₦airaland Forum

Loreettaa:
That number 4 is your number 1. No dey disguise
The reason y'all won't like to take an African woman abroad is because she will get to know her rights, and "use them against" you.
You want to be able to get sex outside without her wanting a divorce and taking the house.
You want to be able to beat her/the kids "in correction" without them calling 911 on you.
First World countries respects the rights of women far more than Africa does, and the possibilities of what she can do with that knowledge, scares you.

Those countries aren't "first world".... they are overglorified shitholes....

JovialJune:
1) If you want the Nigerian kind of marriage, don't travel abroad when married, stay here with your wife

2) If you strong headedly decide to marry then travel abroad leaving her here, accept the fact that as you're cheating on her, she's also cheating on you

3) You can't have a Nigerian kind of marriage abroad where the system and laws is fair to all and sundry, a system that does not recognise the machoistic, ego driven, head of the family, respect-submissive type of mentality you are used to here, equality is their watchword over there, no gender is above the other.

Which is why marriages abroad don't last as the men are no longer dominant...

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

Never bring her abroad all by urself. Make sure she puts some effort into it by bringing her own money, bringing half of the visa and flight money etc. Never be more invested in a relationship than the woman is.

Mrscarter:
Exactly. Id feel guilty if i took from a person whom worked hard to earn their money n especially if i didnt love him but only wanted his money n not him. I dont know how women do this without guilt or shame. Especially in a place like naija where so many struggle to earn so little.

I hv a friend that says he can never get married if the woman isn't contributing 50-50.... I agree with his stance... any woman that wants me to marry her must be bringing money even if I'm rich....

nogragra:
This quiet devil (Xi Jinping) must not be allowed to come and kill african people with their poison vacines in the name of prevention of Covid virus which is less prevalent in Africa than anywhere else in the world. They see their subtle takeover of africa through toxic loans is no more happening as fast as they had wanted. Now this. They have started with Ugandan airport takeover and yet african leaders of equal evil tendencies look on. Just recently an outspoken woman in AU was sacked for exposing France's evil exploits in Africa and yet no one is protesting Africa will fair badly from this dark clouds enveloping the whole world if nothing is done by its people. I know God has always been there for africans he is still there and about to surprise the wickeds of this world.

1. Xi Jinping is a great leader and is no devil.
2. Chinese vaccines are not poisonous and the chinese mean well for us and we mean well for them too.
3. They are not subtly taking over africa - we have a close relationship with them and we have come to cling to their loans after bitter experiences with Paris Club loan, World Bank loan, IMF loan etc. most African states made a decision to deal with china for lending after western europe tried to use loans to take over africa. realize western europe have no resources, china has so its the west thats more likely to toxic loans to take us over. think b4 you type bro and dont just follow the crowd....
4. Uganda airport takeover is media propaganda by western media who are jealous of our relationship with china. you forget so quickly the west once tied aid and loans to approval of homosexuality in african countries - dont be so forgetful!
5. I want to hear more about the sacked AU woman - can you provide the link? This means evil France is starting to infilterate AU after successfully compromising ecowas - but here you have your answer - between french loan (a known colonist), imf/ world bank loan (group of known colonists) and china, whose loan will you take?

Wiifesnatcher:
your beauty and height alone can attract any airline to employed you

Any airline = men

Because men are stupid when it comes to women. They always give jobs to "beautiful women " first before competent men. Stupid senseless gender!

Antoeni:
After Failed Application to Dana Airline, Lady Shows up for Interview Uninvited, Gets the Job.

A cabin crew and graduate of Zoology, Uche Anaekwe, has shared how she secured a job at Dana Air even with a failed application. Read her story.

“A lot has happened to me between August-November, and I’m nothing short of grateful to God.

“After I graduated from aviation school in July and got my cabin crew licence I had no idea how I was going to get a job, I didn’t know anyone in the industry who would give me a leg up, and although I knew I had all the qualifications, I didn’t know how to go about securing a job except submitting my CV to airlines and hoping for the best.

“In the last week of July, I decided to pack my bags and go to Lagos, my plan was to go round airlines offices dropping my cv with them and praying that something clicks, mind you I had previously submitted my CV to Dana air when they called for new cabin crew but I didn’t hear back from them and off course I was devastated.

