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scofield114:
DONT MIND MY GRAMMAR. i have never think that females wickedness has reached that level until what happened to me there is one girl i dont know what to call her my friend or my gf we hv been together for atleast 3months i used to go to her place time to time and i also give her money occasionally but i have never had sex with her all we do is some romancing like kissing nd touching she gave me Mouth Gig once. so it continue like this we dont hv sex and we have never talk about love i can say we are just friends but she doesnt know that i know she has guys that she is having affair with (sex) among those guys one is my friend but i never told her that i know what shes been doing, on 13february around 5pm she called me asking me to give her 10k she will do something with it i asked what is it that she will do with 10k she said i dont need to know i hv to just give her if i want to nd stop asking questions i felt angry nd i was Hot that day so i told her did u think i dont know what you hv been doing with other guys? nd i proceed saying that i will not give her any money again unless she agree to give me sex like she does with other guys she started insulting me nd saying that im calling her a prostitute i insulted her back and end the call. on 17 february she called me i pick the call she started apologising saying she is very sorry she was angry that time nd so so nd i said no problem its fine i forgive u i hope it wont happen again she said it will not nd she asked me to come over nd i said no prblm i will come later in the night i went to her place i entered her room i hv not even spend 20mins inside the room then i heard a bang on the door nd two police men entered and told me im under arrest nd i asked for what nd they told you will know when we get there me proceed to police statiin me, the girl and police men when we get there other police men started shouting at me so this is the guy that want to rape they brough a paper nd pen handed it to me saying that i should write that i called ****my gf nd said i will kidnap and rape her i said when did i said such a thing they brought a phone and show me a test message reading as YOU WILL KNOW WHO YOU INSULT I WILL SHOW THAT IM A MAN I WILL GET ND TEAR UR PU*** WITH MY D**** THEN U WILL NOT INSULT ANY MAN AGAIN. i told them i dont know anything about this message nd im not the one that send it they collect my phone nd called the number which the was sent from nd its switch off they asked her are u sure he is the one who send u this message she said yes she knows the number its one of my numbers that i call her with she even saved the number with my name. they asked me if its my number i said no they told her they cant accuse me of what she said since there is not strong evidence of she said i did then she told them its not only the message that i sent saying i will rape her i even told her on the phone that i will rape her they asked for call recording nd she said she didnt record it but her friend was there when i said it they asked to call her friend to come to the station nd she said her friend travelled but she will come back tomorrow thats how they lock me inside a cell for 24hrs waiting for her friend to come back the police man handling the case at that time is a simp of the highest order he denied me access to my phone saying that its an evidence if he give me i will delete something so i cant call anyone to come for my bail the next day her friend didnt come to the station untill around 7pm they come nd i was brought out from the cell they asked her if she did hear when i said i will rape her friend she said yes she heard they asked her when did that happen she said 2days ago while her friend has already said i said it on 13feb when we were arguing that what saved me they dint planned it well nd thank god the dpo wasnt a simp i was realeased as their is no any evidence agains me the dpo told me to sue them for trying to spoilt my name nd i said no let them go

rookidmart:
Well there are different ways to get cryptocurrencies, either you "make" them by mining, or you buy them from exchanges.

Mining works by using computing power to secure POW cryptocurrency blockchains by ordering and validating transactions.
Miners are rewarded for their work by being paid in the coin they're securing.
There are hundreds of cryptocurrencies and some are mineable, while others are not.
Some are easy to mine with a CPU, others require GPUs, while some, like Bitcoin, are not profitable unless with ASICS.
You can go to

coinwarz.com

to see the ranks of different coins based on profitability.
Please stay away from "cloud mining" they are all Ponzi schemes or scams on people that don't know how mining works.
If you know how mining works then you'll know it's not profitable for you renting the hashpower, or them actually leasing the hashpower.


You can also earn them by working and getting paid in crypto, there are sites on the internet that pay in crypto eg Bitjob.


If you want to get coins/tokens for free there are faucets and airdrops/bounties.

Faucets require you to perform tasks like solving CAPTCHA or watch ads for miniscule amount of bitcoin, like 1000 Satoshi's or less every 10 minutes (a Satoshi is the smallest unit of bitcoin, 1 bitcoin = 100,000,000 Satoshi's)
To get 60,000 Satoshi's ($6 or so),you'll have to solve 600 captchas. So you'll need to solve captchas for 60 hours straight (~2 and a half days) to get $6 worth of bitcoin.
So you can see that it's not worth the stress.

