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@ dharamanil ,
you have to understand whats going on, ur girl showed you the chats as evidence for something she could have shut down herself.its possible she doesnt know what she is doing but still the question now is WHAT WOULD YOU DO? if you keep quiet you will only give her excuse to screw him. cos at this point ur flatmate is looking like the Alpha and boss who can have anything he wants while you are looking like his subordinate who cannot defend his territory. You have to take charge and its not by fighting him or beating him up. You have to show him you are the bigger man but that you will not tolerate any advances on ur girl and you have to do it in front of your woman so that she too gets the message. Gather them together at home without letting her know what you want to do, openly tell him that your girl has informed you that he is asking her out and you have read all their chats. he will be shocked and most likely try to deny or get defensive, let him embarrass himself a little (she needs to see him do this), cut him short and then calmly tell him that you are disappointed that he can do this to you after you have housed him and regarded him as a friend and family however the fact that you are sharing a flat doesn't mean you will tolerate any advances by him on your woman. Then ask him to apologise to her and then to you. maintain a very relaxed and calm but serious look even if he tries to get antagonistic, dont shout. watch your girls reaction while all this is happening. you will take away any attraction she has for him and restore your position as the alpha and the man in the house. however keep a very close eye on your woman after this.

Do the right thing.Leave the money and walk away.

OMG see gruesome tools used on human beings. These are horrible ways to die

For my mama, I will take anything takeable.

Sincerely guys these guys are just mad men. I have decided to always shift my car and give way to any convoy as long as the road is free. Truly speaking it's not worth it. These police men can't boast of one single spare tire talkless of a car. They are just broke and hungry that's why they parade the streets begging and harassing people. Just allow them pass and take their madness along with them. It's no use stooping so low to drag and fight with these guys. Just make your dough and hire them to follow u up and down that's the only thing they are good for.

hanassholesolo:
You definitely look like a dude in my sec school called Mayowa or something

lol...I am definitely not your guy. yeah a lot of persons look like me...check out mayorall on NL. He may be your guy.

hanassholesolo:
Your name starts with "M" and ends with "A"

No Sir...

Lambert...

this is beyond gold digging. This is gold picking..Why stress yourself to dig when you can just stroll and pick...#justsaying

comshots:
How is John fashanu a billionaire?

guess who is a big shareholder in DSTV and SPAR Nigeria?

greatnaija01:
If you truly LOVE HER, then help her boobs RISE AGAIN..... there are food suplements, pills, creams that will do this and remove stretch marks.... YOU NEED TO WORK IT AND OWN IT... so she sees that you are committed and responsible..... DONT QUIT... I was in the same shoes and I had to have a HARD TALK and did lots of breast augumentative procedures and today my Lady's boobs stands like National Anthem.... but it took a total of 4 months to achieve... If you love her put in the work... SHE WILL FOREVER REMAIN YOURS.

Na Wash...if e no be small stout, e no fit be small stout.

kinguwem:
Ford is a British vehicle

I need the weed you took this morning. It's highly effective. .

ubunja:
Its always women who are yapping on about "intelligence". Men want a pretty face and a nice body. Women on the other hand seek for intelligence ,coz intelligence=good grades=good qualifications=good job=good salary=good lifestyle="what all women want".
To see women don't give a crap about the "intelligence" they claim to seek,u must see how a gal who looks for an intelligent guy will never spend even 1 sentence asking the guy about The Theory of Relativity or How Electrons work.
They want intelligent men coz that's where the dollars will come from. Its an investment.

nailed it!!!!
Intelligence = better prospects = more cheddas. It's all about the cheddas....

I just love trump....The guy is bold, fearless and off course a billionaire He doesn't care what anyone thinks of him, he walks his talk. That's a real g right there.

khorsky:
Good morning all.. Please has anybody here had to renew his Agbami card without having a balance of up to #1000? Pls how did u do it?

go to the bank and apply the same way others have been doing it..even if your balance is 0.00, if they pay and you passed verification, you ll get your funds.

whitebeard:
Hold on let's not get to cocky with the hearing of ditching petrol driven car for electric cars, pls guys I would tell u hypothetically that electric cars is not for developing countries, and it not the new big advanced technology that man is looking for in the automobile market, electric cars are "just there" the big technology in the automobile world is power cells, just the way aircraft carriers are powers by nuclear reactors, cars would be powered just like that, but with smaller reactors.

