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You live in USA is he an American or a Nigerian? If he is a Nigerian how long has he lived over there and what do you think his orientation is regarding issues like these? You are not a baby and should be able to read in between the lines, he may just want to be a friend, he may want to start at that first so he could know you better before going further, so take it easy baby, just be natural and see him as a friend and things would soon be defined. If you cant wait i suggest you bring up discussions about relationships, friendship and the like and you should be able to read his lips but all the same dont do anything you may later regret. Leave it as friendship and see how it goes.

''Why read your partners emails?

Why pick your parners calls?

Why read your partners texts?

You can't gain anything doing it?

Maybe heartache sha?

Akin''

Akin you are just correct, i did that sometimes ago(not intentionally though), my husband was sleeping and a text came in i wanted to be sure it was a text i need to wake him to respond to or not (thought it may be one of his clients who needed him urgently) so i read the text, that happened 5 years ago and there is still a wound in my heart as a result of that reading. So its not a good idea don't even try it, see such things as personal. Though i know some of my friends their husband actually reads their mail and pass the message accross to them but that depends on if the person in question wants it if not forget it, it may leave a permanent wound in your heart.

I work with BT as a technical agent and i am paid €24,000 per annum

@ Achinu read my profile man, i am happily and childrenly married so not trying to toast anyone. Just want to know if its possible under normal circumstances for a man who is very comfortable, i mean comfortable in all aspect of it at 28 to still remain single at 38 for no just reason. If the person has enough education, good background, good job, good exposure, good looks and so so so so and decide to remain single do you think there may be a secret reason behind it?

@ miss D how come you are a man and you are miss D? to your question i really dont know but i think its the thought that a man who is supposed to 'see' only me is seeing someone else's, and that what i am supposed to be 'seeing' and enjoying alone is being seen by someone else and at time the though of 'is that lady more beautiful, does that lady 'do' it better than me or does he makes him 'enjoy it' more that i do
When it happened to me i fainted (some of you would abuse me now) i care less but will tell you why i fainted if you want to know.

Depend on you two, you need to share same opinion. We waited for 3 years because my husband want me to take care of my 'first child' (himself)for about 2 years and guess what? when we were ready i had a set of 2 boys.

I was reading an article about a very prominent guy in Nigeria; he is handsome, well educated, rich and prominent, he is about 38 years and not married and i had an arguement with my friend that there must be a 'reason' why at that age with all the luxuries of life available to him he still remain single. But come to think of it is it really possible that an african man and a Nigerian for that matter as describled above will just not be married at that age for no reason as claimed by my friend. Is there a normal approximate age for a man/woman to be married and is it really normal to be single at such age? What do you think?

He does not need to be jealous if he can trust her. Friends have their place and lovers have theirs, the two have different roles to play in ones life. I had a number of very close male friends and we are still friends except for the distance. Let him deal with jealousy and understand that one can have friend from either sex at least he was told from the onset.

Can someone please educate me on how to post a thread here. Like to post one to remind ladies of the importance of cervical smear test. Thanks

God! My heart bleeds for these lives it could be any one of us. Imagine the destinies unfulfiled, imagine the future leaders of our grear country wasted in their prime, imagine those young adult who has families to care for, imagine imagine imagine. We sure don't have government in Nigeria, where i live despite the smothness of the road on the surface the roads are repaired every now and then even though physically you can't see such cases as we have on our roads in Nigeria. What can I say? May their souls rest in peace and may God give us government.

Why did she lie was she afraid you could leave her? there is no fear in love. Well in my opinion may be i am living in the past but i think its not good enough for her to have kept it for so long who knows what other wrong  information you have? Just think well before going ahead.

The issue of trust plays a serious role in marriage and from experience i will say if you  think you can no longer trust her just forget about it, time will heal your wounds, marriage could be hell if one has a reason not to trust the other it will impact on your relationship and if you want to continue make sure you are not the one who will feel bad for marying an older wife, i for one would not marry a guy one month older than me so if you are like me just forget it. This happened to a friend and this was after they are married with 4 kids it actually wounded the marriage till today although they are together but things arent the same, so think well good luck.

