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Mercury12:
If they are perceived to be sweet, understanding and less toxic than single ladies before marriage and after marriage.
The problem most men have with them arises after marriage.

U see all these people dating and marrying single mothers....na chop and run gone wrong.....there is nothing u found in a single mother that cant be seen in single girls wey never born

Mercury12:
That is the most painful and discouraging part otherwise they are very sweet and would had be among first set of choices for men looking to settle down

Why would they be the first set of choice? Im not understanding

I dont get how some people age.....how is this nigga 52??
When i saw odunlade calling him egbon some years back, i was like ..whats going on here...

oyatz:
Stop poisoning the guys minds against single mothers.
Some of them are just victims of circumstances and it can happen to anybody, including your sisters or daughters.

Single mothers also deserve happy marriages like all other women.

They should go and marry single fathers..happiness is there too...

.the hypocricy of single mothers is cringy....
I have met many of them nd its funny that they dont want men like them, men with a child...but thy want single men to love their own children first....
What annoys me most is when it come to bills...her daughter is your own...but when it comes to discipline you are wicked and cant be trusted becos men are predators...

Bostin:
Egungun becareful na express you dey goo..

This one don reach express

Sacrifice what??
He's just using you....swallow the redpill and stop being stupid sticking with a someone thats just using you to pass time...its clear he's just using you

why you go slap her.??

..she suppose give u two in return before dumping you

Flamemignon1:
Like I told someone else on this forum,the tables are turned,now y'all feel you are the endangered ones,when we were the ones being killed and bullied,y'all acted like we didn't exist and told us to suck it up,be a man or whatever heteronormative shit you strykes continue to spew.

I'm gonna tell you the same thing,suck it up like a "man"

There was never a table....and no turning...u lgbt folks started this nonsense

ehmmy11:
900k ?

U like vawulence

Flamemignon1:
There's nothing wrong with respect and tolerance,you don't have to accept to treat people with respect

Listen to yourself....
U wake up saying you are a penguin...and u want tolerance...yet you dont want to tolerate other peoples' feelings ....

The same thing you do invading womens sport in the name of tolerance....yet you are not respecting other.....i dont blame u though.... i blame the goverment who allow you have your one way biased tolerance

Flamemignon1:
Let me do what y'all do and gaslight the entire situation, it's an illusion and I'm so happy to see this,glad the tables are shifting for y'all to know what it feels like to be discriminated for something you can't control or in this case,her opinion she's masquerading as a fact

U people made ur personal opinion and feelings a fact yet bully someone for doimg the same...

How can someone wake up and say i feel like a woman or i am a no gender....and start bullying everyone that doesnt call her a woman or ehatever she wants..

..and u feel this is ok...

Its irritating that you are justifying this...

Oga lgbt Flamemignon1

Later you will say they are arresting you and making you lose your job.

Yet u people are the ones bullying others of their jobs ..students lying that they felt attacked....over what?? We dont even know the number of gender sex there is anymore because of your self delusion..

faithfull18:
Are you really being objective I am the 'do unto others what you want them to do to you' person but that guy had to be replied as his comment was out of it, simple advise and keep it moving, he started taking it personal. You guys should be resting abeg, you will still log out to face the women you come only to form redpiller for.

....Form redpill ??....so once a man has a different opinion from a woman, he is forming redpill...... sigh!!

u see, this was the same cringe-causing opinion u gave earlier that he was forming macho just becos he had an opinion...

Sigh!!!

femo86:
Because I say she dey miss cucumber, una delete the comment...


I repeat again....she dey miss black cucumber and WINTER is around the corner...Cold go show am shege and she go hear am taya

You too like vawulence ....

Ronaldoguy:
my brother, do you live in Lagos?

Yes...

faithfull18:
Biko, stop quoting me, I shared my opinions, I have a right to that, you don't have to agree, go and read his post I quoted objectively again and stop trying to play the devil's advocate, the role doesn't suit you.

So U dont like being patronized....but u thought it was nice patronizing someone else for having an opinion about a matter.....well done...

400k to 250k....

Is that not witchcraft

faithfull18:
Please rest, I hope you maintain same perspective when your fellows come here to say the same thing infact they do this all the time. And yes, these kind of guys are in every lady's DM begging for attention. Case closed, no time for back and forths on this matter.

Sigh....show the proof he begged for attention
....men ask women out and they do it nicely... no biggie.... trying to shame him for that or for having an opinion about an unrelated issue is just clout chasing and unnecessary

princewarri1985:
do you know if he has already asked her to bring him over? Please stop jumping in to conclusions!

Una no dey read....This is her statement below.

"But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over"

They are just catching up...they've not even started dating ....she's the one feeling like she doing him a favor because she live in canada...

princewarri1985:
do you know if you are the God has has destined to change his life? if deep down your mind tells you to help him then help and forget about if you both will end up as a couple or not, just do what your mind tells you and if you both ended up having the wedding of the year someday so be it. because there are still some good people with good heart out there but they are few. because you dont know what tomorrow holds

Which life is she changing...is this not for her benefit too...??
Which help are u talking, is he suffering in nig.
The guy is doing well...he will be making sacrifice leaving too to leave nigeria....u people are just making it look as if the guy is one hopeless case at the mercy of the woman....

faithfull18:
we know your type, Mr. Macho on NL and you are in some girl's DM acting all jelly, continue.

