₦airaland Forum

jookco:
Just then, an assistant superintendent of police showed up and Abubakar heaved a sigh of relief, thinking that the superior officer would come to his rescue. But he was wrong. Rather than indict the errant sergeant, the ASP turned to Abubakar and started tongue-lashing him. “Where is the accused?” he bellowed. “Stupid educated man. Go and detain him and prepare his charge sheet.”

At this point, Abubakar’s patience ran out. He tapped the collar of the ASP’s shirt, and calmly told him that he (ASP) would lose his uniform that very day. That was when the ASP looked more closely and realised he had been talking to the Commissioner of Police. Without asking any question, the ASP escaped through the window, followed by sergeant. The message was not lost on the remaining policemen at the station who all voted with their feet, leaving the station unmanned.

Imagine what this person would have had to go through if he was an ordinary innocent Nigerian! He might end up being charged with robbery.

jookco:
That was when the ASP looked more closely and realised he had been talking to the Commissioner of Police. Without asking any question, the ASP escaped through the window, followed by sergeant. The message was not lost on the remaining policemen at the station who all voted with their feet, leaving the station unmanned.

What a shame! They didnt even know their commissioner. Escaped through the window?

jookco:
Asked why he decided to drive himself without an escort, Abubakar said it was not the first time he would do that, adding that as a security officer who was always looking for information, he always needed to go out once in a while unaided in order to get desired information.

I wish Yaradua will do this once in a while and see how the country really is, especially what traffic looks like around our dear MMA road just after landing into the country.

jookco:
Midway between his home and office, he ran into a checkpoint in the Yaba area of the city. A police corporal flagged him down and began to cajole him with beggarly statements like, “Your boys are here; we are working for you; and what do you have for us?” The clean-shaven man behind the wheel pretended he did not know what the policeman was talking about. Angered by his diffidence, the corporal demanded for his vehicle particulars and his driver’s licence. To his disappointment, Abubakar produced every particular the policeman demanded.

Sensing that the motorist was going to be difficult, other policemen joined the corporal in interrogating the motorist, but all efforts to do him in proved abortive. At that point, they decided to drag Abubakar to the police station, and he followed them.

, and what if this guy was going for an important bussiness transaction or a job interview? God help us.

5 weeks ago, i am checking ticket sales again now if anyone has any info on incredibly cheap ticket pls dub-mma

lucabrasi:
ill suggest that fist like someone commented you should do everything through your family,and even at that make sure yoou don't trust anybody implicitly, try them with small amounts of money first and always make sure u don't let anyone know what you r woth or that u have a lot of money always haggle the price of every single thing and always question everything that has to do with money.
also ill advice you to get a job first at least for the first 6 to 12 months,not because you need the money but it will keep you busy and keep jackals and hangers on away from you,it will let you learn a lot about nigeria,you will make friends and your capital can generate some funds for you in a fixed deposit before you decide what to do,i have an uncle who s spent 22 years in the states and thats what he did and he actually left the job after 7 months but by them he hardly touched his money during that time,he didnt need to buy a car cause he sent his 4x4 from the states and he didnt need to buy furniture and house old stuffs as he shipped the ones in his house, try not to trust anybody at all with money and always dress down,don't display with money and if people don't know u just came back don't volunteer,if u have to then simply you have been out of nigeria,it might be ghana,sierra leone,gambia

You really dont need more than this very sensible advise.

, em em em, you know how cold this place is, coping with heat at night will drive you crazy so be sure you can use your generator all night, and take some water under O'Connel bridge along lol

bigmodo:
Letter To Nigerians Abroad

I am desperate to travel out to the extent i get angry whenever i discover that i am still in nigeria.

I hope your anger will not multipy when you eventually get there are realise how 'very easy' it is to make a living there. Good luck anyway, hope someone will come to your aid. You didnt mention where i dey sha i 4 try to try lol

I have worked with the NPA and when i read about getting rid of corruption in Nigeria i wonder if this can ever be a reality. Corruption has eaten deep into the country that it exist everywhere and believe it or not there are things you can't possibly get through without bribe in Nigeria. This is not being negative its the fact. Fighting and claiming right at times is a waste of time and will in no way put an end to this bribing menace.

