₦airaland Forum

LordVaiki:

LordVaiki:
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LordVaiki:
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LordVaiki:
A woman scorned baby calm down I'm on a research no hard feelings. you just gave me what I needed to continue this research.
Lastly,can I know your age bracket?

LordVaiki:
My friend shut up! What do you know about human manipulation? See this dirty girl wey never baff dey talk. Let me not see you on this topic again before I make life difficult for you this morning.

argent412:
hmmm

you're right sha


we what am seeing on social media (nairaland), it has changed my mind set about marriage/relationship (NOTHING LAST).

argent412:
men are getting married every Saturday.


but, over 89% of marriages in Nigeria don't last.



so what's the need of getting married, when you know the marriage won't last.


abeg, you ladies are more desperate for marriage than men. you can jazz a man because of marriage.

SAMBARRY:


If he's not giving you any genuine/substantial reason I'm afraid there is fire on the mountain


Btw are you sure he's not hiding something away from you? I.e being married to someone else and lying to you he's a bachelor ( that gimmick popular well well) because he knows the consequences he's insisting he's not doing court wedding.but in all I suggest you slow down and Go and make your own findings.now you have the opportunity to cross your t's and dot your i's

You really need to get to the bottom of the matter.this is your life we're talking about here so it's dangerous to enter with unanswered questions, speculations and assumptions.there are already enough stories that touch here please don't add to the list before you enter Into another rude shock after marriage

Remember Nigerians are only interested in wearing gele to your wedding and eating rice, not the real marriage.Na you gan gan go be major victor or victim of anything you see there so open the antenna of your brain well with prayers.look before you leap

SilverNorGold:
Ok.. Too bad ARSE is all 99% of women on Earth can offer humanity..

But women, even if you have nothing of value to offer your husbands, why not spare them your virginity? Are you happy being completely useless to humanity?

Please think about this..

May God help us.

slawormiir:
Damnnnnn niggarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Isoright
She tried ....we need to huzzle
Building a house is not a child's play... respect to any body way don build house
I tried that thing before because i see say small small boys dey build mansion here for sapele road in Benin city
I try am i nearly die....na when i start am before i realize what have put my hand into...Bag of cement nor funny
Steel rod...three quarter granite, budding...filling of the house after foundation gulped my 300 thousand naira instantly...na there fear catch me
Initially i wanted a metro tiles type of roofing...na when i begin buy steel rod...I fear na...
Na im i quickly change my mind to the normal aluminium long span.....
Even as at that now..I nor fit still run am...money for wood work of about 15 fit na 1million....
I just kukuma abandon the building. ...I cannot go and kill my self

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr....
Isoright....so bros op...forget that your statement of he who finds a wife bla bla bla...

So are you telling me you are going to be under same roof with one pussy for years.... won't you get tired?
How una take dey dey bold to get married dey baffles me

Imagine me as a real niggarrr will be under same roof with one pussy for God knows how long...

I tried that shit when i invited..a lady down to my hotel room to spend one week with me
Damnnn shit...after two days the excitement was no longer there...my dickkk was no longer getting excited
Which means married people are just pretending...the love and excitement is no longer there...

ethicallyright:
Many Nigerian men who complain about Biden have funded the abortion of their girlfriends or one night stand partners who got pregnant.
Legal abortion means that people get to take care of children they are ready for and get rid of those they do not want before they are even born as humans. If the raped girl in Edo made it out alive and she got pregnant for one of the rapists, would you rather she kept the child and be damned by emotions forever while the child's father is not certain but one of three people who gang raped her currently serving life sentences?

Legalizing abortion means protecting the academic career of young female students who were lost in love and risk losing a year at home to nurse babies while the boys who put them in the family way get higher and higher.

Legalizing abortion means that the lives of our females are not ended by quacks who charge expensive rates to help them abort their foetus behind closed doors. We have young girls with blocked fallopian tubes because what could have been a simple process was undertaken by a quack in the dark.

It means that a pregnant woman can walk out of her abusive relationship and end the pain she may carry for 9 months and subsequently forever without being blackmailed for it.

Legalizing abortion makes it clear to the whole world that men only donate their white liquid for fertilization while a woman labours with a protruding stomach for almost 300 days. When a woman can walk into a clinic to buy a card and terminate a pregnancy she is not comfortable with, many men will lose their bargaining and suppression chip.