Airdrops/Bounties:
Airdrops are a way for developers to distribute their coins to as much people as possible.
There are different ways you can apply, usually it involves you filling a Google form online with your email address, wallet address, or bitcointalk username.
Some require you to promote them on social media (Facebook, Twitter, etc) for which you'll earn their tokens/coins in return.
You can sell the coins received on exchanges.
Depending on the success of the project and the volatility in the market you can make as little as a few cents to $150 or more by selling the tokens you got for free.

Tripitaka:
"I told him to"
"I want him to"
"I warned him not to"
"I advised him to"
"He wouldn't listen to me" and all the other stuffs.

It appears to me that you are foisting your opinion, choices and wishes on your partner. You want him to live his life your way, pursue his dreams following your chart and run his race with you as guide. Perhaps you want to be the Kapellmeister while you lead the orchestra that is his life.

If he were to follow your advise and it backfires or doesnt yield the expected fruit, who would take responsibility? There is something some of us do not acknowledge which is that not everyone wants to be wealthy, some people just want to be successful at what they do, some people just want to lead a simple and fulfilled life.

I also find your intentions questionable. Do you have all those "nice thoughts" for him because you love and wish him well, or because you want him wealthy enough to marry you next year and give you "the life"? Its a shame that you say you're not proud of someone ou claim to love and painting him as some loser.

There comes a time in the life of a man when he wants to do things his own way, steer his own ship, make his own mistakes and celebrate his own little victories.

I would have asked you to talk to him, but I believe you guys have talked about this over and over. So, the choice is yours to walk or stay

Thanks to all commentors.
Edit: i want to use this moment to Thank the ladies, this thread of mine has made me to realize the future of Africa is in the hands of ladies, men are total disgrace, while some are quite inspiring and very helpful, the percentage of men spewing rubbish is quite very high, about 90% while that of female is just 2%. Thank you God for not making me a man.

But please, i want to know the mod that took this to front page?
Una don turn Nairaland to a joke wallahi

Thanks to all commentors, you really made my day and I laughed so hard, especially those that think I have low self esteem and I'm not near intelligence.

It seems that some males on NL are already pained and frustrated about their broke assess and was already ready to any bash girl.

For those that took their time to read all the stories, I wanna say thank you, it means we are bored together as if not lockdown, you no fit see me for NL they ask yeye questions and be reading comedians comments.

For the unbelievers, the story is true,though with some little tweaks, because I don't know if my boyfriend siblings&friends are on NL, so I gave it some tweaks, though I can't vouche for other stories here on NL if they are true or false.

For those that sent me mails, sorry, I don't reply Nairaland emails.
For those that wants to date,lol, I can't date people with account on NL, thats one reason I love my BF, he doesn't fancy NL at all, he thinks its for jobless people or people with so much money that they now have time at their disposal to waste or people severely bored. Yes, I know some people are making money with the help of NL, especially in the business section, bitcoin, cryptocurrency,PayPal, forex trade threads.
And the GRE,IELTS section is also very good, but I still can't date a NL active member especially those active on Romance section.

Final Conclusion, I can never leave my boyfriend, I don't even know why I asked such question

This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

onegentleguy:
SIR CURRENTLY U ARE WARMLY WELCOME !!
I'LL BEGIN BY SAYING THIS;
TO THOSE WHO HOLD BTC AND BCH ESPECIALLY BTC, PLS HODL (HOLD). -I REPEAT, HOLD, AND EVEN IF U WISH TO TRADE IT, EARMARK A SMALLER PORTION OF UR TOTAL HOLDING FOR TRADING (possibly 25%) AND HOLD UR BALANCE OF 75% IN A RELIABLE WALLET (unless of course u had invested ur BTC and allowing it grow).
THERE ARE LOTS OF BENEFITS ACCRUED TO HOLDING AND STAYING PUT INCLUDING THE PLENTY OF 'FORKING' BENEFITS (...oh sorry I actually meant the benefit from the many btc forks).
THIS DECEMBER ALONE WILL LIKELY SEE OVER 4 DIFFERENT FORKS OF BTC. ...AND YES THESE FORKS WILL SURELY BENEFIT BTC HOLDERS AS AT THE TIME.
NEED I REMIND U THAT THE JUST CONCLUDED BTC DIAMOND FORK WAS AT A RATIO OF 1 FOR 10.
I ALSO BELIEVE THAT 2018 SHALL BE THE YEAR OF FORKS AND THE GAME CHANGER WITHIN THE CRYPTO WORLD.

