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continue speaking truth madame

Biglittlelois:
Reeks of disingenuous machismo and fake egotism on here.

Immature or uninterested females are not to be coddled.

The chase goes both ways.
He chases, she chases.

No man can convince a woman to do what she doesn't already want to do.
If he doesn't play into her illusion of *wanting him to prove himself*, she herself will start pursuing.

Because as a man, the only thing you have to concern yourself with in this life is being about your business.

The sun does not go circling around planets.
Planets come circling around the sun.

Dignity over pussy.

SilentListener:
have you ever watch interracial porn before? especially ghetto gaggers?

For every black woman gagging on white sticks in porn, there are at least 15 white girls gagging on black sticks.
Doesn't this devalue your point?

Open sexuality is a western thing, not an akata thing.

AkataWoman:
We make great wives but not great mates!!! That makes NO sense. You’d have to be a great mate first to get to the wife part.

And here’s the funny part: Because Americans are so diverse, your scenario could happen in a marriage with two Americans of the same race! Family comes to town and they’re laughing at stories and telling inside jokes that hubby has to explain to you. Or their accent and terms could be difficult to decipher if they’re from a different region (north vs south vs New England vs Midwest). If hubby’s friends /family works in a different profession, you may not get the medical language/jokes. Does that mean you limit your spouse to your profession?

Being raised in a country that requires you to interact with people from all different backgrounds, family structures, makes Americans great spouses for people from other cultures.

That said, I see nothing wrong with a person sticking to their “kind”. I say DO YOU!

Bovi and Basketmouth are comedians. Most Naija comedians usually tell their jokes in pidgin...which is basically a whole other language. It goes deeper than accents. I basically won't be able to take her to Naija Comedy shows, which I love.
Can't be explaining jokes mid-show.

I applaud the american trait of being open to other cultures (having grown up in a melting pot of cultures), but sometimes that's only good enough on a friendship level. Marriage goes deeper than just friendship.

Not saying it's not possible, its just A LOT of extra work. Speaking as a guy, we generally have the power to configure our lives any which way we want due to the fact that women have placed the burden of approach on us.

I understand that from the perspective of a woman, receptiveness to the new is the most sensible option to take being that men are usually the ones that approach...and the woman generally just sits and sort amongst who has approached her....through low-quality AND high-quality options (depending on your taste).

But from the perspective of a man who does the approaching...if I really want a professional Nigerian woman who matches my taste, those types of women are exactly who I would be approaching from the get-go....basically sorting only through high-quality options (to me).

Hence why a Nigerian man can afford to be that picky I guess.

Backfornow:
Ok fine to each their own. I just know the same folks going around saying it's ok to use terms like that, would be equally offended being called African bootie scrat cher. Nobody is embracing that term, so I'm just saying let's be honest about it. Anyways, good day to you.

"Booty scratcher" is a directly insulting term.
There is a tremendous difference between calling a group of people akata and calling them "Booty scratchers".
We call white people oyinbo. That is not an insult either.

We even call our Nigerian friends who have lived out of the country for too long "Akata". Its just a general term for a US-born-and-raised black person.
Now the STEREOTYPE tied to a US-born-and-raised black person is another thing entirely that stands independent of the word "akata" and is what is being discussed here.

Backfornow:
It is a slur. People are not being intellectually honest with you. It is not a good look for you to be embracing that term.

Nope, wrong.

Black American women might as well be a slur.
The issue is the stereotype.

There is a negative stereotype of Asian men having smaller Dicks. That stereotype does not change simply because you have people call them "Oriental" men instead of Asian men. You would just be deceiving yourself for yourself as That's not dealing with the problem.

AkataWoman is doing it the right way... Engaging in discussion.

AkataWoman:
Not familiar with Trump ever saying BAs are only good at sex. Please post the video. It was never said. But even if he did (which NO American has heard of), that doesn’t make him an authority. It would make him one person with an OPINION. Please learn the difference between FACT and OPINION.

And I don’t need to be from a large Nigerian community to pose the question I do in this thread: Why can’t Nigerian men just admit BA women make great mates (without the insulting reasons).

AND, they DID! Every Nigerian person in this thread married to or related to a BA woman through marriage agree we make “superb” wives.

Nigerians are actually the 6th most educated minority group in the US-a placement that changes. (BA women have held that #1 spot consistently.) However, it can’t be denied that many, many Africans in the US value education, have degrees and good careers. That’s just one of the things that make African/Nigerian men and BA women compatible.

To your question, yes BA can make great wives, but that doesn't necessarily make them great mates. Especially to a man who did not grow up in the US.

Cultures differ.

Cooking is the usual one mentioned but that is easy to surmount and it's not everything. If Jovi or basketmouth came to town, it would almost be impossible for her to really catch on to the jokes if we went out. Conc. Pidgin is hard for people who didn't actually grow up in naija or around naija people as family.

Instead you both kicking back and laughing because you both get it, he has to be translating the jokes for you.

