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White wedding is not needed if you are doing trad.

All you eye service people saying it must be in a church, present the scripture that supports that claim

edurach:
Angel Christopher, a s*xy and curvy Nollywood actress, is not letting her guard down despite all the tantalizing offers she’s been getting from men who want to have a feel of her s*xy body.

Speaking with Inside Nollywood, the Delta State-based role interpreter, who has starred in over 20 movies, shared the embarrassing encounters she often faces because of her natural endowments.

“Nothing is new. People normally assume so many things about me. Some men just see me, and the next thing they do is ask me to marry them, without even knowing me. Others go as far as telling me that they would love to have s*x with me. Just like that!

“Some even ask if I am human being or mammy water, while others send me different snapshots of their manhood to prove they are capable and can handle me well in bed.

“I just read and laugh and when I am not in the mood to laugh, I block them through their social media handles. Case closed! In fact, men find my body irresistible,” she gushed.

With a strong belief that the man of her dreams would eventually locate her, Christopher, who doubles as a beautician, rejected the offer of being a second wife.

“Nothing is wrong with being a second wife, but I can’t settle for less neither am I meant to eat left over. The Bible made us to understand that it’s one man, one wife. So, why should I go dragging another woman’s husband when I can get mine?

“I am a jealous lover and I hate sharing. I want a man who is God fearing, understanding, tolerating, caring, calm and playful.

“I don’t mind if he is short, ugly or poor, because when you truly love someone, his or her looks won’t mean a thing to you,” she hinted.

https://newsnow.com.ng/men-find-my-body-irresistible-curvaceous-actress-angel-christopher-tells-her-fans/

Actually the bible is full of people having more than one wives.

LivingFree:
At least his conditions will be serious

It's only hungry men who live paycheck to paycheck who shout upandan for prenups. I'd play along to feed my curiosity, see how much he 'values' me

Then I'd scribble all over the contract like a child and walk out!

You know a female who is loosing an argument her rebuttals no longer start to make sense.

Obviously that's the other way round

He's a scrawny boy with a fat neck.
They'll enjoy breaking and toughening him up in the barracks

But is the US a country to be sacrificing your life for right now sef?
Not when the current leader of the same US is sendlessly scheming on how to still deport you and your parents whether or not you are out there fighting his war for him.

Even UK sef has been trying to repel citizenship from black families for no reason.

No Nigerian should be giving their lives for any bloody white man's country.
They should go die for their own wars.

I think the general conclusion is that most people on this thread are too broke to see the value in signing a prenup.

And perhaps that is a valid position.
If you are too broke and have nothing, living in a face-me-I-slap you, you might not need one. As the person who joins you at that point in your life will undoubtedly suffer with you.

Perhaps the majority state of most Nairalanders is "broke".
We can't fully know this though...until this thread makes front page so more opinions can be shared.

MissRaine69 maybe the title can be changed to a complete question.

Mynd44 and lalasticlala over to you.

This is what happens when the only thing a person is good for, in their entire God-given life... is disposing cum.

This brings with it a deeply rooted low-self-esteem that can only sated by constant drama to manufacture, no matter how minor, a feeling of importance..
Such a waste.

spiceadole:
It's common sense.

Who would see greener pastures and reject?
Oyinbo is better than Yoruba, any day.

Besides, it's the same way Nigerian men are ladies above 30 as too old, unmarriageable and tag them "evening newspaper"...
But they rush to marry older white women, even those in the age range of their mothers and call it love.

Deal without, Ntoro Uduang ufok.

The older white women will give them green card.

The older nigerian woman...not so much of anything that cannot be acquired from a younger nigerian woman.

It's basic cost benefit analysis.

The moral being, the older you get....you better be able to bring more than your [rapidly degenerating] body to the table.
If you notice, this is a universal law, and applies also to men.
But because of mens' very early taste of reality growing up, they are more prepared for growing old than women...who are generally clueless of reality while growing up because of all the attention they were getting in their youth.

I won't hit him back.

But he is banned from my house from that point onwards.

Lies.
Is it 2 days or 2 weeks?

Story has already been changed.

If true, the women are so backward...
You disgrace yourselves over food in public? The man's mother particularly is backward.
It sounds like the MIL just busted into the wedding, late, with no plans for her guests. If there is no food for them, the respectful unbackward thing to do is to go and sort your guests feeding elsewhere.

You cannot expect the food for other important people in the wedding to all of a sudden be given to you.
Why did the MIL not put these guests of hers in the plan?

In that situation, I would certainly not divorce my wife.
But I would reprimand both of them.