It all depends on the girl in question whatever she feels about it, but in my opinion if a man should give that as a condition for marriage the man is not worth getting married to as more conditions will still come. My brother was told by our senior brother to make sure his wife is pregnant b4 we can talk of elaborate wedding and he agreed the lady was pregnant and they left Nigeria thereafter and few weeks afte the wedding the lady miscarried it although she now has 2 kids. I was on the other hand given same condition and i objeted it and had my wedding. After my wedding we decided to be alone for 3 years and they felt 'yeh we warned them' but we knew what we were doing after 3 years we lifted the 'ban' and i had a set of beautiful boys. We can not prove to God that we are wise by imposing such condition, anyone who will have kids will have irrespective of the number of abotions and a virgin girl may not be able to get pregnant for years.

Love should be the condition for marriage because things happens. Also more importantly trust in God and please ladies becareful not to fall into wrong marriage because soon if you are blessed with only one sex the guy's mother + the guy himself will send you packing especially if you are blessed with beauties and no handsomes.

@shinatu,
Sorry, it was actually Chevron not Shell and to your question honestly i dont know he only told me he is paid $1200 a month when he called to inform me ho got a job.
@femtex, i really dont know much about it he only called when he got the job to inform me we have not really spoken about it, but he studied civil eng and has not really worked since he graduated except for sometimes when he worked for a construction firm in Lagos for about 1 year.

One could still try out a car made in 9ja but to put a life in an helicopter made in 9ja? God forbid! that thing takes all the lives in it if anything goes wrong. I can not forget the experience i had with EAS before it eventually took lots of life. The kind of maintainamce culture we have in 9ja is below standard so one would be gambling with his life trying to fly on such locally made flying thing. Good luck to him and i wish him well in his career but i as a person will never fly the helicopter even for free.

@ Mangod.
I personally confirmed from one of them that it was Obj that put her there and this honourable i heard that from is a PDP member so forget about not dragging him into it.

My twin bro works with Chevron as an engieer he started with $1,200 per months and some allawees

Anyone who tries to use toilet (no ladies or gents just toilets) in Nigerian embassy in Dublin is doomed! How terrible. You sure will get sick if you stay in it for 2 minutes.

I have heard people say Obasanjo is the brain behind her being in that position but i only comment on facts and i felt he was no longer the president when she was made the speaker so how could he be the person who made her the speaker. You can imagine how shocked i was when i spoke to one of them and i asked why the problem has persisted and the answer was that the problem is that the woman is not competent for the position. I asked this honorable why then was she made the speaker and i was suprised the answer was 'It is Obj' I was suprised and wondering where this country is heading to when an ex president was the one who imposed an hairdresser in Ibadan as the speaker. Naija for show! may the Lord save us. As far as i am concerned i do not believe an NCE graduate should be the president of University lecturers so i strongly vote against the madam. She should just get away from that sit which is too intelligent for her level.

I agree with Scanbater tell us the real and the true story, it hardly happens that a wife with all the luxuries you claim to have will go out of the matrimonial home, looking for what?

Biblically and spiritually and religiously it is a sin to have sex outside marriage, but humanly, fleshlyly (if there's anything like that) it is quite hard. I tried it then but as hard as i tried five years into my relatioship i fell for it and that was before i was married and then we did it over and over and over again until we got married, we married after four years after we ate the forbidden fruit you can imagine how many times it happened. I will advise the unmarried to try as much as possible to avoid it because it is a sin but where you find it hard to do try to at least keep it to just one person when you are at a point that you have all the assurance that all things being equal this is your husband. I am not encouraging premarital sex o, i only said if you can not avoid it. Sincerely i had to beg for God's forgiveness because everyone saw me then as a child of God who would not do that. It is possible if you mean to and believe me the guy will not ever leave you for not agreeing to let him have sex with you before you are married, he will cherish you for it. My sister did that in London the guy bull shit her and left and you know what? he came back after few months and today they are married and he is actually very proud of her and he can trust her with his life. So ladies its so so so good and will make your husband proud of you when he eventually gets there on your wedding night.

The German guy if this is true has Nigerian blood running in him, 'bi ewe ba pe lara ose' The idiot will never try such thing in his country or he will spend years in prison. Next time record that in your phone or somehow take it up with him that if he ask you to leave you will simply go to court and that you have the conversation recorded believe me he will not only give you the job but will also offer you something not to do that. If he insist please my dear go to court look for people who could sponsor you to go thru court proceding you can come to this site for support and believe me Nigeria is now getting better and you sure will sin the case and get a substantial compensation.

