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Ladyhippolyta88:
Maybe for you but not me I am a human being and I have human rights and I am nobody's property.

then don't let anyone pay or receive any bride price or whatever, for you. Else, you are being sold and bought, whether you like it or not.

Daeylar:
It should be the woman's choice, if she wants to change her name or not or hyphenate both last names
Also the man is free to take his wife's last name, or hyphenate both,
Or both can just find an alternative.
That will be the names the kids bear.

It's disgusting that some people in this thread are saying that because a woman was purchased she has to bear the Man's name,
To many people here a woman is nothing more than an object or a slave. How can someone use Purchased for a human being again.

technically, women are purchased in Nigeria and many parts of the world. You are just being emotional about it.

Because... Men in some parts of the world have to cough up a fortune to buy marry their woman.

In some other parts, men lose all their assets (to the woman) when there is a divorce.

It's only natural that people would want to own whatever they have bought. What better way to own something than writing your name on it?

^^ Asin, the thing weak me. The word 'love' has been serially abused.

Safiaaa:
never disguised this thread as factual..I clearly said that it was MY opinion. Go over and read again, jeez.

nah... The part where you made clear was your opinion was the conclusion in the second paragraph. After that, everything was presented as if they were based on facts. For example this paragraph...

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

Communication is not about what you have in mind while writing it, but what gets across to your readers.

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

lol.

I like how this is based on the unspoken assumption that all men want the same thing (the caveat in the first paragraph is somewhat useless), and so the men who imply they want more than the usual, are the exact same ones who avoid ladies who are more than the usual.

It's always fascinating to see conclusions (disguised as proven facts) spring out of silly assumptions.

The talk about women not bringing anything else is just about as cliché as the talk about 'all men being the same' or 'men must always cheat'. Some who say it are inspired by personal experience, while others say it because everyone else is saying it and so it must be a smart thing to say.

I look forward to seeing you call Nigerian women confused when next to hear a lady say all men are the same, but go about being picky, instead of closing her eyes and choosing the first one she touches.

Regardless of gender or color or tribe, we are all capable of nauseating acts of hypocrisy. We are all victims and villains. So quit the gender wars already. There can only be one loser - humankind.

Be a better you and let the world say what they will.

Skyfornia:
This is serious... And the guy is not even ashame to sample his tiny carrot. I still do not understand the whole episode, is she trying to teach others that putting a condom on a guy's carrot is better done with mouth than hands?

"She is seen in the video getting on her knees and putting the condom on a plastic joystick held by a shell-shocked male pupil"

Plastic bro... Don't be too lazy to read a story you'd like to make comments on.

intjgirl:
What's your MBTI?

INTJ

That's why I noticed

This is like the worst photoshop ever

intjgirl:
Yes.

wow... That's pretty rare.

Awww... That part, "and God let them," that's the sums up her pain and disappointment. Really sorry for her.

I hate how people are more likely to be swindled or robbed or kidnapped or even murdered for rituals in the Christmas season. I don't even want to mention fuel scarcity or how prices skyrocket.

The same evil people causing others to suffer would tell others 'merry Christmas', like they mean it, just because every other hypocrite is saying it.

She said she was going to 'charge' her 'phone'

intjgirl:
If a guy proposes to me in public I'll just walk out because I can not marry someone who doesn't know me. If he knows me he will know that I hate public proposal. In fact if he knows that and still went ahead with that then it's not about me, it's about him.

well said

Are you truly INTJ?

She was probably turned off by the publicity. Not every one would tolerate attempts to pressure them into saying yes.

In her shoes, I'd probably do the same to any guy that tries that publicly stunt with me.

Moral lesson of the story... Do not marry a foolish woman. She wee just kee you by mistake while trying to help you.

I don't know all the details, but that's terrible. Why waste the everyone's time, energy and money?

It's psychological. Paranoid persons always see justification for their paranoia everywhere.