THE TRUTH IS, BITCOIN IS AN AMAZINGLY UNSTOPABLE TECHNOLOGY HIGHLY CAPABLE OF SWEEPING EVERYTHING IN ITS WAY.
...THIS DIGITAL MONEY WHICH IS BOTH A MEANS OF EXCHANGE AND A HUGE STORE OF VALUE 'WILL GO PLACES'.
YES IT WILL FLUCTUATE IN PRICE LIKE EVERY OTHER ASSET WHICH CAN BE INFLUENCED BY THE FORCES OF DEMAND AND SUPPLY, BUT ITS LONG TERM PROSPECT IS UNDOUBTLY SOLID.

I BELIEVE THE FUTURE IS INDEED BRIGHT.

Lanrelagboi:
Governor of Lagos State, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu yesterday commissioned the Lagos-Ogun State Boundary Network of roads with bridge (Phase II) Old Otta Bridge, Suberu Oje, Adekoya & Makinde Street.

The 2nd phase of the Lagos-Ogun Boundary network of roads involves the construction 4 roads with a bridge to improve connectivity with neighbouring Ogun State while providing multiple travel options within the Local Government.

The network of roads with a total length of 6,264m and a 120m bridge was started by the last administration and in line with Mr Governors promise not to abandon any project, was completed to further show government determination to adopt infrastructural development.

The dual carriage way road has Walkway on both sides, culverts, Lay by, Street lights, service ducts, lane markings, outfall drains etc

The Benefits of this project includes;
- Alternative route to Ogun State
- Improved Traffic Flow
- Reduced Traffic congestion
- Enhanced Security and safety

Governor Sanwo-Olu appeals to the Community Leaders of the area to take charge of the road infrastructure, and make sure it is protected to serve the community for good and for a very long time.

#ForAGreaterLagos

We are pleased with the news of the completion of rail connection to Lagos Port Complex, Apapa. The Authority is committed to intermodalism for efficient cargo evacuation. https://t.co/dnE8nz4ua0 pic.twitter.com/6mCsBMNYrg

— Nigerian Ports (@nigerianports) February 1, 2021

lalasticlala:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/02/fg-plans-tolling-on-12-highways/

bukatyne:
@bold:

Men are very capable of loving and emoting deeper than women. You would catch a glimpse when you watch a football match. Especially knockout stages. The joy, passion, pain, sorrow, anger etc. are all emotions.

I think because women are naturally care givers, we think we are more 'emotional'. A lady can dislike a toaster and still prepare a buffet when he is coming or arrange his room. Just how a man can be thinking of only sex with a woman or not even like her at all and still provide or give gifts.

These are just biological traits that mean nothing.

I think when a man begins to give care, invest in your progress and emotions in a non-sexual way, puts pleasing you (within reason) above his ego and see you beyond a care-giver etc.

or a woman begins to believe in you, loyal, provide, see you beyond a provider then we can start to talk about love.

pansophist:
The op was referring to the comment I made here

https://www.nairaland.com/6219174/which-better-falling-love-growing#95534164

And your submission further proves that you understand how men and women think concerning love.

I'm not sure about women, but men can marry a woman they do not love if she is good. His decision to marry her is not emotional base, but rational. You see everytime where a man will ignore all the hot-headed attracted females he messes around with, to go and settle down with a woman he deems good regardless of her attractiveness.

Men understands that marriage is an institution of responsibility, and will decide to love a woman that makes the love (responsibility and sacrifice) worths it. If you need to have a good source of income, a home, and pay the bride price, you'll decide to love the right person, not base on feelings that fluctuates.

Women do not need to have a big house, fat salary and think of finding a good husband that they will cater for, they want a good man that they will submit to, and he qualifies if he will be complimentary, can treat her nice and makes her feel special. And for a man to make a woman feels special, he must decide to love her, after she qualifies as a woman that worth the ring. So yes, men love, and women fall in love.

lalasticlala:
https://lifestyle.thecable.ng/oscar-onyema-nse-ceo-finally-marries-at-52/

Sailor1:
I see this as a waste of time but CBN. Western countries and even China once tried it and all finally succumbed. Now they've moved from putting a ban to making sure folks pay tax on profits made.
The EU and China are also working on their officially floated crypt0 coins.

