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postmann:
No one is talking about "business". It about taking responsibility. You perhaps missed the part where I said China Would come under international pressure. If Nigeria has the "diplomatic clout" it can work through the regional (Ecowas) and continental (AU) bodies to press for such demands.

Lol if you don't think business is involved in these talks you are suggesting, you are being naive.

Nigeria has neither the leverage nor the clout to pull any of all that.
Even if one tries to appeal to altruism as you've mentioned, the various global unions know that any money that enters Nigeria is not going to the good of the people, but will be pocketed by a select few. It is such a dark reputation with Nigeria that before a certain western country released a previous president's stolen loot they had to release it to Nigeria only on the monitored condition that it will not be stolen again. How embarrassing.

The only way Nigeria can convince anyone to do anything for it is by going about it on the platform of business leverage...of which Nigeria has none.
The 2 simple arguments china will make are:
- We are not responsible for an act of god.
- Your country was a shit-hole before and there is no evidence that suggests the epidemic changed much. In buttered words of-course.

After defeating your altruistic arguments, they will switch to business mode and punish the country based on the leverage they have over the country due to various thieving leaders who have been selling the country to china for more money to loot.

Y'all should just sit down and be humble.
You no get teeth for that fight.
Blame the leaders you keep voting for for selling all your teeth and sending all the money to their Swiss bank accounts.

Those fuckers are still sucking on live frogs and eating tadpoles.

postmann:
China will desperate need allies -- any allies it could get when the global hit would be turned on them after this pandemic.

If we have a good government, they should capitalise on it and demand China forgives some debts due to the callous way they misled the world about COVID-19 and the resulting catastrophe it cost.

With what leverage?
You can't have business conversations without leverage.
The boldened isn't leverage.

SweetCunt97:
I was once in this boat once upon a time, I chose to dive into the sea abandon ship... I hate stress in my life abeg. This one siblings reach 9 sef but he had a good job as a banker then sha... Salary no dey reach half of month e don finish.

Abeg parents should stop popping out many kids and stressing firstborns o.

These days, no be even first born dey carry load again like OP mentioned.
Some first borns dey part of the problem, dey reach for last born money.
No too be their fault, but one thing I have seen time and time again is that when family members see that you have money, they become complicit with the knowledge that you will always help them when they come calling.

You have to shock them with "No" sometimes.
Some family members even just refuse to find work or match their expenses when they see that you are their cash cow.

Austine567:
just pray your husband doesn't frustrate your effort, some men no wan use ear hear say there wife dey do something at all to bring money, she rather continue with normal house work and tending the family .

This is what happens when an unwise woman marries her "village people" because she initially fell under the deception that "he wants to pay for everything because he is a real man", an illusion supported by her own laziness. In fact, she will insult other more balanced men for not thinking like "real men".

Only to later realize in life (particularly in naija) that this also means she will have to eat shit if he tells her to, and is mandated to thank him for the opportunity to eat shit.

She will have nothing.
Own nothing.
Receive nothing...unless by manipulation (e.g OP's point number 1) or theft.
A life of arrested development, and soon enough, the utter disrespect of becoming a shadow of one's self. Trapped!

I created a thread about this from men's perspective earlier about the need for a wife to be on something.

Herpes is real.
And you can get it by kissing the wrong person.

Social media proposal.

Everything today is done for the gram.
It's stoop.

libertyfather:
This is just coming in late, full of regret now

Bros wetin happen? Share your story.

Jamariwolff:
thanks for input. I dont even want next generation oooh

You don't want children?

Jamariwolff:
I am 21, 22 in few days and I inherited 500 million, I want to work small while enjoying life. So I picked France (bonjour tout le monde) please advise.
I am supposed To be in 3rd year in sch but dropped

With 500M, you for kuku just relax for Naija.

Anyway, that comes down to about 1.39 million USD.

You are young so I hope you are not thinking about eating the money. What you should be eating is the residuals of the money. 5% annual interest on $1.39m is $69k per year.

