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adeowo84:
I want to bless the name of God...after a long wait since i concluded my NYSC programme, i just got a text offering me an appointment into one of the major telecommunication company in Nigeria. It pays to wait on God and surely serving God pays, i stood on God's word since January and today I'm in a joyous mood.To all my fellow N'lders, is it possible for you to make one of your eye to look up and the other to look down? NO.so never trust in any man but fix your gaze on God only...goodluck!

Congratulations OP.
Please how did you apply and what was your area of study in school?

bettercreature:
We are just hypocrite on here though she madE the best decision but the fact still remains cool Fm did nothing wrong,its business it wasnt witch hunt infact there are some companie where you must not get married withing the next 10years and there are some where you must not resign withing the next 10years and there are some where they can transfer you to anywhere any time without any consideration,she knows the rules before she joined the company

Wow. They didn't do anything wrong? Smh!

Na wa o. Quite obvious he had plans to use you from the very start.
I'm following thread sha.

Doesn't mean she is still in love with the ex.
I however think she is still too hurt by the ex and thinks of the bad circumstances they parted very often.

Because "she carry the matter for chest" , She's bound to make this mistake.

Hope6289:
In a hospital, and I did both internet and hardcopy.

Kk. Thanks for replying and really Wish you the very best!

Hope6289:
When I finished my NYSC three years ago, I was so sure I was going to get a big job after. I was a fresh graduate with high aspirations. I didn't know I was going to go through the painful experience of job hunting. I wrote 14 aptitude tests, had 5 job interviews, I travelled a lot, spending money to write those tests, my heart was broken many times when I didn't get any feedback. Most times the positions were given to people who had 'leg'. I was determined not to keep staying at home so I went to teach in a Primary school. It was plenty stress & little pay but it was something. With my friends getting jobs, I felt stuck and depressed. Today God has blessed me with a verrrrrrry good job, I'm still so dazed I can't believe it. Just want to encourage the job seekers out there, don't give up, keep trusting God and applying. You don't know which one would click. God bless y'all

Congratulations! What sector Please and did you apply for it on the internet?

believer01:
PLS FINISH YOUR STORY

Please see above.

jimmy4x:
Amee, come nd finish up ur story na, peeps like me dey wait abi ur car never stop since

I Don kontinu

JLM:
OMG my dear sis dis is really terrible, hmm am so glad dat i wasnt more than d 2 years 4 u! U see wetin I don de talk since? make this gal no fall my hand o. Menn, to dem love is bedmatics and food shikenan, most times any woman dat can wash cook , has a job will do, dats y ladies should be very carefull n not oo sentimental ,wen it comes to marriage remove sentiment, think clearly n maturedly and ask God for direction.

My dear, na so i see am o. One needs to be logical in acting with guys ooo

Ehennn. I'm back. Sorry for the break in transmission.

STORY CONTINUED.

Like I said I think he actually expected me to call off the so called relationship at his suggestion of an open relationship.

After the break up i was like, Haaa! At that point, I was searching for a job on the internet. Where will I meet somebody else when I'm a recluse that rarely goes out?

I had gone to Sec school, uni and finally service. Here i was, I was as single as I'd ever been. My aunty had even started raising my Name in marriage prayer points in her house. Infact, one of the pictures I'd exchanged with her daughter was being used as the point of contact.

Take note that this wasn't because there was desperation, But the fact that they had never seen me with a guy called boyfriend. Remember I said my corper never met ANY of my folks.

And when it gets to point, where a man you care so much about is so flippant about your emotions, you tend to think of many different things.
Choi. Is it that I Can't keep a man? Am i so unlovable?
But What was a woman supposed to do that I didn't do? I had cooked, had intelligent convos, looked sexy. I had even knelt to apologize on a certain occasion. Take note I was a very young corper, who looked very young and innocent. Everything I did was out of love., pure love.

The way I felt was like attending a wedding. Imagine You get all sorts of dishes offered you. But you decline Because your friend who is sister to the bride promised you a special plate of Food.
After everything, she walks up to you that Food is finished.

That was How I felt Because of all the toasters I'd turned down for him. Because even before We started the relationship, I told him I wasn't out to play. Yet, here he was telling me stories that touch after 2 years.

