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Nukilia:
May your days be long bro!

I just hope Nigerians can vote for a new person apart from all these old crooks. Mention me when the politics thread is on.... It looks like Nigerians love incompetent leaders...

They didn't...
I tire for Nigerians. They have doomed themselves for another 4 years. At this rate, that country will never catch up.

I don't even have energy to dedicate a while other thread to their stupidity. It is unfortunate that the few intelligent citizens of Nigeria must share the country with a stupid majority.... But I think this is to be expected as most intelligent Nigerians are running away and leaving it to the dullards in majority who continue to make even duller decisions.

Ten06:
You are a wise guy. Those ones campaigning for bubu and Atiku are not yet ready to get out of their slavery

Guy! Can you believe these same fools still voted for Butiku?
Nigerians do not want to help themselves.

This while thread made me LOL.
Clearly the OP has not seen my threads on this subject.
Mainly...https://www.nairaland.com/4838308/boyfriend-moves-usa-without-green

That meeting-online-over-long-distance-involving-passport relationship no get sense at all.
Strive for more local connections.

Also, did he promise you anything exclusively? My guess is no.
I'm guessing you guys were just flirting small as play and now the play has finish and he has moved on. Don't take things so serious.

As a christian, I don't believe in zodiac horoscopes...

But why are they usually accurate AF?

E.g Aries are meant to be rude and for real most aries I know are selfish and rude.

Armaggedon:
The write-up is rather full of frustration instead of logical submissions. If the poster meant well he should have started by asking "why the tradition"
No tradition comes by chance or for fun. our tradition embodies our civilization. US doesn't have tradition (omenani) and that shouldn't be used to judge our society.

In Igboland marriage is not an just an "I love you" thing.Two people agreeing to marry is just the beginning of a process. proper background checks/spy must be conducted by the families of the intending couple, groups in the village notified, elders in the girls kindred conduct the main rite in the girl's family house, shortly before the main ceremony. Here traditional prayers and "libations" are poured for the land/ancestors to accept and bless the marriage too. therefore aside getting known by your people, there is an element of religion too as Igbos believe in land/home soil and its potency so much.If you don't believe in this important tradition, well, the girl you want to marry does. That is why marriage is best between people who share the same values. A man is always a man. The girl is the one who leaves her family to live with another man and family. Getting the nod of her kindred gives her union legitimacy, gives her a sense of support from them and peace in her marriage. it also puts the man on his toes. Any Igbo girl who knows her onion must get nod from the highest family authority before following a man as wife.

See that's just it, I have no interest in these "ancestors" you speak of, because your "actual" ancestors are not hearing them. Other things are though. My marriage (not just wedding) will have nothing to do with the "blessings" of strange spirits whose origin do not align with mine.
All these things are mostly fetish and I expect better from the self-proclaimed christians I would be marrying.
I pray to God alone.

Naija4lifeYank:
Reminds me of a doctor lady here in the USA that stated that although she is willing to share and have accounts set up like you enumerated, she wanted control over the guy's account as well. I was like, you want the guy to come ask permission to spend his own money? Are you his wife or mother? Even mothers don't try to control spending after a certain age, which the hubby is way past.
All kinds of weird stuff.
At least she was better than another woman who said "my money is my own". In America? GTFOH!

That female doctor is either silly or does not trust the guy.

The "my money is my own, your money is ours" type are the female equivalents of the unattractive african caveman. They can go and find their intellectual mates.

A well adjusted young man cannot wife such a purely-id-driven creature...not if he values his sanity in this 21st century.

barapistis:
My uncle Yoruba,

Married his wife in 1979(she is from IMO)

They are still married till date

What do you have to say about that

Mind you,it wasn't one substandard marriage

It was big with all family rights paid for

Bruh WTF?

What does this have to do with the big wedding?
Almost all marriages of that era lasted prior to this era of instathotism, divorce celebration parties, and other 21st century allays.

You are running with igbo logic. "Your marriage lasted because you bought your wife with big money".

Today...You can spend all the spend you want to spend. A married thot is still gonna thot.
A good way to know a thot is that they are always trying to get YOU to spend more money than is needed without contributing to matters arising (or matters she instigated). A good woman will know that No be only you waka come the wedding and will make her contributions to achieving her dream....which the wedding usually is.

stinflame:
First and foremost in which culture is marriage not a sacred entity. Culture they say is dynamic , of recent and ethnic group in Nigeria, lay a fix amount which should be spent on traditional marriages, why because they feel the pain of the young legal working men ,. My brother their is no solid yardstick to their high hardness, the truth is they see marriage of their daughter as a money making Avenue. A common factor in the East I must say, why because money moves them. A frnd once ditched an anambra babe whom he have seem her parents for an enugu, why becos expenses was much and the lady wasn't even helping matters, was saying he have to borrow to settle everything. Am sure she's happily married to her Father.