Few weeks ago i was in front of legislative quaters in Abuja and wanted to drive in but the car was not allowed in because according to the police at the door the car is not an official car, i called the senator to see how we could get in and he asked us to 'dash' him something and he will let us in and with just N50 the unofficial car was let in.

A friend who works with one of the governors told me her colleaque had to report her boss to the gov for harrasing him sexually which she can not agree to because she is married and to her uttermost shock the govt told her point blank that that is the order of the day and that everyone including himself is quilty of it. So where will she turn to now and who will she report to? So what are we talking about? only God can heal Nigeria of curruption and bribe infact, i doubt if He can. (God forgive me i definitely know there is nothing you can not do)

When there is 24/7 electricity to run my business and and less police with heavy guns on the road, my kids dreads the sight.

Still counting my gains! No regrets whatsoever.

The mistake most of us make is once a guy asks us out and we agree we believe it will automatically lead to marriage, its so irritating esp with some of us yorubas, the next thing you hear is the girl refering to the guy as 'oko mi' (my husband) this is a boyfriend o who has not even proposed marriage. Not all b/f g/f relationships lead to marriage my dear, take a look around and think of how many campus love end in marriage.
If you have inner eyes on graduation days you will see many love hung at the school gates, it ends there.

You are a lady you shouldnt be the one rubbing his face with marrage proposal it should be the other way round, sorry o i know he has been sleeping with you which is part of the reasons you are now crying, well next time make a boyfriend a boyfriend and when he graduates to a fiance make him one and if he graduates to husband call him that. Good luck.

No! being virgin doesnt make one a better partner. My husband disvirgined me but i am not even close to being a better partner, he infact deserve a better wife than me. I have my great parts but i do not make a better partner compared to my friends or some wives i know whose husband did not disvirgin. Nothing makes me special as in being better, i am trying but definitely being virgin when we met and remaining so for 6 years before i 'did' does not make me any special. I am just as good as any other wife.

What is bad about Nigeria?

The plots allocated to the Obasanjo family included one in Maitama on March 3, 1988, while the late Stella Obasanjo was allocated a residential plot in Jabi on September 17, 1993.

Other details showed that the Obasanjos got eight plots between 1988 and 2003 as well as 11 between 2004 and 2007.

The late Stella Obasanjo was allocated a residential plot in Maitama marked A06 (Plot 3446). She got another residential plot in Katampe, marked B19 (plot 150) on April 14, 2002.

Other land allocations to the Obasanjos include those of Olugbenga Obasanjo (Maitama), September 12, 2000, another plot in Guzape on April 11, 2002; Oludayo Obasanjo got a residential plot on May 10, 2003; Iyabo Obasanjo (Asokoro, residential plot on January 26, 2005); Oluwasegun Obasanjo (Jabi) January 26, 2005; Obasanjo Farms Nigeria Limited (Kuje) June 27, 2005; Adeboye Obasanjo (Maitama) June 27, 2005; Olusegun Babatunde Obasanjo (Maitama) January 13, 2006; and Oluwafunke Obihele Obasanjo (Garki II) March 25, 2006. Others include: Oludare Victor Obasanjo (Garki 11) November 9, 2006; Obasanjo Olufolake (Wuye) May 15, 2007 and Obasanjo Farms Nigeria Limited (a commercial plot at Gwarimpa) on May 24, 2007.

Things like these, the people in government sharing the rights of all of us within their family members, resources meant to better the lives of all being pocketed by few ones in govt and they still walk the street freely.

Bertin Ahern, the prime minister of Ireland made a significant economic breakthrough in Ireland within the space of about 10 years, he was accused of curruption--------He has just resigned.

Iyabo Obasanjo was accused of corruption in the N300 million unspent budget of the Ministry of Health scandal, her father spoke to the senators and the senators gave her clean bill of health, they said she is not quilty of the offence. (This is a country where there is no free medical care, no good hospitals, people dying of deseases preventable by providing medical care and yet there is unspent budgetry allocation and some guys just shared it)

If Bertie provides free medical treament to the unemployed and yet was accused and he resigned what good song will i be singing about Nigeria where people are dying daily and the people 'eating' money meant for preventing these deaths walk the road free boasting?