Nairalanders, If you think two years wasn't a long time, Please dash me 24 hrs that you have created!


I dey come.

Toks2008:
lol clingy qwa

See dont be decieved,its better to be with a lady or man who have had good experience about love affairs because a lady who have never seen life outsside one man will always believe there is somthing berrer out there no matter how cute,romantiv,rich and faithful you may be.

She started by telling me she feels caged that she has spent her whole life with me from age 19 to 30 bla bla bla

that was when i knew she is preempting something sinister and she suddenly said she is disconnected after 6yrs of crtship and 5yrs of marriage and the rest is story.

Thats why right now i will prefer a lady who understands wat love affair is really and not a newbie who probably will still want to fool around.

Hmmn.
It's really different strokes for different folks.

Na real wa

Toks2008:
lol she was the one who left after spending 12yrs with me.

She told me that she feels caged so she wanted to see tife so i had to let her go

Are you kidding me.
Hope She's Happy now that she has seen 'life'.

But Oh. Bros. Were you clingy as per say na you open the place?

femmycares:
Virginity isn't a taboo but prevalence of moral decadence.I tink its a personal decision to remain a virgin.I curse the day I met my ex-girl.She was my life and evrytin I lived for having dated her for 3yrs until I went for my youth service.I left her as a virgin but came back nd regrettably got to know she had been disvirgined.Her stupid nd unacceptable excuse was stomachache and advised to do it.The rest is history.

Hian. What an excuse!

Toks2008:
Hmmm

I really wonder why people quickly debunk ladies who claim to be virgins.

I kindda have this thing for virgins maybe because my ex was a virgin when i met her so while guys debunk ladies,they secretly desire such lady.

You did away with her after deflowering her, abi. Well done.

If you really want to touch people's lives, Then you'd make this detailed so others can truly learn from you.
As it is said: We could not be where We are without those who went before us to show us the way.

Please people should stop all these half baked testimonies.

@Op
Congratulations all the same.

believer01:
PLS FINISH YOUR STORY

I'm in a moving car Please. Will do that Once I'm home.

Iamchicchup:
So it can be assumed that tyga is molesting that kardashian babe he's 25 she's 17

Does she scream RAPE when having sex while he beats her senseless?

gabazin080:
my own observation might be different from others.
But I don't support jungle justice or punishment. am not bad but the young man has made mistake which he admitted. y can't they give the young man a second chance.
They may sack him but he should be given the chance to go tell other young men like him that rape is bad

Quit showing ignorance. What was meted to him wasn't jungle justice. It was the long But firm arm of the law.
Since he has behaved like an animal, he needs to be punished till He's fit to be Let back into human society.

piicity:
O leri,op you are fired and don't come back to Nairaland again until you say yes to rape. Wetin consign male about rape.<walk out gently>

See them! Effing rapist!

kinglai:
wetin concern u.._u self fit do more dan dat

Rapist alert. If it was your sister, would you utter the f^cked up sentence above?

believer01:
I won't try that cos I have seen 2different cases of the ladies proposing and making all the arrangements for the wedding but the husbands refuse to show up in the church. When the husbands were later questioned they said nd I quote "I am not ready" imagine d disgrace. Thanks for your advised anyways I will ask him if I am included in his future.

Don't say you will never find anyone like him. You will find better sef.
I remember when my corper boyfriend told me Then he wasn't ready for marriage after 2 years of dating. He was my first boyfriend and I dated him exclusively during service and 1 year after service.
If I had left earlier the first time he gave me an inkling he wasn't ready, I'd have at least had a nice time during my service year.
Instead I was busy cooking and feeling like a responsible wife. I believed in him so much. Mind you, he didn't act the responsible husband by buying the Food or dropping Food money.
I had guys dying for me But I ignored them all.

Fast forward to the 2nd year anniversary of that relationship. He told me he didn't want to tie me down and that We transition into an open relationship whereby I'm dating him But if any guy comes to me for marriage, I should marry. We hadn't even seen physically after service, when I'd tearfully bade him bye.

No one in my family knew him. And this was 2 years after.