She sounds like a compound idiot

MissRaine69:
Don’t marry intelligent women this way your ego is not threatened when said mentioned wife eclipses you from a career perspective simply because she is smart. A man who gets his nose out of joint because the wife earns more than him, despite never disrespecting him in anyway or causing him to feel less than a man has ingrained misogynistic traits that won’t change regardless of the situation. You seem like the missionary only type of guy and I mean that with the uttermost respect.

I agree with this.
But it's also a double edged sword when it comes to women earning more in that a lot of women cannot respect their husband if he consistently earns less than her. Even so called progressive women who start out initially feeling happy that her family is a compliment to herself of how progressive she is...a lot of them with time/years start to find it harder to respect dude.

It's not just men who emit that problem.

It is possible to do it if he lays some boundaries as to how her money factors in to things, but most women don't play that "our money" thing respectfully when they are consistently bringing the larger share.

Usually nobody just proposes out of the blue. It's something both parties discuss after a period of mutual sending.

If I wanted to marry her anyway, I would join her on my knees and say yes.

encryptjay:
So boss, what kind of life are such people made for?
Sometimes we feel we aren't designed for such or we're not just lucky even with the looks and everything.

He's right. It's not fit everyone.

You need to work on your confidence and bluntness with women.

Maybe start with the fat/ugly girls around you who you know probably masturbate with you in mind. Then work your way up from there.

BiggyB242:
The fat ladies na them even select pass.

They only select because you give them the time of day.
Fat girls know they are low quality breed. The reality of this weighs heavily on their psyche (pun intended) so their ego is always in desperate need of a boost.

The fat fucck too wants to be able to brag and say "I turned down that guy that keeps disturbing me". Hilarious

Don’t validate the existence of fat girls with your attention.

Saffi:
Well that’s your business. As far as I’m concerned, women are getting married every Saturday, so I don’t see the establishment of marriage fading any time soon, especially in Nigeria. Good luck with your single person lifestyle

Yes a fool is born everyday

QueenSekxy:
No no thank you.

The rich men that sees me everyday without talking to me nko??

Then you are ugly, meaning that you have failed at your ONE job in this life. It seems it is your destiny to build with a broke guy then.

Now you know your class, get to it.
Someone has to do it

lawani:
Any child you raised is yours!

Lies. As soon as that child finds their biological founder, you basically no longer exist... Despite your years of sacrifice.

It's the ultimate cuckold move.

This is why you must do a DNA test in all instances. Feelings got nothing to do with it.

Saffi:
I’m sorry this whole ‘public toilet/Ashewo’ name calling, it means nothing in this generation. New flash: Women have sex a lot, and Most girls are sexually active by 18 so what are we saying here? This is not the 1930s.

If we can’t expect fidelity from a man, then we will also collect prick and cash from elsewhere, no be so? It is not hard to find.

If you like do dna test, will The woman die if you find out the child is not yours? Men have been having babies outside their marriage like water. Ogbeni we do not care.

Make sure you do the dna test, even nda test sef, but that won’t stop your wife from cheating on you if she likes and there’s nothing that will happen.

This is true... Which is why marriage in this era is ultimately a scam played by women on men. Naija is even good, the scam is 10 times worse out here in these Western countries. You will be FORCED to keep paying her, no matter what she does. We don't marry out here.

You don't need to marry the bitch. If she likes you that much, she can keep emptying your balls, not your bank account.
My nut is the ultimate gift to her that money can't buy.

cococandy:
Nobody cares.

He should go find the ones he fathered with other women who are married to other men and take them abroad with him. Let those other men take their turns crying.

It’s the cycle of life. We are all polygamous in nature.

The slut has spoken

It's unfortunate that niggas are still marrying holoshos like this that are still in active duty. Y'all gon learn eventually.

QueenSekxy:
Me that has flat tommy and still poor nko? Has my flat tommy gotten me cash. Abeg

If I were you I would use every possible avenue to market yourself. E.g post your pic on NL. Per adventure your rich future husband will sight you from here.

Most women have only one job in this life. Yet some of them still figure out how too suck at even THAT.

How can you as a woman be a fat piece of shit and be expecting someone to be spending on you?

What is then your point?

It doesn't matter how rich females are, they only marry who is richer.
Its so that when she decides to retire, she doesn't have to think too much about maintaining her lifestyle.

The way lif eis setup, people only do things to achieve their individual goals and could care less about yours....which is why you must NEVER let anyone successfully guilt you into NOT fulfilling your goals in an arrangement while they keep happily getting theirs.

This life is a race and we are all in it, Male or female. You either win or lose.

I always find it hilarious how a fat wench such as this rolls off the bed and suddenly feels her hole is worth her father's monthly salary.

