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biddostandard:
dont be an hypocrite ,dont judge im planning of getting one soon

Tell that to your oga in the office.

A goat that chooses to sit in a pot by force will find itself in peppersoup eventually.

Bobrisky dey there. Dem 2 guys for go toast demselves.

O boy Her thighs were made for straddling faces.
Yummy sturvs

1Sharon:
Lol you're right. I believe OP is in America tho.

He has been on NL for a while and he also has tattoes

Where did this one see me with tattoos?
This is how silly girls start gossip just to feel like they are the ones giving "tea".

Better go and turn that urge to serve "gossip tea" into serving "actual tea" this morning by making me breakfast.
Also go and make my bed. I have scattered it.

lefulefu:
hmmm op wears tattoos and he"s complaining about ladies who wear tattoos? doesnt make sense .it will be like a smoker complaining about other smokers

Na lie.

chidiebereuzoma:
This one is even a lesbian sef... I hope you are not practicing that rubbish here in Nigeria, because if the law caught up with you, it's 13 years behind bars... Spits

It is their type that champion societal degeneration of all sorts, and impressionable small girls who do not have fathers will be following them.

StrikeBack:
They do this out of excitement.
. typing........

When I see a girl with tattoos, all I see is a dullard who cannot think far....a fool to be bleeped stupid and later block her number when I am tired of the Bleep.
There is no possibility of wifey or family with this person.

If she wanted to have fun, she should have done so without tarnishing her long term possibilities with such a permanent decision.

No one will take her seriously.

I'm seeing a lot of Naija girls out here lately with tattoos.

Do these girls not have fathers?

Bad decisions like these will only cause problems for them in dating and profession.

This is why we don't hire Nigerian youth! OP See your grammar.

I'm at least happy to see Nigerians have evolved past the point of fearing it is a witch.

I like that some sharp people have already removed the fins
Them fit sell the fins for betta money.
Na wetin white people dey chop be that.

Oyinbo Dem go kill full animal just so they can cut one small part carry go chop or hang for wall, then leave the rest to waste.
Very funny people.

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This is the last generation where village people will eat wedding rice and long wedding list over a girl who they don't even know and who they never raised up.

I have a feeling my generation won't bother putting our children through all that stress before starting their lives. From my daughter at least, I will simply ask her how she wants to do it and we will do it like that. No bloody villager can come to my house and tell me how I will give MY daughter away.

Make Dem try.

Get another lady. You'll forget her quick

You won't want to go back to your shit hole country of apes after your trip.

PoliteActivist:
You have a point, but I don't think it is because they are being intentionally smart. It is simply because women are wired to fall in love with men more successful than themselves - men with power or money or status, or such. They are.also wired to eventually realise they r no longer in love once the money etc is gone. But just because the love is intertwined with those attributes does not mean it is not genuine. With men being physically attracted to u is number one thing in order to fall in love.

In other words, SMART and full of agenda.

PoliteActivist:
You make sense, but what if the single mother has her own money or even richer than u? That kinda negates most of your points. The rest is same as a lady marrying a single or plygamous father

Will she want to have more children for you?
If not, you are just a piece of meat being used for the time being.
Which is fine. Most guys don't mind this at all. And that is why I say if you get with a single mum, she needs to equate the balance by at least being wealthy.

Most women in this position who are richer than the man won't want to carry his seed.
As far as women are concerned, that kind of agenda-less emotional thinking is encouraged only in foolish men who fall for it. They themselves are smart.

oyatz:
The Nigerian society doesn't support a successful eligible bachelor marrying a single mother whole heartedly.

When I was a bachelor, there was one nice lady that loved me and I was about returning her affections, then she told me she had a son already.


About a month later, at a re-union of our old friends, one of them asked me what I was doing about getting married and I was giving him my options of ladies with their merits and demerits.
Immediately, I got to that of the single mum, he just said I should forget her immediately.

