Opeyemiextra: We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.
But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.
To the reason for this post: So, most men, at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?
All i ask is 50-50 contribution before children and 60-40 after children. with 1 yr maternetity leave per child i.e. i wont allow her work for 1 year after each child.... not asking for too much!
LutanFyah: Nigga STFU with your "real men" bvllshit.
A man decides not to marry a used up woman with children and here you are foaming from every orifices in your body to insult such man.
If she is good enough, why didn't the man that impregnated her,marry her? If the man deceived her into getting pregnant, it obviously means she can't make good decisions to save her life.
The youngman you quoted calmly admonished you to stop with the stupidity but you're still here with your folly.
NOBODY REJECTS A BRAND NEW WOMB TO GO MINGLE WITH A USED ONE COS HE TRYING TO BE A " real man".
@ the bolded, girls are fond of sleeping with men they find attractive that typically beats them (but dont have money), afterwards breaking up (and blame the man while doing so) and finding a second man thats not so attractive but has money for financial security....
Toks2008: Creating this thread has been on my mind for a long time but for some reasons I kept shelving it but after coming across a thread on front page about a 41 year old single lady asking for advise I think it is about time I drop this.
Now what you are about to read is for ladies who are still single in their late 30s and I will make it as simple and as real as possible...
You will never come across the advise I'm about to give you from pastors or many relationship experts but as many people already know me, I keep it as real as possible.
1. Understand that not everybody will get married:
Marriage is not a do or die thing... Marriage does not define who you are and you must never be bothered by what people say cos most of them are Clueless about the institution of marriage. Those who truly understand will never look down on you because you are single. Your happiness is more important than marriage.
2. Be financially independent: Any single lady in her late 30s should never make it a priority to get married cos the more you worry about it the more pressure you put on yourself and this is bad for your psych.
At this stage of your life, self actualization is what you need and trust me, by the time you make it a priority to get the best out of life, this will inadvertently gravitate men to you.
Before I give this third advise let me share this very touching story...
I remember a certain lady who contacted me about 6years ago and she said she has made up her mind to be a single mum if she turns 36 and she is still unmarried and asking me to be ready to donate sperm for her cos she sees me as a responsible guy... Furthermore, she will not put any pressure on me to be financially responsible for the child as she is well to do but she just want to have a child to avoid a situation where she will reach menopause and still childless.
Unfortunately she left this world before she could make this happen... So What is the point?
3. GET A SPERM DONOR TO BEAT EARLY MENOPAUSE.
The paramount purpose of a lady is not necessarily marriage but to multiply, bring forth new generations and replenish the earth. The good thing is that with the modern medical advancement, any lady can achieve this without getting married.
Believe it or not, it is better to get a sperm donor and be a single mum than getting married under pressure to a jerk who will make life hell for you.
If you are a lady still single in your late 30s please get a man to donate sperm for you. You don't have to sleep with him and he needs not be financially responsible for the child but just for you to point to somebody in future as the child's father. This will let you relax to get a better choice of a husband.
4. A man who will love you will love you.
Some may say once they are single mums, guys will run from them and YES I agree but this will also attract real men who understand that single motherhood is not a taboo but Infact a proof that a lady is fertile, a proof that she is responsible enough to keep a baby even when they had the choice to abort.. No genuine man will reject a lady cos she is a single mum especially if the child(ren) is her first.
5. And lastly as suggested by Pocohantas in the comment below... If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
According to her, as a lady gets older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.
All I wrote, this is an opinionated advise but any lady in this position could still decide to wait until she finds a husband but she must understand that whilst she is waiting, her time is ticking and menopause will definitely come regardless.
I hope this makes sense.
For us to solve this problem, we need to ask ourselves how they got to that position in the first place given that EVERY GIRL has a point in their lives when guys keep disturbing her left, right and center typically from age 16 to 28.
The answer and truth is that it is the GREED and SELFISHNESS and OVERSELECTION and ARROGANCE of these women that has kept them single into their 30s.
Hence they should bear the consequences.