That's what you could plan your baseline life on. Not a glamorous life, but it will cover all bills and good life. You can add more as you work some more and add to it.

Unfortunately most Nigerians don't understand these things. They think "big money has come, let's eat the big money small small" instead of thinking "let's eat off the annuity of the big money while keeping the big money intact".

If you do it the right way, you can in turn pass on that 1.39M to the next generation, doing your part to ensure generational wealth for your lineage.

cococandy:
If you declare bankruptcy, then you can own such expensive mansion.

But why are you worried? Don’t you intend to pay your taxes?

Nigerians don't understand how to maintain things and are always looking for ways to be sharp and selfish to the utter ruin of everything else.

That's why the country is still the way it is over there.

I am sick of weak simp men who can't kick a female who proves herself useless out with speed so he can have peace.
Also, by kicking fools out early, you see road faster to more sensible people.

Why would you willfully give yourself trouble over a woman?
Always be willing to walk away when the other party starts becoming willfully unreasonable, no matter how far your relationship reach.

healthserve:
God bless the elderly. Truly there's wisdom in age.


Absolute confidence. This man's balls would stop a nuclear war head. I swear down. Even the Chinese official becomes educated about his countries policy and is stunned. As well as other Chinese observers. This is absolute. This defense should be presented with a Nobel price. Amazing

Elderly got nothing to do with it.

You nigerians need to develop boldness to speak to anyone at any level no matter what/who they are.
Nigerians act like sheep in front of richman and start flexing their vocal cords anyhow when talking poor people and house girls.
Na eye service dey ruin una, or that country would not be that deep in corruption.

The ones at the bottom are not bold enough to out what the ones at the top are doing.

SultanOfPuna:
A 40 yrs old lover & her 15 year old lover Are you kidding me

Who told you she is 15 and who told you she is 40?
Believe bloggers at your own risk.

People just want to talk.

The difference between us and asians is that we freaking COOK our meat. This kills most things that dwell.
The concept of eating the raw/semi-raw meat of a strange animal is pure madness....and that is why all these weird diseases always start in china.
Japan and co, their own ends with raw fish (sushi).

Chinese? those guys eat anything.
Look at this disgusting video of a child sucking on a live frog.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJL4om2sfHw

This is how these idiots create and spread viruses to the rest of the world. And also this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=236m9GVh3Po

Losing job and girlfriend should not lead you to suicide. You exist as more than just these things.
Although with the way nigerian simps be thinking, if they cannot be an ATM to their spendy women they start questioning their existence.

That's not normal.
A good number of you naija guys need to take care of yourself mentally and practice self love.
This is why it is sad that mental health is not taken seriously in that country.

Simping is a mental illness.

- Find a better job. The next job will likely be better.
- Stretch and Enjoy your singleness for a time. Use it to focus on your self improvement. Losing a girlfriend means you have an opportunity to refine what you look for in others. No relationship experience is wasted.

Who is she trying to threaten?
Abegi!

Its a woman that does not have sense who carries everything about her marriage outside. She will learn eventually.

If na porn star she want, after she has destroyed her marriage, it is that same friend that will kuku slide in and collect husband from the mumu. No be today that film trick start.

cigaricon:
Yea. Dude even took me out one night. Told me he wanted me to accompany him to a friend's birthday party. Before I knew it, we landed in a strip club . It was quite fun oh as he spent a lot that night on Drinks. Still don't know why he did this, maybe he wanted to impress me or something. It was when I saw his male friends caressing and rocking each other that it came to me that he might be gay. One our way home he opened up to me that he likes me and he would like us to date. I told him that I wasn't gay and that I'll never be one even in my next life. he said even he himself wasn't used to be gay until he was converted that it is when I start that I will know how pleasurable it is and realise what I'm missing. Chineke!!! He kept persuading and I kept declining calmly cos I didn't want to hurt his feelings sha (he was quite a nice fellow). Then he finally gave up and since then whenever he sees me, he acts like he don't know me, lookes at me with one kyn shady look like that. He even goes about telling his fellow peeps and friends that he has slept with me and that it was so easy for him to do it, that I was cheap (I heared from people) I could understand - HE WAS HURT.I felt bad sha but Las Las people that knew me and mattered to me as I mattered to them know that I'm noy GAY

Chai

Na wetin girls dey go through with some guys.