If you are a graduate from an educated family and you bring a single mom home, your mother and sisters will be the first to kick against it and your friends will make gest of you like kilode.

You and your single mom fiancee will be a butt of jokes.

It's called good looking out.
Obviously you forgot yourself and they had to remind you.

A single mum has EVERY reason to try to present herself as a perfect angel.
And you were falling for it. She might as well be one, but She has a lot to make up for, and you have a lot to think about.

It's not just love, becoming a step-father involves A LOT of pre-thought. You should never just jump into something like that based on "ooo she gives me feelings". Any relatively attractive woman can give a man feelings if she really wants to.
If you are so open with your heart like that as a man you will always lose this game, and whether you like it or not you are a player in the game. You have to take your eyes above all that emotional stuff and logically think about your legacy:

1- Can you draw a circle around whats yours?

2- If something were to happen, can you go into debt for that child that isn't yours?

3- How deep can you sacrifice for it, knowing that this child carries nothing for you...but instead carries something for another man who has left you to do all the work....probably laughing at you like the ubunjas of this forum.

4- How at peace are you with the fact that, at any point in time, that ubunja after becoming an old man, can simply walk back into his ready-made adult child's life and "re-introduce himself" to the child and after some time that child will for sure start calling him "dad" because at the end of the day, despite all your sacrifices, blood is thicker than water. Will you not feel like a fool?

5- How fair to you will it be when the mother has all the ROI knowing that all the care you are showing is furthering HER generation/legacy, but not yours? You get no real ROI from that step-child....at least not the ROI that matters. Your name is not coming up in that child's family tree.

6- After all the above gives you concern/anger and you decide to make her create children for you to give you some peace of mind, how will you relate to these 2 classes of children? One yours and one not yours. Do you think it will be easy to see them as both the same?

7- How at peace would you be with the fact that this all could have been avoided if you just uncomplicated your life when you had options by marrying an untethered woman and both of you start your own legacy together clean & clear?

My guy, phuck feelings.
They only lead to short term decisions, not long term ones.
You have failed as a man (especially with women) if you cannot think long term...because you will either get the manipulation or the blame at the end of such failure.

i heard someone say what if you marry a fresh woman who cannot give birth. Then at least with that one if you both decide to adopt, it is BOTH of you experiencing step-parenthood...not that you the man will be the only one chopping L's like a mugu.

The single mum thing is only for single older men 40+, single dads, or men that have very deep problems.
Anything outside of that, is questionable.

princfred:
Lol. What women has done to men for having a restless third leg. We cannot talk am finnish.
That " simplify" shah its like you go like mathematics.

All of life is an equation my broda.
Whoever tries to convince you otherwise is just trying to manipulate you.
They will always revert back to equation mode when it is their turn to gain something from the equation.

Gentlewarrior1:
Wealthy single mothers like genevieve nnaji and linda ikeji choose not to marry because of their wealth

They have countless broke and average suitors yet they are not interested in marriage. They will rather Bleep around with sugar boys than to be with a relationship with one man. Lol

Single mothers are more self centred than single ladies

This guy gets it.
People should stop saintifying single mothers. Na condition make crayfish bend.
In the words of Jesus, "No one is good..."

That is even on the side.
In stupid countries like the US, you can be stuck paying child support for a child that is not yours even after you and the mother split up.
And you don't even have married the mother or legally adopted that child.
Just by enough "fatherly association" with her child, the evil mother can have the government start collecting your money for her.
Look up "paternity by estoppel".
https://www.petrellilaw.com/paternity-by-estoppel-could-you-be-forced-to-pay-child-support-for-your-exs-child/

I simplify my life by not involving myself with other men's children, unless you are willing to make these sacrifices.

Liftedhands:
Reading all your comments about this topic. This is the only one I agree with you 100percent.

My childs welfare comes first no argument.

As a single mother "BY CHOICE" legally was married and walked out on my own accord and terms cos I don't won't no manwhore as husband. I pat myself everyday for taking that bold step to leave a serial casanova and I don't regret it one bit.



