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NCarthur:
This stuff just happened to me recently, she blocked me from calling her and also from WhatsApp. Now the question is did I do a bad thing by not taking advantage of her?

Lol. Leave her alone na. Why do you want to call her? Let her deal with it by herself.



If a girl tells me no. That’s cool. But she shouldn’t call me to be forming concern. Cos na from there she go dey try mould you enter maga zone. If you say “no” and we’re not old friends, sorry. We’re back to acquaintances. Don’t be familiar.

God no go shame us o.

olanshi:

Deep one there! you must be a very tactical person!

One bottle of your favorite red wine for you!

Thanks brotherly

Papertrails:
I don't wish any guy to enter a girls trap, it's worse than hunger and being broke. Up till today I still talk with my ex and since she went to serve I have visited her twice at her place and as you know "okafors law" always repeats itself anytime am at her place.

Baddest

Papertrails:
Everyone learns either the hard way or the easy way but you get wiser when you learn the hard way cos experience they say is the best teacher.

The best teacher bro. A hard teacher, but the best one.

Sixfeetbelle:
Why do you keep coming back to bills? There's no place she said he was paying her bills. Nobody is insisting the man to pay her bills. It's wrong sef. But the man in the story can't even buy #100 bread when he comes visiting as a welcoming gift. The one he managed to buy, he ate it all by himself. Check it nah

Even you as a visitor to your uncle's house will buy biscuit for your nephews and nieces out of your benevolence, not because their parents can't buy biscuit. But if you've never done sth like that in your life, then you too are stingy.

But evidently she’s not any better. She actually expected him to forget to collect his money after she said she’d refund him. Why does she feel entitled? She should be ashamed.

Ostrogoth:
This right here is the true answer to his question. The guy from his speech, and his assertion of discipline when it comes to ladies, is grossly inexperienced. He even said he's not interested in sex (which is good, cos am a Christian too), while this girl is most probably used to having sex with the ex and would readily agree to a no sex relationship while she keeps getting it from the ex. From any point of view, he (aimuan, the op) can't ever be more than a dependable spare tire, cos she just broke up with the ex and she obviously hasn't got over him. He needs to give her space and let her rediscover herself (might take anytime btw 3-12 months of TOTAL separation-mentally, emotionally and physically-from said ex), then and only then should any self respecting man have a relationship with her.

Thank you boss. I like the word you used. “Self respecting”.

Youngjohnosas:
God bless you sir.

Thanks, you too.

scala101:
Tactical

Boss

Papertrails:
The artist.... I give it to you......your really an artist... The guy is still a learner, though I think he needs to learn something from that thing he's calling a relationship, make the girl use am play draft first........ Anyways what do I even know?, some boys are dumb and foolish @ same time sha.

Thanks boss.

If the guy learns the hard way, I pity the next girl he meets.

WuzzyTech:
Guy you too make sense ojaare

Thanks brotherly.

Aristotle96:
May wisdom never elude you.

Thank you boss.

Sixfeetbelle:
Dont be a hypocrite. There's a difference between a generous man and a man who isn't. Some men can give money to a student or a beggar on the street because that's their nature. It means nothing to them to give out. Even when visiting girls that are just mutual friends, they'll buy something for them, not to mention their own gf.

The man is stingy. If he wasn't, a little giving gesture from him would prove otherwise. No one is asking him to pay her monthly stipend or take her out but once in a while, #70 nairn bread won't hurt.

Airhead.

There is nothing wrong with a woman being responsible for her own bills. Is she a beggar? No. Then let her be responsible.

This babe is stingy, herself and the sad thing is she feels entitled to a man’s money. Where is her dignity? Where is YOUR dignity? Perhaps you mean to tell me that you cannot survive if a man doesn’t pay your bills? Don’t tell that is the case.

Head is not for wig alone. Use the brain inside that head abeg.

This thread.

Ed12:
January to December makes a year.

And not January to January!

Lol. Incorrect especially when the exact day is considered.

Jan 1st to December 31th is one year.

January 1st to December 30th is not a year.

One year is 365 days or 12 complete months. Emphasis on “complete”.

They were raised that way by society and some, by poverty. Although there are a few queens who have dignity and cannot stoop that low. Once you meet them, you can’t settle for leeches anymore.

Franzinni:
it all part of the plan ... I wonder what the world will be in 50 years ... An individual can be asexual like a snail or something see bobrisky floating on wings in Nigeria ... Scintillating the closeted appetite of men in Nigeria that is why they allow him to become popular as a role model to kids who a inclined to be effeminate.. Unnatural I will say ... And utterly distasteful

Utterly disgusting bro. If only they’d do their thing and leave others but no, they attack masculinity and call it toxic because it is different from their twisted fantasies.

Austineva:
. How I wish I can be that stingy but I don't know, anytime I try, it doesn't work on me. I tell u

See, once I hear a girl call a guy stingy, my respect for her drops.

Stingy and broke girls are always quick to call guys stingy. They can’t spend one kobo on their men but they want to collect “allawee”.