Many have children with who they find attractive but dont have money then settle for the guy they find not so attractive but has money....
plaetton: On any flight in or out of any international Airport in Nigeria, Nigerian passengers outnumber foreign passengers by a ratio of 9 to 1. Therefore, any punitive sections against international airline travel in Nigeria would negatively affect Nigerians 9 to 1 against foreign travelers. But, I couldn't possibly expect our cow-brain decision makers to be able to do that simple math.
It will affect them more - when they start to lose mining licenses etc as a result of being out of nigeria for long, their eye go clear. Rise up oh African, you are more powerful than you think of yourself!
lilyheaven: That’s the issue, I understood what you typed earlier, but this I cannot. Because you too has been brainwashed to learn English.
I’m sure you won’t understand mine, if I type it.
Your senior is your senior, Hope you understand.
In Rwanda, Rwanyese is the official language. In south africa, all the local languages are official. In Nigeria, Yoruba can be made the official language or igbo. Let us make a nigerian language official language instead of white man language. how did english become global ligua franca? It wasnt through the work of missionaries as earlier purported. It was achieved by conquest and blood shed, concentration camps and genocide of native peoples world wide....
plaetton: Just hear yourself. According to statistics? A country that doesn't know how many policemen it has, or how many hospitals and health workers it has can actually tell you how many covid-19 deaths you have throughout the country? Do you actually believe that there are less deaths in Nigeria? Does your government have a unified database of covid-19 test results, hospilizations and deaths? The answer is No So I don't know which statistics you're referring to .
But even for the benefit of this discussion, you do have lower covid-19 deaths than the UK, is that your excuse to act oblivious to the health dangers that a global pandemic poses to your nation?
Who in Nigeria trusts the Nigerian government to do anything to protect lives? . Why then do we become defensive and combative when other nations give the sane vote of no confidence to our government?
Nigeria knows how many police men it has etc... I know ur type. you worship the white man and you cannot be redeemed out of it so no point trying.
plaetton: Bingo!! That is exactly the type of mentally indolent attitude that fuels the societal dysfunction that the world can see . A Dystopian Paradise . You have made my argument for me.
The statistics speak for themselves. There are less deaths in Nigeria. From the onset, UK had more casualties from covid-19 and continues to have more casualties from covid-19 yet FG took a practical approach with them. UK flights to Nigeria should be indefinitely banned until they can contain their pandemic. Enough of white worshipping and inferiority complex.
plaetton: . They banned us because they know that we don't have any kind of system in place to checkmate a new and more lethal variant. Nigerians , from the citizens up to the leaders have been acting like the pandemic was over . They see our dysfunctional system. They see how our dysfunctional system endangers them. They act to protect their citizens. On the other hand, what has Nigerian government done to protect its citizens from any danger? Zero Nigerian government only acts knerjerk to protect its own bruised ego, not protect its citizens. If the Nigerian government were sensitive to the plight of its citizens, it would carefully consider the impact a retaliatory measure would harm Nigeria citizens home and abroad.
"“If they don’t allow our citizens to go into their countries who are their airlines coming to pick from our country?" - this does not sound to me like a knee jerk reaction at all.
plaetton: . They banned us because they know that we don't have any kind of system in place to checkmate a new and more lethal variant. Nigerians , from the citizens up to the leaders have been acting like the pandemic was over . They see our dysfunctional system. They see how our dysfunctional system endangers them. They act to protect their citizens. On the other hand, what has Nigerian government done to protect its citizens from any danger? Zero Nigerian government only acts knerjerk to protect its own bruised ego, not protect its citizens. If the Nigerian government were sensitive to the plight of its citizens, it would carefully consider the impact a retaliatory measure would harm Nigeria citizens home and abroad.
Who told you it is not to protect nigerian citizens? Inferiority complex....
honeycrown: Please when you finish banning them, don't also forget to ban the free vaccines that these countries donate to your country o. Then we will know you're serious. A beggar banning her benefactor. Lol
We are not taking any loan or vaccine from them. we received free vaccine from china. we dont beg western countries....
You are even lucky that they call us third world and not fifth world.