No single mother became a mother by mistake! No no! She thought it over and made the best and wisest decision to keep a life rather than abort it cos one boy feels he aints ready to take responsibility for his action.


Single mothers have it rough and tough raising kids all alone coupled with society with a mindset as yours.


It's shameful to see and regard them as unworthy of love! No woman who has gone thru the travails of childbirth whether as a wife or a single girl should be shamed for choosing to keep a life.


If you don't fancy them fine but don't discourage a brother who finds love and peace with one with your utterances and belief.

Note we all can't have same taste and choice in whom we love so don't crucify those who choose to love a single mother.

Every child born on this earth deserves the love and care of a father and mother be it step or biologically.


Live and let live

Shalom.

No body is arguing all that.

Single mums should find single dads so both of them can continue their half-match with each other as opposed to unfairly doing half-match with someone who hasn't even started the game.

If that happens, there should be something thrown in to sweeten the deal. E.g like someone else said, you don't find women without children going crazy over a single dad who is broke. He must have something to sweeten the deal.

I don't know why the heck single mums feel they should be exempt from this life equation, because you have vagina?

Every well-adjusted person needs that space to be able to start their own family free of "intruders".
Whatever happens after that is fair game.

The thing is, these things become complex after you now have your own legitimate kids.
There will always be a difference. All this yellow and pink argument means nothing until you really put it down like this: How deep in debt can you go for some other man's kids?

PoliteActivist:
Gerald Ford, Bill Clinton, Barak Obama, all their step fathers married their single mothers

You are making a case against your point and you just don't know.

For example, with Obama all you hear about his father is "my father was a Kenyan".
And ofcourse you know he is referring to his BIOLOGICAL father. That's who you hear about.
The other guy played clean-up and supported Barack through Havard? I don't even know where he is from.
That's how insignificant he is, and that is how insignificant any side-dad is to that child when he grows up and starts doing things.

The impregnator will always get the fame.
Bet it.

Single mothers should be PAYING men to marry them otherwise the value proposition is waaaaaaay off.

Why the phuck would we do that?
Na we give you belle?

I don't understand these fools these days who still date broke girls.
Do you feel you can't do better?
Why are you dating female bums/hobos?

If everytime you are together her prime objective is to scheme and start talking about her problems that need money etc, use the letters n and o. Make it a task to never give her a dime when she asks even if her father is doing in the hospital. This forced her to leave if she is there for money or stay if she is not.

Help if you want to, but not by constant compulsion and not when your gut is telling you she is on that bullshit. There is never a wrong time to say no when it comes to women. It is actually scientifically proven that the word no makes girls unconsciously wet.

Revel in the label they give you i.e "stingy" which is just another way of saying that you are too smart for them.

Mama dey wash put.
You suppose wash put inside your own too Mae everytin balance.

Na dat ogbantami taste the man dey crave.
Give am to am.

The normal reaction for a Nigerian when they see another currency is to concert it to Nigerian currency.... Without factoring in the actual value of that money based on location.

Still, nice accomplishments for a young lady of 25.
The useless thots that parade Instagram should learn from her.

We power coupling or we not coupling at all.
She needs to be on her mental game.

We should be able to voice ideas off each other when chilling.
No be just Bleep we go dey Bleep.

BlackIvory:
Also to @Ubunja who wrote-
Cause a man's criteria is DIFFERENT. What we like is opposite from what you like.

While a car and house may impress a woman, a car and house is not what a man wants in a woman. In women Men want youth,fertility and freshness, not diplomas and whatnot. So feminists are destined for failure.

My answer-
What gives men the impression that women don't dream. That we don't look beyond how many likes we get the n Facebook or likes on Instagram? That we want to be neurosurgeons, civil engineers, lawyers, renowned authors etc
What makes you think our only desires are to wake up. Clean. Breastfeed. Clean. Sleep
Why do SOME OF YOU MEN lay out for us our goals in life.