Serial divorcing of women, overt abuse of members of the press, winning elections on Twitter and uncouth speeches are some of the similarities 45 and FFK share. Any man who has no respect for women would always be against anything that tries to make them free. Even women we are fighting for are too blind to understand.

when2:
God bless you for saying the truth.

Kelvin30286063:
LOL... I laugh for you. Give me your husband's details and I'll give you the address of the side chick he's bleeping in 5 days time. Unless of course if he's one of those very ugly ones.
Keep fooling yourself. I'm trying to understand why it's pinching your body, is it that you're worried about the state of your V or you're scared oga is taking outside.

Kelvin30286063:
My message is not for broke couples. If you know you can afford a decent hospital where you will have a scarless modern CS done, your headache.

Kelvin30286063:
My message is not for broke couples. If you know you can afford a decent hospital where you will have a scarless modern CS done, your headache.

Kelvin30286063:
He feels nothing yet he got her pregnant 4 times! Sorry to say but your friend is crazy.
So if you feel nothing for someone, the way you will show it is by bleeping her and making her give you 4 babies. Your friend should just say he is tired of bleeping a woman with 4 kids.

On a different note, here is an advice to ladies out there, if you know you want to have more than 2 kids, make sure you have C-section in some. Having many babies through your V will render it useless for the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Especially when you have 4 babies in 4 years like our dear op's friend

WoundedLamb:
Women have more education now, they are beginning to take leadership roles, they now participate in sports, they are now pastors, pilots and even soldiers. Modern laws allow them to inherit their fathers' wealth now. Outside Nigeria, we have women leading countries now. In Saudi Arabia, we now have women driving cars. They were denied all these before due to prejudice but things are changing even though we aren't there yet. Just 100 years ago, your type would have called anyone who thought of all these "delusional". The fact that you refused to see the sad state women were in nor appreciate the trend in recent years shows you've decided to bury your head in the sand. But whether you accept it or not will not change anything. The trend is clear, women will continue to get more and more liberated and time will come when you'll have to prove your superiority as individual and based on your content and not just because you happened to be born with a dic.

As for the big cats, don't even try to make it look as if I missed the point. You specifically said that within the big cats, "the lion cannot be equal to others". You were clearly comparing different animals and not genders there and that would have been a great analogy if we were talking about man and chimpanzee. But you claim to be talking about physical strength or leadership or size in animals, you might also like to know that there are a WHOLE lot of animal species out there where the females are clearly bigger, stronger or leaders. But I ain't even citing that cause unlike other animals, we have more than basic instincts and we understand the concept fairness, equity and justice.

#SayNoToDescrimination

WoundedLamb:
Well, I already know most of you can't argue without resorting to calling names but I will ignore those and concentrate on the points raised.

First the chat is within the context of Nigeria, right? Yes, there are some rich women in Nigeria who are doing so well but even these rich women aren't free from the gender bias. Last week, Genevieve Nnaji made some financial contributions to a certain society in a bid to support gender empowerment. Some people came there to drag her for being single. Her contributions didn't impress them cause they couldn't see a man to attribute that too. That's the mindset of an average Nigerian. People that used to call Mercy Johnson "olosho" now see her as a role model cause she slowed down her acting career to bear kids. While this is a nice choice, it shouldn't be used to judge others. In Nigeria, women are judged on their ability too cook, wash plates, keep the house clean, do the laundry, take care of the kids, etc. Even when they request for washing machines, pounding machines or a house help, men see them as not being quality wife materials. Some men (especially Muslims) don't even want their wives to do office work. Women can't travel based on career but men can run the family from anywhere. At first, this was because women take care of the kids. But even when the woman wants to move with the kids, she is still not allowed. Even in the total absence of kids, women still lose a lot of opportunities cause their men want them to stay and take care of them. There's always this subtle threat of if you go, your man would cheat. Girls are indoctrinated to believe finding a husband is the ultimate goal while boys are encouraged to be ambitious. A single lady with a good job is asked not to live alone or buy a car in order not to scare away men. Men are threatened by the woman's success. The most annoying is that despite these sacrifices, Nairaland boys would still call any flashy lady or wealthy lady derogatory names like ashawo, olosho, milf, etc. The point is, regardless of a women's achievement, she is judged by her ability to have, keep and please a man. Anyone who can't see the bias is either blind or being dishonest.