As much as BA are good, a Nigerian man... Myself included, would likely prefer dating a fellow educated and professional Nigerian woman... Of which there are a lot!

Some Akata women are Good.
Just stay away from the ratchet ones.

If she is educated, respectful and doesn't dress like a nak3d clown, she can get it.

OgogoroFreak:
Seeing breastfeeding mom doesn't move me. Does it move any one?

It doesn't move me, but her own sense of decency is should let her go do it elsewhere.

cococandy:
Get a cook/chef

Yes, a wife.

cococandy:
Asaro (yam porridge) with goat meat for hubby
Fried noodles for baby
shrimp vegetables with roasted chicken and potatoes for me.

Damn. I guess it would be nice to have a wife afterall...

They will say it is juju O.

Nah Nigerians aren't ready for all that.
But some exposed ones are.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, cheating IS cheating, whether with a man or woman....so if i didnt know about it before she did it, then TECHNICALLY, it is still cheating and the DECEIT will hurt just the same.

also, the fact that i was NOT invited, would bring an extra tear to my eyes!

LOL I just can't take it seriously.
Naturally, I think you would know if your woman has bisexual tendencies.
I always even try to ask her if she wants to try things.

If I know she is, I honestly could care less if I come home and meet another half naked woman in my house.
I will just tell her that she must atone for her sins by organizing steady three some for me.

As in, I don't wanna even bother setting anything up or knowing which girl is coming. She should just be putting three some appointments in my calendar.

Fellas if you caught your woman having sex with another woman, how would you feel about it?

Will you be hurt?
Would it count to you as cheating?

Something I have always found weird with women...

I have no issues with having a bisexual woman. TONS of options for LOTS of Solomonish things.

But why do women have issues with bisexual men? Gay shit disgusts me as a man, but from your perspectives as women, why does it disgust you?

Looks like sex slave BDSM things.
They are having fun....though some of these people should have shame. How will you be letting another human being collar you in public?

If you want to do all that stuff, keep it in your bedroom.

Sounds like the 2 women had a kinky time

cococandy:
Who said she had to get the house?

And who said she must have been the one to commit adultery?

Also why are you in my inbox?

And why are you reviving a dead topic?

So many questions. Don’t bother answering .

Yup. Typical female. Not a single logical brain cell.

How does "Who said she had to get the house?" correlate to the fact that I just said she got the house, yet she cheated, and me asking WHY you think she got the house. This is a real life example. I know you are not stupid so you acting stupid to avoid answering a simple question is....well, I guess...typically female.

Keep deviating. We already know how your ilk reason.

As to why I DM'd you, it was simply to give you small props as per Benz posing. Aunty is it yours?

cococandy:
Your whole post is based on the assumption that the woman doesn’t bring money or contribute anything to the family. A post based on false assumptions is already null to begin with. So no need addressing the rest of it.

Also, I can’t reply your DM. I don’t have access to that email. Say what you have to say on here.

So why should she get the house? Add to that that she was the one that committed adultery....Answer logically and quit deviating.

cococandy:
Sign prenup on what?

On his house that the bank still owns?

Ignoramus

You Nairalanders are hilarious

But are you helping him pay it though?
If you later decide to Bleep him up, and the courts give you the house (which, lets face it, they will, even if you were caught cheating)...won't they also still force him to be paying for it while he goes and lives in a basement somewhere contemplating suicide?

There is far too much divorce rape going on out here that a man would have to be putting his balls in her hands to marry a woman without a prenup. Even if all that prenup says is "No matter what (children, lifestyle maintenance, etc), the maximum split is 50/50 of current assets with no alimony. If divorce is based on cheating, the offending spouse will suffer a penalty of XXXX"...It is STILL a much better thing to have than not having a prenup that specifically states that. There is a man giving 65+% of past, current and future earnings to his exwife like slavery...ON TOP the fact that she actually cheated on him. She is probably legally fucking some other guy in his house tonight while he is living in some basement because he can only pay for the big house but cannot live in it.

Only women have anything to gain from what they currently call marriage in these western countries...so naturally the onus is on y'all to support the concept of this marriage with emotional arguments and not factual logical ones. Abi who wants to give away their privileges?

pansophist:
I no talk say dem no dey, I talk say dem de hard to find. One just needs to find them.

Besides, the reason western men ain't marrying anymore is not that there are no good wife materials, but if she decides to take you to the dry cleaner (especially with the ''no fault'' divorce law in the US), the law, the court, and the system will help her rape you, using your blood as a lubricant. It is about the system, not the individual. For example, your wife can cheat and you, abuse you and do so many horrible things, she claims divorce (with merely two words like "irreconcilable difference", and boom, lawyers, court and the system supports her decision and split your property, and rewards her for it.

So much this

tee59:
I pity your life, male prostitute. You can neva make it big in life if you continue eating pussies. Get a life.

I don't think eating pussy and making it big in life are mutually exclusive.

Women and free things. Not everything is free O.
Not every maga is the same.
Some if them will kill you.