Fixed

HealingHeart:
OK, what of those women with fetish for large big dicks? What happens to the man whose size does not meet the women's definition of 'big'?

Is it your job to be liked by everybody?
Because if it is, you are up for a long life of dissapointments.

Who no like wetin you carry as far as you are concerned is nobody to you.
Never ever let what someone wants make you feel bad about yourself.
If she no like am, thats her phucking problem.

It's just tiring hearing every guy lieing about how they have 12 inches and always get hard.
These lies just make you hate yourself more because you know these things to be untrue.
Then you turn to drugs to help prove your claim to these women. The same way insecure women turn to yansh padding and whatever to prove her claim to men.

It's un-necessary. Phuck her with your real self like a BOSS. Eat and finger that puh while you're at it.
If she needs bigger because she has been abusing herself with other tools, that's her own phucking problem.

There's a reason God designed women to be virgins before they marry. Naturally every unphucked pussy should be satisfied by every dick size.
Feminists can argue all they want, but men do not bleed when they first have sex, nor do they have something inside them actually rip. These physiological changes were not trivial aspects of the design of the female body. They mean something. Also failing that, the pussy is the only thing that can be naturally tightened. Man cannot naturally increase his erect dick size. That also says something.

She can go buy herself a vibrator if thats her issue.
It's not your job to satisfy some other person's every fetish...same way no self-respecting woman would allow any man try to body shame her for having portable boobs. It's not her job to satisfy his every fetish. Someone else will appreciate it like that. She would only make herself less attractive if she lets those pointless opinions eat into her self-esteem and confidence. With the right confidence, she can even still dominate the fool in the bedroom who thought he needed big boobs.

TLDR: Build more confidence in yourself.

All this small boys talking. As if everyone has big dick
This fallacy creates a fakeness rampant with people today.
Even guys that have small dick will be lieing to women only for her to find out and be disappointed...not necessarily in his size, but in his lack of integrity and self love as a man that should be an unshakeable rock.

Even with your small dick, you can confidently slay any girl. It's about your attitude and if you let it be a problem... to you.

Don't give a Bleep what you think she thinks.
Don't even give a Bleep what she thinks.
You have the best dick in the world.
If it's 3 inches, then she better take all 3 of those inches and phucking like it.

Never let anything about your body shame you when fucking a mere girl. Just as well never let anyone shame you about your body.
Even if your dick no stand, that just means she gets to spend the night sucking you off. That's her job now. No humping and certainly no phucking apologies. You can't be stressed.

Love the heck out of that woman, but Work on your mind game and your presence of self.

You are the greatest.
That is all.

NwaAmaikpe:




I pity the jobless ones who will follow in this protest.
You'd inhale tear gas in vain, while the conveners will get parastal appointments like Hadiza Bala Usman.

Say no to being used as a pawn by sellout moles.

Do not participate in the protest instead sit at home, go to work, visit a boyfriend, go to the cinema, watch porn in the office or just pray in church.
I support whatever decision the DSS, Police and other paramilitary takes on dumb protesters.

Think again.

Is it a coincidence that Sowore wants a revolution just after the ministerial list was released and he didn't make the cut?
Have you asked yourself why Yele Sowore of all people refused to file an election petition despite the flawed 2019 Presidential elections.

Have you wondered why this same person who congratulated Buhari after the elections saying it was a deserved free win then all of a sudden wants to protest again his government?

Abeg, our mumu don do.
Sowore you can and will never fool NwaAmaikpe.
You can't tell the world that Buhari was credibly elected by the people and still incite the same people to revolt against his government.
That is pure two-faced hypocrisy.

I will never endorse a Nigerian revolution spearheaded by an insincere New Yorker.

Go suck buhari's dick and die you cowardly effeminate phaggot.

OP congrats!

Baby mama life will be a life changer I'm sure.