₦airaland Forum

007kjb:
Negotiation and two kinsmen meeting is what matters in marriage rites,infact it is highly impossible to finish what is in a marriage list

The two families have to disagree to agree,I am from IMO STATE money doesn't even stop a serious man from getting married,u must have to get your kinsmen to dialogue with your in-laws

Touch everything in the list but it mustn't be 100%

I REPEAT GIRLS SHOULD RUN AWAY FROM MEN THAT FROWN AT PAYING PRIDE PRICE....THEIR MARRIAGES DONT LAST

Jewessgratitud3:
*From a concerned lady*👇‼️

My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they asked for.

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

Advise this lady

izonborn098:
Why some women deceive their husband good character' then after marriage show him his true colour.
Why are women after money?
You can't have a lasting marriage when you are after money and not the soul''
Las las everybody go dey okay sha

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Nice2023:
I just clocked 40 year old and I feel as if I have not done well for myself. May be because I had always set a standard, hence my high taste and expectations.


Now goes the question,as a Nigerian,what achievement do one expects from a 40years old man irrespective of his education?

Babe1994:
Hi

I’m a girl in her late 20s, I live abroad was born here but spent most of my schooling years in Nigeria. I came back to do university. I’ve been with a guy now for 7 years who hasn’t paid my bride price properly due to the fact he did an arangee marriage and the divorce process is taking too long. I got with him in my early 20s.. and have a child with him. I believed in him but now I’m at the point where I’m honestly frustrated and tired. I really don’t know who to run to to express myself. We are living together but I really want to run away and start my life afresh but I want to be told the truth. I really want to be married and content, It feels like this guy has reduced me to nothing. Im so ashamed of my situation with him, it’s like I’ve disgraced myself and my family. I’m going to try and list out all the issues we’ve been facing.

1. He’s very confused about his career path. One minute he’s a musician.. then he wants to be a painter.. then he wants to be chef. This is a man in his late 30s

2. He has anger issues. We have tussled on some occasions and he threatens to beat me when he’s angry but so far he hasn’t

3. He has addictions. Betting drinking smoking. To the point where he drank so much that he almost killed himself . I was honestly fooled by the fact that he was a worker in the church and I “believed” I could change him. Young and dumb I guess.

4. Cannot communicate properly. To the point we have not had a proper conversation in almost 2 months but we are living together. I feel so lonely and stuck.

5. He insults me so bad to the point where I question myself.

6. He is not very hardworking and I don’t gel well with his family and friends.

7. None of his family ever talk about marriage or paying my bride price. All they ever ask is when I’m having another child for him. They have reduced me to nothing and I can’t blame them.

I will say that when I’m angry I can be verbally abusive also. He also claims that I’m too reserved and isolated. I feel like I’ve been pushed to the wall and I can’t recognise myself.

I really want to run away.. and start afresh. Where will I start from? I have a son how easy will it be to find love again? All the love I have for this man has gone..I don’t know if it can be rectified. He has really seen me finish.



Thank you .

front page please

Thanks

Deenillah:
Funny you guys share the same name, and that, was her words too. Can't you ladies just avoid unnecessary wahala?

donbachi:
So she'll cheat on you and ask you to apologize

Deenillah:
I'll just go straight to it.

My girlfriend of 2years gets upset when I don't apologize even when I'm not at fault. , saying I don't care about her feelings.

I'm this person who believes that everyone is responsible for their actions and should shoulder the consequences for thier actions.

I don't apologize except when I know I'm wrong and I try as much as possible to avoid things that will make me apologize unnecessarily except of course for the ones that happen coincidentally.

But she wants it to be that at every little instance, I apologize even if she's at fault which to me I find unacceptable and this causes quarrels between us when it happens.


MY QUESTION IS

Am I wrong to want to apologize ONLY when I'm at fault?

Nataliace:
The younger brother to my husband occasionally comes to visit us. My husband takes good care of him and support his business dealings.

He trusts his brother that he can travel for weeks leaving us together.

Recently my brother in-law's movement towards me changed.

He sometimes rub his hands on my back as if he was just being friendly. He made strange and unusual move towards me several times and I was uncomfortable with that.

I warned him that if he doesn't stop I will report to my husband.

My husband travelled last week and his brother has begun his behaviors of unexpectedly touching my body and showing up in my room or just following me to the kitchen whenever I am preparing meal.

I thought of reporting to his brother but I don't want to be the reason they will be enemies for life.

How do I stop him so this remain between two of us?

This is sincerely becoming unbearable.

Mynd44:
I really hope Alex Otti does well as governor not for his sake but for the sake of the state.

I have been to Abia state a couple of times and they need a governor that knows what he/she is doing

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mj2KOBqx7DA

Slayqueen caught on CCTV stealing hair at a shop

#wetindeyhappentv

HonNL:
SOURCE

nepapole:
Good for him.

Dude hasn't won a trophy in his life. He just dey score goals

brain54:
I am not saying anything…

But sometimes you need to forget swag and packaging.


Have you seen boko haram rag tag commanders…?