My mum first for disrespecting me and the occasion because she could have simply come to me if she had an issue instead of feeling she had a right to be slapping my wife. It will never happen because I do not take that crap from extended family members (which they become after I marry and start m own family).

Then My wife for not being wise enough to de-escalate matters arising...instead of getting into a squabble, she should have let me know what nonsense my mum did or was doing. It's just respect. If I had a disagreement with her parents, there is no way I won't let her know first so she can sort them out herself. I won't start trading fists with her dad.

Life will go on according to plan, and the both of them will just have to live with and accept the fact that they disgraced themselves in public.

Where are all the igbotic liars with their "Ibo women are saints" "Only other tribes are ho's" comments?

You're only knowing this about her because she chose to disclose it on her socials.
There are quieter girls who do worse.

This is the...thing... that if some guy decides to marry, her father and villagers will be taxing him like hungry goats, instead of dashing him free with thanks.
Talk'n bout "Igbo girls are the best"...shiiiiiiit

lefulefu:
Hugh Heffner is smart. Nigerian footballers based overseas should also do prenuptial agreements when marrying their wives cos most of these women are just getting married to them cos of their assets. I Believe they will learn from Eboue of ivory coast who lost all his assset to his wife. But for a nigerian man living in nigeria who is just starting in life and probably got married to a lady who loves him for who he is ..na wetin im need prenuptial agreement for?.

Who knows what even naija law will turn to in the next 10 years?
Moves are being made.

In the mean time, lefulefu abeg help organize this thread to the front page. It needs more perspectives.

Lizzysamuel:
Drake says that after his stop in Manchester, England, Lace came back to his hotel and they had consensual sex.

“Layla also voluntarily and seemingly happily performed MouthAction,” the lawsuit says of the pair’s initial contact with each other, but the lawsuit alleges that Lace took things much further in the following months.



TMZ reports that the lawsuit lays out a “fantasy relationship” constructed by Lace and includes texts allegedly sent between Lace and Drake. Lace went on Instagram shortly after the supposed exchanges and claimed that she was pregnant with Drake’s child.

According to the lawsuit, Lace lawyered up and asked that Drake pay her for the baby. When that didn’t fly, Drake claims Lace went to the police and said that the Canadian artist raped her.

The lawsuit says that Drake was cleared by the Manchester police but Lace still demanded millions of dollars in exchange for her not going public with her charges.

It appears that the rapper has had enough and is now suing for civil extortion, emotional distress, fraud, abuse of process, and defamation. The lawsuit says that “there is no credible evidence of pregnancy, nor any baby,” noting that a child would have been born in the fall.


More below:

https://zenithnaija.com/drake-sues-ig-model-he-had-one-night-stand-with-for-faking-pregnancy-and-rape/

Thotism

She's trying to score a massive ROI on the fake boobs and ass.

Kingeket:
back then in Hollywood straight people were used to act gay roles but with so many out of the closet ,they've been a decline ,cos if you ain't gay you won't know what's its like to be gay ,not to mention interpreting a gay role
now in Nigeria I think I've barely seen any one act gay ,besides being a homophobic country who'll want his or her fame tarnish .
To me acting gay in nollywood is a no but Hollywood yes , I'll act and kiss guys like Robert in acrimony

If you can kiss a guy, you are gay or at the very least, bisexual [i.e gay]. No way around it sorry.

Shugavee:
car insurance !!! Marriage!!

MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT

Just stay single it’s not by force

... But marriage IS a contract.

You both sign on some dotted line prior to becoming man and wife don't you?

@shugavee, idealistically, you are right.

Realistically? You are being willfully ignorant. There are women who have said the same good goodly wife things you are saying right now that became monsters years down the line.

Out here , women trigger 70% of divorces. You want to know why they can do so so casually? Because they have no consequences.
At any point they can keep all the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities...at the expense of her slave ex-husband. Thanks to things like no-fault divorce.

Human beings are inherently selfish. It is a human flaw no matter how goodly the spouse. So love with structure and guidelines.

You can still love each other till death do you part ...having signed a prenup.

It is like car insurance. Something you buy now to cover all bases but hope to NEVER have to use in the future

Prenup is not for protection against a wife. It is for protection against a vindictive ex who, for whatever emotional change or reason, might choose to destroy your life because he/she realizes they have the power to do so.

If you still don't get that, scroll up to my earlier post of the three types of women who won't sign a prenup and pick the one you are.

Jaideyone:
why not justify why you concluded the ooni will come early if it was someone that will grease his palm first? that's a vary dumb conclusion from you. it's people like you that go around throwing unsubstantiated accusations around.

