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Nigerians can be emotional sha.




You all forget how Napoli and fans have overpampered Osimhen. Suddenly, you accusing the same club and fans of being racist.




Instead of being emotional, why not look at the stats. Osimhen could not even win 2 duels out of 10. At least if you don't score, make attempts to show some efforts.






If this was how Messi played for Barca in his early days, you think he would be the football god he is today?





I don't understand why we like to encourage inconsistency in our players. Messi and Ronaldo who played consistent good football for years have two heads abi? Are they not human beings?





Osimhen should better make improvements for his own sake. If he wants to write his name in gold, he should start realizing that African Best Player award is not the limit for him. He should charge himself to win everything there is to win in football, even if he ends up not winning them. He should at least try.

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

First of all, let me state that I am married, and HAPPILY married.




People in miserable marriages usually marry for the wrong reasons.



You marry for money's sake. We have women who go into marriage believing that money is everything. They get into marriage. The money is there, but they soon realize that other things are needed. They realize they need their husband at home almost 24/7. But the husband is at home only 3 hours because he has to work harder now. And even when he is at home, he doesn't have time to gist with wifey. Wifey starts needing companionship. She never thought that marriage (even with money) can be boring and/or lonely.



You ignore all red flags You have a bossy girlfriend or boyfriend, you ignore the bossiness. You now get married, and they start controlling your life, and within 3-4 weeks of marriage, you are already asking for some freedom to make your own decisions or at least have a say in the house. You start behaving like you are just noticing the red flags. You have a rude boyfriend or girlfriend. They are nasty towards their own parents. They pick fights with their siblings at every opportunity, and they are quick to talk down on shop attendants, clerks, drivers, gatemen, etc. You still go on and marry them, and when they start dragging your parents or siblings like a dilapidated Tiger generator, or they start disgracing you outside with constant public fightings and quarrels, you will start running from pillar to post, looking for advice. Did you not see the red flags?



Getting wooed by ephemeral things Physical attractiveness cannot be overlooked, but there should be other things drawing you to someone that you hope to settle down with. When I met my wife, it was at a school I was applying to. She was my boss because it was she that recommended me for employment after my micro-teaching. I didn't even look at her very much before I fell in love with her. Because she always wore free flowing clothes, I didn't see her curves until much later when I had fallen completely for her. We started as colleagues and then friends and then close friends. What drew me to her was her empathy, something which is still evident till this day. Another thing is her motherliness. She was motherly to me, without being controlling. In fact, I would put her empathy and motherliness together because it is her empathy that makes her motherly. And the best of all that made me decide that she must be mine and mine alone is the fact that we have almost everything in common from religious views to even likes and dislikes. And she is someone you can trust to get the home running smoothly even if you are away for several days or weeks. She has a way with children, having worked as teacher and administrator in several schools. She had even headed a nursery school before. Her experience helped us as a family when we started having children.




I would like to say that it is important to know what you want in a woman or man. Many people are confused and would jump at any man or woman that seems ready. Being ready for marriage is not that easy to say. You may have the money to raise 100 children as a man, and yet be immature to keep a home.





My wife and I have the same principles on spending and every month, we sit together to draw our monthly budgets. Our contribution to our household budget is 60-40, but this is not strictly followed. Sometimes, she contributes more than I do, and sometimes, it is 50-50. We have had this going on even before we married, which is why courtship is very important for a lasting marriage.






This is not to say that my own strategy would work for everyone else. Every marriage is unique, but I believe that if people take their time more and look beyond ephemeral things, they would enjoy their marriages.

A worthless certificate.



There are so many things wrong with this country.



Why are we still funding ineffective programs like NYSC and many other schemes?





Tendering NYSC certificates when you should be tendering your university or polytechnic certificates is an evidence of how confused we have become with so many similar programs that we are funding.





If you want to help graduates, do so with access to grants. 33,000 naira per year multiplied by 12 (yes, 12), and hand it out to graduates as soon as they have fulfilled every requirement for graduation. No need to use them as cheap labour.





