₦airaland Forum

Biglittlelois:
If only these sets of women will change their money mongering mentality and try to be better for themselves by themselves,
If only these men will stop showing off money to get the women cos of their good looks and physical attributes and go for the real ones,

It's a two way thing.

generationz:
I'm not against being careful for gold diggers

I mean , they are everywhere
Even me as a lady won't like fake friends who are only with me for what they can get.

Nothing wrong with observing someone you are about to get married to closely too.

However I don't understand how you offered assistance to someone you claim to care about and were still hoping she would reject it to pass some test.

I mean you said she was I dire need at that time.
If my friend or partner is in dire need of money and I'm capable of helping, the last thing on my mind would be a test of that sort to prove loyalty or something else

Many people would totally fail that test not because they are gold diggers but because they wouldn't expect such test at such situations from a friend or boyfriend.

If she stole your money or was too demanding that's a different case but she was in dire need of assistance

In my short sojourn in life I've met many people who reject presents at first instance to appear modest.

To me it doesn't prove anything and only shows a fake and pretentious nature.

while some others are just too timid.

I see people testing "wife material" by how well she can peel cassava , fry garri and all sorts of hard labour.

Definitely , a wife is first a home keeper before anything else. However the world is changing and a lot of things are so unnesary.

You do not test a gold digger by her refusal of money you gave her. You test her by how she manages the money you spend on her. what she spends it on. How she treats you when she needs money vs when she doesn't.


Many Nigerian babes are now very smart.
shebi na to reject money , sweep house enter main road , wash all the clothes in your box and say yes sir even when he spits on you. Any lady can pretend to have these qualities to get the ring.

you understand ?

Also I find it distasteful when men describe other women they had intimate relationships with in the past as b1tches, cunts etc.

I mean, maybe they treated you bad but you chose to be with them and sometimes like attracts like.

Amakavula:
It's a little stressful and would hurt to tell them the truth because they might have been grooming you for long. Best tell them " No " in a public space.



Mine happen that one time I had Pharm-Lab orals in the University, quite early in the morning so invited my study partner to my place overnight ( had a room off campus )

Some how we got bored around 2/3am so she suggested we chatted instead of sleep. Hence, we started talking about TV shows, then romance, love, then sex and it got steamy too quickly ( I guess that was her intention )

She walks off suddenly to the bathroom, spends a few minutes and returned half nude with only a blue short ; her Bra was gone, with her breast fully aroused. She explians it because of the heat, asks for a shirt but before I could get up to get one, she pushes me back on my bed, laughs hard and starts to kiss and fundle my breasts ( had only a cropped top because of the heat )



Thoughts run through my mind. I was too shocked to react , and a little embarrassed given she was this nerdy, shy and quite religious lady, hardly parties and was quite helpful through CLi course works ( one of the best in the class, outside nobody would believe me ) I was getting raped by a girl.

Even worse was I never gave her such a vibe before, and it was akward when I stopped her with " leave me now or I will scream " You should see her face. But Reading that morning was weird, I didn't sleep again out of the fear she might complete her planned rape of me.

Weeks later, after avoiding her for long, she asked to see me at night in my place. After begging for touching me uninvited, she proposed her undying love for me and told me all she had done to get close to me. It was so bizarre. She asked us to be just Bleep buddies, and keep it down low, and she will love me more than any man would.

I couldn't even laugh. I was sad because I liked her but not that way. Told my then Boyfriend ( Stupid Ex) about it, he only laughed, stupid thing mtwwweeee.

But finally took her out to a Cafe under the pretense of editing my electives ( was afraid what happened could happen again ) to break the "Sorry Chiamaka , I can't do this, I don't like women, and I have a boyfriend, I don't want it please "

O dear She was livid, never seen her that angry before , given she had helped me alot up to that night incident. Broke off our friendship . Surprisingly saw her recently she is married with twin Lolx . I am still single see this life !

generationz:
oga , I asked you a question which you cleverly avoided my question

So I ask again , if you were marrying dangotes daughter or DJ cuppy , would you carry out such shitty test on her? would you test her with suffering?

once again I pity your babe. ciao

generationz:
I pity the girl she doesn't know the kind of person she wants to end up with

A man that refers to other women in this manner.

I wonder why men think it is OK to test a woman with suffering.



oga tell us the truth, if she was dangotes daughter or bill gate's daughter would you test her with suffering?

OdikwaRisky:
I remember when i started getting stretch marks on my fair, flawless breasts last year, I was so upset I was almost in tears but I’ve come to love and accept them. My boyfriends still love me laidat. Men will offer Millions just to kiss those marks. Gosh I’m so blessed to be beautiful sha. Thank you Jesus

Elder0001:
Linda was never a feminist ... her opinions weren’t feministic neither did she claim at one point that she supports the movement .