You are ignorant. UK, France and germany are the third world countries and nigeria is the first world country. I used to be like you. UK is poor. they came as election observer in anambra election because they are trying to steal from us. they are thieves. you hv been colonially brainwashed to worship white man.
This is not about retaliation. There are more outbreaks in these countries than Nigeria so it is only logical.
Just that a third world country no get mouth where first world countries dey else nah naija suppose ban flights first
Why are you calling yourself third world? Pls stop it immediately. The BBC used to use that term a lot but you can no longer see it on their website...and theres nothing like "first world". you hv been colonially brainwashed who is teaching you all these things?
Ask your self what UK has that makes it wealthy? Answer: nothing. It is a poor country that relies on stealing from other countries... they came to meddle in anambra elections too!
giddy10: My concern now is how to foot the bill for my wedding by April 2022 without getting into debt. We really love each other that we would have want to be together even earlier than April but cash is messing us up.
this is because you a conforming to societal expectations. you can hv a wedding for 30k. you must not invite ppl... then on the 1st year anniversary or 5 year anniversary you can do a big anniversary. if ur gurl want a big wedding then tell her to bring moni
It is high time we start manning up, yes we might not have been developed like others, but we need to also send them signal that we have balls too
We are more developed than western Europe....they are only more developed infrastructually but with Chinese infrastructure investments, Nigeria is fast catching up...asides infrastructure and maybe honest culture, we are much better....
travelwaka: Ghana is one of our closest neighbours. We share so many things in common. It is also an English speaking country. Though the capital is pretty small but organised. I love the serenity in this country. People seems to be generally nice.
Negroid001: Abi? That life sweet too ooo. I don leave am tho. I dey laugh all this some olofos wey dey form mod and motivational speaker for here. Their own na to dish out advice wey dem no fit apply for their own life.
I'm 25, body count uncountable. I've bleeped people's babe(even prolly your ex or future babe). People's wife, people's mum. So yeah, i can dish out advice too. Most of the stuffs ya'll post here is misleading. A player knows how the game works and doesn't sulk about shi. Ya'll should go and get laid abeg.
The real power of a man is on focusing on God instead of on women. I have always had the power to get plenty girls but its a reserved right. I dont act on every interested girl because eventually you find out its all vanity and that God matters more.
heartofcity12: And no woman sends “mIxed messages”. If she’s not saying yes, anything else she says means NO. #trp
There are many women that will like a man if he markets himself strategically in the right places, at the right times and using the right marketing channels.... the mistake men make is to fixate on one particular woman. The idea situation is to have multiple women like you and have multiple women struggling to have you!
jaxxy: Can she bring evidence he consented to this? And if so does that vindicate them after beating him to his death?
Does is exonerate the useless skol for lying and obstruction of justice?
Kemi is a complete disgrace.
Modified: He was given engine oil to drink?? Some people must rot in jail. Peer pressure in boarding skol is another form of bullying and doing things under duress. That’s how boarding skol is. It’s definitely not the bbn where u are watched, monitored and can’t force anyone into a cliq or or asked them to to Smtn injurious to the health and they are adults.
Bbnaija is 100 times better and safer than most Nigerian boarding skols.
This woman is drunk
Are you sure it's not the school that hired her to fabricate this?
hefexzy: Sylvester Omoroni was a victim of bully in his school Dowen college, which resulted to him losing his life after sustaining internal injuries from the bully. His family had went ahead to employ the service of Mr Femi Falana, a Lawyer.
On December 9 during a space Kemi Olunloyo hosted on twitter, the renowned self acclaimed journalist said 12 years old Sylvester was willing to join cult, agreed to be beating and also accepted to drink engine oil.
Kemi also went ahead to say he willingly told the guys initiating him that he has seen his sisters unclothedness. She also compared boarding school to Big Brother Naija.
Ever since she made that statement, she is been dragged on all social platform. Some people called her demented, some called her callous, some said she has been paid to say that, other people called her an insensitive mother.
Toks2008: I undrstand your point but it still does not change the narrative that REAL MEN see no big deal in marrying a single mum. That does not mean men don't have a choice to make.