Money just like water will always find its level. If the CBN does not know that yet, this move will prove it to them.
When they introduced policies that made sure government officials (more so CBN officials) roundtripped the dollar and devalued the naira, when they give millions of scarce foreign exchange at a discount for pilgrimage and when the president demarkets Nigeria they did not know all that will devalue the Naira

That said, it is a shame that though crypto in Nigeria is still at its infancy, it has surpassed our local stock market. Money will always find its level. How will our stock market thrive when it is full of corruption and insider trading. Most folks who bought Nigerian stocks in 2007 boom are yet to recover their base capital over 13 years after without even adding the effect of devaluation. Meanwhile, even if you bought bitc0in at its peak of 20k USD in 2017, today, you are 100% in profit. That is just in USD. In naira, you are over 200% in profit when you factor devaluation of the naira.

Money will always find its way. Crypt0 stable coins pegged to the dollar helped alot of folks escape the effect of incessant naira devaluation.

Folks interested should join the crypt0 discussion on its official Nairaland thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6318352/crypto-currency-investors-thread/96#down

magicminister:
You have to be really dense to not know this is their response to the end sars protest.


November last year, CBN banned all direct transfers to Nigerian bank accounts from outside the country. You can recieve money but not more than $5000 and not directly to your bank account, you’d need to go to the bank, provide ID and recieve in Cash.

Now, CBN banner crypto. Remember during the protest, after bank transfers were banned from sites like flutter wave, the people switched to crypto! Now the crypto is gone, people died and the protest is looking like it was for nothing!

Emary:
That option is blocked on Luno, Binance and other platforms. Your best option is P2P.

lalasticlala:
https://mobile.twitter.com
/StearsBusiness/status/1357753704783478785

Omihanifa:
https://punchng.com/student-in-viral-sex-video-justifies-action-lautech-denies-girl/

2mercy:
• More Nigerians sign-up on trading platforms

• Central banking outliving lifespan, says economist

• Unmatched earnings driving the popularity of investment



https://m.guardian.ng/news/crypto-restriction-opens-nigeria-to-fresh-foreign-scramble/

ayowoleoa:
Good question OP.

Nigeria is already Africa’s largest cryptocurrency market and a good number of Nigerians use digital assets like Bitcoin,Tron,Ethereum and USDT to make payments. However, some Nigerians are still in the dark as regard what Bitcoin is and how they can buy,sell or transfer Bitcoin from one party to another.

To your question, one of the ways you can make your donation towards the movement is by converting your Fiat/Naira to Bitcoin. I understand there are different BTC sellers even here on nairaland, however I prefer to buy from a reputable exchange to avoid the issue of scam etc.

One of the trusted exchanges I have been using is Quidax Exchange.

[url]Quidax.com[/url] has a great user interface which is easy to navigate. You can buy bitcoin, Tron, Ethereum using your naira debit card and direct bank transfer. Best of all they have instant withdrawals as well as weekend deposits and cash out.

Orchid45:
I read somewhere that the bitx wallet now luno? allows one convert bitcoin to Naira and withdraw directly to one's bank account.

I proceeded to Playstore to download the app, signed up and decided to test the withdraw feature to get a hang of it. I was told I needed to verify my identity, I completed the first phase which is phone number verification but the second phase sent me flying out of the site. My BVN was requested

My question is how safe is it, has anyone here done it, what was the outcome?

kryptochats:
1. Luno..com

Luno is a Bitcoin exchange with a presence in South Africa, Singapore, Nigeria, Malaysia and Indonesia. It offers 0% fees for market makers, meaning you can avoid fees if you place a buy order then wait for a seller to take it.

Luno also offers an Instant Buy feature.

PROS

- One of the most trusted Bitcoin exchanges in Nigeria
- Free deposits and low withdrawal fees
- Low fees; 0% for market makers and only 0% - 1% for market takers (depending on fiat currency)
- High to infinite limits for exchange, depending on verification level


CONS

- Only supports Bitcoin and Ethereum



2. Instantcoins..ng

Instantcoins is a fully automated bitcoin exchange based in lagos Nigeria, you can buy and sell automatically and payments are made instantly. It offers 0% fees for all trades and partners with Paxful to make trading directly from your Paxful wallet instant. It also exchanges perfect money and Ethereum and they are all completed instantly via automated means.

PROS

- One of the most liked and trusted due to its automation and instant funding
- 0% trading fees, free deposits and free withdrawals
- extremely fast when selling bitcoin, bank account is credited instantly
- Infinite limit if KYC verified!

CONS
- Identity verification offers less privacy than other purchase methods in Nigeria, like LocalBitcoins


3. Localbitcoins..com


LocalBitcoins is an escrow service which also helps to match bitcoin buyers and sellers. The most common method of payment for purchase is cash deposit. However, users may advertise trades for whichever payment method they prefer.

