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Anthoniaz

I subtly implied the idea yesterday but she said she was waiting for him to take the step. That people would say she packed out of her husbands house.

She has a manageable job. It's not like he gives her so much money that would make a difference if she left him...

I am beginning to think he is the one with the issue.
Why hasn't any of his numerous girlfriends missed her period, NOT EVEN ONCE.

I learnt a girl even stayed with him for months, the time he was most adamant about his wife not visiting. Why didn't this girl get pregnant?

My friend said she saw a test result in his bag while attempting to wash clothes. And my friend, as naive as ever neither photocopied or even made note of the strange medical terms.

The next day, the test result had disappeared.

If all was truly well, why didn't he tell her he had gone for a test and was okay. Why not flaunt the result like he did his girlfriends?

Why keep quiet about it?

Whenever she asks him to go to the hospital with her he becomes angry and says he is okay. Capitalising on her operation as the reason they are childless.

He calls other girls in her presence and he doesn't give a darn, telling them on the phone "I love you too". In her presence oo.

He criticicizes the way she walks, talks, and her toiletries, implying she is like an old woman.
I don't even know what to tell her. I feel so sad, down and helpless.

I'm getting married soon myself, will I encourage her to leave this man? Even though God forbid, I myself wouldn't stay in such a situation.

To top it off, he has refused to go for even a simple sperm analysis with her. Even when she herself has undergone a battery of tests, some very painful. She has stimulated her ovaries at the danger of having a uterine lump regrowth. She takes supplements. She fasts and prays. And then he refuses to touch her like a baby would drop from heaven.

She says she has forgotten what a kiss feels like either in bed or out of it. He dives straight between her legs without preamble, immediately after watching Indecency without kissing or touching her.
She said he sometimes loses turgidity during the act, causing him to lash out at her in anger and telling her it is a testimony of their incompatibility, that his girlfriends always have to beg him to stop when he sleeps with them.

He told her it has happened even on their bed and that if she doubts it she can watch him call another girl and listen to her beg for mercy when he's sleeping with her.

I don't want to go into stories but now he hasn't been home in two years and rarely allows her come see him. She said they are more or less strangers and he rebuffs all efforts she makes to get closer. He has told her they made a mistake, and they should get divorced.
He blames her for their childlessness and still wouldn't make an effort either by tests, or even having seex.

When she tries to initiate it, he screams at her to stop rubbing against him like a cat. When she quietly asks him, he says he doesn't feel like.
When he does feel like, he can't get it up unless he watches Indecency. And eventually the way he does it is cold and clinical. She might be working in the kitchen and he calls her. When she comes out, she finds him playing Indecency on the TV. She is expected to sit and watch. After then, she undresses and he sleeps with her.

She said the day she tried to protest against watching it, he switched it off and asked her to leave. So she has learnt to keep quiet.

We had always resolved that we wouldn't have seex before marriage and so she was a Virgin.
Some days after the wedding I visited her. And she told me they had consummated the marriage but her hubby wasn't always keen on making love. But she said he was most fun when he'd been drinking.

Some months after, he was transferred to another state. And that was when their little troubles escalated.

Note that at this time, she hadn't taken in.

Her decision was not to date him. Moreover, she had her childhood sweetheart. And so they parted amicably.

Some ten years later, they re connected again when I gave them both each other's number. Before I knew it, they were planning a wedding. Before I could blink, they got married.
A few months before her wedding, She had an op to remove growth from her uterus, and had been advised to get pregnant ASAP before a regrowth and that could have been the motivation for the quick wedding.

He was aware of the op, in fact that was where the courtship started from as he was visiting her in the hospital and at home after discharge prompting her dad to ask him about his intentions.

He said he wanted to marry her and dad simply said: "Bring your people".

PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THIS TO FRONT PAGE

It has often been said that we shouldn't take panadol for others headache. But that is what I've been facing as I have been having a migraine ever since my friend spoke to me regarding what is happening to her in her marriage.

We have always been close in a friendship that spans over ten years. We were teenagers then and that was when she met her now husband.

I and him lived in the same estate but we were not particularly close. So it was a surprise when he approached me regarding my friend after he saw her with me.