If i live in another man's country and i am involved in an accident and in minutes i am taken to the hospital in an ambulance, treated and brought back to life without paying a dime until i am fine what good song will i be singing when i remember my brother died when he was taken to hospital after an accident and he was left on the hospital floor to die because he was not able to pay before treatment?

@poster have you ever been close to an ss before? if not please try and find one and be a friend with him/her for few months, after that sit back and think if you want to increase the number of peole going through that sickness. Please do away with the relationship its never late because bringing innocent kids to go through that pain is more of being wicked and more painful than the emotional pain you will feel now which will fade with time anyway. Aimoye long term relationship that ends half way.

Save yourself the pain of regrets looking at the kids you shouldnt have brought to suffer in the first place. Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

My colleaque who is aware of my trip to Nigeria in less than two weeks asked me if i have read my email as she has read from Air France that their flights are cancelled for the next 3 weeks, i felt dizzy immediately and quickly opened my email box and found nothing, when i looked up to talk to her she said 'u are a fool', i looked with suprise on my face how come she used such strong word and she said 'April though'

4Him:
Serves you immigration law breakers right.

Thank you very much Mr immigration law UN breaker and congratulations for being a very holy, sinless man who has to throw the first stone.

4Him:
It is "criminals" like this who make things 100x more difficult for genuine visa seekers in Nigeria to obtain travel permits.

Oh really?

4Him:
Why did you come to Ireland with a pregnancy with the intention of defrauding the system? If i were an Irish citizen i'd vote to have all of you deported ASAP.

Its not too late you can become one now and ask Irish Govt infact all European and Amercan govt to deport all foreigners, those that came in with visiting visa and married for paper, those who came in with 6 months visa years ago etc righteous man!, and dont forget to go and kill Nigeria Govt who awarded electricity contract to unregistered foreign companies, paid 100% upfront and did no job, good man and remeber to advise that all of them should be deported.

4Him:
Tell your friend to go home and stop weeping . . . wasnt she thinking when she signed away her right to have her husband here all because of "papers"?
I no longer blame the poor fellow . . .

No thanks but she is not weeping she is only in a situation anyone can find him/herself, i know no thread ends without some sort of abuse.

Awe,if you are furtunate in life dont call your padis lazy bones, and come to think of it how many Europeans, Americans cme to Nigeria to do this? Does that not mean something? Please tell those defrauders in Nigeria who calls themselves govt to make their country comfortable for all and give equal or near equal opportunity to all.

One of those 'defrauders' is Rotimi Adebari who was the first foreigner to be made a mayor of a county in Ireland, what did Nigerians do? Crying hell that he was an assylum seeker blablablablablablablabla. Thank God for the number of 'defrauders' from Nigeria today who are holding great postitions in Ireland in various fields including me who got a good job in ISP company without having to know anyone or bribing anyone abd despite being a 'defrauder' yesterday, i'm sure your like would not even employ me.

I rest my case, thank you all for your wonderful contributions, i thinks i have one or 2 words for her from your contributions so this thread can rest peacefully now, as i will not visti it again. THANKS TO YOU ALL.

Check out posts on Nairaland and see one that did not end up with verbal abuse. These are people who are not seeing each other, who may never even see each other. You ask for advise which some people might find not reasonable and instead of just moving to another thread they start insults and abuse. May be its just part of people.

I am beginning to believe that money answereth all things

How would you have felt my dear if Yinka Ayefele is single and knocks on your door to ask you out? How would you have felt if the guy came down with the aid of a uniformed driver from an expensive jeep and looks every inch handsome and clean? I once saw a lady i can describe as pretty in the real sense of it with a crippled rich guy and she was all over him as if someone wanted to snatch him from her.

Hummmmm try to see that guy apologise and try to be friendly as you would with any other guy, there is ability in ever disABILITY.

almondjoy:
What you are telling me is that all this "hassles" is worth leaving ma husband in Nigeria to become a "dropeee" resident of Ireland of all places?