Buying bitcoins via an in-person meeting, secured and facilitated by LocalBitcoins, may be one of the fastest and most private ways to buy bitcoins in any country.

PROS

- Can be private, fast and easy
- In-person trades require no personal information
- Purchases of bitcoin can be made quickly via cash deposit


CONS

- Beware of scams; always follow the rules!
- Harder to buy large amounts of bitcoins compared to large exchanges
- Slightly to significantly higher prices than regular exchanges; premium for higher privacy


4. Nairaex..com

NairaEx is the largest Bitcoin exchange in Nigeria. Its customers can purchase bitcoins with Perfect Money, bank transfer or with cash via bank deposit.

PROS

- Long-running Nigerian exchange
- Several payment methods


CONS

- Identity verification offers less privacy than other purchase methods in Nigeria, like LocalBitcoins
- slow customer support response

5. Paxful..com

Paxful is an online escrow service which also helps to match bitcoin buyers and sellers. The most common method of payment for purchase is gift cards, However, users may advertise trades for whichever payment method they prefer.

Buying bitcoins via an in-person meeting, secured and facilitated by Paxful, may be one of the fastest and most private ways to buy bitcoins in any country.

PROS

- Can be private, fast and easy
- In-person trades require no personal information
- Purchases of bitcoin can be made quickly via cash deposit

CONS

- Very very slow customer care support, it may take a month to get a dispute resolved
- Beware of scams; always follow the rules!
- Harder to buy large amounts of bitcoins compared to large exchanges
- Slightly to significantly higher prices than regular exchanges; premium for higher privacy

Danhoys:
I thought I knew what dirtiness was until my cousin's sister started living with us. We gave her a room, a roof over her head until she finds her bearing.

She's an orphan, almost going to 28 years, and sells food on Sundays for cash.

But, looking at her, she's the replica of the word 'unappealing.'

Her hair is always shabby, dirty, and she never attempt to even braid it to keep it in order. Black is beautiful, but hers comes in brown patches and acne.

She doesn't even care.

We have a water closet, and she's ready to keep popping without an attempt to flush. The last time I traveled and left the home for a week, the toilet was beyond what I could comprehend.

To the point I had to do renovation, repainted the wall, and had to hire a cleaner to help wash the toilet thoroughly.

I couldn't risk catching a disease doing it myself. That was how bad it was.

After doing all these, she stopped using the toilet, but would prefer to pop in the compound with a black nylon at night.

Sometimes, she even forget to throw them away. I had woke up very early in the morning. Saw her bucket and wanted to use it, what I saw changed my day.

I saw her feces, and since then I vowed never to touched a bucket that is isn't mine.

Aside from her protruding stomach which she does little to hide, the wrapper she wears every evening have never seen water in months.

Women are supposed to be conscious of their unclothedness, but not this cousin of mine.

She can avoid all the bathrooms, and choose to bathe outside in the open at night.

Like, around 8 to 9 pm when everyone is still very much awake.

Sometimes children will bump in on her unintentionally, and the kid will run away traumatized by what he or she have seen.

I dare not go into details to recount how she prepares the food she sales, and how dirty her coolers and kitchen utensils can swim with maggots for 6 days before she finally washes them on Saturday and prepares food on Sunday for her esteemed customers.

She's not beautiful facially, nor wear makeup or earrings since it's against her belief.

Doesn't wear clothes that suit her. If she dresses like an mbeke, that wouldn't be a problem. I just don't understand her dressing at all, coupled with her dirty look.

When it comes to religion, hers is the worse, jumping from one church to the other. And worse, we hardly sleepy at midnight.

She is always in battle with demons, with her speaking of tongues that don't just sound ridiculous, but deafening and irritating.

She's just 28, and I doubt if any man has ever stopped her on the road, and I still suspect she have never laid with a man before.

She's not mentally unstable if that is what most of you might think.

She's lively, knows how to joke and hold conversations like we all do. But when it comes to her body, grooming, overall cleaningness, she's zero.

There are grades of dirtiness, but when it comes to a stage where someone now dines and wines with feces, then there is a problem somewhere.

She's shapeless and doesn't want to do anything about it despite my numerous advise. She eats junk, like...

She runs to the backyard, gets some vegetables and fry it up with some concoctions and food is ready.

I know all their foods, and the things she cooks is nothing less than a concoction. I've eat her food once and my stomach testified.