The fact that she was or claimed to be independent doesn’t make her independent.


It is now clear that most Nigerian men still don’t understand the meaning of feminism and its a shame .



Cc trustyshoess capslocked

Elder0001:
And she ran!

Women don’t want patriarchy to end afterall

pansophist:
Patriarchy (or a pre-defined gender role) is the only organic medium a specie can survive, sustain, and thrive. A world without patriarchy can only persist with technological advancement that will make men redundant by offsetting their traditional role, and if a global cataclysm occurs thay catapulted humans back to the stone age, humanity will revert back to patriarchy and women with the aid of their hypergamy, will seek protection with the strongest male she can find to thrive in the unpredictable new world.

Furthermore, the so called patriarchy is not an oppressive force to women that radical feminist have successfully made people to believe. Men are women are equal, but suitably adapted for different roles. For example, stacking up clothes in a dish washing machine will more or less, wash the clothes, but it won't come out smooth and fresh lile a cloth washing machine will, this is just common sense.

I am a proponent that women indirectly controls the power in our society, even if men are the in the forefront. I implore everyone interested in the dynamics of gender relationship to read the book by Warren Farrell titled "the myth of male power", and you'll never see patriarchy the same way again as a ruthless force designed by some mysogynyst to oppress women. The average man love, respect and treat women right, and this privilege is unfortunately changing and making women less happier as men are now refusing to uphold their traditional gender roles since feminism has released women from theirs. And no, mainstream feminism is not about about equality, but female supremacy and special privileges.

tintingz:
There are possiblities patriarchy can fade off in the future.

Yes the early society started as patriarchal system due to men physical strength to hunt and fight which became a culture, then religion came with same patriarchal system to tame women.

We have all-female worriors in the past, the Dahomey Amazons for example.This shows women can be worriors but many society didn't give that chance to women.

Now if cultures and religion can be scrapped or amended, reorientate our girls and boys, then patriarchy will fade off! We are now in advanced society where we have science, technology and education, we have allot of women performing well in this field, we now see women going for political post, if this reorientation persists then patriarchy will fade off but as long as religion and culture(which are social myths) keep used to indoctrinate little girls to see men as superior then nothing will change, and funniest thing is it seems many girls are enjoying the patriarchy thing, they(girls) took advantage of it.

ShameOnAPC:
It would have been paining me if I didn't have PVC, I can't wait to vote for AtikuObi.

name the saint in Buhari's Cabinet... Oponu

zombie, kill yourself

ShameOnAPC:
It would have been paining me if I didn't have PVC, I can't wait to vote for AtikuObi

Angela777:
True. But nowadays there are many intelligent and professional ladies, business women in Nigeria

lilbest4:
most of those laws were written by men.
The men on top are always fools I don't know why.

Offpoint:
Summary still too long... abbreviate it or shorthand it

pansophist:
Men are logical beings. Men will just dump the idea of marriage completely and cohabitate instead, especially in states that do not consider cohabitation as a legal form of partnership (e.g Mississippi and Michigan). And if they change cohabitation laws in all states, well, it's time to just move to a country thay doesn't see you as a mere wallet.

In summary, in order for a prenup to be effective:

- Both parties must have their own separate attorney. Plus, the prenup must be:

- Written. Oral prenups are not valid.

- Executed voluntarily and without coercion. e.g A prenup that’s signed the day before the wedding can be invalidated.

- Executed only after full disclosure. If you hide assets and/or liabilities, you run the risk of invalidating the prenup.

- Conscionable. A prenup cannot be unconscionable. In other words, the prenup could be invalidated if the agreement is too lopsided, with one party awarded almost everything and the other receiving only a pittance.

- Executed by both parties, preferably in front of witnesses (or a notary). Some attorneys even recommend having a judge witness the signing to make sure that neither party was coerced into signing.

- Written in a recordable format, such as a real estate deed

Keep these conditions in mind, not only if you are trying to get out of a prenup you now believe to be unfair, but also if you are thinking about signing one. Whichever side of the coin you’re on --whether you’re trying to void an agreement or trying to draft one that cannot be voided --it’s critically important to consult with professionals who have the expertise to help you navigate these sometimes choppy waters and plan for a secure financial future.

1Sharon:
Why would you be addressing ppl other than women? Prick

1Sharon:
Every black person has some ghetto in them and the bolded should be women not females.

I guess you are Tommy sotomayors protege

1Sharon:
Don't you live in America? Aren't you used to seeing teeth like that