ideamonster: The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.
Question is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?
Is not a crime for a woman to succeed, I for one love when people around me succeed, more especially my woman. But when you allow that success or money you think you have get into your head and you start disrespecting me then we will definitely have problems.
Verokeena: Good afternoon Nl family Please pardon my epistle
My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .
What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)
Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)
When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..
He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..
I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..
The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number
I don't just know what to do...
Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him
If what you said is true then I think you're a good woman, you're just tolerating him because he is a deadbeat dad.
Marriage really entails a lot o, some I just imagine sharing a house with a woman with bad and disgusting character.
Ibrahimlagosian: Hi guys,i'm an 18 year old medical student, I'm about to get a car for myself but i fell in love with these two cars;a 2017 honda accord coupe and a 2015 honda crosstour. From your experience which car do you think will serve me best in the university.My budget is 4.5 million.
I don't know much about cars but I suggest you go for the white one.
Loveabove: Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.
My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.
Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.
God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.
House rent has expired and problems everywhere.
Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.
Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.
Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.
Please advise me on what to do.
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First of all where is their father, and their father's relatives or parent ?? You need to provide answer to those question. But if they have a deadbeat father then I'll advise you to take them to orphanage home, but don't forget them.
Jossyfine: Africans and African men believe going to the hotel alone with ur spouse is a waste of resources but forgetting it’s actually bonds couple together. Even going on dates with ur spouse is a big problem amongst the Nigerian men.
Omo marriage is too boring biko
Going to the hotel with your spouse is one of sweetest fun in marriage.
Truvelisback: Good day, fellas. Why do marriages get boring after sometime? 🤔 I.e The love or feelings begin to wax cold or boring unlike when you both started.
Ikennaford: Lol, I once met a fine thick German woman, then she's 43 and I'm 24,,she's really a sex freak,, she's the first woman I met wen I enter jand,,, she told me what still today I remember I deh laugh, she said, ikenna I love sex so much and I'll like you to give it to me how many times I want it every day, I promise you food and basic amenities is not a problem,, but I swear to god, I really enjoyed her, she'll cream like.. Oh my gosh,, in the beginning of my stay in her house, we deh sex like 3 times a day during working days, but on weekends.. Na 10x,,we even had sex in a mall toilet , cars, beaches, in the garden, because she inherited the house from her grandma, so at the back of the house is a mini garden, we had sex there all the time,, she got a 15 year old daughter then and a 21 year old son from different men,, na sex pursue all of'em men hahaha,,, the children have caught us soo many times in the garden nackin, like uncountable times I swear, but we don't care I enjoyed the sex ahaa for 2 years before I left texas, she's lovely, compassionate, very emotional, she can spend on me eh,, , she works at immigrants whatever whatever office then, she's the only woman that gave me the best sex and enjoyment in this world, I can't meet someone like her again, but at the end of the day she's sick, the last time I spoke with her, she got colon cancer,, but is treatable shaa,
I remember something now, I just modified.. Her kind of sex is weird, she likes it to be painful at the same time pleasure, like spanking and biting her nipple hard ,, so because of that she loves doggy alot, I'll keep spanking her white ass till it turned blue,, another thing I remember she got herpes, but I don't know this kind of herpes, I never contracted it,, during her painful sore lips days, I deh rest well well because, she told me, if I have sex with her, I Wil get it too, so the pains may last for a week, then we will start from where we stopped, is funny though,,, I've seen things In this life trying to make money, I gat many experience @30now about life, I thank God
All hail the king👑👑.........I cut cap for you baba👍
Ikennaford: I hate when people use the economic state of the country to e giving unnecessary excuses.. Oga she's indirectly telling you she ain't cummin and another dude on the way,,, so when she eventually cheat, if she's not already coddedly,,,, she go tell you at the beginning she complained, you lock up...
The economy is where every person survives on, feed their families from, clothe themselves from, and also carry out internal and external projects. Only a brain-dead person will say that a person should not use the economic hardship as an excuse.
teekay213: My close neighbor and I were talking about our rent which is due in 2 months time and we open up to each other about the situation of the country and how we are still coping with feeding our family,school fees and other bills from our salaries with nothing left and some debts sef not to talk of savings for rent.
And I wonder how do people especially family men manage to pay their rent in this bad economy ??
Wainey: look at someone calling me ignorant, let us imagine a state has 5m person's, if you share N5b to 5m person's, that is about 1k per person, assuming there is no bank charge and other costs What will you do with that money? States like Lagos, Kano, Kaduna, Rivers etc will not even get up to N800.
Wainey: If you pay the money into people's account, I do not think anyone will have more than N500, we are 200m people for fvck sake.
Now what about those that don't have bank account, that will be elitism at it's finest.
Stop talking ignorantly. The current Nigeria population is estimated around 220 million people, and the FG is disbursing 5 billion to each state to curb the hardship caused by subsidy-removal. So do the maths now, including those that don't have account because they'll surely help them open those accounts. What's the population for each state, it should not be more than 10 or 15 million I guess, and for states like lagos and kano others are less than. Let's use plateau state as case study that has population of 4 million. If you share 500k for each person per month then tell me how much will remain, and also tell me how many months the remaining cash will serve the populace.
Corruption and bribery is the problem bro, not those without account.
There's two kings I know for sure their governors can't fvck with in Nigeria, oba of Benin and attah of igala. When the former governor of kogi state Idris wada dared the attah of igala he received it hot hot. Oba of Benin no be emir former of kano o.
DenreleDave: Many endure bcox of their kids... They don't have the power to cater for them, so they stay with their abusive partner and endure as long as their kids are "fine"
Pls don't encourage that, many couples have died because of it. It's not a most you must stay in an abusive marriage, if it's not working just kindly give some space o, your sanity is very important.
I can't encourage anyone to remain in that kind of relationship or marriage.
BrighterThanDay: Why is it that even when it is so clear from all indications that your daughter is married to an irresponsible man who is toxic. Nigerian parents will still say endure and stay there.
A lot of married young ladies are down with depression and even high BP because of marital stress. But they have to remain there. It's just so sad
Majority of the toxic parents allow their daughters, including some of the daughters also wanting to get married to this toxic husband because of their money. So even if they maltreat their daughter and they still receive their regular alert no problem.
I have a female friend who ones told me that even if her husband beats her she will not leave the marriage in as much as the man is rich. Imagine that kind of talk.
creativehubb: You dumb kids need to get a life or a job, and keep that state off your mouth. That state is the greatest state and state with the richest history in Nigeria...till today British and European government marvel at the bronze works of the Edo people and display them in the best museums. It's nobody's fault your state is useless and without history.
No state is useless, and every state is bless in Nigeria. Stop talking ignorantly.
Family › Re: Why Do High-status Career Women Seem To Have Problems With Their Marriage? by achimendy(m): 4:08pm On Aug 23, 2023
