drum and has a face that even most girls would drool over, she would still be committed to any guy she likes so the question of is she being committed because she's ugly or whatnot is baseless

Some people don't just see it as worth the while to play mind games because quite frankly it wears on the mind and body, the fact that there are many useless beautiful girls out there who have as many boyfriends as there are stars in the sky, doesn't mean there are not still many very beautiful girls who would be committedly faithful to their partners, even if they are not given any reason to be...(To every yin, there's a yang, they can't be all the same, they can't be all good and they can't be all bad) simply because it's in their character, commitment comes easily for them.

I think many a time we lose good girls and good guys because subconsciously our expectations come back to hunt us, if you're always expecting your boyfriend or girlfriend to behave in a way that's consistent with other less admirable romantic stories you've heard, then invariably your expectations would become a reality... You attract what you expect


So I think we should have a little more faith in our partners, especially those who have shown us commitment in one way or the other, let's give them the benefit of the doubt until when it's obvious that they've been taking us for a ride.. I'm not saying be a fool and be blinded to obvious manipulative or exploitative patterns but let there be a balance between your paranoia and trust.

salvatore007:
No b naija babe?

So by that you mean, every naija babe behaves like that?

salvatore007:
Oga iz better u run oo...... u hv just bin magarized... dat chik has oda plans in mind.... either she wants 2ask u for human hair or she wants to dump ur sorry bottom for nt luvn ha d way she does

How exactly did you come to this conclusion?

BaebieHot:
my dear, dont try too hard, neither too little. Just let it flow like it should be naturally. whatever will be will be.
and again... she said that doesnt mean you should take her for granted o

Very on point.

samflexxy:
ifm shem hearm youm nam youm nom oomm

This pseudo-hieroglyphics- really cracked me up!!!

Very impressive

DieeDiee

If you don't mind me asking, - What country are you from?... There's nothing to it... Just maybe benign curiosity

Nice eyes - check
Very nice smile - check
Gap tooth - check
Witts and humour - check
Nice beards - check
Two best buddies - check
Faith in Jesus - check
Virgin - check.




Infact lots of reasons to be thankful for.

You can imagine how it will be when the money now comes.....

Awesome wife - CHECKMATE!!!

Archmage:
bravo. what makes a great designer is the individuals approach to communication problems, not how well you use coreldraw photoshop or illustrator. design is simply a mode of thinking directed at providing solutions and not creating problems . it took me two years to really realize what design is and is not.

Major Word!

Naijaboiy


I dey really enjoy this your smiley oo " "

I never knew it was this sweet

Na to dey use am as punctuation na hin sure pass now

How come nobody has asked the OP what tribe she is

How do you people type like this....Ahhh Ahhh.. I want to learn it ooo

I think it takes a high degree of brilliance to type "e" instead of "he" and yet understand that what you've actually just typed is he

Can a lion become a vegetarian

Join the queue

Tosyne2much!!

Oya wa gba control

As much as I would have liked to dismiss these points as just sketchy guesses... They actually do make sense!!!!... really really make sense... and since OP says he's a relationship expert, I think I'd take his submissions... I particularly don't see why a girl would always want to stand up and leave the spot where she and her "boyfriend" are just to answer a call.... Abeg is the call an Ebola contagious call? and you happen to love your boyfriend so much that you don't want to infect him?


I've bookmarked this thread!... by the grace of God when I want to start dating/courting, God would not allow runs girls to see me... But I'll still keep the points on this thread on my fingertips... You know the devil can be very persistent.. Until you show him that you're even more dogged than he is

askakim:
@1one.. Will u still keep praying, waiting if you are in his shoes? The Lady is just been slow to him

I would pray until when there's a peace in my heart/or until when I hear God say she's the one for me... and if in the process of praying God says she's not the one for me... I'd be sure to tell her that I too had prayed about it and I'm sorry to say but my decision to ask her out was impulsive, that God has told me that she's not the one for me.

@OP

I think your friend was the one that even put himself in this "fix"... But being that you've already acquiesced to his christain baby hood I wouldn't hammer so much on what he would have done... The next series of statements I'm going to make are not to be accepted by everybody, we all have our individual principles and reasons or motivations for doing things.

For any christain guy who has a true connection to God, emotions and feelings are the last things you want to bank on as validations for "asking a girl out".. Infact your emotions and feelings should take a back seat... Particularly because emotions are fleeting and are majorly informed by physical senses(not all though) you wouldn't want to pick your destiny helper, your life mate just because your dick rose at the sight of her bouncy breastz or because she cooks better than chef casper.... Choosing who to even be friends with is a decision you have to table before God, how much more who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

As a christain guy, you need to understand that your life has a purpose, there's a deliberate intent that God had in mind for you, there's a side of God himself that he wants you to reflect to the world through your many giftings, flairs abilities and what have you and that's why you need a help mate... A mate that would expressly compliment you and help you fulfil that intent God has for you... The same goes with the ladies, but since the crux of my post is on guys, I'd leave that for later.


So in essence, Your friend should know that as the lady in question is praying about it, he too should go and pray about it... God is a God of order..I personally don't see why God would lead me to someone he has not already whispered about to...so that when I eventually show up in her life.... All she need do is just go back to God for clarification, it's not that time she should start doing 50 days Jesu Jesu gbo mi gbo mi prayers... You don't get umbrellas when the rains come, you get umbrellas in the dry season in preparation for the rain.