That way we wont have to fear EMP bombs, or fear that u would run out of gas, anything that has to do with power would be taken care of.

Electric cars have a lot of limitations so I suggest we stick with our petrol driven cars for now..!

EMP bomb is real any deranged idiot can get it on the black market

MR u are talking of emp bomb when all u need to blow up a gasoline car is a matchstick or lighter. It's in our own interest to look into providing stable power supply so that we can take advantage of these technologies else....this country is going to become a museum for old relics

deturla:
I am in my late twenties and yes, sister is 30 and she is being abused, YES! Verbally, emotionally and to make it worse, PHYSICALLY.

That was not the way it started, really. We all knew him to be caring, sensitive and loving. But everything turned out terrible.

She is a beautiful and soulful person but obviously found herself in a bad marriage. He appears normal and respectable but truly he is just not IT!

To make matters worse, Bisi (my sister) never really told us anything until we noticed ourselves. Anytime they come to our house with their two kids, I noticed that my sister was always overdoing things, always trying to please the man. Laughing unnecessarily and making everything seem out of place. Like she was keeping up appearances.

We never thought anything was wrong because they seemed very happy together!

Not until I went to her place to help her drive her car to the mechanic workshop. I was surprised as to why she could not drive herself only to discover that she has been bruised in the face all over. On further interactions with her, she told me she was slapped by her husband!

I was shocked, slap will make someone's face look like McGregor's face when he was battered my MayWeather? I had to report to my parents and they took it up. Had a family meeting and resolved everything amicably or so we thought but the abuse never stopped. 

I have told her repeatedly to leave his house, but the shame of leaving a man's house with two kids will not leave her be. My sister always try to make excuses for him, saying he is a good man but will we wait till she is beaten beyond fixing by the GUY?

This 5th time however, when she was pushed to the wall and she fell, I was fortunate to get into their house when this happened, and this time I am going to take up the issue myself. First of all to report to the nearest police station, but before I do that, I want to arrange with some boys in my area to give him the beating of his life.

Am I validated for this? I just want him to have a pound of his own flesh, and to know what it means to physically abuse a woman; MY SISTER.

Please should I go ahead?

http://deedeesblog.com/i-want-to-beat-my-sisters-husband/

cc: lalasticlala
mynd44

you even had time to come here and ask, if i was in your shoes i would not only gather all my cousins and brothers with cane to flog him, i will personally lock him up and pay the police heavily to flog the hell out of him for one week...nobody i repeat nobody beats my sisters and does not end up in the hospital....not while i am still breathing...if i result to punches and kicks, i just might fracture his jaw or kill him, but the rod of correction(cane /koboko) will leave him with a memorable experience such that nobody will advise him on how to behave and fall in line.

fumisko:
Wow..I just found my mr perfect

Aww...what took u so long?

i would definitely go for someone that shares the same values with me but not the same character....i am easy going,reserved,idealistic,blunt, go out of my way for almost anyone, make others happy even at my own detriment, too caring. i practically need a military/street woman as bae to keep the dogs out and straighten me up when i need it ......(with love)

It's high time Nigerian babe's also get encouraged to shave their heads in support for the cancer people's......

U enter a married woman's room and it's like a town meeting. Boxes, shoes clothes, bags scattered everywhere and u expect the guy to be happy and comfortable. How many women actually try to make a change when their guy complains about something. When he says he doesn't like a particular thing u ll discover that she ll defend and justify it. But a side chick will make amends immediately.....

Let's face it...A lot of women get too comfortable once they get married. They stop being that sweet girl that the guy feel for. They become relaxed, get sloopy and loose their edge and game. It goes beyond shagging styles and looking good. Most women do not trully respect thier guy, do not give him attention, only make demands. Trust me if a woman is doing her job well. Her guy won't cheat. How many women here will actually sit with their man and listen to him recount his days activities? Most nights u come home and she is watching telemundo. She won't even listen to anything you say until the show ends. Tell me what the side chick has that u don't have? If she has all u have and is able to take ur man from u. Then obviously there is something wrong with u..I get sick when I see comments like "all men are polygamous" "all men cheat". These comments are propagated by women who try to hide their ineptitude and shortcomings under such generalist statements. A lot of guys go through hell in their homes. Some can't even sleep comfortably cos of another human being u married and brought into the house.. many women don't even know how their guys business runs, who his partners are, who his boss is, how much he earns but u ll be shocked a side babe will know all these because she is actually interested in the guys activities and actually pays attention to him. Women have turned their men to human atms and still maintain an entitled mindset. Thinking that because he is married to u and that u have kids for him is enough...wake up ladies u have to put the work in...