I said I repeat. the ooni is a billionaire. not a pauper like your father

This is another attitude that we as a people must dispel.
So the fawk what that he is a billionaire?

What does that even mean when it comes what is being discussed here?

In fact, the whole of Nigeria needs a mind punch, not just its low-performing leaders.

TBH I am angry at ALL leaders in Nigeria right now.
It is a righteous anger. How can anyone with any sense of exposure/self-respect cast their eyes on the country and not become maddened with rage?

What they need is someone to call them out on their fuckups, not someone that will be kissing their hairy asses by bowing down to them, in the midst of said fuckup.

That is why I love Sowore. He doesn't give a Bleep.
Either perform or be told off.

That's what we need as a country. A rude fawking awakening.
We are WAAAAAAY behind!

I will ALWAYS be against mindless traditionists as they are holding Nigeria back with their backwardness and sentimental bullshit ways.

#Sowore2019

samysmoothfresh:
i dont care about the prenup y'all talking about


i only made an input based on what caps.locked said and the arguement on marriage and divorce that ensued


and i stand by what i said cos i've heard about and seen alot of divorce cases and marriages experiencing difficulties.


The major reasons is what i mentioned earlier viz:

1) the wife is one of 'em naive 3rd generation feminists who know not what true feminism mean and deem it fit to disrespect their husband all in the name of "equal rights"


and/or


2) the ignorant self acclaimed alpha males who think because they are men, their wives should practically worship them and most times deem it fit to beat them up if they do otherwise.

Yeah True.
Thing is, You do not know who your spouse truly is until you marry them. People change. All major life long term decisions must be made with that cold hard fact of life in mind.
Which is why self-protection is crucial.
Hence the main topic of the thread.

You don't get a prenup to protect yourself from your wife. You do it to protect yourself from your ex.

samysmoothfresh:
My parents celebrated their 45th yr marriage anniversary last week


my cousin on the other hand (29) is getting divorced from a 3 one quater year marrige


wonder why my cousin's marrige is crumbling (or has already crumbled as they'll be finalising the divorce next month) while my parent are still married even after 45yrs?.................i'll tell you why



because of 'em
"senseless 3rd generation feminists and/or ignorant alpha males"


these two sets of bastards have made practically everything a case of "man vs woman" or simply put "gender war"


a marriage where one or both spouses is a feminist or alpha male, that marriage will never last...........i repeat, that marriage will never last!!



My cousin was unfortunate to marry one of this 3rd generation feminist and aside from the first 4months, the marriage has been hell for him


men, marry these local "feminists" who are not "Feminists" at your own peril

women, marry these "self acclaimed alpha males" at your own peril



and to all the idiots especially the ones on nl, life or the earth is not
undergoing a worldwide war between the opposite sexes where you must always have to fight for your gender

wake up from your delusion!!!!



EOD

And what does all this story have to do with the importance of protecting oneself with a prenup?
There are age mates of yours right now whose parents are divorced, so you are not making any logical point.

A person does not have to be an "alpha male" or "feminist" to be exposed to a divorce.
Apply logic.

MissRaine69:
Right let’s get things in perspective here
Emmanuel caused his own downfall
He sighned over his assets to his ex-wife for her to manage that is called being stupid.
He chose not to seek the advice of solicitors and despite being advised against this he ignored team mates and friends.

He is not the only African footballer to end up poor . Most lack the financial discipline to plan ahead. Don’t put this on his wife. He had capacity and he made very bad decisions repeatedly.

That he did. He is a fool.

The point I'm making though is that even though he pretty much gave all his assets to his wife, upon divorce, BOTH party's assets should have been considered for the split...gaining him back some of the lost assets.... if there truly is gender equality in the courts.

But as we know, there is no such thing.

That is a reason why an iron clad prenup is necessary, with a clause specifically stating that the party's assets acquired after marriage are up for consideration. Regardless of whether the man has more money or not. Otherwise, family courts tend to automatically ignore the female's assets.

The judge knows he/she could have applied this default, but refused to, because seeing a devastated man pleases them...add to it that he is black and the judge would have double reason to see him reprobate.

What do I care about what some paid Olosho thinks?

These creatures get paid to eat hairy ass all day...so ofcourse they will thankfully support your campaign if you give them pure water and small chewing gum + new T-shirt.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGITJlPwtfg


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjKZpm7CnE0

For anyone dumb enough to believe any manipulative woman about not signing a prenup.
See what a so called wife did to Emmanuel Eboue, football player.

All that suffering, all that hussle...lost to a woman who likely told him the same nonsense that some manipulative females on this thread have already tried to push.