On her birthday, she gets a gift. On his own birthday, she still asks him to take her out and spend on her. And these babes see nothing wrong with this kind of behaviour.

Girls should reciprocate. Or are they financially handicapped? If I had not dated queens, I’d think all naija babes were like this.

They show interest in you but do you return the gesture? Were you forming miss world, playing hard to get?

Time no dey. If a guy shows you he’s interested and you like him, stop your silly games and make him realise you actually like him too.

Guys don’t want to assume only to be embarrassed by the girl.

Franzinni:
Men there is a cold war against masculinity.. If you know you know

Thank you.

Masculinity is increasingly depicted as something negative. Male children, these days, are raised by “woke” people to shun their masculinity. They force them to play with dolls and wear dresses and they call it freedom. The world is going to shît.

Drama queen. Instead of her to say yes or no like a normal human being.

See this babe. Are you not a human being like other men who have been paying their girlfriends’ bills since time immemorial?

You too take up the responsibility of this man. Or are you a lesser being?

Nonsense. You no get talk.

This guy has only stepped aside and allowed you to be responsible for your own bills. Why does that scare you? Cover your face in shame.

She’d better be joking.

haryothosyn93:
I don't see sense in it for a lady to bring friend her to a guy house when she knows that she is coming for s3x.

I just gave the bike man the money to return them. I am not desperate like that even when I feel like having it.

You have done well bro. You let her know that you won’t tolerate such nonsense. Next time she won’t play silly games with you. Cos this doesn’t make sense at all.

You paid the bike rider to take them back to wherever they came from.

Bro, you are a hero.

They could be planning to rob you. Be careful. Women are not angels.

This is what happens when you treat naija babe with too much decency and care plus being too faithful. Just look at yourself OP. Just look at.

Like your babe said, she’s not in a relationship with you. So, take the hint. Pack what’s left of your dignity and exit the relationship.

She wants a guy that will make her call all her friends and cry her heart out. She wants the drama of begging a guy to be faithful to her. She wants someone who slaps her regularly and apologises with acrobatic sex. She’s a twisted broken thing.

You deserve better.

A number of factors.

Bad luck with partners.

Long relationship gone sour

Her terrible character

Parents rejecting her suitors based on tribe, religion or divination.

Nature of her job.

Playing politics with the lockdown? That’s disappointing.

Even bigger economies than ours chose to lockdown cos it is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to contain this pandemic.

The government can donate as much relief items as they want. The truth remains that the average Nigerian on the street will try to take more than his share. They will bribe, steal or fight to get that extra share. That is a general problem not the sole fault of the government.

johnmartus:
Ah this man thought its ordinary malaria I guess. Both of you will just die together and infect other neighbors. Although I understand your pain but you just have to calm down.

Nobody has attended to her. Nobody has given her food. NOBODY!

If they continue to treat her that way SHE WILL DIE.

The hospital is probably understaffed. They need more workers.

Hope they all apologised.

Women say we must believe all “victims”. But the true victims are the ones who were actually raped and not every single person who tells a story or makes an allegation.

Society admits the tears of the female as proof. All she needs to do is tell a story with tears in her eyes and her fellow women and some men will rationalise the loopholes in her tale.

Imagine if they never found out the lie. Imagine if it remained your word against hers. Imagine growing up to be suspected by your own family as a sex offender. All because a girl accused you.

Let me paint a picture.

She continues to contact her ex without hiding it from you. You begin to think she’s at the least, honest with you cos she is not concealing this fact. After a while, you get worried at the frequency and nature of their conversations. So you complain about it. She becomes defensive almost immediately. She tells you there’s nothing romantic between them, that they are just friends. She may even imply (or declare outright) that you are insecure. This jab hurts you but “love” compels you to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Little by little, you are conditioned to condone this unusual friendship she shares with her ex. You raise your suspicions and she shuts you down again and again. Then she begins to call you a controlling and intrusive partner. She says you are letting your insecurities drive you.

Meanwhile, she’s having steady sex or going on dates with her ex. But you’ve been browbeaten to accept the lie she feeds you. Until one day she makes a mistake and you catch her red handed and then she gets angry or teary eyed and she walks away from the relationship, claiming that he seduced her in her moment of weakness or some other bullshît like that.

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Bro, you are leading yourself to this bus stop. It is the worst feeling, when your gut tells you something and you fold your arms and watch it metamorphose into a nightmare. Make it a binary solution. She either limits her contact with her ex drastically or you breakup. If you condone nonsense she will take advantage and ruin you.

Officialgarri:
Na dis woman write Brighter grammar?

It was as though my mum used that book as a punishment for me when I was little.

If I talked too much, danced too much, ate too much, played too much...... She would tell me to go bring my brighter grammar or queen's primer

Even after reading the book, my mum would ask me to start from the first page again.

Then I'll start ;
A cat
A fat cat
A fat cat sat on a mat

Queen Primer was the real deal.

This is really bad of the governor and quite divisive.

Lagos is the hot zone for Covid19 in Nigeria. Willie should not downplay the importance of the funds.