No! dont misunderstand me there is no way i will ask someone to destroy her home for whatever reason when i have mine intact, i only explained to you how it works here based on your last post. I know how serious this is, infact i heard someone was recently sent a divorce letter all the way from Nigeria so i know how sensitive this is and i know which advise to pick from all contributed so far.

almondjoy:
I have a friend in this similar situation. . . she filed for her husband and immigration was tossing them around for one reason or the other. . . .their matter was very complicated and involved a lot of misrepresentation and he was caught in some lies. All it took was the help of a good lawyer and the rest is history now.  After 3 years of hassles, and the woman almost going bankrupt. . .the man has joined his wife.  He is working now while she stays home pregnant with their first child!

If you work together. . . you will definitely succeed!

Goodluck!

Believe me its not that easy in Ireland with the type of residence we have, we were made to sign an undertaking at the time we were given the residence permit that the granting of the permit does not entitle us to be joined by family members. Its a long story my sister but ICI is making efforts to change things sha. Thanks. 

almondjoy:
Out of curiosity. . . .how come she has papers and the man does not?

Her husband was not in the country in 2005 when we were asked to apply for residence permit. Its a long story, we came here with 'big belly' dropped and d 'dropped' were given authomatic citizenship, we the 'dropees' then decided to stay until when they will give us residence permit, they refused to and we refused to leave, in 2004 they had a referendum to stop giving children born in Ireland automatic citizenship and they voted 'yes' then it stopped. Those of us waiting on them with pickins with Irish citizenship were asked to apply for residence permit in 2005 but you have to prove that you have been here since you 'dropped' and blablabla, then we were granted permission to stay for 2 years after 2 years another 3 years and (according to them) after the 3 years you can apply for looooooooong residence. May be by then they will allow us to be joined by family members.

morenike09:
Go back to him for what? his inability to provide for her and her children? inability to protect them? why should she go back to worthless thing that calls himself a man? why should she go back to sorrow and famine past?

Hummm so if a man has financial difficulty he is worthless? How happy will you be if someone call your husband worthless for whatever reason? Thank God she is not reading this, she would sure feel miserable. Eni a forolo to ni toun baje, i pray yor husband never losses his job, he will suffer.

@post I will ask my husband

His sense of humour, his masculine look and baby face, looks 6 years younger than his age. Modern day man who doesnt make me feel like i have an 'African husband' but a friend.

That calculation is not correct it should be around $2055.83

If you are not quite comfortable with a maid i believe you both can work something out and take care of your baby yourselves, i understand that you both work but that is one of the excusses we give in Nigeria. I have couples who both work here and take care of their kids, of course no other choice. Im sure she will have mat leave for some months you can take the baby to care center while you go to work and pick him/her after work. I have 2 kids of same age, i work full time and i still manage with them all alone. So if you have your reservations about maids look for other options but if you must have one have on mind that it may work out fine it may not, also pray about it, best of luck.

Please dont do it there is more to it if you have tried so hard and she is still adamant. Cant sexual harasement be reported in Nigeria? Sit her down pretend to be talking to her and record your conversation, oh poor me this wont work since you said she is reading this. Dont destroy the home you are just building by sleeping with one stupid girl. What a girl would pester a man for sex? things are happening in the world today o, God save us.

Whatever you can do but make sure the issue is resolved before you marry each other otherwise forget about 'happy married life' wishes, sex is important in marriage and can cause katakata

@ d reloaded God knows i have never caught my husband in my 9 years of marriage to him and even before then in unfaithfulness but then believe me i find it hard at times to trust that he is indeed faithful but at least what you dont know dont hurt you. I have seen men, decent men, men of God, caring men whose wives never caught being unfaithful but who are seriously involved in adultry so i find it hard believing that men can be 100% faithful although i am sure there will be very few ones but to be on the happy side let the man make his wife believe he is faithful.

While i was in nigeria my MD love his wife to death and the wife believe he has never seen another woman's pant but i knew not less than 4 of 'them' because i do take message from them and for them and because of my position i read his letters because there are some i had to reply, some of the letters says how very 'faithful' he is. And how do you explain my senior pastor who recently impregnated one of the church members, nobody believe until he confessed himself, my brother inlaw just returned to Nigeria on a 3 weeks holiday with a 'company' and his wife believes and claims her husband is born again, stories abound my dear. So to save yourself the stress let the husband make the wife believe his is faithful.