Nova1988:
I'm 15 in and mine is 6inches.......sorry bro

This is exactly the type of shit we as men need to stop doing.

Oh wait, you're not a man. You're a boy.

They are likely just 2 lovers who are not related.

That first guy na bastard.

See as the yansh set.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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What kind of place do you stay?

IF you say you live with family, keep in mind that him staying in a studio apartment (what you call one room) puts him at a much higher level than you who is still squatting with family members.

So what level are you?

Its times like these that butress the fact that everyone needs to have their own garden in their backyard where they grow their own food.

That's why plants have seeds.

victorian:
My theme : Is to make myself happy.

I won't allow any man finish me before my time, in the deceit of I love u or I want to marry u.

That era is gone.

Shey they want to behave senseless. No problem. I ready full ground.

All we have now is Vultures, no more men again. God forbid!

Make them come chop. Because they give me money keep! Which I didn't remember to hand over.

Lemme not get angry today abeg. I don't need any man to spoil my mood for today. I've had enough abeg. They should go and look for other rich female magas in Nigeria to deceive.

Anyways have a great day.

You sound like a bitter old crow.
"Oh woe is me. I shall never love again. All men are dogs. I managed to make small pocket change and that is all these men want. yada yada blah blah."
All pure idiocy, but you are entitled to your idiocy.
Like I said in the OP, you girls should be done with your "Bad boy phase" and develop some damn wisdom. You sound too old to still be thinking like a teenager.

If that is what you have convinced yourself to be the case, then Look for men on your financial level and let us hear word abeg.
Men should also look for women in their general financial level or path.
That is the whole point of this thread.

If you cannot ATTRACT and PICK genuine men, then that's on you, not anybody else.

MusaChukwudi:
The world is changing my friend, whether anybody likes it or not. In advanced countries and with the continued women empowerment MARRIAGE is losing relevance and meaning. Your writing suggests to me that you are a very young man. Mind how you go and the decisions you make today.

Don't you ever marry a woman who cannot back you up financially. You don't have to own or control any woman. It's a fools paradise!

The lives of nigerian men go sweet die when they understand this one thing.

Depends on the location.

I think that in naija, some evil men need to be brought to justice.
But I do not support the ability of a woman to just cry rape without evidence or cry rape 50 years later when no evidence can be found.

I want naija to be a place where, As soon as rape happens, the woman should be able to rush to the police station and report/gather evidence.
It is this evidence that can then be used against the rapist...if it actually happened. If she does not come to report the rape after it happens, it means she has used her own mind to accept the activity as rough sex.

A society that allows anyone to accuse anyone else of anything without evidence, is a society that has given itself to anarchy.
Allowing that anarchy is one thing I hate about the west.

nashito:
Needless to write long articles, I met this girl recently, who I met online and prior to that, she have always portrayed to be a good lady and I must confess I somehow see her as someone I might marry soon. But to my greatest surprised, this afternoon, I wanted to check something with her phone (Google Chrome) and I saw over 3 opened porn pages, infact, her first bookmarked page is a porn site, guys what do you think about this? I've never seen this part of her and during sex I kinda don't want to hit that ass hard cos I have this mentality that she's gonna be my wife soon & ti be frank, I'm not much into sex and I don't want to marry someone that's a sex addict. Should I be worried about this? Please I need matured and rational advise guys. Thanks alot

"Hey babe, I glanced at your phone one day and saw some freaky shet. Tell me about some of the things you're curious of. I promise I won't be scared . Communication builds shared realities boo". Do this preferably while cuddling and smooching her.