I neither encouraged nor discouraged her. I myself had promised not to go into a relationship too young but I allowed her take her decision herself.

hmmnn.

I'm proud of her and all she has achieved at this age.
Many haven't even lived at 40, but she has seen a good percent of her dreams to fruition at 35. And not forgetting her loving, supportive hubby who helped her along the way.

Happy bdae, OmoT.
Many happy returns!

^^^Thanx free
She wept cause she probably thought to herself
'Oh no! Not again'!

The sis has been heartbroken a lot of times, as I said before. She probably felt sad for her sister!

My friend told me that when her elder sister brought her boyfriend home, the boyfriend collected her number so that they can be talking, as per 'in-law levels'. Next thing, the guy called her and told her that he would have chosen her if he met her first, and not her elder sister.

She said she wept that day. Because her elder sister (who by the way is really beautiful, so nice and down to earth) has gone through series of disappointments in the hands of men.

What do you advise such a girl to do in such a situation? Should she tell her sister, in the process breaking up her sister's relationship or should she keep away from the guy, maybe the relationship will work out at the end of the day between her sister and him?

Note that she has her own relationship and she really loves her sister and comes from a close knit family, so she wouldn't want anything hurting her sister!

Would you allow your fiancee to be a music video eye candy/bum shaker?
Remember, video vixens are very beautiful but are exposed to all those lecherous musicians, who love beautiful women!
Is it a hobby you would encourage if she wanted to go for it?

I myself find it glamorous and exciting!

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You must be high on cheap crack. Or maybe your skinny jeans is squeezin your pehnis so tightly that u cant think!

I like him in fitted clothes. But I draw the line at that.
No pencil jeans, thank you!
I think it's a trend for teenagers.
What about you?

I have tears in my eyes reading this. I pray that God signs it as my portion to get married to a loving man and to experience the joy of childbirth, holding my own baby in my arms and seeing the fruit of I and my hubby's love IJN, Amen!

please what is the code to check if my zain, glo and etisalat is successfully registered. Thank you!

@inked-Nerd


@dondave
Fishing for compliments?

@rokiatu
Hmmmmn

@Sijo01

What da . . .?

I won't be seeing the video but the description is enough to have me cringing in shame, pain and disgust for the treatment that has been meted to my fellow woman. How can this happen?

Maybe. . . .

@Tell wisdom
The way you jumped down my neck, I could have sworn you were more like Yokozuna
I thought that was why you were so mad with my thread!
Ok, so post your pic lemme verify!!

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Where dem dey

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Right back at you. . .

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Whats biting you? My joblessness 'consain' you?
I choose to take the high road and not insult you back cause it's not worth it. . . .Open a thread of your own if e dey pain you!!![/size]

Naeto
Dude is 10/10 in all his slim and fit glory!!!

Blushing. . .

He's buff tho'

Pharell.
He's trim, he's fit. He's lithe and he's mean!

Here's llcoolj.
Big, buff and ready to go!!!

Men like comparing our body shape and stuff. Most times, comparisons are set up right here on Nairaland. So today, it's our turn (the ladies) to ogle at pictures and do the comparisons. . . .

Personally, I tend to go more for the personality and the face sha, when it comes to who I want to be with. I have never told myself to go for a big, buff guy or a trim, fit one. Because, it truly doesn't matter to me (though I want my man taller than me sha).

But I think there are some fabulous ladies out there who actually have a type when it comes to the body, just like men do too.
Ladies, which do you prefer?
Under big, buff men we have people like Llcoolj, Dr Dre (though his face got messed up as he became bigger), Idris Elba, The game, Terry Crews and so on.
Under the trim, fit category we have guys like 9ice, Naeto C, Pharell Williams, Lil Wayne, Bow wow and so on.

Do you find big, buff men attractive and irresistible? Or is it the trim, fit men that rock your boat??
What has been your experience with these types of men?
Over to you ladies.

To the men, what has been the reaction of your women to your body type.

Here are some pictures too!!! Loading. . . .

A person who controls does it as a sign of fear, insecurity and what not.
You mustn't put another person down just to feel like a man. Why should your partner cower in fear before you? Is it supposd to be a relationship or a military regime? Smh.