<falz> eee wee no work! Dey tink dat we don't watsh televizan</falz>

Without a prenup, the courts hardly consider the woman's own personal assets when doing the split. They just go straight for the jugular of the man in a savage and utterly reprehensible manner.
If Eboue at least had that in print, he would have have had a better chance of been able to get some of his money back from her.


Prenups are not for defense against your loving wife, they are for defense against your ex-wife.
Remember that.

Facking traditionists at it again

Who prostration epp?

Sowore needs to continue being the boss that he is abeg.
That you are the chief of one village does not mean that you will be late and still be expecting to be bowed to.
There are other chiefs the man plans to go see.

drnoel:
Someone like u without experience is talking. On what ground do u base Ur proof? No woman would do so. Some of them may be fish brain but they are not all stupid

I base my proof on the fact that an igbo woman would rather hold up a wedding when it becomes finally clear the groom isn't interested in transporting his entire kin all the way to her village (Which will cost more than that damn car) to get married and just wants all weddings done in the country where her family already is i.e yankee.

You have not seen madness.
These people don't care about marriage, they only care about showing off to their village people... at other people's expense.

drnoel:
The gist is fake cos no lady in her right sense will ask for her own wedding to be postponed to please her dad's needs

So naive....
You would be surprised.

WizAkzy:
The only guys that are bleeped are those who decides to make their relationship official and legal by law, whether signing a prenup or not, bro.

That won't save you.
You do know there is something called "automatic common law" right?

So I decided to post this article of shite women have said when they are trying to manipulate their way out of signing a prenup.

https://www.brides.com/story/real-brides-share-they-refused-sign-a-prenup

Some were successful! And to those ones, I can't help but feeling "Wow, these guys are so screwed"

"...I felt reassured that my needs and feelings were his priority, not the security of a piece of paper..." What a classic/typical argument
Apparently his needs and feelings don't matter too abi?

MariaLavina:
When you have all turned everything to papers and letters, don't come here crying how the world is bereft of compassion and love.

you all seek temporal solutions to permanent problems. Lemme go back to my Pluto jeje, obviously I'm the only one strange here

That is exactly what an evil woman trying to maintain her advantage towards future potential divorce theft would say.
Your manipulation is a failed expedition on this thread.
Abeg come and be going

Someone needs to put this thread on frontpage. Not sure who mods are

MariaLavina:
Believe what you like!

Who are you again? A nobody! so shove your opinion of me into the deepest hole in your body. Let it die there

There it is

So you are #3 then. Evil.

Because #1 at least still has hope with some education.

MariaLavina:
Yes I know. And that's bad.



But then I still maintain it's useless. I can't just wrap my head around signing some paper in case a marriage ( yet to be formed) fails? really?

arghhhhhh

...and then if it fails...?

You are just thinking like a child, not an adult.
You have to cover all bases.

What you don't understand is that a prenup also protects women AS WELL AS protecting men....the latter being more neccessary outside of naija given predatory family laws around the whole world.

You might say, "we are in naija, he doesn't need protection"...but what then happens if you guys move to another country?
He is then subject to the worst part of you and predatory lawyers who egg you on to twist the dagger ever more angrily in the event of a divorce. And the sad part is that he would be forced to pay those very same lawyers who will be coaching you on how to stab him well.

To be of this opinion, Oh you have Nooo idea the things that have been done to men in these parts of the world by women who just wake up one morning and decide to be bitches. The life of a man cannot be subject to the whims, ebbs and flows of something as turbulent as a female's emotions.

IMO The only woman who is against signing a prenup is one of 3 things:
1- Ignorant: ... i.e "Why would anyone want to buy car insurance?" "Life insurance keh? So you want to kill me?!" blah blah blah other silly talk.

2- Broke - Because if she had some coins, she'd want to protect them too.

3- Evil ... because she knows the default situation already favors her. Now if only she can get this idiot to not protect himself.

MariaLavina:
Oh really? Well I don't think ca.plocks see things that way. He went on the offensive and defensive line. The response appears insulting but there is a truth to it. why will anyone not see the benefit of marriage?
And who best is in the position to convince him if not his dad?


No only myopic men whom have destroyed what is yet to be born will seek a prenuptial agreement. Why marry at all if you don't trust your partner?

That...quite frankly...is the most naive thing I have read all day.

Only an idiot of a man, who has no outlet into seeing what is happening in the world today, would get into a marriage without a prenup.
A prenup is not bad. It simply protects BOTH partners in the event of something unfortunate.
You do it and get it out of the way so you can enjoy your lives.