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Bro she is not satisfied with the level of your finances and is ready to jump ship when the opportunity comes. She has justified herself and is biding her time. When your period of grace elapses and you haven’t “set things right” in her own eyes, she will leave you.

Now I have a question for you. Will you double your hustle and enlarge your finances because of a mere girlfriend or because of yourself?

Some people would argue that she’s being real with you. Fine. Be real with yourself. Is that the kind of motivation you need?

That people who are quick to believe conspiracy theories are usually slow to accept the truth.

Some people actually think Covid-19 is a hoax.

If I had been planning to propose to her too, I’d say yes without any reservation and I’d defend her if any friend or family member says shît.

However, if I’d been managing her and not looking forward to spending even just one month quarantined with her, I’d say no. If it were a public proposal, I could say yes then tell her to take it slow in private.

But most women are so egoistic they won’t risk it. They’d rather wait 10 years for a proposal that won’t come.

Sounds more like a frustrated guy than a toxic one. Did you give him any reason to doubt you?

Ebenezerk2:
6 bedrooms for 3 millions? Was it made with bamboo?

It was probably dilapidated or something. cos how would valuers de-rep a house to that level?

BestAccessories:
I don't get into a battle with a pig because a pig mission is to drag you into a mud which is its home.

Ooin.

You're doing well

Then you go on to grunt like a pig.

Oh well. Next time don’t jump into conclusions you might just land on your face.

Op,

If you’re self-isolating then I can only imagine the hurt. The pain will linger for a while. Keep thinking positive thoughts. Protect your mental health fiercely. Don’t embarrass yourself by calling her. If you don’t trust yourself to stay away, kindly delete her number and unfollow her everywhere. Delete her pictures too. Don’t fall for the temptation of calling her.

BestAccessories:
Congratulations to you and HER.

If after 4 years, there is still no clear direction, a change of route is highly recommended and advisable.

Congratulations once again to her and you.

You don’t know when they met. Could have been 100L.

But your myopia must rear its ugly head. You can’t think beyond your bias.

I think it is safe to assume that no woman wants to be married to a man who is not assertive. Even these so-called feminists won’t marry such a man. They want equality but they prefer to wrest it from your hands rather than have it on a platter.

You don’t need to change into an asshöle. Just be more assertive. Apologise only when you’re wrong. And no long apologies. Just a sorry with an occasional gift. If she doesn’t apologise when she’s wrong, tell her immediately that she’s childish. Don’t accept unruly behaviour. Provide leadership in the relationship right from the start.

Look at this example. In an organisation, if a woman is asked to choose her husband, she is more likely to choose her boss over a guy on the same level with her. Even feminists. They enjoy a man who gives them cause to fight for a seat at the table than a guy who welcomes them to the high table.

A man who lets women walk all over him won’t win the loyalty of even feminists.

I’ve said it here once. Women love bosses.

cyprus000:
This reminds me when I was in boarding school. there's one guy we call "slow motion" because of his anemic nature, but this dude is trouble and a living defiance of his weak nature and I happen to get into an altercation with him. So, I beat him to a pulp cos I can not tolerate impertinence from a person I advance his age and also my junior by the dictate of school hierarchy. But something interesting happened subsequent to that: This dude exhibited the greatest willpower I've ever seen in a human, taking that I've a relatively disconcerting stature at 6.5 ft tall. I mean, I'm practically a giant in comparison, but this guy braved the odds by attacking me with stone and running away in every giving opportunity, despite the fact that I can easily chew him and spite him out for my own amusement, or better still; lay ambush for him and take him to my hostel(senior hostel) and let my ever willing mates devour him for picnic. But I let him continue, though dealing with him once in a while just to see how long he would go, and I tell you, he became a menace to a point I had to call a truce and we became friends. because I like his gut and learnt something critical in life: that a chain is as strong as it weakest link; body and build is as strong as the mind of the owner, that's why lion can make prey of an elephant, not because he can muscle it out with an elephant but because in his mind he believe he can defeat an elephant and prey on him.

This guy that got mauled by this woman is a victim of his own mind. he cowered before the fight even started, and I tell you; if any person man or woman cross the line and stab me putting my life at risk, I'm going to get a stainless and dump a truck load of copper diet on his/her leg. that's if I'm magnanimous not to go for the head.

Slow motion

From your story, the guy na confam baba werey. If you didn’t call that truce you may have had to do serious damage to him that could cause serious problems for you.

Women are like that. They can provoke you to immense anger then you’d end up blaming yourself. Especially those chicken-bone women who think their femininity is a shield they can hide behind while assaulting a man.

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ProfDview1:
Those word may hurt her if I tell her... Apart from. Her BF that they stopped dating last December, I don't think she had sex with anyone until we met this March... And she went home then..


I can't keep a child now. I can't for now...

Maybe abort it to avoid stories... Mehn, I can bring a child now that I am not okay.. I am not okay for now at all and I am not ready

Hurt her? Lol. Women will hurt you for the smallest stupidest reasons. If she is hurt by your decision to determine the paternity of this child then so be it.

Also, let the woman decide if she wants an abortion or not. It’s her body and she bears the risk of death or complications. However, start gathering money for the test. No matter the urge, don’t sleep with her for the next 9 months, that’s if she decides to keep the baby.

Don’t let her feelings drive you to shoot yourself in the foot. Tell her you will conduct the test if she keeps the baby. If I were you, I’d insist on keeping the baby.

Also, do not agree to marry her before receiving a positive paternity result. This world is full of scheming women. They’d appeal to your pride as a man to get what they want. Be circumspect when dealing with women.