Or better still, create a conducive environment for corporate businesses to thrive and give high-flying graduates automatic employment like they used to do in the days of old when Nigeria was the pride of Africa.





The NYSC has failed. Yes, there are people who say they enjoyed their service year, but you don't use scattered good experience to adjudge a scheme as being efficient or effective.





The scheme was established to reintegrate the country after the civil war. It was aimed at promoting unity in diversity, but just like every other effort of Gowon to promote unity, the scheme failed. Tribalism is still as high as ever and is even worse. The scheme is also very corrupt with people using bribe to influence posting. There are people serving within the very state or geopolitical zone in which they schooled or originated from.





Graduates need better employment after their first degree.

We will still end up behind Algeria and South Africa.



Just one gold difference, and they have far more medals in total than us.




They have managed to almost catch up with us, and they would, eventually, because the way they quickly closed the gold medal gap can only indicate that they will eventually overtake us.

We4all:
The solution to exorbitant increase in price of items is simply boycott them. Nigerians are just too greedy and exploitative. They will always take advantage of unpalatable situations to exploit others.

As simple as that.




If demand decreases, price decreases.





I told my wife last week not to worry. She came to me shouting that noodles price has increased and they are planning to increase a sachet of pure water to #100. I told her that it is the producers and sellers that will suffer it. Once value drops on these goods, the prices will come down automatically.





The people I pity the most are the pure water manufacturers thinking of increasing price. Water that can be got anyhow. People will drink any water to survive, and the demand for pure water will reduce drastically. By the time the consumers are done with them, a sachet of pure water will sell for as low as #5.

If he was a Yoruba man, some idiots would be chanting "Ronu people" by now.




Idiots need to understand that elections are a gamble. There is no guarantee that you own preferred choice would have fared better. You can only insinuate, you can't be sure.

seunmsg:
Usyk vs AJ trilogy is inevitable. Joshua has earned the right to fight for the title again and there is so much money to be made from making the fight. It will happen.

Take it easy. A true boxing fan knows AJ would beat Ngannou.



He hasn't earned the right to a title fight. Ngannou was not even ranked by any of the four major belts.

dankorode:
that usyk guy should avoid Joshua for now, cause Joshua is going to beat the hell out of him

You people have started the hyping again. The same hype that caused Joshua not to grow and develop into a truly dangerous boxer that he had all the potential to become.



You all kept hyping him until he met a truly excellent, technical fighter who took him to school.



This was how they hyped Ngannou too even when it was obvious that Fury did not take that fight seriously. Everyone began to think that Ngannou was the new Mike Tyson, and began to think he could beat any of the top guys. Now, Joshua destroyed the hypejob in just 2 rounds, scoring two knockdowns.



Because Joshua has beaten four guys now, who are not even in top 20, you all think he is the greatest of all time.





Take it easy. You all should let Joshua grow properly. He is getting his mojo back. Let him rematch Parker or fight Zhang professionally. He might even try fighting Dubious. He needs some level of self-confidence and skill to beat Usyk.

I knew Joshua would win very easily.



What however shocked me were the knockdowns and the knockout. Just when I thought Ngannou had an iron chin.



Ngannou was overhyped simply because he scored a knockdown against Fury. Now, he has been schooled by a no-nonsense Joshua. Everyone who hyped him can now rest. Ngannou himself should leave boxing. There is really no one he can beat.




Fury will beat him in a rematch. Wilder will kill him. Zhang will batter him. Joshua will obliterate him in a rematch. Usyk will send him into a coma.

Easy win for Joshua.



Joshua is far more skilled (boxing wise) than Ngannou.




Fury underestimated Ngannou, which was why he struggled. But Joshua will not underestimate Ngannou.





But I don't see a knockout in this game. Ngannou's chin is too tough, so I see Joshua winning by a unanimous decision.

Domestic violence always coming from that side.



If a woman is not beating her maid into a coma, it would be a man beating his wife to death.

skultrick:
But why this funny looking Israel no just get shame I swear I dey shame for the guy. Person say e no do again, say nah by force?? Why not marry two and move on. This life no hard at all once the money is there.