One of my friends was telling me how hot lagos girls are and that he pity me that my husband works in so so so field and you know what i told her? What you dont look for you dont see.

Shower your wife with love, listen to her and protect her, take care of her emotional, financial, social needs as much as is within your reach. Be sincere and try to be faithful (or at least make her believe you are).

To ladies if you want a good husband be good yourself.

Sorry i didnt read the post very well, i was doing something else while reading it. I just read the first part now and it says that not that she hates having sex with you but she hates having sex. Its a serious problem if you as the husband loves sex i know how it feels and i will just advise that you try and see if anything could help her. I wish the lady is someone i could talk to because i was once a 'hater' of sex and no matter what i never enjoyed sex, i am much better now and my husband is much happy now. Unfurtunately i can not be saying the things i tried that made the difference because it may not go down well with some people. Search your mind and keep trying she may change one day.

What i dont understand is why she would not even be available to play with you, if that is the case she may have something against you that she is keeping on mind try to make her speak so you could address it. Good luck

If a woman hates having sex with her husband it boils down to one thing: there is love lost, she is not entirely happy in that marriage and the best way to start is to find out if she has anything disturbing her about it, some ladies enters marriage for economical stability and once there they will start seeing some other sides of the guy that irritates them. I said this because i have a cousin who married this particular guy becuase the guys is 'loaded' i mean the guy is really loaded. I really don't know if she did not notice that the guy has complex and that he blows 'killing oyinbo' before she was all over her. After some time despite all the money and affection showered on her she began to hate the guy and confided in another cousin that she just hates the 'local' way the guy talks, acts and behaves.

Start by trying to find out if there is something she is not paricularly pleased with in you or about the marriage, i pray it works out because it could be killing staying in a marriage where love is not present.

blacklion:
oyb,

take it easy on the lady. she is in a very dicey situation wherein she is being forced to make impossible choices. what may seem simple, straightforward and plain common sense to you as a man may not appear that way to a woman. thats why she came here to solicit advice



@ Ayo, does your friend have her papers? Can she visit Nigeria and return without immigration wahala? please respond and then I'll make a suggestion

She has papers and has been home only once in the 2 years he has the papers simply because she is not quite bouyant, she doesnt even have a full time job and you know with her responsibilities buying tickets now and then is not quite possible.

For those saying this is about me, well you all are entitled to your opinion but no one knows me here so i see no reason why i shoud be lying about this if its me, about her posting this herself well, i am on the internet from 10.30-7.15 while she is only once in a while on the internet and i am not sure she will want to discuss this on the net, i didnt even tell her i am doing this and she is not the 'internet' type.

Others with reasonable advise, thanks.

oyb:
abegi, she should leave her loser husband.

misery loves company

I dont need this kind of talk, i didnt ask for insult but reasonable advise please keep off if you dont have anything useful to say.This same guy paid for her to get here it cost him a lot of money then. Things changed and now he is in this condition.

This was what my friend told me 3 days ago and she is in a dilema. We have lived together under the same roof since we both got to this country five years ago. Her husband has tried more than enough time to obtain visa to join them here but he was never lucky and the worst is that he has no job and financial means to back up his application.

For almost 2 years now my friend has been the one sponsoring the family through the little she could make here. Up till now she has no savings because even her mum depends on her (meaning she caters for herself and her 2 kids here, her husband and her child back in Nigeria and her mother). Its really hard on her but at least she is still able to do that. Now the husband called her yesterday and told her specifically 'I have tried visa several times without success, i am not happy with this distance marriage and i give you up till end of June to pack your things and return home with the kids, i am fed up and i have made up my mind, nothing is going to change this so dont bother, just come back home, i need my kids and my wife under same roof with me'.

Now this man has no stable job, she pays the house rent and even sends feeding money to him some times. She does have money herself to set up something should she return home and she has been trying since then to make him see reason why this is not the right time to do this but he would not bulge, he told if she is no longer interested in the marriage she can stay back but if she is still in this marriage she should just return home for good.

What do you think? She is afraid of loosing her marriage if she refuse to go and afraid of 'hunger' should she return.