No need for 3 page thread.

sweetrace:
That was a comment made by an intelligent female. Chasing money at the expense of giving children the attention they need is not what I want.

And how long do you think these children will need your attention for?

This is why a lot of you don't know how to let your children be adults.
It's because you have nothing else occupying your mind.

That is how one so-called mother inlaw will be coming to the son's house to be causing problems with his wife.
It's all a symptom of conc. joblessness.

Amanda4life:
Ohhh?

Because she got married to you she will not contribute to the family she came from

Please oga

I believe you know how much ordinary NAN cost in the market

What of breast milk

Diapers that were used for her

All the school fees

Food she got from her immidiate parent's.
After all these expenses you expect her not to give back to her parents.

Just assume she is your daughter. You know how much is school fees for a good school

See its not by force to get married

You can continue to live your life as a single man.
Don't do follow follow when you are not ready for it.

You sound igbo as fvck

RisenPhoenix:
They might, they might not; such women do not marry men who are unable to take care of the home front without help from them. Women typically marry up financially, not down. Their marriages are also hardly the kind of marriage most people aspire to.



No matter her character, no woman will truly respect a man who cannot fully provide for her. Though some women try to conceal the contempt for their dependent husbands out of fear of societal disapproval, it is a natural ingrained feeling. That is why you see women feeling contempt for their old, non productive husbands and transferring their 'love' to their productive sons and daughters who now provide for them.



I am not against women working or making money; even becoming wealthier than their husbands. My premise is that the ultimate financial responsibility of the home should always remain the husband's. The woman should be satisfied with that which her husband can provide comfortably; and the husband should not force her to give him out of her money to maintain the family in a standard that he cannot sustain singlehandedly. That is what I am against.

Again, your lens is covered by your limited mindset and obsolete life choices.

The reason the woman does that is because "Him giving me money" is all your shallow relationship was ever about.
When there is nothing left in your pocket, why won't she transfer her attention to who will feed her?

You literally trained the woman to be like a pet dog that feeds from your hand for years, and you expect the dog to still look at you after food in your hand has finished? This is why I say most of your ilk have no natural game.

Deoboss:
Look before you leap when it comes to ladies & marriage.

Ladies pretend a lot, once married you will now see her true colour & if she earns decent amount a large number of ladies start to act up.

Of-course it’s good to marry a lady that earns decent funds as in salary or in biz but not all of them are good at managing their attitude

That is why the worst question you can answer a lady is "What type of woman are you looking for?".
Never answer that bullshit question. Na ein be say she wan scam you be dat

Tell her to be herself, and pass yourself off as a non-judgemental guy....while you judge the fvck out of what she decides to be.

Genset:
Ladies, please be wise. Nature has accorded everyone their responsibility why alter it? Men are to provide while women nuture and take care of the home. Why do u also want to share a man's responsibility when u know a typical egocentric African man will never take part of your own nature accorded responsibility. Why double ur workload ? A lot of you men on this sites shout down feminism but pick it all up when it suits your purpose . Equal responsibility came up as a result of femininsm. So, u lazy men are enjoying the fruits of feminism. This post just shows that the number of lazy men in this country keeps increasing at an alarming rate. Someone on this thread was even saying it is not allowed for the first wife to be financial dependent but the second, third wife can be . This is simply a case of monkey dey work, babbon they chop. After u must have laboured and become so old, he then out there and picks a physically more appealing wife to shower all your hardwork on . You may even get thrown out of the house because your name was never in the property. I used to ascribe to this gender equality balderdash until i checked and discovered it complete work overload on the African woman and removed myself from such group. I will only take gender equality seriously when i meet a man that wants to go equal in all resoinsibilties. Until then , i continue to sit in my traditional roles of doing this . I hate cheating and i no get strength to over work my self .
My fellow ladies , watch sheraseven 1 on youtube for better understanding . She is the truth. Shalom

In savage days maybe, but what part of nature prevents the woman from earning money in a thinking job? E.g Software developer, even working remotely?
You guys/girls are painfully lagging man.