So having a personal and objective opinion about this issue means he's forming mr macho........the way some of u women on this forum talk about your DM is just funny....is it a shameful thing for a man to enter you DM again??

... this woman is making it look the guy's life is useless and she's the one that wants to chnage his story...... she said this guy is doing well...so he is also making sacrifice leaving his life to be with her...but she's behaving like the risk is all on her because she's in canada...

byrron:
You are asking faceless stranger's on a faceless platform to advise you on what to do for someone you know very well but is unknown to the stranger's whose advise you seek for?

Your intentions for the man doesn't seem to be for altruistic purposes rather, it comes off like you already have a premeditated plans at the detriment to the man that are best known to you and for those unknown reasons, you are a red flag to the man.

If I'm the man in question, I will respectfully decline your proposal of coming over to Canada with you except if there are clearly stated expectations and end-goals from both parties ab initio.

All the best.

The end goal here is he must not cheat her, must not jilt her even if hes not happy im the relationship because she gave him eternal life helped him move to canada to be with her..

If the guy talks too much in that relationship she will remind him.how he brought jim to canadannnn
.the only way out of that relationship that it wont turn into problems is if she breaks up with him by herslf.

Aguiyimba:
Things women do. Just because you want to help a guy you don carry am come nairaland if na man his left hand will not hear about it.

This thread is funny......
Shes not buying him a car oooo...
Shes not buying him a house ooo....

See her over thinking before doing something they will both enjoy....

...i will always say it women are not stupid...they are the real redpillers....they are way smarter than men...

. if na man..he go don collect loan for work to bring her, over all expense paid.

tunapawizzy:
How do you define "taking advantage of you".

Does he still have feelings for you? I hope he ever had feelings for you.

Do you really desire him or he's the one available and clock is ticking

That you earned more than him in Nigeria. Of what relevance is that information to the story or what u want to achieve.

I just wan understand weytin dey live inside u...

On d surface looks to me like u wnat to use immigration ticket to buy a husband.....it will work if the man is a naturally grateful person and you stop assuming that you are d one helping him, una wan help each other ni, tell yourselves the truth and establish that u both deserve to be grateful to each other, then una go dey alright.

With this her mentality, the guy will be walking on field land mines everyday...

because every fight may lead to her accusing him of being ungrateful she brought him to canada

...if the guy dare breakup even if shes at fault ....he's in trouble.....because to her now..she has done the ultimate sacrifice by bringing him abroad

Cincinnatus:
Assist him to join you.

Women are not stupid like men.....they are the real redpillers

OdefaGirl:
I didn't lie..... And if you can do yourself the favour of reading my first comment, you would notice that I said... "Some of you"

I never accused you of lying...dont get triggered.....i accused you of running into conclusuon based on some comments of front page....btw.. u never used "some" ...u packed nairaland guys...u said guys here were all dragging her in the mud

OdefaGirl:
The comments on the 1st page said it all......

Anyways...u are a woman...jumping into conclusion is your thing.....

A thread tgat will reach not less than 10 pages, but to you page one has said it all....thats why u all cry bashing here...because u conclude on a few comments

PointZerom:
Shut up, who's angry?

Ok oooo...

CraigslistAD:
Wetin happen to the new life you were building?

Cement don finish?

Reality has set in, this one never even hear "hello" from dem whity men for a long time now

Kpekus don dey rust with Canada cold

Age don dey count lol

Independent lady in the mud

U too like vawulence

OdefaGirl:
If it were to be a man that wrote this..... Hell will be let loose and Nairaland guys would still have a way to rub the girl mud.... And analyze on how she would come over and dump the guy.
Now a girl wants to help her guy, you guys still found a way to rub her the mud.

Guys, I don't know what is wrong with some of you here. And the funny part is that you are a totally different person in real life, loving and sweet..... Getting to this place, you will turn to cobra venom.


I blame the girl that wants to seek advice here before doing her friend a favor.

But the comments are different....some said she shouldn't do it that naija men will cheat....
Everybody cant have the same view....

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

Date him from a long distance and travel home to spend time with him for sex if you are afraid of bringing him close to you....

.u said he's doing well...yet somehow,u are also trying to sound like you are doing him a big favor by dating him or bringing him to canada...is bringing him not supposes to be beneficial to you...??

If the tables were turned wont u want him to bring you close to him?? Relationships are risk....if it works out fine...if it doesnt fine... not that because he will be coming to canada on your visa, u dont want to try...

What if he wants to come to canada on his own visa and money....will u date him?? If yes...then u should forget about it in this case and find someone else....cos any issue between u both will always involve the huge favor you did by bringing him abroad..