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Jman06:
The reason why marriages among modern day Nigerian couples don't last is that we have not learnt to change with civilization. We want to still hold on to some archaic cultural mindsets about marriage while at the same time we also want to enjoy the benefits of modernization.

Simply put, we train our female children and empower them economically without training their minds to accept the fact that it won't be a taboo to make financial contributions in their homes nor marry a good man who is not financially well off.

Also, we fail to train the minds of our sons to accept the fact that things have to change as regards what was traditionally considered as roles of the two gender in marriages. So, our men want working class ladies who will at the same time be subservient to them and also do all the house chores even after exhausting herself at her work place. It won't work that way!

The above reasons contribute largely to why people don't derive satisfaction in their marriages beyond the few weeks of honeymoon when the love is still 'shacking' them.

In summary, let's learn to change our mindsets about what was initially considered gender roles prior to modernization and girl-child empowerment. That way, we'll derive satisfaction from our marriages.

So how come the divorce rate in the US is 50% (ie, 1 out of every 2 marriages in the US fail)...
Does this means that Americans also cling to “archaic cultural mindsets” and fail to change with modernization?!

Kobo kobo pop psychologists just full Nairaland!
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GREAT NEWS!
Good thing Donald Dumb Trump was dumped!
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southsouthking:
This has been the laid down rules for students in the federal polytechnic Auchi.
it was introduced by the then rector of the polytechnic Dr Phillipa Idogho, and still date such code of dressing still holds ground.
Dress anyhow to school, you are sent home from the school gate.

But student when get car dey break the rule.

I concur.

Meanwhile, you can dress “anyhow” at MIT, Cal Tech, etc., and end up building electric cars and space shuttles, while the Auchi Polytechnic graduate is still struggling to ‘manufacture’ common pencils. We Nigerians love to chase shadows in derogation of substance. SMH
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VEXT:
Christianisation... Another system of Christian Sharia

Thank you! Fundamentalist religion is the same.
Meanwhile, they will camp at the Embassy and employ “prayer warriors” for visa to emigrate to so-called ‘decadent’ countries. SMDH!
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ipobarethieves:
Go school not go do fashion parade.Only unserious peepz dress anyhow

Exactly! That’s why Americans and Brits are laggards while Nigerians are advanced...oh wait. SMDH@
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aysnoopy:
Hmmm
I'm not and I'll never support rapist, but sometimes this teenage girls don't have brains.
If you investigate very well, you'll know that this girl isn't a virgin and she has been having sex all around.

Pierocash:
those young girls are the ones seducing men,but when it happens,they pretend to be the victims.

Those girls are temptation hard to avoid.

Disgusting MISOGYNISTS, with suspiciously PAEDOPHILIC tendencies...
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Pierocash:
Serves the girl right.

DISGUSTING, DISGRACEFUL AND DESPICABLE comment!
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CrazyBen:
Hahahaha this reminds me of a certain man who once Called us zoo animals but we refuted his claims...

So in my supposed home country, i can't even send my daughter to buy me recharge card? Haba!

© CrazyBen

So are you saying YOU are a zoo animal?
Poor you then, but the rest of us are not since rape occurs in EVERY nation!
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JooEeL:
A man will kneel down to propose to a girl? Like, what is the meaning of this nonsense sef? And later men will keep whining overseas that the law favours the women more, women can frame you rape and go scot-free, women consume your possession upon divorce bla bla bla...

When in actual fact, it is you id*ots that encourage the unbalanced system. The risk in tying the knots as a man is just too much on its own, that you should be in a sober pondering mood as you're proposing.

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But a useless man will propose on his kneels -- and at least, the very least expected is that the lady too should kneel while they hug -- both of them on their knees.

But then, the man will kneel on his own and still stand up again. No shame whatsoever!

Sonnobax15:


A very responsible man would rather have his balls hanged on an electric pole that's across Suleja road for eternity than kneeling down to beg one load of problem to come into his life and start tormenting him

It's either I sit down and propose to her, while she's on her feet or I go straight to her parents and say it to them like--"Afa,make una ask una daughter whether she don ready to settle down

Viknat:
Chick wet u don nak inside out for yrs na now you dey kneel down as if na virgin u wan marry

Old school sexism and MISOGYNY still alive and kicking in Nigeria.
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iamJ:
men are marrying old girls with money

its the new trend

Ikechukwu is at least 40 years old.
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pepperdemzombie:
Exposing over bleached body for what precisely?

Is it your body? If you don’t like it, abegi scroll on.
Hopefully, there is a supposedly non-“bleached” body willing to tolerate your borderline misogyny.
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Zzor:
A supposed father of four kids just doing the needful, what has he been doing all this while, maybe he's tired of patronizing prostitutes

Interesting how you seem to think that only one parent of those supposed four kids needs to do “the needful.” Takes two to tango.
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Nigerians obviously do not understand the system of government they claim to be operating.
How can the head of one arm of government “dash” cars to the head(s) of another co-equal arm?
And how is this legislative arm that’s benefitted from the Gov’s “largesse” act as a check on the Gov? SMH
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Odewaleadesoye:
Honestly speaking,

They are cute and awesome.

Man must be rich.


I'm thinking of going for the daughter just that I'm too occupied with better babes..