For me, that was the last straw. Why didn't you tell me all the time We were at service? Why after 2 years?
It wasn't an easy decision to take But for me, it was all or nothing. I Can't be with you and still be available for another man. I don't roll like that.
So I broke up with him....


TO BE CONTINUED....


NB - I think that was What he expected shaaa

Acidosis:
Na all these kain yeye relationships dey cause infidelity in marriage.


At the end of the day, you'd go after a guy you don't love out of desperation while keeping contacts with your school bf.

You might even end up with a virgin rich and innocent guy, after spending 7 good years under another man's roof


A beg abeg, just stick with your boyfriend, force him to marry you!
"Ki olorun ma je ka gbe egun elegun."


I will never marry any woman who has spent 7 years with another man. Your best shot is to lie about your past.

Whoever hears this will marvel

Would you prefer she spent the 7 years with 7 different guys?

kaima1984:
50% right,for him t talk to sis faith like that,it means that sis faith has been rejecting suitor's my dear,for d fact that he reacted that way on her it means he want d best f her,d pastor is her spiritual director,lastly some issues are solved in an extreme way like this

No. No. No. No.
How would you feel if it were you?
Is she the one to propose to herself?

This is just evil.

^
How is the man the broken one?

Thank you everyone.

I spoke to her reinforcing the need to tell her mum and she said she has resolved not to tell her. She said mum has high BP and she doesn't want to compound issues.

Apart from that, she said mum has the habit of going to his mum to complain and if his mum cautions him, he ends up pouring his anger on her in the secrecy of their home saying that her parents want to control him.

She says she has resolved to watch him silently in the face of provocation. Will that be adequate? I don't know, But What I do know is that I have to respect her decision.

I'm not giving up on my friend But you can only force a horse to the river. The rest is left entirely to the horse.

I appreciate all your kind concern. And I promise to keep you updated when there's a development of any kind. God bless....

Dinachi
She is a very neat girl and this neatness is evident in her surrounding. Also, she started seeing sex as work the moment he started acting like a robot to her. How do you penetrate a girl without even one kiss? Does that sound like fun?

I can recollect when they got married, she told me he was playfully complaining about her fixed nails that they were always digging into his shoulders during seks.

She decided to keep her hands to herself Because It's obvious he doesn't want her close....

^

I'm Sorry But I am not So optimistic. Also finding it hard to pin point someone who could talk to him.

Even before coming herer, I asked her to tell her Parents and she said she's the one who suffers it at the end of the day. That if she reports him, he comes and pours the anger on her. That moreover, her Dad is fed up.

I'll insist she tells her folks now anyways. I'll insist Because the fear of sti is very real....

@all

I guess I'll do as advised. I'll tell her to sing like a canary to her Parents....

Samyj247:
aameyah
Her decision was not to date him. Moreover, she had her childhood sweetheart. And so they parted amicably.
Hello, is it her childhood sweetheart that she got married to? Or

It wasn't her childhood sweetheart she married But the guy she met as a teenager. The one who stayed in my vicinity....

I really appreciate your answers.

Her dad and mum are aware of some of his minor inadequacies. And her dad told her to count her losses and move on.
But what they are not aware of is all the major drama and all the insults.Because her dad washed his hands off the issue when she refused to listen. He started having his reservations right from when they started preparing for the wedding.

I think I have to talk to her to tell them. Maybe a family meeting is the way to go.

My friend is a good girl. Very hard working and all. She's also an excellent cook to booth and unlike most women who got married as virgins is very open with her husband sexually. If only he would approach her with love. I wouldn't call her frigid. How do you enjoy seks with a guy who doesn't touch your body during the act not even once. He doesn't kiss her. He doesn't caress her.
How do you enjoy watching intimacy with a stranger? When he plays it, they both sit apart watching silently. When finished, she undresses and bam, finish!

He stands up and leaves her. C'est finite.

When she cooks he eats and calls a girlfriend to tell her what he is eating. I don't know again ooh. Her parents I think are the best to be of assistance.

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Her dad has washed his hands off the issue as she refused to heed his advice. I think I'll advice her to talk to her mum.

I told her that she needs to react some times when he acts up. She said there was a time she did and he told her she would just burst a vein and she would just die. That he would just get married sharply to someone else...

^
Sigh