This girl was silly for trying to play a soldier man.
She should have pulled this stunt with a bloody civilian instead.

They are both silly.

sacramento1212:
Every tribe in Nigeria have their own culture and tradition and it has absolutely nothing to do with pagan rituals or demonic as you may call it. No one forced him to marry an Ibibio daughter and if he wasn't comfortable with it, he would have looked else where to pick a bride. That's why i encourage people that wants to get involved in intertribal marriage to study the culture and tradition of the tribe of their potential partner.

Do not smell the food you intend not to eat. It's like me going to a tribe in Edo that have their own tradition to tell them i won't be a party to it and insist on doing things my own way. If I know i don't like what's being practised there, it's better for me not to get involved with the lady in the first place.

@ugofly, once again, you have nothing to worry. It was part of the traditional marriage same way we cannot abolish traditional marriages and stick to white wedding which to me is a borrowed culture. It's a one off thing and you have satisfied all that was required to pick a bride in that part of Ibibio land.

So nothing to worry about concerning your wife, children and the future. May God bless your marriage and may you reap the fruit sooner or later.

You lack spiritual vision and depth.
Everything is just a great big "cultural" party to you innit?

There is a reason why Africa is still a Dark nation of retrogression.
It is because of these things we carry on our heads along with us all in the name of culture.

Let me just say, If I were the devil, all I would have to have done is instill some tribal people with "cultures" that benefit my goal (much to their detriment) and let my recruited (delightfully unpaid muhuhahaha) "culture-warriors" such as yourself go ahead to do the important job of fighting off logic and pragmatism as to why my instilled practices which are detrimental to you should still be continued. I will find it even more so hilarious if this warrior of mine actually considers themselves a christian.

I would be sure to instill you with anti-logical capabilities hence making you immune to the sense of any argument. All you would have to keep on repeating over and over is "This is how we have always done it....therefore it is the best way". Your brain can never be allowed to pick up on the fact that this argument in itself is a logical fallacy. I can't have you getting too smart about these things.

And I would be sure to equip you with an intolerance against any of your kinsmen who decide to think for themselves and help their lineage by foregoing my questionable practices. To you, they should have no right to decide to ignore my bidding. You'd be a great asset to my hatred of mankind.

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They only cover specific scenarios i.e car accident, etc according to the terms.

They are not fools.

The girl has signed her life over to him. If I were the guy, I will take full advantage of this new financial slave.
It will help all these empty-headed females understand that the world does not revolve around their feelings.

Girls cheat on guys everyday too. But if he beats her or destroys her property his ass is f*cked. He would simply be encouraged to walk away from the situation and move on. She should have taken this very same advice.

UgoFly:
I just did it and the rituals got me scared. I'm not from Akwa Ibom and I want to know if this ritual will have any impact on me. The people told me its just their culture but I'm not comfortable with the whole sacrifices and rituals involved.

Subjecting yourself to pagan rituals all in the name of freaking marriage and you are letting demons threaten you with death when you should be telling them "dia fada".

If you are a Christian, I SMH at you.
Tradition for tradition sake, sure...but you have to draw the line when that ish becomes demonic. Otherwise, the way these things work, you have given consent for whatever that is to be a part of your new home. You are part of your generational problem. Now some child of yours down your lineage will have to fast and pray to break themselves free from the nonsense you have consented to bring into your lineage because of your weakness.

As much as you are trying to help them by marrying their daughter, your desires also matter.
You can make it clear that you will have nothing to do with marrying their daughter if pagan rituals are involved....especially not any that involve some bloody entity threatening me with death if I don't do it. Dia Fada!

integritylady:
Some ladies are crazy... If he gets her arrested, she's gonna pay for damages...
Sure she isn't broke too

Most girls are broke.
She has just added her family into the wahala.
It is not beans to fix a multi-million dollar car.

She don enter slavery be dat.
Assuming she is the typical jobless slay queen, She will now probably have to suck copious amounts of deek to work for all the money required to pay for the car.

Her voice go crack by the time she is done

No time for nonsense.

Report her to police and file charges.
By her foolishness, she has just put herself and her family under slavery to me to pay to fix my multi-million dollar car

See eh...all this is talk.

I bet it was that very same narcisism that attracted her to him.
No be bad man una dey find upandan? No matter how "good" she might think herself to be, women are deep down gluttons for punishment.

As she is there so, her brain might not be happy (logic), but she as a woman (drama cravers) is secretly happy because her desire/quota for drama is being met. If she married a man that wasn't giving her drama, she would have sha found a way to create it i.e look for ways to constantly check how weak he is, cause problems solely for emotional turmoil so she can have something to cry about, etc.

I generally don't take women's complaints about these things seriously.
Na their way. It is what they secretly crave. I guess emotional pain helps them know that they are still emotionally alive...or some ish.

And somehow this novice thinks he knows what women want.

Women want that chaos.
They can't live without it.
They are backward as Bleep.
You gon' learn eventually