Happy birthday father and cute daughter.


More money and fresh anointing Sir.


ODEWALE ADESOYE

And how does a Pastor become rich?
Nigerians! People take your money and you worship them. SMH
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SmartPolician:
That guy raised an important point.

But then, that's a topic for another day.

2 years into his administration and I have yet to pick out the major achievements of Babajide

I guess the Covid-19 crisis keeps diminishing it.

Well, we await the new projects.

Still 5 months before 2 years of this administration, and 1 year has been COVID-ed.
However, BSO is doing the MOST IMPORTANT thing - finishing ongoing projects first!
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Nigerians! The cheap subsidized (sometimes free) education medical doctors get in Nigeria leave their US and UK (not sure about Canadian) counterparts with six figures in loan debt (in the US, an average of $250K for a medical education).

Anyway, Nigerians have a funny notion of the concept of citizenship. They think it’s only limited to rights and privileges, but ignore the rights and responsibilities part of the social contract (which, like all contracts, is predication on consideration).

Canada was built by Canadians, and the present condition (and the ultimate future) of Nigeria will be a culmination of the collective actions of ALL Nigerians (either by commission or omission). “Nigeria” is not a stand-alone entity, it is Nigerians!
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IamHeWrites:
Attempted Rape: Police Insist On Investigating Ogun Commissioner Despite Victim Withdrawing Case
https://igberetvnews.com/1377889/police-insist-investigating-ogun-commissioner-despite-victim-withdrawing-case/

EXCELLENT NEWS!
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Many Nigerians love FAT, which they mistake for health and wealth. SMDH
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onyechez:
When I visited Ghana, I did not experience anything like light off for good 6 months, they're so many opportunities in Ghana if you're skilled.
Security too is also good no cause for alarm.
Nigerians are looking for 24hrs electricity to grow business yet they cannot get it.

Yet Ghana used to much WORSE than Nigeria, and Ghanaians used to flock to Nigeria as economic refugees. Same as Rwanda, which was a backward nation mired in genocidal self-destruction not so long ago. Today, these countries are a beacon of economic and social (and in Ghana’s case, also political) progress, showing what Nigerians can achieve if they squarely face their challenges instead of seeking the easy way out.
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I wish all nations abroad would BAN Nigerian immigrants, and thus FORCE all of us to stay here and do the right things to FIX Nigeria.
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Aileexa1:
What does the demolition of the house stand to bring?

Its not like they (the kidnappers) would be needing the house any longer. After all, they are going to be in jail.

Anyway, what do I know?

It ensures that people do not benefit from crime or proceeds thereof. Good riddance!
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flavnwokem:
And what happened to Injustice Abang court should make pronouncements on him, this is the 2nd time an upper court is dismissing his judgment on ground of bias, I such a character should be weeded out of the justice temple.

The appellate court should tell us how Judge Abang’s purported “bias” led him to actually misapply the law...
If a judge CORRECTLY applies the law, it is irrelevant whether or not he likes the defendant (assuming we can read his mind).
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Only in Nigeria! SMH
This is either bribery or just incompetence.

An appeal court only reviews issues of law, not facts.
So-called “bias” is irrelevant unless the judge did not apply the law.

If the judge correctly applied the law, his so-called “bias” is IRRELEVANT.
The appellant court should limit its ruling on whether the judge misapplied the law.
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And some on NL will drivel how the rising number positive Covid cases is a “scam”...SMDH

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hashtagged:
Dem nor even strip am well, they should have put pepper in her V, nonesense how can you be scamming your fellow Nigerians in this hard country

PRIMITIVE MISOGYNY...SMH
As I always say on NL, the difference between many Nigerians and SARS is the badge and uniform.
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Why are Nigerians surprised?

How many people actually wear face masks and social distance in public?
Certainly, there wasn’t any social distancing when hoodlums were looting!
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iamvictorbassey:
Mixed feelings whenever I read this, I feel like saying jungle justice isn't the way to go. Then I remember that these hoodlums will leave the police custody after bribing their way out, come back for you who raised an alarm and hurt you so bad.

The judicial system too, messed up. Er'thing in Nigeria messed up.

Lewisalexander:
Dem roast the guy like Christmas goat. Ibadan people no get chill

Officialgarri:
Bring back SARS. The people are more brutal

Triangles1:
I hope they set the right criminal ablaze because the tatctics cultist use to kill opponent now is to gather and label you thief and do jungle justice on you.

The police nowadays are I don't care.

thatsleepboy1:
ọmọ I'm a huge supporter of Jungle Justice cos if they operated without the law,
they should be dealt with outside the confines of the law. The law should not accommodate them at all.

Sleekfingers:
Good....make dem use the roasted meat dey drink beer na......awon barbarian......why not hand them over to the police

Originalsly:
Hmmm.... I'm just happy to see people unite for a common good. There must be some kind of justice..m supposed to be court justice but since that's not working....... no other choice.

Jostoman:
That is the best approach for now.

Sadly, the only difference between many Nigerians and SARS is the badge and gun....smh
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Why’s he only “threatening” to commit suicide...JUST DO IT! SMH
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DUMB Senators...

That’s not how military procurement works in the US...
These jets are specifically built for Nigeria, following Congressional approval.

The worse that can happen is that delivery will be delayed.
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