“Long story short, a good friend and fellow cabin crew aspirant I met here on LinkedIn who had also applied for the same role with Dana told me that she had been invited for their aptitude test, I was very happy for her but at the same time sad that I wasn’t called. She was kind enough to tell me the date of the test and where it will take place (funny enough I was going to the airport that same day to submit my CV to other airlines).

“I took a bold and courageous leap of faith, went for an aptitude test I wasn’t invited for, and the rest they say is history.

“They say that when opportunity meets preparedness, success is bound to happen.

“I’m forever grateful to Maryam Adeleke for being an amazing friend to me even when she didn’t have to. I’m also very thankful to Dana air for using no prejudice and bias to recruit their new crew because I wouldn’t have had a chance otherwise.

“I thank God for making my dreams come true and starting me off on this amazing journey, I know there are better things to come and look forward to it.”

Congratulations to her!!

https://www.facebook.com/100057375342702/posts/381500437105798/

If it were a man would he also get the job?

pacespot:
I have tried to explain this multiple times but many people seem to not understand what colonization means, they will rather listen to the rabble talks in the Western media. Chinese are a friend with benefits to Africa, but if Africa refused to take this opportunity and started its own industrialization just like China did, then the whole thing could go from friendship turning colonialism for the continent, because who wants to associate with backwardness just like most African leaders are?

Western Europe never wanted to do business with Africa. They regarded us as inferior and wanted to use trade war to keep us poor up till today. The Chinese regard us as equals. As of 2018, trade volume between Africa and China has surpassed $200 billion and still growing making China Africa's largest trading partner. Trade is very important.

Friends lend money. China has canceled over $60billion in African debt.

Whenever u see a Chinese person anywhere pls be friendly to them they are our friend and very hardworking too.

pacespot:
Chinese have enough reasons to be good to Africans, they have already been colonizing the continent. So a billion COVID-19 jabs as a gift will go a long way in keeping China-Africa relationship stronger than ever. And don't forget that this is coming on the back of new strain of the virus (omicron) discovered on the continent, so Africa needs more COVID-19 assistance than ever.

Don't think because you know little, someone that you quoted doesn't know anything.

They aren't colonizing they are helping...and if Chinese colonization means working rails bridges etc paid for by African governments then it's worth it!

Chinese loan is better than world bank loan or British loan

Dreadshy:
So you can take over our lands and countries? No way !!
(Me thinking "but those hungry leaders will go and beg them now..."

It's western europe I.e. UK France and Germany that's trying to take Africa's land and country. China has enough land. Western Loans had strings attached. Lagos ibadan rail, Calabar Lagos rail built by the Chinese. Loans make development go faster. Nigerians just can't think. The Chinese are our friends - think deeply b4 you speak....

Joyblinksma:
See u on judgement day

They have enslaved your mind with fear. There's nothing like fornication because human beings are mammals and have feelings. Examples of fornication are: sleeping with a prostitute, debauchery, sleeping either someone you don't consider a close friend or wife....

Bobmarie:
Alright then

Yes na cos marriage is not how it used to be in Bible times.... wait until marriage at ur own peril moreover sex bores me sef....

Simran94:
Reading the comments from most of the guys here which basically is all about SEX is enough reason to know why these people go into relationships in the first place, it's more than enough reason to know why a lot of relationships have failed and why many more will keep failing.

Apparently, most youths of this generation prefer SEX to any productive activity in relationships.

You are right. But I blame it on absolute Christianity that criminalizes human behavior uses such words as "fornicate" and threaten ppl with hell.... that's why ppl get into relationships for sex because they believe any sex outside marriage is fornication.

Me I hv sex with my close friends that is a Christian without marriage and I see nothing wrong with it

Tapout:
Play video games. We don't fornicate btw

There's nothing like "fornication" we are human beings

emmnprince:
If that's how you perceive marriage to be. But your perception doesn't apply to others.

You can run your marriage the way you want it! But are you sure you will okay when your wife start commiting adultery up and down, even with your close friends?

she's free to do so so long as she uses protection....