Many of you actually think life is very easy until things like this happen to you.





Yes, there is no spouse that is not replaceable, but in the beginning of a breakup, life does not always seem as simple as the advice many of you give: MOVE ON.





My only problem with Israel is that he is trying to heal the wrong way. Moreover, when things like this happen, don't always be in a rush to make the situation irreparable. Leave room for reconciliation.





From his outburst, it is clear that he doesn't really have anything against his former wife. But by attacking her mother, especially openly, and exposing too much domestic life to the unfeeling public, he is closing all doors to future reconciliation.

Thundafireseun:
All Nigerian Facebook has been taken down

It is global, not just Nigerians.

When it comes to physical abuse, women are more wicked.



The law should stop providing excessive protection to women. They should stop with that nonsense about violence against women and children.





Women are more likely than men to abuse children, and when they do it, they do it with unimaginable violence.

If not that his ban remains until August, Samson Siasia is the best Nigerian coach for the job. We play beautiful football under Siasia, and I remember a football pundit made that comparison when Rohr was coach and our football had no coordination.



Emmanuel Amuneke's Tanzania played that type of headless football too, reminiscent of Rohr. Amuneke would be a disaster waiting to happen if he is made coach.





I am also surprised that many people are mentioning Finidi George. The same Finidi George under whom Enyimba is playing very uninspiring football?






Finidi George was a fantastic player, and at a time, the best 7 in the world. But being a football legend doesn't mean you will make a good coach.





The same with Amuneke.





Some people are even mentioning Kanu Nwankwo and Jay Jay. Some Nigerians need to understand that being a good footballer does not mean you will make a good coach. What coaching experience do Okocha and Kanu have that you want to put them in charge of Africa's most decorated team?

shiwex:
What has Herve Renand ever won inhis life?

Are you seriously asking what Herve Renard has won?



The same Herve Renard who has won two AFCONs with two different teams?





Zambia (2012)



Ivory Coast (2015).





That man knows African football like the back of his hands. The issue is whether we can afford him going by our current economic woes.

And just when he had vowed to start diversifying to break the typecast he had endured for years in Nollywood, he dies. Very sad.



RIP, Sisi Quadri.

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

What we call cheating is actually natural. Monogamy is man-made.

Rostikol:
Did your father test Peseiro before you hired him?

Rohr, who tested him?

Idiots.

Only Nigerian coaches must be ‘tested’ first.

Stupid fools.

Have you checked Rohr's managerial history?




Have you checked Peseiro's managerial history? Someone who has managed Sporting CP and Braga? Someone who has worked as assistant coach with Real Madrid?

Angelfrost:
I wonder o... Amuneke still has ways to go, experience wise.

They should go for the top coach in the Nigerian Premier League... Or get Benni McCarthy from Old Trafford.

Honestly, Amuneke is still untested. Let him try the u-23 Eagles first, maybe.

Mrtaye:
Fomer African footballer of the year
Nations cup winner
Olympic gold medalist
Champions league winner
Spanish league winner
Fifa U17 world cup winner as coach
Tanzanian national team coach to the nation's cup(qualified them after almost 40 years in the wilderness)
FIFA technical committee member
FIFA licensed coach

He was a good footballer doesn't mean that he would be a good coach.




Amuneke is largely untested. Forget his achievement with the u-17.

Mrtaye:
Ameneke should be appointed asap

Wetin Amuneke sabi?

Shots fired.

Why do I have the feeling that this was staged to help this Omah Lay trend?



It was some really serious talking point. Now it is dying down, and they want to fire it up again.





That dance looked choreographed.

jaxxy:
secessionist are not ur own people or what? u don't even know what u are saying. Is Nigeria the only country to have a civil war? yet only Nigeria talks stupidly and carelessly about its civil war.

Technically, they were not Nigerians. In fact, as long as the war lasted, the Biafrans considered us enemies, and we did the same. They had their own currency, their own flag, their own military and central bank and tried to establish and protect their supposed boundaries.