A thoroughly analysis of her personality fascinates me to some extent. Is this her personality? Something that is genetically engineered into her that she has no control over?

Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

iLegendd:
So, for anyone interested in crypto, there are lots of free tutorials on YouTube. The funny thing is: it's not even hard. I used to think crypto trading is hard. Nah!

The websites the trades happen may seem complex, but in reality, everything is easy as long as you understand the basics. Foundation is key. Understand Doji, trend, and a few other things and that's all. They're all free on Google or YouTube.

There are lots of great altcoins from Aave, Dot, 1Inch, Ada, etc. that can change your life. Trade in them and move the money to BTC or Eth. Don't stay poor for too long — it affects the brain.

Oh, I would've loved to reveal how to move your Naira to PayPal with your MasterCard and from PayPal to Crypto, but the last time I did, I got banned by Nairaland bot for 24 hours. So, I'd rather keep quiet and let everyone figure things out themselves.

That's all and stay blessed, guys and please, move 90% of your money from bank to crypto.

Gaspardd:
This applies demographically to Nigerians. Its better you saw you eyes off or easier to pass tru the eye of a needle than to survive being in a relationship with present naija girls.
If you re a strugling guy and you re aspiring to progress very fast, its best you stay away from their drama and focus ur energy on sth productive.
But if you re an idiot like me who falls in love easily and a nice guy...better make sure the girl is not under 30yo.
Under 30 girls re just fùckin kids with no focus yet. They only masturbate to bbn, chioma and soapy dance bullshits.

30yo and above ladies have been tru shìts hence their larger perspective about life which makes them naturally humble hence they exude this calm urbane nature.
They re loyal, emotionally stable not volitile like d under 30 girls. Plus their sense of independence isnt sth to contend with. They re just d best.

For me i think i used to have mummy issues, so my relationship with them is kinda therapeutic and it nourishes me.
The other day, this dude was hookin me up with a cute 23yrs old, she was feelin the nigga, we planned a date but i bailed out cus it didnt take much thought for me to realize that she has nothing to offer me.

I kno some virgins will start whining and stuff but yea thats cuz u re a virgin.

Powerfly:
Fake life, lies and being overly materialistic and ever- demanding but never
willing to give made me give up on her, but she was a badass in
bed. after sex, we can't even hold a decent, intelligent
conversation, aside the latest hair-do, sneakers, make-up and parties. I just realised that we weren't
compatible on any
level.

LolaO:
They were plenty. I was so foolish, up till 3 months to my wedding, when I finally saw it.

1. Too ‘busy’ to show up at important events in my life - graduation, family dinners etc.
2. Delay in committing
3. No communication with me when he is upset or sad. Sometimes as long as 6 months-1 year
4. No visits all through the year until December (long-distance relationship, I’m in Lagos, he works in the East)

He came back suddenly after one of his long breaks and proposed and I was foolish to accept.
We had the introduction immediately early in the year but wedding was fixed for November. He wanted the wedding asap as well but my dad refused.

His lies finally came to light 2 months to the wedding, sometimes in October and it all made sense why those red flags were there.
He has someone else in Asaba and wanted to marry me to settle debts

I called off the wedding and I’m glad I did.

MagnumXL:
Hindsight they say is 20/20.

Whenever we have a breakup especially one where we are left hurt and broken, we sometimes look back and try to see where we missed a sign that could have told us that this was coming.

And there are usually signs and more often than we'd like to admit, we see them but we ignore them. When we look back at relationship with the rose-colored lenses off, we start seeing the signs that we should have bailed.

So what are the signs that you saw in your previous relationship that should have told you that this thing cannot last again and will soon end.

I'll go first.

I once dated this girl that slept with her ex few days before travelling down to see me.
How should I have known she was problematic?

She cut the call on me whenever we were having a disagreement over the phone.

Why is this a bad sign?

Any girl that cuts the call on you doesn't have respect for you.
She is naturally disrespectful.

She is also not emotionally intelligent. There are ways to say that you cannot continue with the conversation anymore. There are ways to say that you need a breather. A girl that cuts the call on you is not emotionally matured and that immaturity always results in some relationship (could even be just a friendship disaster along the way).

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Ladies I also want to hear from you.

What signs did you see during the relationship that told you the guy was no good, that you wish you had listened to then?

CastingCrowns:
I noticed guys don't have time to pursue or even ask ladies out these days.. is chivalry dead or nah? I know the economy is hard but at least na lol.. may God bless the work of everyone's hands.