Toks2008:
Then why do they now want that same guy not to have other women?

Is that not strange

thats why i say we are in the animal kingdom....

if a single guy approaches a girl, she might turn him down. But if she sees him flanked by two girls she becomes interested! its animal bahavior.....

she doesnt want the same guy to have other women for selfish reasons....

Bobmarie:
Your whole life obviously revolves around sex. You’re thinking of sexing children that have not been born when you reach 50, that’s your final life goal.

‘Only the strongest survive’ What a strong, powerful statement to waste of on the topic of sex. You do realize some people don’t even like sex? Majority of you men cannot even please a woman, sex is not a big deal to women. Most women can’t wait to stop having sex with your lame asses. Women mostly endure men, that’s why most of you have to pay for the nonsense you’re doing.


What a waste of a man talking about sex like it’s MONEY. Do you know women are endless and also dangerous? I know say sometimes e dey do you like say you SUPPOSE shag all of us. Your third leg wants to taste us all. But we plenty like mad, you CANT SEX US all. The way you are going you will kill yourself before long.

What a clueless, directionless man.

"Only the strongest survive" is a biological term that means only the most genetically fit human beings survive in this world - has nothing to do with sex.

I no dey carry sex do anything - just revealing the power dynamics between males and females - thats all

Lighten up, its not that serious

ehay:
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I agree with you. A 50 year old man without money can not pull nada, but a 50year old woman with lots of cash can even pull an sss3 student. Have seen this happen lots of times.

what you should say is that a 18-26 year old girl can get even Buhari and the most powerful senators begging them. women hv power but theirs comes early and most misuse it unwisely.

ehay:
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I agree with you. A 50 year old man without money can not pull nada, but a 50year old woman with lots of cash can even pull an sss3 student. Have seen this happen lots of times.

Keep deceiving yourself... a womans power is tied to her looks - an ss3 student is looking it his classmates not a 50 yr old. You are one of those ppl who dont want to accept nature - reach 50 and have money and go and pull an ss3 student lets see. mumu.

Toks2008:
Lalasticlala shey you can see why I put so much emphasis on ladies accepting polygamy?

https://www.nairaland.com/6865985/ladies-choose-one-polygamist-unfaithful#107930583

I just commented on that thread. Please be sure to read it...

Toks2008:
This satirical thread was created to pass a vivid message to some ladies that marrying a monogamous man is a convolated fantasy and any lady who is not prepared to share her husband with another lady should remain single forever.

Most Ladies just love to live in delusion and wishful imagination of being in a monogamous marriage because in reality, 8 out of every 10 men belong to one of the two. The only difference is that one is sincere and the other prefers to pretend which is exactly what most ladies want.. .PRETENSE AND LIES

I have observed how quickly some Ladies condemn the idea of polygamy forgetting the fact that in most cases, a man wey no marry more than one wife go still get side chic which is another wife in disguise and even more wifely than the one at home who thinks she is the only wife So abeg what is the point in condemning polygamy when you are not even sure you are the main woman in the life of your ''monogamous'' husband?

What is the pioint?

Ladies should please stop stereotyping polygamy or look down on any lady who chooses to marry a polygamist because in my opinion, whether you marry a non hypocritical and open polygamist or you marry a Monogamous man on paper, laslas the same fate awaits you and it will even be worse in the case of the pretentious monogamist cos it will come as a big shock

My candid advice for any lady reading this is to stop dealing with fantasies, what they watch on Tv, to stop dwelling in their imagination of how they want it to be but to wake up to the reality of how things are...You don't have to like it and you can continue to be a watch dog of your husband but you will never ever be able to wish away the reality and when it hits you, there will be two options to deal with. LEAVE THE MARRIAGE FOR THE OTHER WOMAN TO TAKE OVER OR REMAIN IN THE MARRIAGE AND FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE AND THAT OF THE KIDS.

I will off my mic at this point.

women do not follow men if it seems to them its only her he can attract. women are most attracted to guys that can attract many girls in addition to herself....

emmnprince:
Yes o! Likewise make our girls no also get cheating men as husbands too.

there is nothing like cheating.... a marriage is a negotiated agreement...

im free and the girl is free too....