ProfDview1:
Yes I didn't reuse any condom.. I used fresh condoms all tru... Even the one I wore and did use, I disposed it and didn't re use it.. I am always been careful with condoms...


BTW, don't wana hurt her with words even though I was sure That CD didn't leaked...

That’s most probably not your baby. But tell her to keep the child if she wants but let her know you’d conduct a paternity test right after delivery.

If you carefully used a fresh condom for every round, that pregnancy is most likely not yours.

Tell her to go and meet the father and stop disturbing you.

Sexytincoll:
It seems you are oblivious of the fact that guys are quick to bash ladies here over harmless comments.I was unnecessary provoked for no tangible reasons.Am I seeking attention?i can't really say. Stay safe

You opened this thread to massage your ego and find comrades and fans.

From your opening post it is obvious you would find ways to reveal needless information to garner praise from people. Your strategy backfired and you are not pleased. Next time keep your virginity out of discussions unless it is related to the topic.

This is attention-seeking on a beautiful level.

That crap that you so-called “newbies” write, about being an observer on Nairaland for a while, is all bullshît. We don’t need that information.

Open your thread and go straight to the point.

Congratulations on your First Class Honours. It’s not beans. It’s a product of hard work and intelligence. Wish you a successful career.


True. Being a virgin is difficult these days. Sex is advertised every moment. No respite.

I hope your own version of virginity is legit. Not like some girls who engage in oral and fore play then still come here to claim virginity because they haven’t been penetrated. Those ones don’t know that they are even as experienced as oloshos.

Your choice to remain a virgin should not be ridiculed unless you ridicule those who are no longer virgins. If you mock them in self righteous judgment, you deserve to be bashed.

Some of us cannot stand virgins. We prefer not to deflower anyone’s daughter and then endure her possessiveness. Also, there’s this conceit some virgins express unwittingly. They think their status is prize enough for the man, that they can have a nasty attitude and get away with it, cos they are virgins. That puts people off too. You won’t be bashed unless you ask for it. Also, kindly keep your virginity status to yourself instead of tucking into every mundane discourse.

You joined Nairaland at a time when I used to think it was a dull forum. Someone convinced me otherwise a couple of years later. The beauty of it all is the relative anonymity.

There are A-list celebs here. Up and coming comedians, frustrated wives, tired husbands, CEO’s of IT firms. Employees insult their employers here without knowing it. It’s a smokescreen until you reveal some personal information that is unique to you then someone would ferret out your details and your cover is blown.

Seen this before. She actually broke the bottle he drank from and stabbed him with the shard. That’s why he bled so much.

Later she’d want to sleep in the same house with him.

Most times, women take things too far. It appears they don’t know when to halt the onslaught, whether it is verbal or emotional abuse. If you’re displeased that your husband is cheating, leave the marriage. It’s that simple.

Who knows? She probably married one of those shortsighted individuals who say “never hit a woman, no matter what”. No matter what! Funny. Now the man knows the importance of self defence. An abusive wife is dangerous. She gets bolder after every episode. One day, the madness will drive her to stab him in his sleep.

Avoid such women. If you married one, sorry. However the first time she ever hits you, make sure she knows any such attempt will always end in tears for her. Better still divorce her. She may have other qualities that are good but this one is a deal breaker.

You should not be stuck with an abusive wife. She’s your ticket to either prison or hades.

boninho:
Good guys don't finish last.....they don't even start the race

I guess it’s really that bad sometimes

franchasng:
100% true!!



Ladies can deny but once they log out they face the reality, some are currently lying in the arms of that stupid bad guy treating them like thrash, but to her, he will change

You know them well!

He will change. I laugh. They’d always choose a guy who makes them suffer the impossible attempt of changing him.

bezimo:
Word

Thanks boss

Queenserah26:
Deep and insightful piece. Thing is, i have never really taken time to observe the sequence. All in all, I feel it just happens.

Thank you. I agree. Sometimes we choose our paths subconsciously.

Queenserah26:
This left me speechlesa

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

nonstan:
Thank You for this, You have no idea what this word means to me and how I will use it. Gracias

Wow. I’m glad it meant something to you. Cheers man.

searchng4love:
Fixed

Lol. You’re wrong. That’s the new monicker.

She’d end up like Jewessgratitudd, skittering through Nairaland, searching for validation for every mundane event.

Jewessgratitudd come and tell us.

First of all QuinModah, I love the way you stylized your username. I think it’s really cool.

Now, I’d advise you to make yourself available/visible to the young man. Don’t confuse him about your attraction to him. If you’re bold enough to embrace equality, tell him you like him. Be a man and express yourself. Or be a woman and hope he will look your way and brace yourself for the tears if he doesn’t play along.

First of all, God will punish her for even hoping that an innocent man would automatically assume responsibility for her 3 children.

Dating a single mother is always tricky business. They expect instant acceptance and love for their kids. That’s unreasonable. You should give the guy time to adjust to the reality of being a father to a kid who would always live outside the bubble of your leadership. Why? Cos such women are quick to guilt trip you when you feel you need to discipline the child.

If you want to be in the life of a single mother, prepare yourself to be responsible only for the upkeep and not the admonition and disciplining of her kid(s).

Child misbehaves and you go on and have a few words with him then the mother gets defensive and says “is it because he’s not your son?” That shît is annoying AF.

Allow?

That word offends these over sensitive feminists.

Anyway, she’s free to have a gay friend as long as I never meet shim, and as long as my relationship is not adversely affected by shim.

Why on Earth would a married woman not reject the attentions and gifts of another man?

Chase him away. Don’t tempt yourself.