I am not 17 sir. But you are explaining to me the exact mindset I am saying should be discarded. And because you were born into it, you are so narrow minded that you can't even fathom the possibility of change. I just don't see how that translate into a point. You keep saying men are judged this way while women are judged that way; who does the judgement? The same men? That judgment is what I am saying should be reviewed so you reiterating that makes look as if you don't understand the crux of the conversation yet. Isn't the bias in that judgment clear enough? They enjoy seeking out women for pleasure and they judge themselves based on their ability to do just that which they love doing and you are citing that to support your argument? How can you be shamed for not doing just what you love doing naturally? Isn't it obvious it's a solidarity to ensure sexual liberation on thier own part while the women are expected to be devoured? A man is not considered lose for having sex but a women is. And we should go with cause that's how it is? Who does the considerations? That a culture has been there for long doesn't automatically make it right.

I don't know if you recently learned the word "incel" but if you had any idea what it is, you would have known that it only weakens your argument. An online subculture of narcissism, misogyny, self entitlement and excessive masculine supremacy that blames women for the the inabilities of men is what you want to use to back your argument? Who is shaming the incel community if the same incel community? Do you know how many deaths caused by the so-called incels? How many black people do you even know that self identify as members of the incel community? How did incel become a model to the point that you'd use such a terrifying ideology to even support an argument for masculine superiority? At this point, I might as well use your own words and ask you to find out more about the community cause I don't think people in Nigeria know a thing about them except the term itself. That beast is what NL boys is turning into and instead of you to be worried, you're citing them. I'd rather not talk about incel cause no sane human, male or female, would reference that terror.

NB: Women don't have more rights than men anywhere. Not surprised an African would see female liberation as having more rights cause men can't easily lord it over women, hit her or abuse her like African men do but no, men still enjoy more recognition and less judgment even in the western world.

Dijavu97:
The mistake you ancestors made, and you are now making is to think marriage is all about sex.
That's why they born pikins and raised you up like a rat.

WoundedLamb:
In Africa, women are seen as being owned by their men. This wouldn't have been a problem it the men were also owned by their women. The misogyny in Africa is such that everything a man does is correct. They either make an excuse for him or they try to reconfigure the woman to accommodate the man's excesses. I'm surprised you're this shocked cause this isn't new. NL boys and men will get to the lowest point just to support men regardless of the situation. Logic does not apply here. If a man cheats, his wife will be asked to cook well or lose weight. If a man rapes, the lady will be asked to dress better next time. Wizkid is "my guy" for having multiple ladies but the ladies are 'oloshos'. The sexism down there is becoming beastly and it's unfortunate that these guys are not aware of the kind of socioeconomic environment they are creating with thier actions. They think blindly supporting anything a fellow man does makes them more manly (something they call alpha). And when you try to reason with them, you're abused.

In fact, Nigerians don't like equality. They only cry out when they are directly affected. Men think they are superior human beings. Politicians think they are superior citizens. Force people think they are superior entities. Tribe A people think they are superior to other tribes. Straight people think they are superior to gay people. Religion "A" people think theirs is superior to others. The rich think they are superior to the poor. Etc. And this will continue forever because nobody is really advocating for equal rights. Everyone is trying to create exceptions to exclude those they believe don't deserve it.

4gunners:
An excerpt from the book I just read:

“Women don’t want to be you be your life, they want to be part of it. They want to tag along with a man as he goes about living an exciting, adventurous life. They don’t want to be center of his life, his main focus. Alpha males treat women not as the centerpiece of their life, but as an accessory.

Summary: Women love ambitious men, chase that your goals; don’t make women the most important thing in your life.

danilmo:
I made findings and learnt he said no money In the state hence they(Tertiary institution) should get loan which dey just did and paid off in state name.

Don't know for Doctors and Nurses sha.

but as for others he has paid off.. even 7month owed by past govt he paid 6 out of it..

danilmo:
only university worker?
And u guys painted him as if he has been owing all civil servant since in the state since January. human being self. I even learnt he pays pensioners first before other civil servant now.

Lipscomb:
Lectures are demanding for new salary structure stop saying what you don't know.

Lipscomb:
Stop this propaganda Akeredolu has done well over the last 4years in the office. He didn't own workers or retirees.

maximusprime2000:
i like ur objection, its really becoming unbecoming. dont blame anyone yet, times are hard. be calming down

Cmanforall:
I think some universities need to take part of the blame, not just the government.