And yet they give the generals you posted a hard time defeating them!

obembet:
She fine reach me, which one be the most beautiful. 😡😡😡😡

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NoGIVfrFGo

Boy sleeps with and impregnates his own cousin 😲😲

#wetindeyhappentv

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NoGIVfrFGo

Boy sleeps with and impregnates his own cousin 😲😲

#wetindeyhappentv

Kingsmeal:
https://twitter.com/Nedunaija/status/1689631553536827392?t=ALlyEYsaun6pmonCOeFrGw&s=19[/quote]Alex otti/LP is truly a beacon of hope. I love the swift response from them, it really shows how responsible they're. Goodluck to you sir.

We are eagerly waiting for our father Peter obi to reclaim his mandate. Nigeria will definitely rise again.

Cooly100:
I remember rebuking someone last time...asking him if Abia goverment should have used Keke NAPEP till INNOSON has some...

People are too emotional in this country.

Ogene001:
Obedient movement remain the face of democracy in Nigeria. Only backwards feudalist and monarchist hate obedient movement

HanisahZuwy:
Please help!

My anus got torn a little bit. I'm finding it difficult to poo normally, because my anus hurts whenever I'm doing so. There's even blood whenever I poo.

Please, I need help on what I can drink or apply to heal my anus and also stop the blood. Please, I would really appreciate your input. Thanks.

FalseProphet1:
Let's hear your contributions.

Connie: "She cheated on me, I never left immediately, I made sure I've impregnated her, named my son, gave her good life for 1 year, then when I found someone better, I left her reminding her that I can't marry a cheater. She's now a single mother"

post=124834311:
A Nigerian Lady, Mera, has said she is so expensive that no Nigerian man can afford her, Reports.

“No Nigerian Man can afford me. I said what I said,” she tweeted on Wednesday, August 2.

https://twitter.com/meraE_jjoe/status/1686629436001550336?t=Ofuk2uGrbVZfl_U_H6o-6w&s=19[/quote]Fat empty-headed bitch.

Ikaeniyan0:
The Government said the pH refinery will start working in december.

Badonasty:
Lol…I no fit do this thing for woman sha…I’m not that heartless

AsomughaChuks05:
The international community wants bazoum or Niger Republic will remain on the global sanctions list and they can eat their uranium.

AImiron:
Things I love to read, about time. He has paid his dues time to enjoy the fruit of his labor. No pressure, no rush, German Bundesliga Trophy sure pass death, and e go score taya.

Kane and trophies

Confirm4real:
Please this is a serious case she happens to be my younger sister I'm putting this up on her behalf.

1. The husband doesn't give her money for upkeep.

2. Most times he beat her up mercilessly.

3. Disgraced her in the compound by telling a mechanic that she doesn't wear pants.

4. Treat her like rag.

5. Doesn't have regard for my family.

6. Monitor her everywhere and accuse her wrongly of following men, this is someone that they've been married for more than 15yrs and have 4kids together.

7. Always accuse her wrongly of stealing his money.

8. Follow her to the market and pays for any food items she buys.

9. The little money my sister earns as a teacher he will make sure she spends all the money at home.

10. Locks his phone but told my sister to always unlock her own so he will be seeing all her messages and calls. Even put tracker on her phone to monitor her calls.

11. Smells my sister's undies atimes to know if she went to meet a man.

12. There was a time my sister was into restaurant business the husband didn't allow the business to last, he told her customers should not sit down to eat they can only buy and go.

13. He now bought a Sienna he still put tracker to monitor the car and inner tracker to monitor calls inside the car. If he noticed some conversation in the car he will start calling my sister, if she doesn't pick while driving he will start insulting her.

14. He pays the children school fees and house rent with complains. They're living at Ajah.

Although I have reported the case to Human Rights. Please what advice can you give if she's your sister.

Note: They dated long before marriage almost 5yrs, but I wonder why she didn't see those red flags then.

Women should be careful in their choice of selection, most men pretends to be nice during dating but not knowing they're beast in human form.

DenreleDave:
Well, for me, I plan to settle in the next 3 - 5 years if all goes to plan.. My aim is to have a good source of income and have something relevant that will sustain my family....

Meanwhile, I plan on getting married to petyprincess... There are no two ways abt it, it's petyprincess.... Na her current boyfriend i dey pity bcox Las las, na me go marry pety girl

But if pety no work, then amatarasha is my 2nd in waiting...


Oya tell us your own abeg

IconicR:
He may later reject this, I still don't like what they are doing to him. Mallam was the main man who stood his ground for Asiwaju. I hope Obi is not having hand inside all these because he has been using those unfortunate LP national assembly members to orchestrate evil in Asiwaju's government.

DenreleDave:
This is a billion dollars question in my mind. It is now a norm for single ladies to compete with a married woman for her husband. They know the man is married with or without kids but our single ladies see it as a normal thing and the society has also ignorantly or unconsciously accepted it as a norm.

This makes me think again that a man doesn't instigate cheating on his wife, he is only tempted by another lady who is greedy jealous and envious about her fellow woman that is married to a man. Yes, men don't have the intention to cheat, we are only enticed by the greedy single ladies whose intention is to frustrate their fellow ladies and to fulfil their greedy needs.

Single men rarely mess with a married woman because when the society finds out, it will bring a heavy backlash on the married woman, the society won't stop reminding her that she cheated on her husband with a single guy but the society normalized a single lady for sleeping with a married man.

Many guys are still single because the single ladies are busy devicing how to get a married man on her bed to fulfil her greed. Many of we single guys are stranded because we can't approach married women as we respect the sanctity and vow of their marriage


My question is; Why do single ladies love to sleep with married men?