In case this happens to any one please do not just keep it to yourself its high time we ladies freed ourselves from this sex thing, the problem is we dont want to go to court like the yorubas will say 'Olorun ma je ka ri ejo' is court a hell? no its where issues are sorted so if we want this thing to end we need people to go to court over it and it will at least minimise it, even if you dont have money still go to court at least it will attract attention and those idiots will causion themselves.

If you have a good job with convincing regular income you may not need an invitation letter, in such case your statement of account must show that you have enough money to buy your ticket, pay for hotel accomodation, some money to spend and outside that you must also be able to provide leave letter from your work, i think payslips, tax cert and consent letter from your spouse if you are married. If the visa officer feels you have such good job that will make you return home he may issue you visa without an IV. You also need to provide hotel booking for the period of your stay.

Having read others views, i want to agreed with the person who said the advised is better from one who has experienced such. Well, my own little contribution is this; if you are already in the employment and he wants to sleep with you simply because he wants to promote you, then you must be a greedy one to agree to sleep with him, if you are not greedy and you are good i mean good at your role you have no need to accept such offer, at least you still have the job the issue is only promotion. You can still live on what you get from your present role. A man who will say sleep with me so i could promote you without ever making you feel he had some emotional feelings for you is not worth it, it will be so disgusting to sleep with such man and he is classless and inferior, if not prior to the promotion he could have told you he hs feelings for you and want to go out with you, it will be a different thing you can choose to do what you would but ''i want to sleep with you so that i can promote you'' is just irritating.

In the country i live it is an offence for a child of school going age not to be in school, an offence a parent can be jailed for. As a matter of fact if a child is absent from school for a particular number of days in a school calenda year the parents will be visited by the police and charged to court. There is a reason for this and i’m sure the reason is that the government is building a strong future for the country knowing the advantages and otherwise of education. . I feel sad each day i remember that in my country some kids are roaming the streets and would grow up in that same way and the future of these kids one can guess, although our future are in the hands of God, but i think we also have a role to play. Can you please suggest or share with us what you think the government can do to make it mandatory for all kids of school going age to be in school, thereby ensuring a stronger nation in the future where everyone can at least read and write?

I wish that Nigeria will be a country we all will be proud of
I wish for changes that will make those of us in diaspora pack our bags and joyfully return home
I wish that it will be a pride to say to the whole world 'I am a Nigeria'
I wish that we will have leaders whose minds will daily be filled with how to make life better for the citizens
I wish that every Nigerian child will comfortably eat 3 sq meals and every kids will be in school
I wish Nigeria will be a country we can sleep at night and have sound sleep without any fear
I wish that Nigeria will be what it should be 'The Giant Of Africa'
I wish all citizens or at least 95% will enjoy the very basic neccesities of life,
And the wish goes on and on and on,

Hun!!!!!this makes me cry children eating meat once a year? In a country where over 600 million is being used to renovate houses for just 2 people, in a country where there are lots and lots of natural resources? What does Ireland has? guiness! just that! and the government pays all the children under 16 years in that country including foreigners €160 every months! that is sbout N28,320 every months. God will destroy all those people who mismanages our resouces and subject people to poverty while spoiling their own kids with all luxuries of life Amen, Amin, Ase

Can we please drop this certificate thing! The unhonourable woman and her co armed robbers wants to divert our attention from the armed robbery that happened in the name of renovation, no it can not be swept under the carpet and she definitely should just bow her head in shame instead of trying to shift attention and get cheap sympathy.

imagine that story by the previous writer who was only visiting his fatherland! If the bastard drunk police had succeded the guy's life would jsut have been wasted and imagine how that poor man died due to no assistance? God will never forgive those people, no wonder some of us has decided to stay in another man's country! why not when my son only had chest infection which was affecting his breath and all i did was dial 999 and in few minutes i had ambulance in front of my house to take him to hospital and infact was receiving treatment in the ambulance and got to the hospital in the waiting arms of a nurse who took him from me and to the doctor who wasted no time in treating him immediately, and you know what? at no cost to me!