The moment you stop believing you are cursed, all the weird things you think you experience would stop.

Teewhy2:
Where is the hygiene in what he is doing, The baby immune system is still very weak and what goes into the baby's mouth should be seriously monitor to prevent unwanted disease. There is no way the man would have taken his bath it will still have some germs on the body.

so a woman's body would not have germs on it?

Medium is just purrrfekt!

Nigerians... Masters of the most senseless kinds of stereotypes.

Xcelinteriors:
Madam don't stress yourself. Just pray he won't bring home STD or HIV for you. All men cheat, it is in their blood. Focus on your kid(s) and forget he ever exist

osheee! She has taken blood samples from all men, tested and found cheating in it.

It's shallow minds that generalize that way, because they cannot mentally handle the depth of variety amongst people and gender.

Yeah, it's weird right? Atheists shouldn't be doing religious stuff. But then Christmas is now more than just a religious festival. It's mostly secular now. Something like thanksgiving which atheists still observe.

Apart from the christ in the name, Christmas has nothing to do with Jesus. It's a pagan festival with its tree and santa and saturnalia-inspired '12-days-of-chrismas'.

Xzbit91:
See the bolded, they're not unequals and they're not distinct individuals. They're ONE.

@the second bolded. Where did you read that from? Most certainly not in the Bible that I know. God the father begat Jesus when he took on flesh to become man, not before that.

When He was with the father before creation. He himself was God

lol. They are not distinct and unequal but one calls the other his God?

I give up on this conversation. You neither know nor respect what the Bible teaches. You just want to believe your Trinity even when you can't defend it. I might as well have been arguing with a stone.

Lol @ 'correct tithe'. Many churches are business ventures jare.

CAPSLOCKED:

FROM DAY ONE!

ONLY THAT IT'S MORE DIFFICULT NOW, THERE ARE SO MANY COPIES OF THE BIBLE, ALMOST IN EVERY CORNER.

UNLIKE BEFORE THAT THERE WAS JUST ONE, IN THE HANDS OF THE POPE.


I REALLY FEEL SAD FOR THESE PENTECOSTALS USUALLY BASHING THE CATHOLICS AND THEIR DOCTRINES.

THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THE BIBLE IN CIRCULATION TODAY IS THE WORK OF ROME, NOT ANY GODS'.

don't be ignorant. There was never 'just one [copy of the Bible], in the hands of the pope'.

Xzbit91:
Who do you think this scripture is talking about?

Jesus. He was with God his father at the beginning, before mankind came into existence. He also has the same divine nature as his father.

Centuries before the trinity doctrine became official and the KJV Bible was translated, The Sahidic Coptic text used an indefinite article before the word translated God in that verse. Jesus' early followers didn't believe he was God Almighty, but the mighty son of God.

They are two distinct unequal individuals, the father (God) who begat a son (Jesus) before the world was. The son learnt from his father and came to show humans the way to God. All his power and authority he got from his father.

Jesus has always been and would always be second in command to his Father who is also his God (does this surprise you?).

Xzbit91:
Jesus was begotten, He wasn't made. Every other thing including the Angels and heavens were created, by him, with him and through him. He Himself is God.

hahaha... What do you think begotten means?

Xzbit91:
And you conveniently left out verse 45, where He said he that seeth Me seeth He that sent me.

Now, why will Jesus say that if he wasn't one with the father?

in layman language, Jesus is his father's carbon copy. He is so like his father that he is a perfect representative.

What's more, being one shows the kind of unity father and son share. That's why Jesus prayed that his Father help his followers be one just as he is one with his Father.

What do you think? Does John 17: 21 mean that all of Jesus' followers would become one person or that they would be united?

Xzbit91:
What is your point exactly? Are you trying to say Jesus is not God, simply because he humbled himself?

I am saying Jesus is not the Almighty. His God and Father is. Jesus is the son of God and the way to his father, not God himself. That's what the Bible teaches.