Bobmarie:
A barely evolved human being, beating his chest, calling himself an animal alike to a dog and displaying animal behavior like his nigger ancestors.

I need to stay far far far away from that country.


Lmao!

Since you female, I think we should just kiss... kiss (5 mins)

im sure you enjoyed the 5 minutes... dont lie!

LilMissFavvy:
So you have not seen ladies in their 40s, 50s who can get a side guy? You think some women can't get a side guy at whatever ages? If she doesn't do it, it means she doesn't want to.

then let them go and get na. like i said - only the strongest survive....

LilMissFavvy:
That's your opinion, you are entitled to it. As for me, I don't believe what you said, I believe that we can always strive to concentrate on our spouses only.

you are saying this because the woman is old and the guy can still pull girls - even a 50 years old man can still pull a 300l student. By then the wife is probably 45 or 48 and cant pull nada... Thats why the silly women start forming "im jealous", "you are cheating", blah blah blah...shes saying all these things because her bargaining power is gone! and she knows she can no longer pull desirable guys.... and that she is now at the mercy of her husband....

Lokojatoofar:

Like I said, if you want women to accept reality of polygamy, you must also accept reality of women's jealous nature. It has been there since the begining of polygamy even mothers are jealous of their sons wives, daughters jealous of step moms.
If its hard for you to accept other peoples realities imagine how hard it is for others to accept yours too.

na you know then.

LilMissFavvy:
So you think that married women in the course of marriage do not meet men they find very attractive? Are you saying that married women can also play the game since we also find other men attractive apart from our spouses?

then let her go with the men she finds attractive na - so long as she does not give me an std or give me a child that is not mine or demand money from me im fine with it... if she is sleeping with other men then she should be demanding money from them.....

listen, its a market, eventually the strongest men and the strongest women get the best mates and it does not have to be just one mate. we are in the animal kingdom... you will always see someone who is more attractive than your spouse...

Pataricatering:
you people will have to admit and accept eventually that women are polygamous too

i have so many polygamous female friends - but men have more staying power when it comes to polygamy.....a 50 year old man can still pull a 200l level student but a 50 year old woman cant...

women are aware of this and they hate it thats why they invented words like "cheating"

LilMissFavvy:
If you want to marry 10 wives, just inform your fiancee during courtship, so that she decides to marry you or quit, it's as simple as that,so that you don't get killed. Or if you know you can't be faithful, why marry? You can stay single, simple as that.

whether he tells the wife or not during courtship - the truth is that a man in the course of a marriage will meet other women and desire them - thats the truth.

But yes I agree, the man should tell the woman during courtship that she cant be exclusive.... but that he will take care of her...

Lokojatoofar:
It is also a reality that women are jealous creatures too. You cant ask one party to accept reality that pleases while taming their own reality so that one gender can enjoy their reality in peace. Jealousy is a reality.
I also am not in any way in support of murder in marriage but the bitter reality can't be shoved away.

Jealous over what exactly?
1. It is the man that married the woman not the other way round - if the woman doesnt like it she can leave.
2. Do you know the woman's history before you married her? No! She had so many boyfriends and now its the man's turn.
3. If she was still 22 years old, she would be threatening the man with leaving since she has so many chasers... now she cant anymore.
4. What exactly is she jealous of? Does she own the man?

What you call jealousy is a woman's selfish nature - she had her fun and doesnt want me to have mine - which typically outlasts hers....

No woman can play that "im jealous" nonsense with me - she no go fit try am....

I like that name die. must be a very powerful man cos the name sounds powerful.

Aufbauh:
The early a woman realized and accept the bitter reality that a man by nature is a hunter, the better for her peace of mind.

I'm not in any way in support of infidelity in marriage, but the bitter reality can't be shoved away.

See where her untamed jealousy has landed her. She has succeeded ruining her life and alter the parental cover of her kids if she has any.

there's nothing like "infidelity" or "cheating".... these are words invented by women to disadvantage men....

women only get married on the verge of expiration when they are no longer very pleasing to behold. but a man even 50 yrs old can pull undergrad students... so it's just jealousy on the part of the woman.

women are hunters too just that their hunting power expire earlier than men's.