Pardon me if what I've said is a bit "jargonised"... I'm just finding it difficult to relate all my points as coherently as possible because there are so many points popping in to my head.

Cheers mate

Advertico:
relationship for a committed christian is usually more than like and emotions.

GBAM!!!


I couldn't have said it any better.

If a girl puts you in the friend zone... . It means she's not that into you... Would you want to be with someone that agrees to be with you out of pity or for the collective years of friendship?... I guess not.

It may not be easy, we all have our Prince charming and Princess... errrm... How come there's Prince charming but no filler for princess
..Lol.. Anyways you get my point.. No matter how bad or "woh woh" you are there's always a girl out there who would look at you like you were the only person on earth, you don't deserve to be feet licking a girl waiting for her to consider how awesome you are when you can be effortlessly and sweatlessly awesome by just being your true self in the eyes of the one that's really truly meant for you.

Suck it up bro and move on.

I used to be a proponent of long courting... There was a time I deemed 4years to be the minimum number of years to court my would be wife, but very recently I began to think against it... and it's not just that I've gotten older it's also because I've gotten to know a number of people in the past 1year and their presence in my life have been impactful... By attentive observation and quality time spent with them both ofline and online I've gotten to know so much about them.. So in essence if courting for a long period is to determine the texture of someone's character, or to see how much value they can add to your life and vice versa, to see if you're compatible in many more areas than not - I don't think you need a lengthy number of years to answer those questions... You meet some people for a day and they literally change your whole life either for good or otherwise.... I personally don't need to know a girl for long before I can sense if we are meant for each other or not.... My threshold is 1month... and that's why no girl can claim 1one has been leading her on.... Because within 1month I'd know whether to pursue or draw back.

That said, long courtship is an unavoidable happenstance for some people especially those involved in long distance relationship but if it can be helped I don't think anybody should court for beyond 2years....especially if you're a no-sex adherent, it just saves you the prolonged torture of seeing fresh mango that you can not lick

CoachDX:
Let me help you rephrase better
I pity a woman who's too strong to be submissive to her man.
...because I might be receiving her wedding invite every new year.

GBAM!!!

DieeDiee:
My dear sir I do believe you just committed the fallacy termed straw man, that is attempting to strengthen a weak point by making me seem biased and but slipping in subtle insults. Really comparing me to an ostrich is the best you can do? I gave you an opportunity to back yourself up and you failed.

Some advice before reading Ace Whatever how about first purchasing a dictionary and looking up submissive, then you might actually learn that to be submissive IS to be subservient.

Ok

DieeDiee:
Why do you need her to submit to you? Why is her CHOOSING to be with you instead of the million other men out there not enough show of her love? Why are you not satisfied with her sharing her life, her sorrows and joys, your sorrows and joys not enough? Why do you feel she shows her love only when she bends to your will?

You see Miss DD, one of the reasons why I didn't quote you directly was because I didn't want to overly drag this issue with you, seeing that your mind is already set and fixated with so many thickened layers of disgust for the concept of submission, going through your other posts also gives me a sneak peek into your general train of thoughts and ideal bordering on a romantic relationship... So I can't even dare to attempt in making you see things from my own vantage point because you're already neck deep into "submission is shit".

You know how it is with the ostrich - the head in the sand-nobody can see me thing?.. . That's how I think you are-so I can't start convincing you about the bliss side of submission and why it's actually a key requisite for any woman who wants a successful relationship,... and even if I attempted to go through the painstakingly rigorous process of making you see that submission is a good thing, my positions would still be futile particularly because being that I'm a man, you may see them as jaundiced or biased opinions.

That said, I still respect your stand on submission and how it seems so gross to you, it would normally seem gross to any well articulated, educated and independent woman, especially when they've not really been able to throughly crystallize the concept of submission and knowing exactly what it means.

So let me not drag this any longer than I would want it... Sometimes I wish Nairaland had a voice chat feature, it would have been easier to fence thoughts and arguments better over voice than texts....But there's one thing I think you and your ilk should know being submissive is different from being subservient .

If it wouldn't be too big a deal for you...You may want to get the book "Love and Respect" by Ace Author - Emerson Eggerichs...It would give you a healthier, more embracing skew towards the concept of submission

Cheers.

Evina:
DieeDiee, apparently you don't known the meaning of submission, neither do you understand the concept.

I was amazed when you stated that to submit to a man means you have made him a Lord/master. Yet, you went ahead to call him a leader. Are you not meant to follow the lead of a leader? Is following not submission?

It really baffles me how many so called "independent" women disregard the authority of their man, but actually have no problem being floor mats to their male bosses at work.

Gurl, the duty of a wife is to submit to the man, just as the duty of the husband is to love the woman.

If you really love him, you will submit because that is how a man understands that you love him. And please, never make the mistake of marrying a man you cannot honor or respect (this is what submission entails).

Whatever you've been drinking... Please continue drinking it in drums and tank sizes!!!

Your post is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo on point!!!.. Ah Ah na only you waka come... Why you con carry better sense like this... Chaii.

I was going to reply the OP but after seeing your reply I would have been faulted for tataulogy or even telepathic plagiarism