Gym una no go go. Jog una no go jog.
Na to dey consume Isewu, palm wine and stout be una only physical activity.
And then all of a sudden you now think that body you haven't bothered to take care of is worth even N250?

She ain't broke yet.

...

But let's be honest, thirsty niggas will still pay. It is why I will always say that men are fools.

fdigital:
some ladies might not like this but that is the factual truth .......

Women with the Mushroom shape should save themselves the trouble and just go sew their cuntholes shut.
That shiit attracts NO dicks.

She had just ONE fawking job in life (don't be fat and ugly)...yet she failed.

Quality20:
Oga this issue concern us ,we d men. if we allow our women spoil, its gonna affect us too.
While I was in Zaria, I learnt of a court case instituted by a man against a female neighbour of his for lesbianising his wife. The man ,claimed that while he was intimate with his wife, she started displaying strange and new skills, which then aroused his suspicion, b4 d wife later confessed that it was d neighbouring lady who comes into her apartment after ppl have gone to work- showing her blue clips and once she realised she was carried away started romancing her.

The man fuckup.
He for invite the neighbour come...so long as the neighbour doesn't look like a disgusting butch.

Gulher:
Issa lie. The world is just getting more depraved because of all this civilization and exposure and people are curious about everything. Want to try out trending technology, behaviours, language, sexuality, etc. I thought i was bisexual or lesbian until I watched lesbian porn for the first time. I laughed ehn. It was just funny seeing two ladies humping all over each other. I wasn't aroused at all. Turns out I'm not a lesbian. It was just curiousity

Ain't gonna lie, The humping is hilarious.
But the real business is when they nibble on their clits. Tongue and fingers is a very good way to get the female body off.
Most times dick is just icing on the cake, not the main thing.

Most women are Bisexual.
How do you think Solomon was able to handle 700+ women?
No be by dick alone!

It seems every slut that dresses half naked for quick attention is now called a Slay Queen. Stop gassing their heads and given them the validation of the word "Queen"... Because that's all they hear.

Young Women are being trained to be useless to society at Large because they know all they need to do when they begin to feel the reality of their uselessness...is to take a picture of themselves and post it for a quick ego boost. She doesn't even have to be fine. Yet she now feels like she accomplished something that day...even though she has actually achieved nothing with her life in doing so and is still as useless as she was prior to the pic.

Back in the day, before to the current abuse of the term, a Slay Queen was actually a woman who made big moves and got things done professionally and business-wise while ALSO looking fly AF. E.g Beyonce.

Stop calling instathots or human toilets for Arab men...Slay queens.
It is insulting to the true queens.

Rokiaatu:
Smh at the stupidity of this thread.

So we all look the same? Do we all smell the same how the Bleep can we all taste the same?

Some women are tighter wetter cleaner shaped better, and over all sweeter cuz they haven’t over used themselves.

Some men are bigger last longer, knows how to use their stick and togue better.


Every individual is different and taste different, but that don’t mean you should be passing round look for someone good fall in love and be content.

At least for the sake of your own health.

Spoken like a sweeter gehl

Honestly, you should never give your validation to a girl in a church building.
Every one goes to church service with a kind of fake self-holiness.
Girls in particular go to church to get puffed up by their pastor washing them with all that BS "let him sweat and Chase you" garbage.

If at all you talk to a girl in your church, let it be at an event that is NOT in the church building. The more normal surroundings make them less pompous. Church building approaches just unnecessarily puffs up bitches egos... Unless you are quoir master or head usher

Coraje:
You can't have money and your wife will remain bad �

For your sake, just remain in Nigeria.

solasoulmusic:
I contribute if I have if I don’t God go bless us with

Your use of the clause "contribute if I have" regarding your own married nuclear family needs proves my point.

solasoulmusic:
People that don’t know God’s Grace are in constant denial and will always be stingy.

On the 1st Of January while everyone was celebrating New Years my laptop went dead I took it for repairs and basically I needed a new one it was a mac and I didn’t have enough for a new one and my job requires that I have one especially for my music. I didn’t sleep that night I prayed and also cried myself to sleep basically. Luckily for me my birthday was coming up and decided to ask every family member for a token towards replacing the Mac well in 48 hours I had enough money.

Even those I didn’t expect gave something for the first time and also those I thought were ride or die seemed to ignore my plight


I shared my story because everyone remembers when they gave but not when they received when you can receive you will learn to give. I don’t give more than I can afford to let go by the wayside.

Without our parents we won’t be here without our siblings we won’t be able to interact globally I have drained my account for family and will gladly do it again because when I asked they answered

The new album Karma Kafe is as a result of that seed

Of course a woman will say this.
What do you care? Sebi after you marry, it is your husband that will be paying for everything. At least that's the typical Nigerian females mind.