I don't know how Nigerians talk carelessly or stupidly about the war. All Yakubu said was that many thought that prosecuting the war was not feasible. Whether you like it or not, that war would always be a reference point for many things that concern this country.

jaxxy:
a war against ur own people is not a achievement or something to make noise about.

it shows the country made no genuine effort for reconciliation like civil climes do even for unfair wars against other nations talkless of its own people.

only Nigeria gloats about its own civil wars in a shameless and irresponsible manners.

It was a war against secessionists, not against our people. They were Biafrans for as long as the war lasted.





Whether you like it or not, it is an important part of our national history.

viodemus:
who cares.

The igbos just have to be strategic and very very mean, when they force a part 2 on us.

Go and watch more of Aljazeera and see what War is.




All of you always stylishly clamouring for war don't know what it is.





See, if it is garri that you can afford to drink, just drink it in peace.





War is not child's play.

jaxxy:
Sadly he only thing gowon knows is the civil war and bigotry. Nothing else.

I see no other sensible discussions or contributions he has to offer.

The Civil War victory is the only reason why the country is still existing. That is a big achievement for Gowon, and rightly so too. If you think it is easy to prosecute a war and win, then I will like to have a taste of what you are drinking.

Jackipapa:
Nothing is wrong and nothing will be wrong with you. Mind your business. Oh Africa!
For us abroad, we don't even see our neighbors.

This is Africa, not Europe or North America.




Neighbours can sometimes come in handy.





I remembered an incident of someone coming home late at night from a journey and the vigilantes took him to his house but no neighbour could identify him as a tenant in the compound. The landlord lived abroad, and the caretaker did not pick her calls. So, the vigilantes paraded the man naked through the town and through the night, making him sell eko with serious beating before taking him to the bale.

Christianoir:
It is weird, I don’t talk with my neighbour, we only greet nd hail each other that where it end, but I haven’t really have any meaningful conversation with them before and it bother me sometimes tho.. I’m mostly an introvert nd the shy type. Is something wrong with me, sometimes I want to speak to them, but me speaking to them will mean being friendly, which I’m avoiding, ever since I rented this compound I’ve avoided trouble. Nd I’m someone who cares about what people say or care about the opinion of others, things get to me easily tho

Do they see me as a proud/arrogant person.
I’m I weird. Is there people out there like me who have neighbors like me.

Im a student tho.

Please ignore my typo error.

You make it seem like being friendly is a bad thing.




Why are avoiding being friendly?

AlvinOO7:
‘The issue that somebody ran into the road is immaterial’
How is it immaterial?
Isn’t that your reason for carrying out the investigation?
May the departed’s soul rest in peace.

You can understand now why people hardly report this case.




How can a police officer say something that foolish?





Does he not know that some people commit suicide by simply walking straight in front of an incoming car?





In fact, a police officer should never consider anything related to an accident as immaterial.

AlvinOO7:
Trust the NPF. They’re trying to change it to a case of ‘hit and run’…prolly wanna charge him with manslaughter.

They are not trying to change it to a hit and run. They already accepted that he reported the case himself, so no hit-and-run claim here.





What they are trying to do is see if they can identify negligence and see what type of manslaughter to charge him with.





One thing the police don't like is a waste of their time. That is why they ask many questions. They don't want to get to court and have the judge start lecturing them about incompetence or scolding them for a poorly carried out investigation and watery case. Just like the police, the court too don't like their time being wasted. They can fine you for wasting the court's time.





For me, this case needs thorough investigation. If we say because the man reported himself then he should be released, what if his first intention was to run, but fear made him report himself eventually?





The statistics is that if you hit a person while doing 50km/hr, they have a 20% chance of surviving. Supposing this journalist was doing 50km/hr, there is a high chance that the victim was still alive, but he died when help did not come on time because the journalist claimed he could not see the victim until the police came and found the body. This can be a charge of negligent homicide.





Negligent homicide may not be as serious a crime as vehicular homicide, but it is a criminal charge nevertheless.





My point is that the journalist might not be entirely blameless. He might even be overspeeding. After all, he was going for a meeting, and had already wasted 2 hours on the road blocked by protesters.