You fall my hand big time with this post. Only beta low value males marry single moms. Real men do believe they can get a woman from the primary market (young single girls) not the secondary market (left overs).
It's philanthropic men or religious men that don't mind single mums.
benuejosh: Very very True. The most lazy people are those blaming Buhari the most. Achievements of Buhari governments in terms of infrastructures can be compared only with that of Shehu Shagari's government.
Buhari has brought great development in the country than any other government. Yet fraudsters and criminals and terrorists are unhappy because the government is tracking down their activities and that's why they continue blaming Buhari for their ill fall.
Ride on Buhari. We Nigerians are behind you.
Buhari is an experienced leader. Many of the things people blame him for should really be blamed on state governors.
ichidodo: [color=#1980BC] I'll go one better.. instead of 50/50 why don't she take 80% of the bills of the house(short term and medium term bills belongs to her while I secure the long term)... yeah,it's her house..her family...she gets the most accolades of holding down a home from society and the church (I'm Catholic by the way)more than I...Ontop of that she's postwall thus her SMV is toast while mine is on the rise thus I could or should be dating or wifing better than her?? If I am gonna be stuck with her then I should be recompensed for this mighty inconvenience that might be ruinous to my life plans,yes?...[/color]
Very true!! I have a post wall friend....she's mid thirties.... she realizes younger girls are her competition and "enemy". She's so desperate. She has a baby with another man but is still single.... I wonder why girls do this all the time and she's looking for a husband.
I think she slept with the guy she's attracted to and now looking for a man that has money.
BLOODYSPERM: The younger she is, the more you think you stand a chance to escape the friendszone because you think she's more moldable and coachable,you approach her but deep down you want sex but she gives you a positive vibes albeit you are not yet overt about your intentions, you're are subtle at first because you think she's gullible and an easy prey but next thing you start seeing innocency in her,lust turns into love and you tell yourself I don't want to be a badboy dark triad who is going to alpha widow this sweet gal and send her into the streets, she's very pleasant and friendly to hang around with, extremely sweet to talk with, you tell yourself that she's naive, she doesn't know anything,you begin to loose frame, infact you rationalize she must be a pure virgin,you tell yourself she's too inexperienced to understand her feminine nature and what manipulation entails, she's plain and focused on her works or academics, her mind is not yet tainted with sexual impurities,can she be the one, can she be my NAWALT,you are starting to simp consciously because you assume she's special due to her pleasant nature, you begin to want her badly, you want to cover her youthfulness all to yourself, what's happening to you? Can these really be love, giving yourself funny justifications why you gotten your one, and you haven't even ask her out probably yet to assess where she stands with you,you become needy from a distance, you become confused how can this small gal be toiling with the emotions of a full grown man, something must be wrong,better slap yourself with doses of the redpill and come back to an accurate description of reality, her youth means nothing if she doesn't see you as something ( alpha bleeps and beta bucks is every female mating strategy), stay rational and leave delusions for weak men, Simps and children, she's not into you and even if she's remember briffaults law and Hypergamy, now act accordingly
change your username.... it gives rise to disgusting imaginations and is repulsive and makes people not want to read or reply to your messages.
CaveAdullam: So, you expect a woman who was never industrious but a wh0re before she hit the wall to eventually become industrious and take charge of 50% of the house bills. Wonderful! Please, invite me to that utopia because I'm still in the real world. In fact, it is even an opportunity for her to continue her wh0ring stealthily as she tries to meet up with the 50%. What a great opportunity for her.
By the way, are redpill members told not to get engaged to damaged women? Lol!
If she cannot be industrious then marriage go end na. Why I should I foot the bills of a post-wall woman under some nonsense marriage?
Family › Re: Men, Would You Consider Being Househusbands? by BigBashiru: 4:15pm On Dec 12, 2021
Some people must rot in jail. Peer pressure in boarding skol is another form of bullying and doing things under duress. That’s how boarding skol is. It’s definitely not the bbn where u are watched, monitored and can’t force anyone into a cliq or or asked them to to Smtn injurious to the health and they are adults.