Every family needs a doctor/nurse, a lawyer and someone in the armed forces. It's very important to have at least 2 persons from these professions in ur immediate family to avoid issues like this. They won't even dare talk crap if one of u was a soldier.

confidence in a woman is good and should be encouraged. A lot of girls have inferiority complex and they try to hide it by becoming unruly, talking down on others so they can be seen as a big babe. Confidence means knowing you have what it takes to hold your own but also respecting the individual opinion and disposition of others even they dont agree with you. i love me a confident woman and its a major turn on for me.

i just feel sad going through comments here...i have realised there is no right person or right situation or right decision. You make a decision right with the level of work and commitment you put into it.Nothing is permanent, There are no guarantees in life, people change, life goes on. A lot of persons invest so much in finding the right person but spend little on making themselves the right person. if you listen to most people talk about their choice of life partners, you hear them say "i want someone that will give me.......,someone that will make me......., someone that will buy me...." in other words the focus is on what they will get out of it and not what they will give in it. The problem is approaching it from the perspective of getting something out of it often gets you disappointed and frustrated when that person doesn't give you the desired expectation. Then they try to change the person they got married to, either subtly or forcefully,they become needy and resentment sets in, then it all comes crashing down. However approaching it from a perspective of giving puts you in a superior frame of mind, you give yourself, your time, funds, resources, intellect etc. you do it not because you want them to give back to you in the same exact measure, but because you want to help the other person attain their potentials, dreams and goals, because you want to make life a remarkable experience for them. For you to be able to achieve this you must have it in you. you cant give what you don't have. So your focus should be on empowering yourself, physically, financially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally to be able to meet the needs of this person .you may say "so when and how do i get loved and cared for in return? What if they don't reciprocate?" The truth is there is no guarantee that they will. Its just like you have a million dollars and you see a someone in need and give them one dollar, it doesn't matter to you what the person does with it, it doesn't affect you if they appreciate it, waste it or even reject it and throw it back at you because you have more than enough.So does it mean you go into relationships with no expectations whatsoever? Definitely No, you should have your expectations, goals and visions ensuring that you don't loose yourself while helping the other person achieve their dreams. Happiness comes from within, a Rolls Royce may make you comfortable but it wont make you happy. Living and Loving are choices we make everyday, you cant control what life throws at you, but you have complete control over your decisions and how you respond to life's issues. So rather than craving and bickering for attention, give attention, rather than demanding for love give love, rather than searching for peace, give peace, rather than searching for companionship, become a companion. you will discover that you are more fulfilled and little acts of unruly behaviour by your partner don't get you feeling frustrated as you used to. That Man or Woman who has turned their back on you was once attracted to you, there were qualities in you that made them come close and decide to spend the rest of their life with you, however some how you lost that spark, that drive, those enticing characteristics because you became comfortable, became complacent, forgot your identity,became sloppy(in vin diesel's voice). You have to regain control, work on yourself knowing that you alone are the solution and not the other person. you owe it to you to become your best self everyday.

Firstly you have to understand that happiness comes from within, despite your predicament you have to find things to be thankful and grateful for...All is not lost.
I can understand your need for attention, but I will only give you to focus on what you can control and ignore what u can't control. You can't control his actions or decisions, but you have absolute control over your actions, decisions and attitude. I think u should focus on becoming your best self. Not just because you want him to retrace his steps but because u owe it to you. Maybe he comes back , maybe he doesn't, it doesn't mean you should stagnate your life and potentials waiting for attention and validation. You have to find a way to thrive ..

Sir U can easily do that using whatsapp web. download the app on your laptop, get hold of her phone whatsapp and pair it with whatsapp on ur laptop. whenever she comes online it will mirror on your laptop. But you have to be careful not to read chats that are unread as not to tip her off. also note that if she finds out, she can log you out and she might not be so forgiving. There are also apps that backup whatsapp messages and send to a specific email. but you need access to the targets phone to set it up...

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